Woman Doesn’t See Anything Wrong With Ordering Burger King To A Restaurant, Gets A Reality Check
Reddit user u/AccomplishedCandle83 found herself in a saucy situation at a nice restaurant.
At 19 years old, this picky eater was dragged along by the family for a flavor-filled adventure, but while everyone else was savoring hibachi chicken, she just couldn’t stomach the idea and called for a fast food delivery to the rescue.
However, her decision wasn’t met lightly, and the teenager turned to the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘ to help her figure out if her actions were, indeed, a mistake.
This 19-year-old picky eater couldn’t find anything suitable for her taste buds on the menu at the restaurant she and her family were dining at
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So she ordered a delivery there from another establishment
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It’s not just children who can be picky eaters
We often hear about kids being picky eaters, but adults can be fussy about what they put in their mouth too. There’s something called avoidant restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID), and many people who have it eat fewer than 20 foods, mostly carbs and dairy.
Even though ARFID is on the polar end of the picky-eating spectrum, affecting about 0.3 percent to 3 percent of the population, moderate pickiness is much more common. In fact, according to Hana Zickgraf, an assistant professor of psychology who studies eating behavior at the University of South Alabama, roughly 30 percent of people identify as picky.
Evolution has played a big part in this. Zickgraf said that as omnivores, we’re biologically prepared to reject really novel foods the first couple times we try them to prevent ourselves from ingesting toxic substances. It’s no accident we reach the height of pickiness around 2 years old, soon after we’ve gained the motor control and chewing skills required to go around and potentially consume things we shouldn’t.
Although most pass through our peak picky phase around age 5 or 6, some people do not. Zickgraf said nature, rather than nurture, is most likely responsible for it, with potential factors including heightened sensory and disgust sensitivity, as well as cognitive rigidity.
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However, getting food delivered at a restaurant from another place is just disrespectful
It’s not illegal what the author of the post did, but a restaurant can decide to not serve customers for any reason. Bringing in outside food was disrespectful to the establishment, since they’re seating someone who is not contributing to their bottom line and disrupting the atmosphere they sought to create.
The expectation is that you are there for their service, not to use their establishment as a dining hall for whatever it is you want to have. Bottom line is, this behavior is not classy and anyone doing so shouldn’t be surprised if they’re asked to leave. So this wasn’t even the worst case scenario that could’ve happened to the 19-year-old.
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The majority of people who read the story thought that the teen was out of line
But some weren’t so quick to judge her
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If this is true, so much is wrong. I doubt any restaurant would allow outside food. She's 19 so how did here mom "force" her? If, at 19 , she's that picky something is probably undiagnosed about her or she's been incredibly spoiled. In my house, you ate what you were given. There was no money for options. Maybe not an AH but definitely a brat.
This comes off so immature, and I think the parents bear some of the blame here too. Not for "forcing" her to go (I'm sorry, you're a legal adult how did they force you to do anything?) but for not addressing the food issue sooner. Putting that aside, though, it was extremely rude and entitled to order and eat outside food at the restaurant. Most hibachi places also have an expanded menu that goes beyond the hibachi itself and into other traditional Japanese fare (like RAMEN). Instead of being a petulant child she could have tried to get creative and find something similar to what she likes that would still potentially expand her palate - like Chicken Katsu, Tonkatsu, Karaage, etc. If you've got that much of an issue with food, then, yes, see a therapist because this is not behavior you can repeat forever while expecting people to put up with it.
I wholeheartedly agree with your take on this. Chicken Katsu immediately came to mind when I began reading this. It would have been a elevated option to chicken fries and it's so good imho. I've had it in bento options. And Ramen is also a great suggestion, I get the Tonkatsu all of the time and I've had awesome seafood Ramen at hibachi restaurants as well. They usually make very basic ones though also. It seems as though she was proud of her obstinace and fafo backlash to her mom because she didn't stop for fast food. Her parents have responsibilities in her behaviors for not doing more when she was a child, to expand her palate and giving in to the whims of a child. Now that her food issues are deeply ingrained, she may need therapeutic intervention to change her behavior.
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There's no reason not for her to like it. she "Just doesn't like it" like you didn't even try it. wtf.
The poor baby was FORCED!!! to go to a restaurant type that she's NEVER TRIED!!! before but she's POSITIVE!!! that she HATES IT!!! because she HATES MOST FOOD!! other than chicken nuggies!!! THAT'S the reason why she doesn't like it!!! gosh!!! /sarcasm --Also how the HELL can she protest that she won't like CHICKEN and then she orders CHICKEN fries from BK? I have never heard of a more immature whiny little brat than OP. Plus, she probably has scurvy and rickets from only eating nuggies and ramen, since vegetables are probably "gross" and she probably "hates them". Seriously thought I was reading a post about someone's 3-year-old instead of someone who is 19 and a legal adult. Cripes.
