People Are Applauding This Mom For Teaching Her Daughters That Virginity Doesn’t Exist Interview With Author
Recently, TikTok mom-fluencer Nevada Shareef asked parents something that resonated with many. “Name something about the way you raised your kids that people think is weird but you think is healthy,” she announced in a clip, excited to hear different parenting styles.
And one mom named Cayce LaCorte saw it as a perfect moment to share her illuminating message. In a video that has been watched over 2.2 million times, Cayce debunked the virginity myth, explaining how she has raised her five daughters to believe there’s no such thing.
“It is a patriarchal concept used to control women and serves no purpose,” she stated. Cayce’s message immediately sparked a conversation among parents online, with many realizing the importance of what she has said.
So let’s see Cayce’s TikTok video right below and let us know whether you agree with the mom of 5 in the comment section.
Cayce LaCorte, the mom of 5 daughters, has recently gone viral for debunking the virginity myth in her TikTok video
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Cayce’s clip has been watched 2.2 million times already
@book_mama##stitch with @nevadashareef ##virginityisamyth ##madmoms ##fuckthepatriarchy♬ original sound – Your Mom
Initially, another TikToker, Nevada Shareef, asked people to share their parenting styles that may look odd to others but are in fact good for their kids
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And Cayce replied with a strong statement
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Bored Panda reached out to Cayce Lacorte, the incredible mom of five daughters who range in age from 7 to 16. The way she debunked the virginity myth in a viral TikTok clip resonated with many people and Cayce said she received so many comments from both women and men saying that they had “’never thought about it’ and how as soon as I brought it up, they whole-heartedly agreed.”
“It’s such an ingrained part of our society that most people don’t even register it anymore but the minute you bring it up, they’re like, ‘Yeah, that’s bullshit,'” Cayce told us.
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The mom and social media influencer better known by her username @book_mama on TikTok said that “There is still so much pressure placed on young men and women surrounding virginity that if we remove that thinking, it opens up a whole other avenue of thought and healthy conversation.”
When asked whether she received negative reaction for her parenting style, Cayce said that fortunately, the majority of the comments are “supportive and amazing.” However, “there are a handful of people who think I’m going to wreak havoc on their way of life, and to be honest I think a little havoc could be good for them.”
Cayce explained that these are primarily very religious people who think she’s “going against the Bible” or that she is “attacking their parenting style.”
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For all the parents out there who struggle to touch sensitive topics with their kids, Cayce suggested to tell your kids that you’re uncomfortable because “brutal honesty works wonders.”
“It could be something as simple as, ‘I’m not super comfortable talking about this, but those are my issues, not yours. I want you to know you can come to me so just be patient and we’ll get through this together.’”
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The woman also believes that there’s no crime in admitting your faults to your kids. “It actually can help them see you as a pestrson, not just a parent, and trust you more. I tell my girls that I’m sorry all the time. If I lose my temper, I’m fir to stop and admit I’m stressed about something else, it’s not fair to take it out on them, I’m sorry, and I’ll try and do better next time.”
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Cayce believes that “the sooner we stop trying to prove to our kids that we’re perfect, the sooner they’ll accept and love their own flaws.”
Cayce also said that she gets criticism for her views
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In her piece “Going Viral” written shortly after Cayce’s TikTok was all over the news lately, she described the experience as “a scary thing.”
She told Bored Panda that as a fiction writer, she has always dreamed of her “big break.” “In all of those fantasy scenarios, I get an agent, a publishing deal, and have plenty of time to market and promote my book, then eventually (hopefully) success.”
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Her strong message sparked questions, but Cayce was happy to elaborate on it further in another video
@book_mamaReply to @awildfemale I hope this helps in trying to explain these tough topics to you kids. #virginityisamyth♬ original sound – Your Mom
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But, “this recognition came out of nowhere. While I appreciate all the love and support I’ve gotten, it just snuck up on me. I have a hard time accepting a compliment, much less the raging validation that’s happening right now.”
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At this point, Cayce said that she’s afraid she likes it too much. “I’ll get a big head and full of myself; if I don’t accept the attention and opportunities it brings, I’ll be missing out on something wonderful.”
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“We all have our own hang-ups, and I guess mine is loving the support/validation but being terrified I’m not good enough to deserve it,” Cayce, who’s also a smashing writer and is currently working on her parenting book, concluded.
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Cayce also makes sure her kids get technical names for the parts of their bodies, and that they understand it’s “OK to cause a scene if they feel threatened or even just scared.”
