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Bartender Explains What Different “Angel Shots” Mean And How Ordering One Can Save Someone From A Bad Situation
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Bartender Explains What Different “Angel Shots” Mean And How Ordering One Can Save Someone From A Bad Situation Interview

Knowing what an ‘angel shot’ is could save your life. With bars and clubs reopening again because more and more people are getting vaccinated against Covid-19, nightlife is making a (slightly uncertain and worrisome) comeback in some places. Especially since it’s also summer. Something that hasn’t changed since the pandemic began, however, is just how important your safety is when it comes to strangers or dates making unwanted advances.

Luckily, some bartenders are well-versed in how to protect those who feel scared or threatened. And one bartender, in particular, has gone viral for his TikTok video about how you can use a certain code phrase to signal that you need help. Benjamin Smith, whose stage name is Benji Spears and who goes by Benjispears online, reenacted somebody ordering an angel shot and has since then been featured prominently in the media. He filmed how a situation would unfold if he notices someone whose body language indicates they’re feeling uncomfortable with the person they’re with.

Telling your bartender that you want an angel shot is a sign that you need assistance. There are actually 3 variations of the angel shot and it’s something that is becoming more and more common in bars. Check out the full video below and let us know what you think of this system.

Ben, who is originally from Cooperstown in New York and currently works and lives in Los Angeles in California, was kind enough to answer a few questions that I had. “I am shocked and blown away by the love and support and all the sharing of this video. If any of my videos were to go viral I would have wanted it to be this one. This video has such an important message that needs to be shared. The angel shot has saved and will continue to save lives,” he opened up to Bored Panda. You’ll find the full interview with him below.

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LA Bartender Ben went viral after he shared how ordering an angel shot could save your life or the life your best friend

His video had over 9 million views on TikTok at the time of writing. You can watch it in full right over here

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So far, Ben hasn’t had anyone order an angel shot with him. “But I have definitely had to Intervene in multiple situations where someone has felt uncomfortable. Most bars have security so they are helpful in assisting in these situations,” he told Bored Panda. Ben noted that it’s vital that bartenders are aware of their surroundings and of their customers’ body language.

“I think it’s key that bartenders are aware of their surroundings and pay attention to guest body language. I can easily tell if someone is uncomfortable or may need my help. After posting this video I learned a lot of people including bartenders had no idea of the angel shot. So I’m so glad this video has taken off so it can educate industry workers and guests.”

I was also interested to find out more about Ben as a bartender. He told me that the pandemic has been a real rollercoaster so far and had drastically changed his life. “I was in Rochester NY when the pandemic first started and the bar I was working at sadly closed down for good. So many amazing businesses around us went down. Now that I am back in LA, the city has been fully open for about a month or so meaning full capacity in restaurants,” he said.

However, things haven’t been looking good recently. “As of the last week or so with the delta variant on the rise, a mask mandate is back. Sadly, who knows what is in store for us in the next few weeks here in LA,” Ben shared some of his fears for the future.

Ben pointed out that there are 3 types of angel shots you can get and that indicates what kind of help you need

Ben noted in his video that an angel shot could save you or your best friend’s life and it’s “something we should all know about.” And there are 3 ways that you can order the angel shot. Depending on how you ask for the shot, your everyday hero bartender, server, or bar manager will know what kind of help you’re looking for.

Ordering an angel shot ‘with lime’ means that you need the police. That’s when the bartender will notify the manager to call up the guys and gals in blue. The second type of angel shot is ‘neat’ which means that you need someone to walk you to your car because you don’t feel safe going alone. Lastly, there’s an angel shot ‘on the rocks’ and that means you’d like for the bartender to call you a taxi.

At the time of writing, Ben’s TikTok had over 9 million views, 2.4 million likes, and 133.6k shares. Meanwhile, a shortened version of his video quickly racked up more than 3.1 million views.

Your safety is paramount, whether it’s at a bar or on the street. Previously, I spoke about how victims of harassment can regain their sense of safety with Emily May, the Co-Founder and Executive Director at ‘Hollaback!’ It’s an organization that seeks to put an end to all types of harassment. According to Emily, your local community helps greatly in helping you feel safe again.