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All the NTA replies fail to consider the OP could simply eat the BK in THE CAR and rejoin the family. Hence YTA
right. or treat it as a social outing and get a takeaway on the way home.
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The person is a 19 year old legal adult. If she wants to eat food of her own choosing then she can buy it herself. Since mom and dad are still buying then she can deal with it. Incidentally, the term "picky eater" needs to be updated. That makes it sounds like you have discriminating taste buds when in fact you just like eating junk.
I'm a 'picky eater' (although I do hate the term) and can't eat most 'junk'. I can't touch most processed foods, particularly meats, so wouldn't dare ordering from a fast food place to replace the food at the restaurant I'm already unfortunately barely eating at
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In Europe, she would have been kicked out of the place. Cause a fuss, lifetime ban. Outside food is not allowed.
Most stories about "picky eaters" (without a diagnosed health issue, and these people are usually trying their best, because they understand that their entire health is affected) revolve around "I love fast food so much". You do you - next stop is complaining "I am so fat, what can I do". The way the above is written is hinting an that this person has been a tantrum child so the parents gave up instead of having this addressed at a very early age. The reason for being the (only?) tantrum child in the family is unknown here. But: Everybody can learn to keep tantrums at home and be a polite, respectful person when coming into contact with the outside world. You need to adapt to a certain level with local customs, even if this is not somewhere in the Himalaya, but the Americanized (or Germanized or Dutchized) foreign food place next door. Most restaurants, from simple ones to high level, will be happy to find a solution, especially if they get informed in advance. Grow up.
Seriously. I'm a picky eater (it's something I'm working on and I don't let it affect others) and I genuinely hate plain chicken and plain white rice, along with most salad dressings giving me a weird reaction, but I still eat them if i can and if I can't I'm not gonna make it other people's problems, I don't have to eat and if I really do I can just make my own food
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It's funny that the term "picky eater" usually means "I only eat garbage food".
I'm a picky eater and the main things I have trouble with are plain chicken and rice, it's a s****y excuse for people with terrible eating habits to use. They're not picky, they're unhealthy and spoiled
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You and your taste buds are embarrassing. Did you order the kids meal?
Couldn't she have just sat there and drank lots and even had something off the dessert menu instead? Was there nothing she could eat as a dessert? What an AH. So disrespectful to that restaurant. At the very least she could have left for 10 mins ate something somewhere close by and gone back in. Maybe just wait until the trip home and stop off then?. I think she was purposefully trying to embarrass her family though for forcing her to go there. What an idiot.
Hmm sounds like the parents are going to have to get use to leaving their daughter behind when going out to eat. I can see they do not want to when it comes to family dinner, hence the "force" invitation, but their daughter is old enough to make a final decision. Either compromise with her eating habit or leave her home.
I cannot stand picky eaters like this. I get that there are some foods people simply dislike. But to preemptively commit to disliking food before youve even tried it is immature and annoying. Its food, if you're hungry put it in your mouth, let it slide down your throat hole and stop your whining, or go hungry.
To focus on the one single current issue (the "picky" eater stuff is years-long), bringing outside food into a restaurant is a d**k move. Sit there and sip your soda, you can have your burger king on the way home after.
YTA. I’m a picky eater. I have a very bland palette, herbs and spices are pretty much a no go for me (I cant even eat anything peppery), plus I’m vegetarian so that rules out a lot of food I might be able to eat. But when I go to a restaurant I make an effort to try the food. And if worst comes to worst and there’s truly nothing that I can eat, I get a plate of chips and eat those
Yes, YTA. Seriously, this kind of behavior one would expect from a six-year-old, not a young adult. You prejudged the food without even trying it. How would you feel if you threw a party and your guests did that to YOU? I suggest that you get a copy of "Green Eggs And Ham" by Dr. Seuss, and read it. Slowly. Carefully. It might help you to connect the dots. Keep up with this "picky me" routine, and I can pretty much guarantee you that while your friends are out having a good time, you will be at home with your Whopper and fries. Every. Single. Day. And. Night.
To save me looking it up (I've done so much looking up today my tonsils hurt) what is hibachi?
Cooked on a grill or hot iron surface. The chefs display masterful knife work and incorporate various proteins of the patrons' choice with seasonings, sauces and vegetables. They often do tricks with the food it for the diners' entertainment. I'm sure YouTube has videos of this.
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ESH, OP's mom for not addressing the picky eating when OP was a child, OP for not addressing it now that she's an adult. It's fine to not be an adventurous eater, but it's an important grown up life skill to be able to handle yourself at a restaurant and not make a scene. Almost any restaurant will make a plain dish for you if you ask--just pick a carb and/or protein that's on the menu and say you want it plain. A hibachi place will do unseasoned chicken and rice, no problem.
