Man Condemns Sister For Excluding His Amputee Daughter From Allegedly ‘Child-Free’ Wedding

OP should (ideally with another sibling there) sit in front of sister and her new husband and say along the lines of "okay, let's forget the conversation at the wedding. There were children there younger than my daughter, why did you exclude her?". Then say nothing, keep repeating until they admit what they did and why. Then point out how she's an utter cockwomble and cut her out of your life.

That's the most ridiculous thing I ever heard of. My father's sister was a flower girl at his wedding not long after her arm was amputated after a car accident. You can see the empty sleeve on her dress in all the photos and NOBODY CARES!

Tracy is a reactive abuser. She did something horrible (excluded a child from her wedding for aesthetic purposes), and when confronted about it, immediately started playing the victim, as though her brother's reaction to her cruelty is the real crime. If any of the family stand with Tracy on this, they are further forcing an innocent child into isolation and validating the notion that she is somehow less than her cousins because of a physical difference. People tolerating this sort of exclusion and cruelty toward the disabled is why it keeps happening. The whole family needs to come down on Tracy for her heartlessness, or someone else (maybe one of the cousins) will think "Aunt Tracy did it; I can do it too."

I would write the suggested letter and send it to every single attendee of that wedding over the age of 10 or 12 so they know what an absolute nonster s the bride and groom are. I would make sure Tracy and her husband were shunned like nodody's business. I'd be putting that out on all the social networks until the sister and her husband were so completely inundated with hatred from everyone in their world and had to move to a deserted island to get away from it all.

Godamn! When my cousin got married, she made a point to make sure her venue would be wheelchair accessible for my sisters kiddo who is wheelchair bound, and who will let everyone know how she feels. When I got married, we made dang sure my niece could be there too. She's an amazing young woman!

The way I was brought up, family is more important than anything else. You don't mistreat your family members in order to have a magazine or movie wedding. I haven't been to a lot of weddings, but the ones I've been to and had a great time were the ones that just flowed. Everyone was natural and no one was trying to make the pictures looked a certain way. My sister's best friend's wedding was the most casual. A lot of the guest were just in jeans and a t-shirt. I would keep this girl away from her aunt because at some point the aunt is going to be stupid and let it slip how she feels about the girl missing her arm.

I'd had left the moment I'd going out about the other kids. Not a word from me, not then, not ever. The bride would've been out of my life.

I like the comment with a letter written out. Op tells his side of the story and the sister is welcomed to tell her side of the story. If I were in this family, after hearing both sides, I'll know who I'd rather be associated with. Op is doing everyone a favor.

She does realize editing and/or strategic positioning exists, right? If it was pictures she didn't want "ruined", the girl could have easily been sidled up next to someone to hide it. People who claim to have a "good side" do it all the time. Sister sounds absolutely awful. Her husband is in for a treat, if it lasts. NTA times infinity.

I think that the husband of the bride is going to be in for a rude awakening in the future. Karma comes around and sometimes it gives you that which you have shunned.

I thought maybe the child was mentally disabled and might be loud or disruptive. As terrible as it is to be ableist I could understand her reasoning for wanting an undisturbed wedding. But if it’s a physical disability, then it all about stupid aesthetics and caring more about photos looking “perfect” than other people’s feeling. She’s definitely a bridezilla. What a horrible thing to do.

you and your daughter should stay away from this evil, shallow and unkind person. no good thing would come out for your daughter by relating to your sister.

Wow,time to rethink if you want them in your life

These family things are difficult. If you blow it up, you basically cut off your kids from their relativess. Which will hurt your kids even if you don't intend to.

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Hmmm…no one is looking at or cares about the appearance of a 12 year old guest. I’d be more inclined to scream “ bridezilla!” If the child was supposed to be a bridesmaid or even in the pictures. I’d bet serious money that Tracy has another reason for not inviting the child and she isn’t as well behaved as op claims.