“One thing that can help you build a sense of safety is community. Take the time to get to know the good folks in your neighborhood and build positive relationships with not just your neighbors, but the people who deliver the mail, the trash folks, the guy that mows your neighbor’s lawn, etc.,” she told Bored Panda in a previous interview.

Some bars have posters like this one informing customers about the angel shot and what it means

“The more people you know, the more people will have your back if something happens again. Knowing this can increase your sense of safety and belonging in your community.”

According to Emily, harassment can take place anywhere. It’s not limited to a specific place and can occur in the street, in the supermarket, on social media, etc.

“At its core is a power dynamic that constantly reminds historically subordinated groups of our vulnerability to assault in public spaces. Street harassment can happen to anyone, but disproportionately punishes women, girls, LGBTQ+ people, and other marginalized groups for being themselves in the world.”

Here’s what people had to say about Ben’s video and angel shots. One person even shared that this saved their life

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Jyri Hakola
Community Member
1 year ago

If the intention is to create a coded hidden message for asking help that could be delivered even if the creep is standing next to you & meant to be known only by women due the info located into women's bathroom, aren't these fully public tiktok videos spreading the info to everyone actually against the idea.

Eppe
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

Exactly what I was thinking, he's sharing the secret code for likes

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Two_rolling_black_eyes
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1 year ago (edited)

I think its a great thing to have and even better to share. Euphemisms make handling difficult things easier. We talk about grandpa being in a better place instead of dead. When there's a guy standing next to you that you think may try to rape you, "angel shot with lime" is much easier to say than "I think this guy may be a rapist. Please help me". Even if the guy knows what the words mean, its still easier to say. In addition, by seeing the sign, you implicitly know that someone will help you instead of asking for proof. You call a guy a potential rapist and you could be called a diva arguing with her bf. You order a shot, you get called an uber. Not right, but every step helps the end goal.

Rebecca O’Donnell
Community Member
1 year ago

Very well said!

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
1 year ago

This is a public secret. Even BP has mentioned it in a topic before. And personally I think it's ridiculous. When you're in a bar with a psycho you can just ask for help by saying "I need help." Or better yet, yell "Fire!" because according to studies that seems to trigger more people willing to help.

Louloubelle
Community Member
1 year ago

While I agree with you, for the most part, there are still some women out there that won't "cause a scene". I like the idea of changing up the names of the drinks, so the bad buys won't catch on so much.

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Jyri Hakola
Community Member
1 year ago

If the intention is to create a coded hidden message for asking help that could be delivered even if the creep is standing next to you & meant to be known only by women due the info located into women's bathroom, aren't these fully public tiktok videos spreading the info to everyone actually against the idea.

Eppe
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

Exactly what I was thinking, he's sharing the secret code for likes

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Two_rolling_black_eyes
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

I think its a great thing to have and even better to share. Euphemisms make handling difficult things easier. We talk about grandpa being in a better place instead of dead. When there's a guy standing next to you that you think may try to rape you, "angel shot with lime" is much easier to say than "I think this guy may be a rapist. Please help me". Even if the guy knows what the words mean, its still easier to say. In addition, by seeing the sign, you implicitly know that someone will help you instead of asking for proof. You call a guy a potential rapist and you could be called a diva arguing with her bf. You order a shot, you get called an uber. Not right, but every step helps the end goal.

Rebecca O’Donnell
Community Member
1 year ago

Very well said!

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
1 year ago

This is a public secret. Even BP has mentioned it in a topic before. And personally I think it's ridiculous. When you're in a bar with a psycho you can just ask for help by saying "I need help." Or better yet, yell "Fire!" because according to studies that seems to trigger more people willing to help.

Louloubelle
Community Member
1 year ago

While I agree with you, for the most part, there are still some women out there that won't "cause a scene". I like the idea of changing up the names of the drinks, so the bad buys won't catch on so much.

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