They didn't kick you out right away? Most restaurants do exactly that if you bring your own food, let alone from other places. If there are any dietary restrictions they can't adapt to, and you have to attend some family event or so, usually, they're fine with one eating a seperately made meal from outside. Usually, only your table does notice at all. In that case, you don't run about and tell anyone, but just ... accept that they're not yours, you're not theirs, no loss at all.
YTA. An immature one at that. You parents should have never allowed you to get away with this behavior in the first place.
This kid must be a whale, with a short life span ahead. I would have gotten up and dragged that little s**t home to eat their fast food alone, and gone back to the restaurant, to eat. And never take that spoiled clueless jerk out anywhere for the rest of the year.
I'm autistic and have ARFID. I got punished a *lot* as a kid for being a picky eater. It was not fun. What we do now with my family is we send the link of the proposed restaurant around, and then everyone in the party can decide beforehand if it has something acceptable on the menu. That said, restaurants are a great opportunity to expand your horizons by even a little, since they're more likely to be.. good. (I hated a lot of foods because my mom was a terrible cook, lol) I'm leaning towards ESH. The parents for chosing a restaurant that does not have acceptable options for everyone in the party, OP for ordering outside food into the restaurant. Like, that's so ruuude.
Have you done any cooking or taken any cooking classes? It sounds like you would be able to do better than your mom.
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Am I the only one that noticed the irony of not wanting to eat chicken at the restaurant she was at so ordered delivery chicken from another restaurant? You're not a picky eater you're just a pain in the a*s.
I have become a picky eater because I have a lot of food intolerances because of IBS. I have to avoid anything overly processed, artificial sweeteners and colourants, most legumes (I can eat hummus, peas and green beans) most nightshade family especially cold cooked potatoes, and everything in the cabbage family apart from bok choi. I can't drink instant coffee but I can drink coffee from grounds. I would never expect anybody to cater to my dietary needs and I can almost always find something I can eat without an issue. In fact the biggest problem I have when I go out is artificially sweetened soft drinks. I also can't really eat junk food because of the inclusion of soy products!
She lucky the restaurant didn't kick them out. Because restaurants can't allow other foods brought in according to food safety rules , so if a food/restaurant/health department inspector had come in they could have gotten fined.
A lot of restaurants have rules about bringing in "outside" food. And she is not a picky eater she is just a pain in the neck. She is a "processed big baby.
What the hellllll, this can’t be real right? I can’t think of any place around here that would even allow that.
I used to call myself a picky eater but restricted might be a better description. I have a bunch of sensory issues & really sensitive to strong flavours, etc, plus a bunch of weird allergies (as in anaphylaxis level to vegetable gums, which no one has heard of) and I’m calling this YTA. You don’t order another restaurants food food! You find something on the menu that is closest to something you could eat, try a few bites, push it around on the plate, fill up on drink, maybe share some out to others, so it’s not so apparent you haven’t eaten, and then hit up a fast food place on the way home. This was the plan when a friend had their bday dinner at a hibachi place. Restaurant was so good at accommodating allergies & cooked the veg & meat to perfection right in front of me, so it ended up being an amazing meal for me; no fast food needed.
My goodness. My mum has for several years had severe digestive issues that massively restricted what she could eat (it's a little better now but there are many things she can't have). This was to the point where she dropped a lot of weight because there was so little she could have she just wasn't able to get the calories and nutrients necessary. And even she would find something on the menu she could have when we went out to restaurants. She was really quite embarrassed that she couldn't have full meals and might have to ask for a lot of modification, but she still went out to restaurants with her family and ate what she could, like a polite adult would do. "Picky eater" is no defense in this situation, certainly not if you're rejecting foods you've never tried before (and at a restaurant that serves a wide range of grilled proteins, veggies, etc., and probably ramen!)
Wow! At 19, how did your parents 'make you go'? Saying that makes the entire episode look like petty payback of an immature nature. Ordering food to be delivered to another restaurant like that is incredibly rude to the restaurant and embarrassing to your family. You are the AH, and so are your parents. You need to grow up and own your behavior without blaming your parents. get a job, move out be independent!
Does she want to be a child or an adult? Doesn't matter, she IS an adult, and it's her own responsibility for showing up at a restaurant she doesn't like and ordering food from another place. Totally unacceptable. Very trashy. This attitude will not get her anywhere in life.
Pain in the a*s-George Carlin. You cannot like what you have never tried. It's impossible. Try being unable to eat most of the food offered anywhere and then come back to me. Spoiled brat.
ESH. the mother sucks for raising her daughter like this, and her daughter sucks for being this petty and bratty.
I'm a picky eater but it's because I get sick for certain things and thus won't eat certain things. However, I always try to find something on the menu and if I can't, I will wait until I get home to make myself something but like, girl, I'm 19 to and you need to try new stuff. And then if you can't eat it for dietary reasons(I'm allergic to fish;all fish) ask the restaurant of they can accommodate.
