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Gender Reveal Party Turns Sour After In-Laws Claim Their Son Has More Rights To Name The Baby “Since He Is The Real Dad”
Recently, Reddit user Papa_in-waiting1762 has taken it to the AITA community to ask people for advice after he got into a heated argument with his parents-in-law.
The author and his husband have been married for over 5 years, and already have a 3-year-old adopted daughter. However, this past year they decided to start a journey via surrogacy. “Since I have a low sperm count, it is my husband’s sperm and an egg donor (a friend of ours),” Papa_in-waiting1762 wrote in a post that caused quite a stir on the community.
But during the gender reveal party, things did not go quite as planned. Turns out, the parents-in-law insisted on picking a name for the baby and were not happy to hear the author had already done it. What followed turned into a nasty conflict that ruined the vibe and divided the family.
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Recently, this dad shared how his parents-in-law told him he has no right in deciding the name for his own baby since “he isn’t a biological dad”
Image credits: Felipe Salgado (not the actual photo)
This is the whole post that the dad wrote on the AITA community, wondering if he hasn’t overreacted
Later, the author provided some more context about the whole situation
And this is how people reacted to the story
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Melissa Rodriguez 3 years ago
I'd be worried for their daughter too. Since she was adopted and this new baby is a blood relative, grandma might not consider her as a "real" grandkid.
Rachael Sampson 3 years ago
It wasn't just the mother in law. The father in law was just as horrible too. They're both awful. Those two men are their children's parents. PERIOD.
Diane Knight 3 years ago
Some folks don't even have a firm name till the birth is closer. With our first baby, we didn't have one till 2 weeks before he was born, and it was between hubby and me, period! our second child was between 2 names, one reflected a redhead and if blonde was a different one ( had the redhead). Either way, the grandparents/aunts or uncles could only agree or disagree but not offer any of their opinions. Bottom line, parents name their children, it's an A and B discussion and everyone can C themselves out of it.
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Lily Mae Kitty 3 years ago
oh noes, their behavior had consequences! So, by their thinking, this couple's daughter isn't their REAL daughter b/c she was adopted. Will they only treat this coming child as their REAL grandchild b/c blood?
Swan 3 years ago
Fùck! how many posts are we gonna have with "dared call people on their b******t (and fight back when people are bad) did I go too far?" ¤his fùcking husband : "yes you went too far (my parents can do the b******t they want they're MY parents)"
Zedrapazia 3 years ago
They say that their son has more rights to name this baby than OP because he's "blood related" which is already b******t, but on top of that, they wouldn't even let their son choose. They were just about forcing their name ideas upon him.
Angeles Alonso 3 years ago
Nta. Huge red flag. Make sure alll legal matters are in place and taken care of. Should something happen to hubby, they cant claim custody of the son because "blood". Make sure everyone is clear and on the same page before creating more people. Good luck!
Tigerpacingthecage 3 years ago
So the bio dad should have more rights because he ejaculated in a jar? Makes zero sense to me. They are both fathers to the child. With that logic the mom in hetero couples should name every child because she worked harder bringing them to the world and I'm sure most wouldn't agree with that...
Elaine Elder 3 years ago
My husband adopted my daughter from a previous marriage (deadbeat). My mother brain washed her into believing My husband would never love her as much as the new baby because she wasn't his blood. My parents treated my second child obviously different. But I did not find out all the details of the terrible, utterly unfathomable cruelty until both my daughters were grown. It seriously f****d them both up mentally and they are still dealing with mental health issues because of it. I confronted my parents about it and they said they had toove #1 more than #2 because we loved #2 more because #1 was adopted. WTF? Both MY children were MY and THEIR BLOOD! The worst part was they told #1 this view. Telling her #2 was more loved by us than her. So #1 thought it was true. BEWARE AND BE WARNED! If these people are comfortable enough in their wrongness to tell you this to your face, they will have no boundaries and will tell your children their opinions and it will mentally damage them. If I could turn back time I would have never allowed unsupervised visits with my wrong-headed, emotionally damaging parents. My advice: don't ever leave your children in a room alone with these people. They will mind-duch the happiness right out of you and your children. The only acceptable reaction from your husband is my reaction. Outrage!
