Man Condemns Sister For Excluding His Amputee Daughter From Allegedly ‘Child-Free’ Wedding
Family is truly one of life’s greatest gifts – however, unfortunately, not everybody appreciates that.
A Reddit user that goes by u/NewAd5624 recently took online with a bit of a dilemma. The thing is, his sister had openly stated that her wedding would be “child-free,” yet upon arrival, the man realized that it was all a blatant lie, as his 12-year-old was the only excluded child.
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The man has a daughter who he had to leave with a friend so he could attend his sister’s “child-free” wedding
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However, upon arriving at the venue, he discovered that his child was the only one excluded
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“AITA for ‘ambushing’ my sister at her wedding reception because she told me her wedding was child-free when it actually wasn’t?” – this netizen took to one of Reddit’s most judgmental communities, asking its members if he’s indeed a jerk for confronting his sibling after realizing his daughter was the only child excluded from her wedding. The post managed to garner 16K upvotes as well as 3.1K comments discussing this delicate matter.
We’re all human, and sometimes we get to this point in life where we’d rather lie; perhaps it’s for self-protection, maybe you fear conflict, want to gain something out of it, or want to fit in, whatever – the point is, everyone has found themselves in this boat at least once or twice.
The majority of us, though, do it without any malice – however, there are still those who’d do anything just to get their way, and oh boy, how disheartening it is when it’s your own family!
Now, weddings – one of the most meaningful days in a couple’s journey, dedicated to them and them only. Never-ending champagne, toasts, constant crying, and a pinch of family drama – who doesn’t love it? People take years to prepare to ensure that their day goes as smoothly as possible and meets everyone’s expectations, yet some get so consumed by the idea of it being “picture-perfect” that they decide to take it out on their own flesh and blood.
It’s totally understandable when soon-to-be newlyweds decide to host a child-free ceremony – at the end of the day, folks are free to do what they desire, as it’s their day, and it just so happens that for some, the nature of their wedding simply isn’t suitable for running, screaming toddlers and whatnot.
Yes, some guests might get offended, and people might decline their invitations out of principle or because they can’t afford any childcare options for the day/weekend – it’s indeed a hassle, but there’s only so much you can do.
Regarding today’s story in particular, though, it seems like there’s a much deeper issue at hand.
He confronted the woman, accused her of prioritizing aesthetics, and blamed his offspring’s exclusion on her amputated arm
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The original poster began the tale by revealing that he and his sister, Tracy, aren’t exactly close-knit, but they do keep a courteous relationship.
Well, Tracy was about to get hitched, and prior to the event, she informed her brother that the wedding would be child-free; the problem was, though, that the man is a single father to a 12-year-old daughter, whose mother he lost to a car accident.
He double-checked with the soon-to-be bride, hoping that she’d make an exception considering the situation – however, the woman stood her ground, and the man was forced to arrange for his offspring to stay with a friend for a couple of days as the gathering was taking place outside the city.
Words cannot describe what disappointment and rage the man must’ve felt when, upon arrival, he discovered that the wedding was not, in fact, “child-free.” There were quite a few older kids, including his other siblings’ children, so it was obvious that Tracy had lied.
In the comments, when a fellow Redditor asked for more information, u/NewAd5624 mentioned that during that life-altering car wreck, the girl did not only lose her mom but also her arm, which is why when he confronted Tracy, he also called her out on “caring more about aesthetics than people.”
Naturally, the father also said that both he and “Ella” deserved an apology – however, instead, he was branded selfish for making a big deal out of this.
What is your take on this story? And what would you do if you were in the author’s boots?
Fellow online community members shared their thoughts and opinions
What a freaking b***h! That poor young lady! She lost her mom and her arm and her aunt is evil.
I completely agree. She's incredibly cruel and manipulative. Her seemingly bias towards her niece's disability is disgusting. It hurts my heart to think about this young lady being ostracized because of a devastating tragedy that happened to her, through no fault of her own. As if loosing her mother and her arm weren't enough, her father's sister is alienating her from events that the rest of the family are taking part in. The other family members should feel ashamed of her too. She would do the same to their children if they encounter any issues that she deems unworthy of her presence.