Your parents did yo no favors not helping you to expand your food choices. I'm still a picky eater, but I loved steak and toasted cheese sandwiches and spaghetti. Is it favors, texture, or both? You could be a super taster. There were things I didn't like until my late teens and 20s. I love food more than is good for me, but I hate to see you miss out. What if you started with finding something that smells good? If your folks let you have a tiny taste of something they have instead of a whole serving?
Who are these NTA?! She has said she hasn't got a reason.M to behave that way and it's rude and entitled to do that in a restaurant! She should have waited whether her mom forced her or not. Absolute child
I've seen restaurants do it before. My mom has allergies and I wouldn't eat a lot. I still don't but it's mainly because I now know why I am a "picky eater".
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My grandfather always said: Is there a restaurant chef who dares to put something on the menu that not everyone likes? (excluding vegan/non-vegan choices or allergies.)
Should've eaten it in the car or waited and got it on the way home or had it delivered to your house.
There's nothing wrong with being a picky eater (I hate chicken and rice cause they're both bland as hell and disgustingly dry) but you need to be aware of that and provide for yourself beforehand. Also, it doesn't kill you to try food you don't like. I suck at trying new food (anxiety related) so usually I get a recommendation from someone if I don't have something I know at the restauraunt and if I don't like it, sucks for me and I'm gonna get myself food at home. Being a picky eater is fine, you just need to manage it
My brother is a picky eater, but he is fifteen. We try to go to places that serve burgers and fries or we go to places that serve other foods that he likes. If we go to a place that is not serving something he likes, we will go to McDonald's and let him eat that in the car before we go in the restaurant. We would never allow him to take outside food into another place. We realize that is rude and disrespectful to the restaurant.
OP is a spoiled brat and really needs to grow up, but the real AH here is the Mother. Not for failure to stop for fast food, but for raising her daughter to be such an entitled shrew. Hope this brat is ready for a lifetime of health hiccups and the development early aging from refusing to even try to nourish herself with a decent diet.
I have trouble believing a restaurant would allow this. Among other things, it would be a health code violation in most places, at least in the US
I'm gonna say NTA. What food and how you decide TO KEEP YOURSELF THE F**K ALIVE, is your choice and should be treated as such.
ESH. The parents for allowing this c**p for 19 yrs. And her for not growing the f up. I am a picky eater. I HATE spice. I do not care what anyone says, green bell peppers are too spicy for me. So when we go out to a restaurant I have some issues. My family knows not to take me to Mexican restraints ( the smell gives me a headache). But I was invited to a Thai restraint - I went and although i probably seemed silly - I was able to get a nice meal with No real embarrassment to my host. ( If invited to a Mexican establishment - I would find a way to be polite)
She says "EDIT: No I'm not autistic". Are you sure? It's true that some people are just picky eaters. I have known one or two. This seems a BIT extreme. I'm on the autism spectrum, and luckily I grew up being able to eat just about anything, but I have known a few people on the autism spectrum who, for one reason or another had food issues. Some examples: (a) anxiety caused by eating somewhere new, eating something different; Some people on the autism spectrum can get very tied to routines and habits; (b) hypersensitivity. I'm hypersensitive to light, sound and touch. I know some people have a taste hypersensitivity that makes it difficult to eat; or tactile hypersensitivity that makes them react to textures. I knew a person who would literally throw up because of the texture of broccoli in their throat. And there could be others. I mean, it really could just be "I really like fast food", but seems a bit extreme.
Why are "picky eaters" ALWAYS ok with junk food. You never hear of picky eaters "just liking plain chicken"
A part of it might be that fast foods from chain restaurants taste the same no matter where you order, while non-chain restaurants are likely to put their own spin even on a classic recipe (like adding carrots to spaghetti sauce).
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She's the a*****e. She could have tried something difftent. If she didn't like it then ask for it be wrapped up to go. She didn't have to order burger king.
This was initally posted as a positive post, as if the girl taught her family something e.t.c. I thought I'm too old for this s**t, and from the headline itself, I was feeling this girl is a brat
I see the person is 19 but I was assuming they were 12. Now that I see they're 19 I think it's time for them to grow up and try new things.
I hope the OP's family doctor is monitoring her health, and that the OP eats fruit and vegetables. I read of a teenager who lost his vision from missing nutrients. The OP does eat somewhat better, so I hope they are well. It sounds like an issue of control or a reaction to trauma. https://www.cnn.com/2019/09/03/health/poor-diet-blindness-scli-intl/index.html
OP probably thinks vegetables are "icky". I'm surprised that some of these non-autistic non-sensory-issue adult "picky eaters" don't have scurvy and rickets.
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This site taught me that someone being a 'picky eater' isn't necessarily just immaturity for those who should know better. So, you know, little kids and whatnot. There feels like more going on here so, to me, ESH. She shouldn't have ordered food to the restaurant who, which, I'm amazed they even allowed it. And the parents for not looking into why even their adult child won't even try the most basic of foods outside of their comfort zone.
