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Person Wins Loads Of Money, Refuses To Fund Sis’ Surgery As She Used To Steal From Them Years Ago
Person Wins Loads Of Money, Refuses To Fund Sis’ Surgery As She Used To Steal From Them Years Ago

Person Wins Loads Of Money, Refuses To Fund Sis’ Surgery As She Used To Steal From Them Years Ago

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If you had a difficult childhood – for example, your relatives regularly offended you, didn’t respect you at all and in every way neglected your company – there is a great way to get back their attention and love. It is enough to quickly and unexpectedly get rich. And then, believe me, the increased attention of your relatives is almost guaranteed!

An additional confirmation of this fact is this story from the user u/LexPages, whose older sister had been really mean to him in childhood, but as soon as her brother suddenly got rich, she immediately showed up with a request to urgently help her. However, let’s just read on.

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    The author of the post recently won $50K while gambling and his relatives somehow managed to know about this

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    So the man’s elder sister reached out and asked him to fund her surgery for $20K, especially since she had only $500 on GoFundMe

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    The issue was that the sis used to be mean to the author in their childhood and regularly stole from him

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    So the man just said a flat-out “No” and told her that he planned to use this money for investments and a great vacation

    So, the original poster (OP) recently got lucky in gambling – his winnings after taxes amounted to a tidy sum of $50K. And so, literally a couple of days later, having learned about the big win from mutual friends, the author’s older sis reached out and asked him to pay for her upcoming surgery. No more, no less, but $20K. At the same time, as the OP notes, only $500 had been collected on GoFundMe for this purpose.

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    Well, helping your sibling is a good thing, you say? But here’s the problem – as a child, as the author recalls, his sister constantly stole from him. And when caught, she invariably cynically stated something like “he doesn’t need it anyway” or “you shouldn’t be so materialistic.” She was 7 years older, our hero recalls, so the age gap made it very difficult for him to achieve at least some justice.

    Moreover, when, many years later, both were already adults, our hero reminded his sister of this, she simply shrugged and changed the subject, as if it was something completely unimportant for her. But not for the author, who actually carried this resentment through the years. And now it’s time for some postponed karma…

    The original poster refused – and not just refused, but sarcastically congratulated his sis on reaching a $500 milestone on GoFundMe. And the guy plans to use part of his winnings for investments, and part just to pay for his vacation, where it’s good and fun, there are plenty of excellent cocktails, and no family drama. However, some worm of doubt still gnaws at our hero – so he decided to ask netizens for advice anyway.

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    “This story reminds us once again that you should not treat someone badly, because later it could backfire on you,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch over this described situation. “Because later the people you once offended will have every moral right to refuse to help you.”

    “Of course, this man has the right to spend his money as he sees fit. However, it is still worth considering – if this surgery is critical for the health or life of his sister, will he regret later that he didn’t help her? After all, there is an ancient wisdom – do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

    “Therefore, if this man is tormented by doubts – perhaps it would be worth paying for at least part of the surgery cost for his sister. At the same time, explaining to her why he didn’t want to do this, and what motives led him to do so now. In the end, doing good is also a great virtue. Well, or at least to avoid any kind of remorse later…” Irina concludes.

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    As for the people in the comments, they massively supported the author in his decision, arguing that his sister’s vile behavior in their childhood should actually be punished even years later. “You don’t owe anyone anything, family or no,” someone wrote. “Especially someone who actively stole from you without a bit of remorse.” And what do you, our dear readers, think about this particular situation?

    Most commenters simply praised the man for acting this way and said that sis’s vile behavior should have its punishment even years later

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    Oleg Tarasenko

    Oleg Tarasenko

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. It's funny how "but it's family" always goes one way.

    Jack and Coke
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never tell anyone when you win big, it brings out the moochers.

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    Firefly
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the surgery is a critical one, and the sister has only managed to raise $500 on Go Fund Me, it sounds like she doesn't have a lot of support. I wonder why that is.

    Dave Morris
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This would have been a vey different story in a decent country with free healthcare though...

    James King
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah yes, like the UK or New Zealand, where everyone who can afford it buys private health insurance because their "free" healthcare is so garbage.

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    Ray Bolen
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just say you went back to the casino and lost this time.

    Steve
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She doesn’t need surgery

    FlamingRed
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ask the friends who say you're being cruel how much they donated to her GoFundMe.

    Hidalgo
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’d have contributed to her fund, but that’s it. But if OP gambles regularly, that 50k is funny money anyway. I.e. he’s likely lost way more than he won.