Another person asked how to discuss “whether it’s the right time” with your kids and this is what Cayce had to say about it
@book_mamaReply to @meghancarlisle7 I hope this answers your ?? I’m totally not a professional it’s just one ladies opinion.♬ original sound – Your Mom
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Many people praised Cayce for opening such an important conversation
Virginity is a concept suitable for olive oil. ♡
You mean extra virgin olive oil 😂
And while we're on this subject, how is it "extra virgin"? Doesn't seem to make sense.
@Louloubelle, "extra-virgin" is the highest grade of olive oil. Simply "virgin" oil is made through the same cold-pressing process but doesn't meet the standards of the highest grade. Regular non-virgin olive is usually an even lower grade which goes through more intense processing to remove impurities and give the oil a more neutral flavor.
Bingo! ^_-
Extra - virgin is the FIRST cold - pressed oil, it has the "olive" taste to it.
extra virgin explains the people that sit in their rooms all the time playing fortnite and are so lazy the piss in a bottle instead of getting up and using the bathroom like a normal person
I think that "extra virgin" olive oil is to be used to secretly m*sturbate and still remain pure.
The whole idea of virginity is to allow men to control the paternity of a womans children, by controlling access to her body. In this very dated view of the world, a woman is property, first of her father, and then of the husband to whom she is given by her father (who gives this woman in marriage?). Pre paternity tests and pregnacy tests, if a woman is not a virgin (or might not be a virgin) she is 'ruined' for marriage. Because she is not a person, she is only the means to get children, and the husband now has no proof that she is not already pregnant. A man who insists on the value of 'purity' or 'virginity' is seeing the woman as property, not as a person.
“Who gives this woman in marriage” is the worst phrase. One of my GFs was walked down the aisle by both of her parents and her father answered, “her mother and I do” like it’s somehow better to be owned by both your parents and not just your dad. My husband and I walked down the aisle together because neither of us was a possession to be given away and we entered into partnership together.
“Owned”. Please learn about other cultures before judging.
What part of virginity means a woman isn’t a person? It is literally just a way to identify women who have had sex or not. Because, morally, you should be a virgin until marriage. Men should be too but the only way to tell is by watching them all the time. Men used to be held accountable for their actions as well, but unfortunately they aren’t anymore, except by God. I would just tell my daughters that both genders should wait until marriage, period.
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It's a little more complex than that. Read Leonar Shlain Sex, Time, and Power. Monogamy has more to do with the homo Sapien's cryptic estrus and other factors. Virginity is more a function of the Judeo/Christian construct of purity and patriarchy. Read some Robert Graves about early matriarchy's.
There is no “oppressive patriarchy” in Christianity. Men do not rule over all women. Chill. Men have authority over their wives. That does not mean that she has to be his slave, it means that he is the head of the household. BOTH parents have authority over their children. So when you leave your parents and get married, they are “giving you away” in a very specific context. And the father being the head of the family, he has more say in who you marry and giving you in marriage.
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Those are your words Deborah. I don't and never have 'owned' my wife, nor did her father. We enjoy a mutually respectful relationship as do most couples. So please stop with anti-patriarchy nonsense.
No matter your feelings on the subject, Deborah is correct. Until a few generations ago, women were legally property in the US and many western countries. Women are still property in many places of the world. If you or FIL ever discussed or negotiated your wife's virginity, you were treating her like property without realizing it.
“Legally” in the US does not necessarily mean that it is legal in Christianity. Stop slamming my beliefs and equating anything America does to Christianity.
Hi, don't look just your surroundings, see the whole picture worldwide. This is something real in many countries. Hope you give your example to your children, we need the next generation to have that line of thinking. Cheers mate.
@Evil Little Thing Of course we never discussed her virginity. To summarily tie all men into this minority ideology is blatantly sexist. That's my point - I can only speak for myself and I wish some people on here would only speak for themselves instead of generalising like this.
And maybe you can start realizing that your individual experience doesn't negate this widespread issue
@Scagsy NoTaLlMeN! Dickhead.
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Because there are literally actual men in this actual comment section literally parroting ancient misogynist ideas about female virginity.
Name one official idea about virginity that is ACTUALLY sexist….I’ll wait
Good on her, I always thought virginity was ridiculous, I wish more people would hold this thought too, virginity, I think for both sexes, male and female , is just in place to hold you back and make you feel bad about a perfectly normal and natural thing everyone does at some point
yeah. guys are shamed for being virgins, girls are shamed for not being virgins. who cares! it changes nothing!
Several men have told me that their first time was not enjoyable. One was congratulated by his father for having sex even though he had really not enjoyed it. I don't see the point of pressuring boys to have sex as if it was a mandatory rite of passage. Isn't doing well in every day life more important?
Guys shouldn’t be shamed for not being virgins. We need to go back to encouraging all people to stay virgins until marriage. It improves marriage and it is just the right thing to do.
Virginity or not, you're still the same person.