The parents should have been more involved when they were still a child. OP is no doubt lacking in important nutrients.
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Someone is a hugely overgrown child inside!! You are so LUCKY the resto allowed you to eat your c**p inside their establishment, you a*****e!!!
I am also an extremely picky eater, and would probably die (an exaggeration) if eating at a hibachi grill, where everything is cooked on the same surface. Although, it's pretty f*****g rude to bring outside food into another eatery. Seriously, who does that? I would've at least tried something, because the food is made right in front of you, so you get to see everything that goes in it. Also, hella offended reading these hit comments on picky eaters. I didn't choose to be this way. Dhdhdh 😭
Did you actually read her post? She states repeatedly that she does not have any traumas, eating disorders, sensory issues or conditions, or neurological conditions such as autism.
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I know that for people with autism it is, can't stand the texture of onions myself even if the tastevis ok. So I suppose people with an aversion to trying new food it would be too. Perhaps they had a bad food experience when very young leading to fear of trying anything new. They could also have undiagnosed allergies, those mess up the taste of food in an unpredictable way. Making some tastes incredibly intense as a warning f.i.
Load More Replies... If this is true, so much is wrong. I doubt any restaurant would allow outside food. She's 19 so how did here mom "force" her? If, at 19 , she's that picky something is probably undiagnosed about her or she's been incredibly spoiled. In my house, you ate what you were given. There was no money for options. Maybe not an AH but definitely a brat.
This comes off so immature, and I think the parents bear some of the blame here too. Not for "forcing" her to go (I'm sorry, you're a legal adult how did they force you to do anything?) but for not addressing the food issue sooner. Putting that aside, though, it was extremely rude and entitled to order and eat outside food at the restaurant. Most hibachi places also have an expanded menu that goes beyond the hibachi itself and into other traditional Japanese fare (like RAMEN). Instead of being a petulant child she could have tried to get creative and find something similar to what she likes that would still potentially expand her palate - like Chicken Katsu, Tonkatsu, Karaage, etc. If you've got that much of an issue with food, then, yes, see a therapist because this is not behavior you can repeat forever while expecting people to put up with it.
I wholeheartedly agree with your take on this. Chicken Katsu immediately came to mind when I began reading this. It would have been a elevated option to chicken fries and it's so good imho. I've had it in bento options. And Ramen is also a great suggestion, I get the Tonkatsu all of the time and I've had awesome seafood Ramen at hibachi restaurants as well. They usually make very basic ones though also. It seems as though she was proud of her obstinace and fafo backlash to her mom because she didn't stop for fast food. Her parents have responsibilities in her behaviors for not doing more when she was a child, to expand her palate and giving in to the whims of a child. Now that her food issues are deeply ingrained, she may need therapeutic intervention to change her behavior.
Load More Replies... There's no reason not for her to like it. she "Just doesn't like it" like you didn't even try it. wtf.
The poor baby was FORCED!!! to go to a restaurant type that she's NEVER TRIED!!! before but she's POSITIVE!!! that she HATES IT!!! because she HATES MOST FOOD!! other than chicken nuggies!!! THAT'S the reason why she doesn't like it!!! gosh!!! /sarcasm --Also how the HELL can she protest that she won't like CHICKEN and then she orders CHICKEN fries from BK? I have never heard of a more immature whiny little brat than OP. Plus, she probably has scurvy and rickets from only eating nuggies and ramen, since vegetables are probably "gross" and she probably "hates them". Seriously thought I was reading a post about someone's 3-year-old instead of someone who is 19 and a legal adult. Cripes.
Load More Replies... All the NTA replies fail to consider the OP could simply eat the BK in THE CAR and rejoin the family. Hence YTA
right. or treat it as a social outing and get a takeaway on the way home.
Load More Replies... The person is a 19 year old legal adult. If she wants to eat food of her own choosing then she can buy it herself. Since mom and dad are still buying then she can deal with it. Incidentally, the term "picky eater" needs to be updated. That makes it sounds like you have discriminating taste buds when in fact you just like eating junk.
I'm a 'picky eater' (although I do hate the term) and can't eat most 'junk'. I can't touch most processed foods, particularly meats, so wouldn't dare ordering from a fast food place to replace the food at the restaurant I'm already unfortunately barely eating at
Load More Replies... In Europe, she would have been kicked out of the place. Cause a fuss, lifetime ban. Outside food is not allowed.
Most stories about "picky eaters" (without a diagnosed health issue, and these people are usually trying their best, because they understand that their entire health is affected) revolve around "I love fast food so much". You do you - next stop is complaining "I am so fat, what can I do". The way the above is written is hinting an that this person has been a tantrum child so the parents gave up instead of having this addressed at a very early age. The reason for being the (only?) tantrum child in the family is unknown here. But: Everybody can learn to keep tantrums at home and be a polite, respectful person when coming into contact with the outside world. You need to adapt to a certain level with local customs, even if this is not somewhere in the Himalaya, but the Americanized (or Germanized or Dutchized) foreign food place next door. Most restaurants, from simple ones to high level, will be happy to find a solution, especially if they get informed in advance. Grow up.
