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Women Are Posting Reasons Why They Don’t Take Their Husband’s Name, And Chrissy Teigen Has The Best Response
Chrissy Teigen has become somewhat renowned for her witty, sassy comments on Twitter, and her latest reply is no exception.
It all started with a viral tweet that said: “I’d really like to hear the reasoning behind women who won’t take their husband’s last name.” Good question right? Plenty of people clearly thought so, as it ignited a lively and positive debate and was widely shared.
One of the things that endear Teigen so much to her fans is her willingness to engage in banter with anyone, not just the exclusive celebrity set as so many others do. She joined in the discussion, having her own personal take on the matter and adding her own two cents to a series of varied and interesting responses.
Teigen went on to express her surprise at why so many people think that taking a man’s name after marriage is so important. “I am not anti-taking the last name at all,” she said. “I was going to. I just never got around to it and it isn’t even the name he goes by. It wasn’t some grand statement not to. I just don’t see how the choice affects anyone else – why do people care so much!”
True. The practice seems rather outdated now and is certainly not universal, with people adopting completely different traditions across cultures. Couples should be free to choose whichever names they want to after marriage, or simply stay as they are. Because, as Chrissy Teigen suggests, it’s really nobody else’s business!
Twitter can be great when used in this way, questioning accepted practices in a thoughtful and respectful way, and opening up to new worldviews in the process. A bit of comic relief from a bona fide celebrity with her own take on the issue, and you got yourself a proper thread there, folks. Scroll down below to check out how it all unfolded, and let us know what you think in the comments!
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But the cherry on the cake has to be Chrissy Teigen’s reply:
Here’s Chrissy with her husband John Roger Stephens aka John Legend
But what’s your take on this? Let us know in the comments!
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stellermatt 7 years ago
i know some people who haven't taken husbands names, some who have but kept there's within their working environment, those who have and those who join forces and double the surname. Also I know of a lesbian couple who decided to create a new surname, literally you do whatever feels right that's probably the best explanation.
Nicolas Velez 7 years ago
Agree with you 100%. There is not right or wrong in this. Is just a matter of opinion. You do whatever feels right!
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Shana 7 years ago
"suffer psychological problems and barely last in their marriages.." Wait, what? If your marriage fails because "she didn't take his last name", there's a lot more going on than a name...
Hayley Rodgers 7 years ago
The guy's grammar tells us he is not educated enough to weigh in
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Elizabeth Lord Cary 7 years ago
My family last name is Lord, HOW can I possibly stop using that name???
The Bonesaw .. 7 years ago
My wife asked me if she "had to" take my last name? "Hell no!", I told her... "I don't even like my last name"... it's long and difficult to pronounce. Long before we got married, when reserving a table or ordering pizza I would use the name Smith in order to avoid the inevitable, "can you spell that, please?" My wife's last name is easy to pronounce and everyone automatically knows how to spell it... so now I use her's when reserving a table. There are now about 50 people who think that's my last name and call me by it. Doesn't bother me in the slightest and I never bother to correct them. I've been married more than a decade and we've been together almost 15 total. And our relationship is as strong today as it's ever been, so the argument that not taking the husband's name is somehow destructive to a relationship is bollocks... a guy would have to have pretty low self-esteem for something that petty to bother him.
Danielle 7 years ago
I don't know The...Bonesaw seems like a pretty legit last name to me.
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Just Amiable 7 years ago
I've been married to the same man for 10 years, I still have my last name, it makes no difference & people who think other wise is rather silly considering I have done it, and trust me keeping your last name won't kill you, or your husband, if it did I'd be dead, or a widow.
Jefferey McDowell 7 years ago
I had a friend who married a girl with the last name Cross, he decided to take her last name, he is now known as "Chris Cross". They have been together for 20 years now. and seem quite happy.
Tess 7 years ago
I wanted to keep my last name as I wanted to carry on my father's last name and my last name has always been a big identity for me as no one in my country has it but my family, My husband didn't have to take mine but he chose to because he wanted our kids to have the same last name but that was his decision. It's 2018, I think people can decide these things for themselves instead of following some stupid tradition
rhoda cormier 1 year ago
It's not just some stupid tradition. And just because you take someone's last name does not change who you are as a person. If don't want to change last name that's fine but is not a big deal if people do. I changed my last name but I'm still a completely own person who although love my husband am not completely attached to him 24/7 or have my own identity and things I do etc...
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Patricia Cody 7 years ago
I once knew a couple who, instead of the woman changing her name, they both changed names. They came up with a new last name they both liked and they both made the name change. I thought that was an awesome idea.
CelSlade 7 years ago
'Couples suffer psychological problems and barely last' WTF? If they suffer it's because the husband feels cheated out of ownership. Second worst thing I did: Take my husbands' names. First worst thing: marry them. It 100% changes the dynamic of the relationship and they do act as if they own you. You don't need a piece of paper to love someone and if you have to give up your identity to satisfy their insecurities, either the relationship is doomed anyway (trust me on this one) or you will be miserable for years trying to live up to their expectations of what a 'wife' should be (and on this one).
