As yo can tell, I am a she/her, but recently I have been questioning, and I might be a she/they. I need advice on how you figured it out or advice for figuring it out.
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I’m a cis girl so take my advice how you will, but
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you don’t have to be anything specific, love.
i’m not exactly sure what She/They means, as i’ve been raised by parents who don’t talk about that kind of thing, but there’s no pressure on you to figure everything out right away. you know you better than anyone. 💕💕
Just try it out! If it works, keep it. If it doesn't, good job trying it out
Does it matter? Sorry this sounds like I am being facetious, I am not, I promise. If you are comfortable with she/her then stick with it. Do not try to complicate the process by thinking "what should I be?" Stick with what is comfortable for you. If you like they/them better, go with that.
Try it out a bit! For me I used one set in one situation, and another in a different one, and figured out which felt better. Now I'm not entirely sure what I am, but she/they are fine for me. It fluctuates from day to day anyways, sometimes I want to wear a fancy dress and look beautiful and other days I want to be an octopus with no gender.
I figured my Gender after a long journey, but rn I’m a She/They but I was going to be trans, and before that I was plain Non-Binary, and before that, I was Bi-gender (which I am now) but anyways, how I figured out is that I searched up all genders and what they mean, and I found one that I felt like I was instead of a girl, and I slowly became more of that instead of my birth gender. I hope this helped!
I’ve been questioning the same thing! I’ve found it very hard to experiment with pronouns because they are something other people use for you, meaning it’s hard to tell if you like a pronoun without telling someone else to use it on you. My problem was, I didn’t want to be constantly changing my pronouns and experimenting because I didn’t want to confuse the people around me. To cope with this, every now and then when I would overhear someone refer to me with a pronoun, I’d replace it in my mind with a different one to see how I liked it. For example, in your case if you hear someone say “is she coming to the party?” you could mentally replace it with “are they coming to the party?” and consider if you like the change. I hope this helped and that you can be satisfied with your pronouns, whichever you choose :)
Ok. I personally am not questioning gender and I am my gender at birth, but I support all the way. I have lived with trans, and have friends with different gender identities. My advice is to be genuine with yourself! If you feel like you are not a she/her, embrace that. Don’t let stigma get in the way of that. We all support you!! I hope this somewhat helps. I know I may not have hands on experience with this, but I just want you to be happy in your own skin.
As a person born in the early 1980's who has been transitioning their gender for only the last few years, it is a process. I spent years trying to be more female while always knowing I was more male. It was only after I has a child in my 30's I really had a crisis of gender.
It's okay to not know who you are and who you want to be. I have only transitioned to my partner and close friends and just started bringing up topics surrounding gender to my child. It's not safe to bring up to my family because of religion, and until I find a new job and I am established I'm not socially transitioning.
If you want to discuss more let me know.
Ok, thanks for being there! I hope everything goes ok if you do decide to come out.
Literally do what you think is best for you, don’t give a f about what your friends or parents thinks and do what makes you happy!!!!