Seriously. I'm a picky eater (it's something I'm working on and I don't let it affect others) and I genuinely hate plain chicken and plain white rice, along with most salad dressings giving me a weird reaction, but I still eat them if i can and if I can't I'm not gonna make it other people's problems, I don't have to eat and if I really do I can just make my own food
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I'm a picky eater and the main things I have trouble with are plain chicken and rice, it's a s****y excuse for people with terrible eating habits to use. They're not picky, they're unhealthy and spoiled
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Couldn't she have just sat there and drank lots and even had something off the dessert menu instead? Was there nothing she could eat as a dessert? What an AH. So disrespectful to that restaurant. At the very least she could have left for 10 mins ate something somewhere close by and gone back in. Maybe just wait until the trip home and stop off then?. I think she was purposefully trying to embarrass her family though for forcing her to go there. What an idiot.
Hmm sounds like the parents are going to have to get use to leaving their daughter behind when going out to eat. I can see they do not want to when it comes to family dinner, hence the "force" invitation, but their daughter is old enough to make a final decision. Either compromise with her eating habit or leave her home.
I cannot stand picky eaters like this. I get that there are some foods people simply dislike. But to preemptively commit to disliking food before youve even tried it is immature and annoying. Its food, if you're hungry put it in your mouth, let it slide down your throat hole and stop your whining, or go hungry.
To focus on the one single current issue (the "picky" eater stuff is years-long), bringing outside food into a restaurant is a d**k move. Sit there and sip your soda, you can have your burger king on the way home after.
YTA. I’m a picky eater. I have a very bland palette, herbs and spices are pretty much a no go for me (I cant even eat anything peppery), plus I’m vegetarian so that rules out a lot of food I might be able to eat. But when I go to a restaurant I make an effort to try the food. And if worst comes to worst and there’s truly nothing that I can eat, I get a plate of chips and eat those
Yes, YTA. Seriously, this kind of behavior one would expect from a six-year-old, not a young adult. You prejudged the food without even trying it. How would you feel if you threw a party and your guests did that to YOU? I suggest that you get a copy of "Green Eggs And Ham" by Dr. Seuss, and read it. Slowly. Carefully. It might help you to connect the dots. Keep up with this "picky me" routine, and I can pretty much guarantee you that while your friends are out having a good time, you will be at home with your Whopper and fries. Every. Single. Day. And. Night.
To save me looking it up (I've done so much looking up today my tonsils hurt) what is hibachi?
Cooked on a grill or hot iron surface. The chefs display masterful knife work and incorporate various proteins of the patrons' choice with seasonings, sauces and vegetables. They often do tricks with the food it for the diners' entertainment. I'm sure YouTube has videos of this.
Load More Replies... ESH, OP's mom for not addressing the picky eating when OP was a child, OP for not addressing it now that she's an adult. It's fine to not be an adventurous eater, but it's an important grown up life skill to be able to handle yourself at a restaurant and not make a scene. Almost any restaurant will make a plain dish for you if you ask--just pick a carb and/or protein that's on the menu and say you want it plain. A hibachi place will do unseasoned chicken and rice, no problem.
They didn't kick you out right away? Most restaurants do exactly that if you bring your own food, let alone from other places. If there are any dietary restrictions they can't adapt to, and you have to attend some family event or so, usually, they're fine with one eating a seperately made meal from outside. Usually, only your table does notice at all. In that case, you don't run about and tell anyone, but just ... accept that they're not yours, you're not theirs, no loss at all.
YTA. An immature one at that. You parents should have never allowed you to get away with this behavior in the first place.
This kid must be a whale, with a short life span ahead. I would have gotten up and dragged that little s**t home to eat their fast food alone, and gone back to the restaurant, to eat. And never take that spoiled clueless jerk out anywhere for the rest of the year.
I'm autistic and have ARFID. I got punished a *lot* as a kid for being a picky eater. It was not fun. What we do now with my family is we send the link of the proposed restaurant around, and then everyone in the party can decide beforehand if it has something acceptable on the menu. That said, restaurants are a great opportunity to expand your horizons by even a little, since they're more likely to be.. good. (I hated a lot of foods because my mom was a terrible cook, lol) I'm leaning towards ESH. The parents for chosing a restaurant that does not have acceptable options for everyone in the party, OP for ordering outside food into the restaurant. Like, that's so ruuude.
Have you done any cooking or taken any cooking classes? It sounds like you would be able to do better than your mom.