    Katherine Rossignuolo
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Probably elective surgery that insurance won't cover.

    Lee Gilliland
    Community Member
    Premium
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His money, his decision. What business is it of ANYBODY else that this is the dynamic? Ya pays your bets and ya take your chances.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never tell anyone you came into money. Also "but family" - yes, should have thought of that before you stole from me and never apologised.

    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn’t be an issue in my country. We have mandatory health insurance. And if the surgery isn’t medically necessary she should pay for it herself anyway.

    Andrew Arons
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the sister needs a "Get Well Soon and Glad You're Not Here!" postcard from Bermuda.

    Bryn
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The friends who are saying you are cruel can donate (:

    BrownEyedPanda
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whenever you come into money, the best advice is "zip your lip and stash your cash." Anyway, if this situation were reversed, I doubt if OP could expect the same kind of "help." He's taking the right direction in handling his money. Sis knows that once that happens, she won't be able to access it. I'd tell her to find Professor Brown and ask for a ride in his DeLorean back to her childhood, when she repeatedly stole from her brother. Perhaps then she'll get the message.

    thea
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think if the sister needed the surgery urgently (like a life-or-death situation) OP should definitely have paid for part of it. They shouldn't be forced to spend all 20k though.

    Dream Pilot
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA, what goes around will comes around... He'll need family later, and nobody will help him

    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The family won’t help him anyway since they have never cared about his sister stealing his stuff.

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    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This sounds like plastic surgery, not a life saving surgery or else her insurance would cover it. No insurance? How did she pay the doctor who told her she needed surgery? Let that person pay for it.

    Mark Alexander
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tbf, my daughter needs a $20k back surgery. Insurance paid all 3 doctors that told her she needed it. Guess who denied it all 3 times.

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    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. It's funny how "but it's family" always goes one way.

    Jack and Coke
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never tell anyone when you win big, it brings out the moochers.

    ADVERTISEMENT
    Firefly
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the surgery is a critical one, and the sister has only managed to raise $500 on Go Fund Me, it sounds like she doesn't have a lot of support. I wonder why that is.

    Dave Morris
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This would have been a vey different story in a decent country with free healthcare though...

    James King
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah yes, like the UK or New Zealand, where everyone who can afford it buys private health insurance because their "free" healthcare is so garbage.

    Load More Replies...
    Ray Bolen
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just say you went back to the casino and lost this time.

    Steve
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She doesn’t need surgery

    FlamingRed
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ask the friends who say you're being cruel how much they donated to her GoFundMe.

    Hidalgo
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’d have contributed to her fund, but that’s it. But if OP gambles regularly, that 50k is funny money anyway. I.e. he’s likely lost way more than he won.

    Katherine Rossignuolo
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Probably elective surgery that insurance won't cover.

    Lee Gilliland
    Community Member
    Premium
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His money, his decision. What business is it of ANYBODY else that this is the dynamic? Ya pays your bets and ya take your chances.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never tell anyone you came into money. Also "but family" - yes, should have thought of that before you stole from me and never apologised.

    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn’t be an issue in my country. We have mandatory health insurance. And if the surgery isn’t medically necessary she should pay for it herself anyway.

    Andrew Arons
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the sister needs a "Get Well Soon and Glad You're Not Here!" postcard from Bermuda.

    Bryn
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The friends who are saying you are cruel can donate (:

    BrownEyedPanda
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Whenever you come into money, the best advice is "zip your lip and stash your cash." Anyway, if this situation were reversed, I doubt if OP could expect the same kind of "help." He's taking the right direction in handling his money. Sis knows that once that happens, she won't be able to access it. I'd tell her to find Professor Brown and ask for a ride in his DeLorean back to her childhood, when she repeatedly stole from her brother. Perhaps then she'll get the message.

    thea
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think if the sister needed the surgery urgently (like a life-or-death situation) OP should definitely have paid for part of it. They shouldn't be forced to spend all 20k though.

    Dream Pilot
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YTA, what goes around will comes around... He'll need family later, and nobody will help him

    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The family won’t help him anyway since they have never cared about his sister stealing his stuff.

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    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This sounds like plastic surgery, not a life saving surgery or else her insurance would cover it. No insurance? How did she pay the doctor who told her she needed surgery? Let that person pay for it.

    Mark Alexander
    Community Member
    12 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tbf, my daughter needs a $20k back surgery. Insurance paid all 3 doctors that told her she needed it. Guess who denied it all 3 times.

    Load More Replies...
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