Hayley Rodgers 7 years ago
Taking my husband's name did NOT give him ownership nor did he ever act that way, It also in no way meant giving up my identity.
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Paul Brownjohn 7 years ago
To me the idea of a woman taking her husband's name on marriage harks back to the time when women were merely an appendage of the husbands; merely a chattel. When I moved to Belgium, I was refreshed to find that in that country there is absolutely no tradition whatever of women taking their husbands names. When Belgian women marry they keep their maiden names! To me it is demeaning that a woman should be expected to change her name to that of her husband after marriage - why should she? It's just another misogynist tradition that should be abandoned ASAP!
Ehren Thomsen 7 years ago
Nowadays in my country (Germany), women have the last word about taking their husbands' last names. They can do so, keep their last names, hypenate them in whichever order they fancy... When taking the husband's name, they are even allowed to keep it after a divorce, it they want.
Load More Replies... stellermatt 7 years ago
i know some people who haven't taken husbands names, some who have but kept there's within their working environment, those who have and those who join forces and double the surname. Also I know of a lesbian couple who decided to create a new surname, literally you do whatever feels right that's probably the best explanation.
Nicolas Velez 7 years ago
Agree with you 100%. There is not right or wrong in this. Is just a matter of opinion. You do whatever feels right!
Load More Replies... Shana 7 years ago
"suffer psychological problems and barely last in their marriages.." Wait, what? If your marriage fails because "she didn't take his last name", there's a lot more going on than a name...
Hayley Rodgers 7 years ago
The guy's grammar tells us he is not educated enough to weigh in
Load More Replies... Elizabeth Lord Cary 7 years ago
My family last name is Lord, HOW can I possibly stop using that name???
The Bonesaw .. 7 years ago
My wife asked me if she "had to" take my last name? "Hell no!", I told her... "I don't even like my last name"... it's long and difficult to pronounce. Long before we got married, when reserving a table or ordering pizza I would use the name Smith in order to avoid the inevitable, "can you spell that, please?" My wife's last name is easy to pronounce and everyone automatically knows how to spell it... so now I use her's when reserving a table. There are now about 50 people who think that's my last name and call me by it. Doesn't bother me in the slightest and I never bother to correct them. I've been married more than a decade and we've been together almost 15 total. And our relationship is as strong today as it's ever been, so the argument that not taking the husband's name is somehow destructive to a relationship is bollocks... a guy would have to have pretty low self-esteem for something that petty to bother him.
Danielle 7 years ago
I don't know The...Bonesaw seems like a pretty legit last name to me.
Load More Replies... Just Amiable 7 years ago
I've been married to the same man for 10 years, I still have my last name, it makes no difference & people who think other wise is rather silly considering I have done it, and trust me keeping your last name won't kill you, or your husband, if it did I'd be dead, or a widow.
Jefferey McDowell 7 years ago
I had a friend who married a girl with the last name Cross, he decided to take her last name, he is now known as "Chris Cross". They have been together for 20 years now. and seem quite happy.
Tess 7 years ago
I wanted to keep my last name as I wanted to carry on my father's last name and my last name has always been a big identity for me as no one in my country has it but my family, My husband didn't have to take mine but he chose to because he wanted our kids to have the same last name but that was his decision. It's 2018, I think people can decide these things for themselves instead of following some stupid tradition
rhoda cormier 1 year ago
It's not just some stupid tradition. And just because you take someone's last name does not change who you are as a person. If don't want to change last name that's fine but is not a big deal if people do. I changed my last name but I'm still a completely own person who although love my husband am not completely attached to him 24/7 or have my own identity and things I do etc...
Load More Replies... Patricia Cody 7 years ago
I once knew a couple who, instead of the woman changing her name, they both changed names. They came up with a new last name they both liked and they both made the name change. I thought that was an awesome idea.
CelSlade 7 years ago
'Couples suffer psychological problems and barely last' WTF? If they suffer it's because the husband feels cheated out of ownership. Second worst thing I did: Take my husbands' names. First worst thing: marry them. It 100% changes the dynamic of the relationship and they do act as if they own you. You don't need a piece of paper to love someone and if you have to give up your identity to satisfy their insecurities, either the relationship is doomed anyway (trust me on this one) or you will be miserable for years trying to live up to their expectations of what a 'wife' should be (and on this one).
Hayley Rodgers 7 years ago
Taking my husband's name did NOT give him ownership nor did he ever act that way, It also in no way meant giving up my identity.
Load More Replies... Paul Brownjohn 7 years ago
To me the idea of a woman taking her husband's name on marriage harks back to the time when women were merely an appendage of the husbands; merely a chattel. When I moved to Belgium, I was refreshed to find that in that country there is absolutely no tradition whatever of women taking their husbands names. When Belgian women marry they keep their maiden names! To me it is demeaning that a woman should be expected to change her name to that of her husband after marriage - why should she? It's just another misogynist tradition that should be abandoned ASAP!
Ehren Thomsen 7 years ago
Nowadays in my country (Germany), women have the last word about taking their husbands' last names. They can do so, keep their last names, hypenate them in whichever order they fancy... When taking the husband's name, they are even allowed to keep it after a divorce, it they want.
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