Load More Replies... Am I the only one that noticed the irony of not wanting to eat chicken at the restaurant she was at so ordered delivery chicken from another restaurant? You're not a picky eater you're just a pain in the a*s.
I have become a picky eater because I have a lot of food intolerances because of IBS. I have to avoid anything overly processed, artificial sweeteners and colourants, most legumes (I can eat hummus, peas and green beans) most nightshade family especially cold cooked potatoes, and everything in the cabbage family apart from bok choi. I can't drink instant coffee but I can drink coffee from grounds. I would never expect anybody to cater to my dietary needs and I can almost always find something I can eat without an issue. In fact the biggest problem I have when I go out is artificially sweetened soft drinks. I also can't really eat junk food because of the inclusion of soy products!
She lucky the restaurant didn't kick them out. Because restaurants can't allow other foods brought in according to food safety rules , so if a food/restaurant/health department inspector had come in they could have gotten fined.
A lot of restaurants have rules about bringing in "outside" food. And she is not a picky eater she is just a pain in the neck. She is a "processed big baby.
What the hellllll, this can’t be real right? I can’t think of any place around here that would even allow that.
I used to call myself a picky eater but restricted might be a better description. I have a bunch of sensory issues & really sensitive to strong flavours, etc, plus a bunch of weird allergies (as in anaphylaxis level to vegetable gums, which no one has heard of) and I’m calling this YTA. You don’t order another restaurants food food! You find something on the menu that is closest to something you could eat, try a few bites, push it around on the plate, fill up on drink, maybe share some out to others, so it’s not so apparent you haven’t eaten, and then hit up a fast food place on the way home. This was the plan when a friend had their bday dinner at a hibachi place. Restaurant was so good at accommodating allergies & cooked the veg & meat to perfection right in front of me, so it ended up being an amazing meal for me; no fast food needed.
My goodness. My mum has for several years had severe digestive issues that massively restricted what she could eat (it's a little better now but there are many things she can't have). This was to the point where she dropped a lot of weight because there was so little she could have she just wasn't able to get the calories and nutrients necessary. And even she would find something on the menu she could have when we went out to restaurants. She was really quite embarrassed that she couldn't have full meals and might have to ask for a lot of modification, but she still went out to restaurants with her family and ate what she could, like a polite adult would do. "Picky eater" is no defense in this situation, certainly not if you're rejecting foods you've never tried before (and at a restaurant that serves a wide range of grilled proteins, veggies, etc., and probably ramen!)
Wow! At 19, how did your parents 'make you go'? Saying that makes the entire episode look like petty payback of an immature nature. Ordering food to be delivered to another restaurant like that is incredibly rude to the restaurant and embarrassing to your family. You are the AH, and so are your parents. You need to grow up and own your behavior without blaming your parents. get a job, move out be independent!
Does she want to be a child or an adult? Doesn't matter, she IS an adult, and it's her own responsibility for showing up at a restaurant she doesn't like and ordering food from another place. Totally unacceptable. Very trashy. This attitude will not get her anywhere in life.
Pain in the a*s-George Carlin. You cannot like what you have never tried. It's impossible. Try being unable to eat most of the food offered anywhere and then come back to me. Spoiled brat.
ESH. the mother sucks for raising her daughter like this, and her daughter sucks for being this petty and bratty.
I'm a picky eater but it's because I get sick for certain things and thus won't eat certain things. However, I always try to find something on the menu and if I can't, I will wait until I get home to make myself something but like, girl, I'm 19 to and you need to try new stuff. And then if you can't eat it for dietary reasons(I'm allergic to fish;all fish) ask the restaurant of they can accommodate.
Your parents did yo no favors not helping you to expand your food choices. I'm still a picky eater, but I loved steak and toasted cheese sandwiches and spaghetti. Is it favors, texture, or both? You could be a super taster. There were things I didn't like until my late teens and 20s. I love food more than is good for me, but I hate to see you miss out. What if you started with finding something that smells good? If your folks let you have a tiny taste of something they have instead of a whole serving?
Who are these NTA?! She has said she hasn't got a reason.M to behave that way and it's rude and entitled to do that in a restaurant! She should have waited whether her mom forced her or not. Absolute child
I've seen restaurants do it before. My mom has allergies and I wouldn't eat a lot. I still don't but it's mainly because I now know why I am a "picky eater".
Load More Replies... My grandfather always said: Is there a restaurant chef who dares to put something on the menu that not everyone likes? (excluding vegan/non-vegan choices or allergies.)
Should've eaten it in the car or waited and got it on the way home or had it delivered to your house.