Load More Replies... OP should (ideally with another sibling there) sit in front of sister and her new husband and say along the lines of "okay, let's forget the conversation at the wedding. There were children there younger than my daughter, why did you exclude her?". Then say nothing, keep repeating until they admit what they did and why. Then point out how she's an utter cockwomble and cut her out of your life.
I dunno, I think in front of multiple family members. All of whom are asked to remain silent and allow bridezilla to answer.
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Wtf is wrong with people, I'm so tired of seeing posts like this. It actually disgusts me to know that they are breathing the same air as me.
That's the most ridiculous thing I ever heard of. My father's sister was a flower girl at his wedding not long after her arm was amputated after a car accident. You can see the empty sleeve on her dress in all the photos and NOBODY CARES!
There would be no need for an apology from someone I would never speak to or see ever again in my life.
Seriously, I wouldn’t want her to apologize to my daughter either. I wouldn’t let her anywhere near my kid period.
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Tracy is a reactive abuser. She did something horrible (excluded a child from her wedding for aesthetic purposes), and when confronted about it, immediately started playing the victim, as though her brother's reaction to her cruelty is the real crime. If any of the family stand with Tracy on this, they are further forcing an innocent child into isolation and validating the notion that she is somehow less than her cousins because of a physical difference. People tolerating this sort of exclusion and cruelty toward the disabled is why it keeps happening. The whole family needs to come down on Tracy for her heartlessness, or someone else (maybe one of the cousins) will think "Aunt Tracy did it; I can do it too."
I hope OP remembers to exclude Tracy from any event around Ella in the future. Birthdays, graduation, and perhaps marriage if it's in the cards. Tracy is a sh*ttrap excuse of an aunt and deserves no part in Ella's future.
Tracy should be excluded from all events in the OP's life, period.
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I would write the suggested letter and send it to every single attendee of that wedding over the age of 10 or 12 so they know what an absolute nonster s the bride and groom are. I would make sure Tracy and her husband were shunned like nodody's business. I'd be putting that out on all the social networks until the sister and her husband were so completely inundated with hatred from everyone in their world and had to move to a deserted island to get away from it all.
Yes, the suggested letter in one of the comments is really good.
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I would keep my kid far far away from Tracy. That is very messed up. If your wedding makes you feel that entitled then you are selfish and should not subject the other person to marring you. Who want to marry a selfish person?
Godamn! When my cousin got married, she made a point to make sure her venue would be wheelchair accessible for my sisters kiddo who is wheelchair bound, and who will let everyone know how she feels. When I got married, we made dang sure my niece could be there too. She's an amazing young woman!
The way I was brought up, family is more important than anything else. You don't mistreat your family members in order to have a magazine or movie wedding. I haven't been to a lot of weddings, but the ones I've been to and had a great time were the ones that just flowed. Everyone was natural and no one was trying to make the pictures looked a certain way. My sister's best friend's wedding was the most casual. A lot of the guest were just in jeans and a t-shirt. I would keep this girl away from her aunt because at some point the aunt is going to be stupid and let it slip how she feels about the girl missing her arm.
I can't fathom doing this to my nephew!!! What an evil soul that women has!
That woman is a disgrace to aunts everywhere. And frankly a bit dim if she thought OP wasn't going to notice all the younger children there.
She does realize editing and/or strategic positioning exists, right? If it was pictures she didn't want "ruined", the girl could have easily been sidled up next to someone to hide it. People who claim to have a "good side" do it all the time. Sister sounds absolutely awful. Her husband is in for a treat, if it lasts. NTA times infinity.
This makes me want to physically punish that wretched b****. Nothing like family to reinforce negative body image and low self esteem. Hopefully her husband prepares for a future without her should he ever tragically lose the ability to use both hands. Can't imagine how that vile beast would be as a mother. Let's collectively pray that never happens.
I think that the husband of the bride is going to be in for a rude awakening in the future. Karma comes around and sometimes it gives you that which you have shunned.
The bride needs to be very careful that nothing happens to her in the future that might disfigure her physical appearance.
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Time for another amputation in the family - that "sister" from his life.