No one said you aren’t the same person
Virginity is a concept suitable for olive oil. ♡
You mean extra virgin olive oil 😂
And while we're on this subject, how is it "extra virgin"? Doesn't seem to make sense.
@Louloubelle, "extra-virgin" is the highest grade of olive oil. Simply "virgin" oil is made through the same cold-pressing process but doesn't meet the standards of the highest grade. Regular non-virgin olive is usually an even lower grade which goes through more intense processing to remove impurities and give the oil a more neutral flavor.
Bingo! ^_-
Extra - virgin is the FIRST cold - pressed oil, it has the "olive" taste to it.
extra virgin explains the people that sit in their rooms all the time playing fortnite and are so lazy the piss in a bottle instead of getting up and using the bathroom like a normal person
I think that "extra virgin" olive oil is to be used to secretly m*sturbate and still remain pure.
The whole idea of virginity is to allow men to control the paternity of a womans children, by controlling access to her body. In this very dated view of the world, a woman is property, first of her father, and then of the husband to whom she is given by her father (who gives this woman in marriage?). Pre paternity tests and pregnacy tests, if a woman is not a virgin (or might not be a virgin) she is 'ruined' for marriage. Because she is not a person, she is only the means to get children, and the husband now has no proof that she is not already pregnant. A man who insists on the value of 'purity' or 'virginity' is seeing the woman as property, not as a person.
“Who gives this woman in marriage” is the worst phrase. One of my GFs was walked down the aisle by both of her parents and her father answered, “her mother and I do” like it’s somehow better to be owned by both your parents and not just your dad. My husband and I walked down the aisle together because neither of us was a possession to be given away and we entered into partnership together.
“Owned”. Please learn about other cultures before judging.
What part of virginity means a woman isn’t a person? It is literally just a way to identify women who have had sex or not. Because, morally, you should be a virgin until marriage. Men should be too but the only way to tell is by watching them all the time. Men used to be held accountable for their actions as well, but unfortunately they aren’t anymore, except by God. I would just tell my daughters that both genders should wait until marriage, period.
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It's a little more complex than that. Read Leonar Shlain Sex, Time, and Power. Monogamy has more to do with the homo Sapien's cryptic estrus and other factors. Virginity is more a function of the Judeo/Christian construct of purity and patriarchy. Read some Robert Graves about early matriarchy's.
There is no “oppressive patriarchy” in Christianity. Men do not rule over all women. Chill. Men have authority over their wives. That does not mean that she has to be his slave, it means that he is the head of the household. BOTH parents have authority over their children. So when you leave your parents and get married, they are “giving you away” in a very specific context. And the father being the head of the family, he has more say in who you marry and giving you in marriage.
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Those are your words Deborah. I don't and never have 'owned' my wife, nor did her father. We enjoy a mutually respectful relationship as do most couples. So please stop with anti-patriarchy nonsense.
No matter your feelings on the subject, Deborah is correct. Until a few generations ago, women were legally property in the US and many western countries. Women are still property in many places of the world. If you or FIL ever discussed or negotiated your wife's virginity, you were treating her like property without realizing it.
“Legally” in the US does not necessarily mean that it is legal in Christianity. Stop slamming my beliefs and equating anything America does to Christianity.
Hi, don't look just your surroundings, see the whole picture worldwide. This is something real in many countries. Hope you give your example to your children, we need the next generation to have that line of thinking. Cheers mate.
@Evil Little Thing Of course we never discussed her virginity. To summarily tie all men into this minority ideology is blatantly sexist. That's my point - I can only speak for myself and I wish some people on here would only speak for themselves instead of generalising like this.
And maybe you can start realizing that your individual experience doesn't negate this widespread issue
@Scagsy NoTaLlMeN! Dickhead.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
This comment has been deleted.
Because there are literally actual men in this actual comment section literally parroting ancient misogynist ideas about female virginity.
Name one official idea about virginity that is ACTUALLY sexist….I’ll wait
Good on her, I always thought virginity was ridiculous, I wish more people would hold this thought too, virginity, I think for both sexes, male and female , is just in place to hold you back and make you feel bad about a perfectly normal and natural thing everyone does at some point
yeah. guys are shamed for being virgins, girls are shamed for not being virgins. who cares! it changes nothing!
Several men have told me that their first time was not enjoyable. One was congratulated by his father for having sex even though he had really not enjoyed it. I don't see the point of pressuring boys to have sex as if it was a mandatory rite of passage. Isn't doing well in every day life more important?
Guys shouldn’t be shamed for not being virgins. We need to go back to encouraging all people to stay virgins until marriage. It improves marriage and it is just the right thing to do.
Virginity or not, you're still the same person.
No one said you aren’t the same person