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Seriously, those in-laws are jerks. OP just wanted to name his kid what he wanted, but noooo. His husband's parents shouldn't say "You're not a REAL parent because blah blah blah". He is. You don't have to be biologically related to a child to be a parent to them.
Auntriarch 3 years ago
And it doesn't say much for how they view the adopted daughter. I'm betting that the underlying text is also, and you're not a real spouse
Load More Replies... Melissa Rodriguez 3 years ago
I'd be worried for their daughter too. Since she was adopted and this new baby is a blood relative, grandma might not consider her as a "real" grandkid.
Rachael Sampson 3 years ago
It wasn't just the mother in law. The father in law was just as horrible too. They're both awful. Those two men are their children's parents. PERIOD.
Diane Knight 3 years ago
Some folks don't even have a firm name till the birth is closer. With our first baby, we didn't have one till 2 weeks before he was born, and it was between hubby and me, period! our second child was between 2 names, one reflected a redhead and if blonde was a different one ( had the redhead). Either way, the grandparents/aunts or uncles could only agree or disagree but not offer any of their opinions. Bottom line, parents name their children, it's an A and B discussion and everyone can C themselves out of it.
Load More Replies... Lily Mae Kitty 3 years ago
oh noes, their behavior had consequences! So, by their thinking, this couple's daughter isn't their REAL daughter b/c she was adopted. Will they only treat this coming child as their REAL grandchild b/c blood?
Swan 3 years ago
Fùck! how many posts are we gonna have with "dared call people on their b******t (and fight back when people are bad) did I go too far?" ¤his fùcking husband : "yes you went too far (my parents can do the b******t they want they're MY parents)"
Zedrapazia 3 years ago
They say that their son has more rights to name this baby than OP because he's "blood related" which is already b******t, but on top of that, they wouldn't even let their son choose. They were just about forcing their name ideas upon him.
Angeles Alonso 3 years ago
Nta. Huge red flag. Make sure alll legal matters are in place and taken care of. Should something happen to hubby, they cant claim custody of the son because "blood". Make sure everyone is clear and on the same page before creating more people. Good luck!
Tigerpacingthecage 3 years ago
So the bio dad should have more rights because he ejaculated in a jar? Makes zero sense to me. They are both fathers to the child. With that logic the mom in hetero couples should name every child because she worked harder bringing them to the world and I'm sure most wouldn't agree with that...
Elaine Elder 3 years ago
My husband adopted my daughter from a previous marriage (deadbeat). My mother brain washed her into believing My husband would never love her as much as the new baby because she wasn't his blood. My parents treated my second child obviously different. But I did not find out all the details of the terrible, utterly unfathomable cruelty until both my daughters were grown. It seriously f****d them both up mentally and they are still dealing with mental health issues because of it. I confronted my parents about it and they said they had toove #1 more than #2 because we loved #2 more because #1 was adopted. WTF? Both MY children were MY and THEIR BLOOD! The worst part was they told #1 this view. Telling her #2 was more loved by us than her. So #1 thought it was true. BEWARE AND BE WARNED! If these people are comfortable enough in their wrongness to tell you this to your face, they will have no boundaries and will tell your children their opinions and it will mentally damage them. If I could turn back time I would have never allowed unsupervised visits with my wrong-headed, emotionally damaging parents. My advice: don't ever leave your children in a room alone with these people. They will mind-duch the happiness right out of you and your children. The only acceptable reaction from your husband is my reaction. Outrage!
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Seriously, those in-laws are jerks. OP just wanted to name his kid what he wanted, but noooo. His husband's parents shouldn't say "You're not a REAL parent because blah blah blah". He is. You don't have to be biologically related to a child to be a parent to them.
Auntriarch 3 years ago
And it doesn't say much for how they view the adopted daughter. I'm betting that the underlying text is also, and you're not a real spouse
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