I thought maybe the child was mentally disabled and might be loud or disruptive. As terrible as it is to be ableist I could understand her reasoning for wanting an undisturbed wedding. But if it’s a physical disability, then it all about stupid aesthetics and caring more about photos looking “perfect” than other people’s feeling. She’s definitely a bridezilla. What a horrible thing to do.
And to add onto the last comment made, when she sees all the wedding pictures and hears everyone talking about it...
you and your daughter should stay away from this evil, shallow and unkind person. no good thing would come out for your daughter by relating to your sister.
Didn't anyone bother to ask where Ella was? Geez, you'd think someone would inquire about her. Bride is definitely the AH. What kind of self-centered b***h would forbid a young lady from attending her wedding because she has an amputated arm? The OP is right. She's a monster.
I'm torn here! For whatever reason the daughter /niece wasn't invited ambushing the sister/bride at the reception didn't change the fact the child wasn't invited. But I imagine it was upsetting for the OP to see other children there and not really knowing why his kid wasn't invited. The OP obviously feels that his child will be treated differently or not included because of her appearance and the sister added to it by inviting other children without any appearance of aesthetics. Still not knowing 100% if this is the reason she wasn't invited.The stinger for me is inviting the other siblings kids which speaks volumes about the OP , the daughter, and sisters relationship.
These family things are difficult. If you blow it up, you basically cut off your kids from their relativess. Which will hurt your kids even if you don't intend to.
Wtf are any of you taking about..? The bride never said anything about OPs daughter not being invited because she was an amputee. He assumed it because, "he could tell." If other kids were welcome then chances are maybe she wouldn't have been a welcome guest based on her personality..? Past experiences at events..? Anything..? Believe it or not, amputees have just enough capability of being a d**k like the rest of us. All you guys saw was "amputee" & "not invited" & went into a whole rage without substance.
What a freaking b***h! That poor young lady! She lost her mom and her arm and her aunt is evil.
I completely agree. She's incredibly cruel and manipulative. Her seemingly bias towards her niece's disability is disgusting. It hurts my heart to think about this young lady being ostracized because of a devastating tragedy that happened to her, through no fault of her own. As if loosing her mother and her arm weren't enough, her father's sister is alienating her from events that the rest of the family are taking part in. The other family members should feel ashamed of her too. She would do the same to their children if they encounter any issues that she deems unworthy of her presence.
Load More Replies... OP should (ideally with another sibling there) sit in front of sister and her new husband and say along the lines of "okay, let's forget the conversation at the wedding. There were children there younger than my daughter, why did you exclude her?". Then say nothing, keep repeating until they admit what they did and why. Then point out how she's an utter cockwomble and cut her out of your life.
I dunno, I think in front of multiple family members. All of whom are asked to remain silent and allow bridezilla to answer.
Load More Replies... Wtf is wrong with people, I'm so tired of seeing posts like this. It actually disgusts me to know that they are breathing the same air as me.
That's the most ridiculous thing I ever heard of. My father's sister was a flower girl at his wedding not long after her arm was amputated after a car accident. You can see the empty sleeve on her dress in all the photos and NOBODY CARES!
There would be no need for an apology from someone I would never speak to or see ever again in my life.
Seriously, I wouldn’t want her to apologize to my daughter either. I wouldn’t let her anywhere near my kid period.
Load More Replies... Tracy is a reactive abuser. She did something horrible (excluded a child from her wedding for aesthetic purposes), and when confronted about it, immediately started playing the victim, as though her brother's reaction to her cruelty is the real crime. If any of the family stand with Tracy on this, they are further forcing an innocent child into isolation and validating the notion that she is somehow less than her cousins because of a physical difference. People tolerating this sort of exclusion and cruelty toward the disabled is why it keeps happening. The whole family needs to come down on Tracy for her heartlessness, or someone else (maybe one of the cousins) will think "Aunt Tracy did it; I can do it too."
I hope OP remembers to exclude Tracy from any event around Ella in the future. Birthdays, graduation, and perhaps marriage if it's in the cards. Tracy is a sh*ttrap excuse of an aunt and deserves no part in Ella's future.
Tracy should be excluded from all events in the OP's life, period.
