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People Are Applauding This Mom For Teaching Her Daughters That Virginity Doesn’t Exist
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People, Social Issues1 year ago

People Are Applauding This Mom For Teaching Her Daughters That Virginity Doesn’t Exist Interview With Author

Recently, TikTok mom-fluencer Nevada Shareef asked parents something that resonated with many. “Name something about the way you raised your kids that people think is weird but you think is healthy,” she announced in a clip, excited to hear different parenting styles.

And one mom named Cayce LaCorte saw it as a perfect moment to share her illuminating message. In a video that has been watched over 2.2 million times, Cayce debunked the virginity myth, explaining how she has raised her five daughters to believe there’s no such thing.

“It is a patriarchal concept used to control women and serves no purpose,” she stated. Cayce’s message immediately sparked a conversation among parents online, with many realizing the importance of what she has said.

So let’s see Cayce’s TikTok video right below and let us know whether you agree with the mom of 5 in the comment section.

Cayce LaCorte, the mom of 5 daughters, has recently gone viral for debunking the virginity myth in her TikTok video

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Cayce’s clip has been watched 2.2 million times already

@book_mama##stitch with @nevadashareef ##virginityisamyth ##madmoms ##fuckthepatriarchy♬ original sound – Your Mom

Initially, another TikToker, Nevada Shareef, asked people to share their parenting styles that may look odd to others but are in fact good for their kids

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And Cayce replied with a strong statement

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Bored Panda reached out to Cayce Lacorte, the incredible mom of five daughters who range in age from 7 to 16. The way she debunked the virginity myth in a viral TikTok clip resonated with many people and Cayce said she received so many comments from both women and men saying that they had “’never thought about it’ and how as soon as I brought it up, they whole-heartedly agreed.”

“It’s such an ingrained part of our society that most people don’t even register it anymore but the minute you bring it up, they’re like, ‘Yeah, that’s bullshit,'” Cayce told us.

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The mom and social media influencer better known by her username @book_mama on TikTok said that “There is still so much pressure placed on young men and women surrounding virginity that if we remove that thinking, it opens up a whole other avenue of thought and healthy conversation.”

When asked whether she received negative reaction for her parenting style, Cayce said that fortunately, the majority of the comments are “supportive and amazing.” However, “there are a handful of people who think I’m going to wreak havoc on their way of life, and to be honest I think a little havoc could be good for them.”

Cayce explained that these are primarily very religious people who think she’s “going against the Bible” or that she is “attacking their parenting style.”

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For all the parents out there who struggle to touch sensitive topics with their kids, Cayce suggested to tell your kids that you’re uncomfortable because “brutal honesty works wonders.”

“It could be something as simple as, ‘I’m not super comfortable talking about this, but those are my issues, not yours. I want you to know you can come to me so just be patient and we’ll get through this together.’”

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Image credits: book_mama

The woman also believes that there’s no crime in admitting your faults to your kids. “It actually can help them see you as a pestrson, not just a parent, and trust you more. I tell my girls that I’m sorry all the time. If I lose my temper, I’m fir to stop and admit I’m stressed about something else, it’s not fair to take it out on them, I’m sorry, and I’ll try and do better next time.”

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Image credits: book_mama

Cayce believes that “the sooner we stop trying to prove to our kids that we’re perfect, the sooner they’ll accept and love their own flaws.”

Cayce also said that she gets criticism for her views

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Image credits: book_mama

In her piece “Going Viral” written shortly after Cayce’s TikTok was all over the news lately, she described the experience as “a scary thing.”

She told Bored Panda that as a fiction writer, she has always dreamed of her “big break.” “In all of those fantasy scenarios, I get an agent, a publishing deal, and have plenty of time to market and promote my book, then eventually (hopefully) success.”

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Her strong message sparked questions, but Cayce was happy to elaborate on it further in another video

@book_mamaReply to @awildfemale I hope this helps in trying to explain these tough topics to you kids. #virginityisamyth♬ original sound – Your Mom

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But, “this recognition came out of nowhere. While I appreciate all the love and support I’ve gotten, it just snuck up on me. I have a hard time accepting a compliment, much less the raging validation that’s happening right now.”