There's nothing wrong with being a picky eater (I hate chicken and rice cause they're both bland as hell and disgustingly dry) but you need to be aware of that and provide for yourself beforehand. Also, it doesn't kill you to try food you don't like. I suck at trying new food (anxiety related) so usually I get a recommendation from someone if I don't have something I know at the restauraunt and if I don't like it, sucks for me and I'm gonna get myself food at home. Being a picky eater is fine, you just need to manage it
My brother is a picky eater, but he is fifteen. We try to go to places that serve burgers and fries or we go to places that serve other foods that he likes. If we go to a place that is not serving something he likes, we will go to McDonald's and let him eat that in the car before we go in the restaurant. We would never allow him to take outside food into another place. We realize that is rude and disrespectful to the restaurant.
OP is a spoiled brat and really needs to grow up, but the real AH here is the Mother. Not for failure to stop for fast food, but for raising her daughter to be such an entitled shrew. Hope this brat is ready for a lifetime of health hiccups and the development early aging from refusing to even try to nourish herself with a decent diet.
I have trouble believing a restaurant would allow this. Among other things, it would be a health code violation in most places, at least in the US
I'm gonna say NTA. What food and how you decide TO KEEP YOURSELF THE F**K ALIVE, is your choice and should be treated as such.
ESH. The parents for allowing this c**p for 19 yrs. And her for not growing the f up. I am a picky eater. I HATE spice. I do not care what anyone says, green bell peppers are too spicy for me. So when we go out to a restaurant I have some issues. My family knows not to take me to Mexican restraints ( the smell gives me a headache). But I was invited to a Thai restraint - I went and although i probably seemed silly - I was able to get a nice meal with No real embarrassment to my host. ( If invited to a Mexican establishment - I would find a way to be polite)
She says "EDIT: No I'm not autistic". Are you sure? It's true that some people are just picky eaters. I have known one or two. This seems a BIT extreme. I'm on the autism spectrum, and luckily I grew up being able to eat just about anything, but I have known a few people on the autism spectrum who, for one reason or another had food issues. Some examples: (a) anxiety caused by eating somewhere new, eating something different; Some people on the autism spectrum can get very tied to routines and habits; (b) hypersensitivity. I'm hypersensitive to light, sound and touch. I know some people have a taste hypersensitivity that makes it difficult to eat; or tactile hypersensitivity that makes them react to textures. I knew a person who would literally throw up because of the texture of broccoli in their throat. And there could be others. I mean, it really could just be "I really like fast food", but seems a bit extreme.
Why are "picky eaters" ALWAYS ok with junk food. You never hear of picky eaters "just liking plain chicken"
A part of it might be that fast foods from chain restaurants taste the same no matter where you order, while non-chain restaurants are likely to put their own spin even on a classic recipe (like adding carrots to spaghetti sauce).
Load More Replies... She's the a*****e. She could have tried something difftent. If she didn't like it then ask for it be wrapped up to go. She didn't have to order burger king.
This was initally posted as a positive post, as if the girl taught her family something e.t.c. I thought I'm too old for this s**t, and from the headline itself, I was feeling this girl is a brat
I see the person is 19 but I was assuming they were 12. Now that I see they're 19 I think it's time for them to grow up and try new things.
I hope the OP's family doctor is monitoring her health, and that the OP eats fruit and vegetables. I read of a teenager who lost his vision from missing nutrients. The OP does eat somewhat better, so I hope they are well. It sounds like an issue of control or a reaction to trauma. https://www.cnn.com/2019/09/03/health/poor-diet-blindness-scli-intl/index.html
OP probably thinks vegetables are "icky". I'm surprised that some of these non-autistic non-sensory-issue adult "picky eaters" don't have scurvy and rickets.
Load More Replies... This site taught me that someone being a 'picky eater' isn't necessarily just immaturity for those who should know better. So, you know, little kids and whatnot. There feels like more going on here so, to me, ESH. She shouldn't have ordered food to the restaurant who, which, I'm amazed they even allowed it. And the parents for not looking into why even their adult child won't even try the most basic of foods outside of their comfort zone.
The parents should have been more involved when they were still a child. OP is no doubt lacking in important nutrients.
Load More Replies... Someone is a hugely overgrown child inside!! You are so LUCKY the resto allowed you to eat your c**p inside their establishment, you a*****e!!!
I am also an extremely picky eater, and would probably die (an exaggeration) if eating at a hibachi grill, where everything is cooked on the same surface. Although, it's pretty f*****g rude to bring outside food into another eatery. Seriously, who does that? I would've at least tried something, because the food is made right in front of you, so you get to see everything that goes in it. Also, hella offended reading these hit comments on picky eaters. I didn't choose to be this way. Dhdhdh 😭
Did you actually read her post? She states repeatedly that she does not have any traumas, eating disorders, sensory issues or conditions, or neurological conditions such as autism.
Load More Replies... I know that for people with autism it is, can't stand the texture of onions myself even if the tastevis ok. So I suppose people with an aversion to trying new food it would be too. Perhaps they had a bad food experience when very young leading to fear of trying anything new. They could also have undiagnosed allergies, those mess up the taste of food in an unpredictable way. Making some tastes incredibly intense as a warning f.i.
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