Load More Replies... I would write the suggested letter and send it to every single attendee of that wedding over the age of 10 or 12 so they know what an absolute nonster s the bride and groom are. I would make sure Tracy and her husband were shunned like nodody's business. I'd be putting that out on all the social networks until the sister and her husband were so completely inundated with hatred from everyone in their world and had to move to a deserted island to get away from it all.
Yes, the suggested letter in one of the comments is really good.
Load More Replies... I would keep my kid far far away from Tracy. That is very messed up. If your wedding makes you feel that entitled then you are selfish and should not subject the other person to marring you. Who want to marry a selfish person?
Godamn! When my cousin got married, she made a point to make sure her venue would be wheelchair accessible for my sisters kiddo who is wheelchair bound, and who will let everyone know how she feels. When I got married, we made dang sure my niece could be there too. She's an amazing young woman!
The way I was brought up, family is more important than anything else. You don't mistreat your family members in order to have a magazine or movie wedding. I haven't been to a lot of weddings, but the ones I've been to and had a great time were the ones that just flowed. Everyone was natural and no one was trying to make the pictures looked a certain way. My sister's best friend's wedding was the most casual. A lot of the guest were just in jeans and a t-shirt. I would keep this girl away from her aunt because at some point the aunt is going to be stupid and let it slip how she feels about the girl missing her arm.
I can't fathom doing this to my nephew!!! What an evil soul that women has!
That woman is a disgrace to aunts everywhere. And frankly a bit dim if she thought OP wasn't going to notice all the younger children there.
She does realize editing and/or strategic positioning exists, right? If it was pictures she didn't want "ruined", the girl could have easily been sidled up next to someone to hide it. People who claim to have a "good side" do it all the time. Sister sounds absolutely awful. Her husband is in for a treat, if it lasts. NTA times infinity.
This makes me want to physically punish that wretched b****. Nothing like family to reinforce negative body image and low self esteem. Hopefully her husband prepares for a future without her should he ever tragically lose the ability to use both hands. Can't imagine how that vile beast would be as a mother. Let's collectively pray that never happens.
I think that the husband of the bride is going to be in for a rude awakening in the future. Karma comes around and sometimes it gives you that which you have shunned.
The bride needs to be very careful that nothing happens to her in the future that might disfigure her physical appearance.
Load More Replies... Time for another amputation in the family - that "sister" from his life.
I thought maybe the child was mentally disabled and might be loud or disruptive. As terrible as it is to be ableist I could understand her reasoning for wanting an undisturbed wedding. But if it’s a physical disability, then it all about stupid aesthetics and caring more about photos looking “perfect” than other people’s feeling. She’s definitely a bridezilla. What a horrible thing to do.
And to add onto the last comment made, when she sees all the wedding pictures and hears everyone talking about it...
you and your daughter should stay away from this evil, shallow and unkind person. no good thing would come out for your daughter by relating to your sister.
Didn't anyone bother to ask where Ella was? Geez, you'd think someone would inquire about her. Bride is definitely the AH. What kind of self-centered b***h would forbid a young lady from attending her wedding because she has an amputated arm? The OP is right. She's a monster.
I'm torn here! For whatever reason the daughter /niece wasn't invited ambushing the sister/bride at the reception didn't change the fact the child wasn't invited. But I imagine it was upsetting for the OP to see other children there and not really knowing why his kid wasn't invited. The OP obviously feels that his child will be treated differently or not included because of her appearance and the sister added to it by inviting other children without any appearance of aesthetics. Still not knowing 100% if this is the reason she wasn't invited.The stinger for me is inviting the other siblings kids which speaks volumes about the OP , the daughter, and sisters relationship.
These family things are difficult. If you blow it up, you basically cut off your kids from their relativess. Which will hurt your kids even if you don't intend to.
Wtf are any of you taking about..? The bride never said anything about OPs daughter not being invited because she was an amputee. He assumed it because, "he could tell." If other kids were welcome then chances are maybe she wouldn't have been a welcome guest based on her personality..? Past experiences at events..? Anything..? Believe it or not, amputees have just enough capability of being a d**k like the rest of us. All you guys saw was "amputee" & "not invited" & went into a whole rage without substance.
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