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At this point, Cayce said that she’s afraid she likes it too much. “I’ll get a big head and full of myself; if I don’t accept the attention and opportunities it brings, I’ll be missing out on something wonderful.”

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Image credits: book_mama

“We all have our own hang-ups, and I guess mine is loving the support/validation but being terrified I’m not good enough to deserve it,” Cayce, who’s also a smashing writer and is currently working on her parenting book, concluded.

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Cayce also makes sure her kids get technical names for the parts of their bodies, and that they understand it’s “OK to cause a scene if they feel threatened or even just scared.”

Another person asked how to discuss “whether it’s the right time” with your kids and this is what Cayce had to say about it

@book_mamaReply to @meghancarlisle7 I hope this answers your ?? I’m totally not a professional it’s just one ladies opinion.♬ original sound – Your Mom

Image credits: Cayce LaCorte

Many people praised Cayce for opening such an important conversation

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Daria B
Community Member
1 year ago

Virginity is a concept suitable for olive oil. ♡

Lola
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1 year ago

You mean extra virgin olive oil 😂

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Deborah B
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1 year ago

The whole idea of virginity is to allow men to control the paternity of a womans children, by controlling access to her body. In this very dated view of the world, a woman is property, first of her father, and then of the husband to whom she is given by her father (who gives this woman in marriage?). Pre paternity tests and pregnacy tests, if a woman is not a virgin (or might not be a virgin) she is 'ruined' for marriage. Because she is not a person, she is only the means to get children, and the husband now has no proof that she is not already pregnant. A man who insists on the value of 'purity' or 'virginity' is seeing the woman as property, not as a person.

Katchen
Community Member
1 year ago

“Who gives this woman in marriage” is the worst phrase. One of my GFs was walked down the aisle by both of her parents and her father answered, “her mother and I do” like it’s somehow better to be owned by both your parents and not just your dad. My husband and I walked down the aisle together because neither of us was a possession to be given away and we entered into partnership together.

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SuperTaino
Community Member
1 year ago

Good on her, I always thought virginity was ridiculous, I wish more people would hold this thought too, virginity, I think for both sexes, male and female , is just in place to hold you back and make you feel bad about a perfectly normal and natural thing everyone does at some point

juice
Community Member
1 year ago

yeah. guys are shamed for being virgins, girls are shamed for not being virgins. who cares! it changes nothing!

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Daria B
Community Member
1 year ago

Virginity is a concept suitable for olive oil. ♡

Lola
Community Member
1 year ago

You mean extra virgin olive oil 😂

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Deborah B
Community Member
1 year ago

The whole idea of virginity is to allow men to control the paternity of a womans children, by controlling access to her body. In this very dated view of the world, a woman is property, first of her father, and then of the husband to whom she is given by her father (who gives this woman in marriage?). Pre paternity tests and pregnacy tests, if a woman is not a virgin (or might not be a virgin) she is 'ruined' for marriage. Because she is not a person, she is only the means to get children, and the husband now has no proof that she is not already pregnant. A man who insists on the value of 'purity' or 'virginity' is seeing the woman as property, not as a person.

Katchen
Community Member
1 year ago

“Who gives this woman in marriage” is the worst phrase. One of my GFs was walked down the aisle by both of her parents and her father answered, “her mother and I do” like it’s somehow better to be owned by both your parents and not just your dad. My husband and I walked down the aisle together because neither of us was a possession to be given away and we entered into partnership together.

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SuperTaino
Community Member
1 year ago

Good on her, I always thought virginity was ridiculous, I wish more people would hold this thought too, virginity, I think for both sexes, male and female , is just in place to hold you back and make you feel bad about a perfectly normal and natural thing everyone does at some point

juice
Community Member
1 year ago

yeah. guys are shamed for being virgins, girls are shamed for not being virgins. who cares! it changes nothing!

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