Wisdom comes with age. So sometimes looking back at your past decisions, especially mistakes, can be really hard. Despite the fact that we can't change the past, the future is still in our hands. When trying to figure out what we want this future to look like it helps to seek advice from the elder generation.

Writer and university professor Nyasha Junior turned to Twitter to ask women in their 40's what advice they would give to their 20-something selves. The number of responses she received was overwhelming and all of them served an important purpose. The advice all these women gave not only allowed them to reflect on their own lives, but also gave young women the opportunity to learn some important life lessons. Scroll below to read some of these tweets and don't forget to leave your own in the comments! (Facebook cover image: Michael Gabelmann)

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Milena Matic
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1 year ago

This needs more up-votes!

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Norma
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1 year ago

Jaw-droppingly correct.

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Lola
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1 year ago

Right on!

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Katie Fossee
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1 year ago

Can I get an AMEN!

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Kelly Horrigan
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1 year ago

My Favorite :)

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Norma
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1 year ago

Truth!

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Asia
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1 year ago

Yup

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Norma
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1 year ago

Covers a lot of ground in a few sentences.

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Corine Nugteren
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1 year ago

Be naked as much as you like at any age.

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sh
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1 year ago

The opposite is also true, your feelings aren't everyone else's problem.

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StarsBeyond
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1 year ago

Correct!

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Norma
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1 year ago

And don't be afraid to show those documents when the time comes...

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Roos Dillema
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1 year ago

So right. But also very very hard to execute :-(

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Norma
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1 year ago

This would solve so many other problems!

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Biana Weatherford
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1 year ago

The shoes....that is golden advice.

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BobbyMcD
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1 year ago

Working with a good therapist is one of the best pieces of advice.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

Work for your own happiness. No one else is going to do it for you.

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Janine B.
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1 year ago

And learn to tell wether you're hurt because you really loved someone or if it's just your pride that's actually hurt.

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Hope Floats
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1 year ago

'Letting go of mistakes 'is something I wished I was capable of doing, but have never achieved....This is such positive advice... Love this..

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Corine Nugteren
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1 year ago

How about "stop seeking approval".

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Rheannin Wright
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1 year ago

I love this one!

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Hurrem Haseki
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1 year ago

"Compliment yourself more, like you would a friend"....this is an eye-opener for me

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Jill Stevenson
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1 year ago

it took me a lot of tears to figure this out.

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anarkzie
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1 year ago

"Don't use someone else mirror to see your own reflection" That's a keeper

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Agnes Jekyll
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1 year ago

Oh, I wish I had that ten years ago: "If someone makes you feel bad about yourself for something that hurts no one..."

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Lady_Youtube
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1 year ago

I love how this also focuses on health. Physical needs are just as important than emotional needs.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

Doing something alone can mean spending quality time with yourself.

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Dawn Welton
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1 year ago

'This, too, shall pass' has been my lifelong mantra, and has gotten me through some of the roughest times!

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Nathan Winter
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1 year ago

Actually, what I believe is being said, is that buying the highest quality that you can afford is better than buying the cheapest because it's less expensive and likely won't last as long. I speak from experience on this.

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Kristen Veader
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1 year ago

OOOH I so love the second part of this!!! My new motto:" Be your own goldilocks". (nothing wrong with the first part... the second part just really hit home!)

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moli.2
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1 year ago

True, mine waited.

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Patricia Ross
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1 year ago

That's not retro, that's timeless.

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Mary Lee Miller
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1 year ago

I am 70, and I regret that I have never lived alone!

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BusLady
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1 year ago

You can never fix the broken ones. They can only break you.

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Agnes Jekyll
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1 year ago

I LOVE that "you don't have to set yourself on fire to keep anyone else warm"--ah yes, the entirety of my 10-year relationship with the dud

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Agnes Jekyll
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1 year ago

This is a great one

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BusLady
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1 year ago

On the other hand, if they are calling you 30 times a day, get out!

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BusLady
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1 year ago

If they are mistreating you, they might be testing you. Don't be a Guinea pig.

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Helen R
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1 year ago

Thank god I've learned this in my teen years!

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BusLady
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1 year ago

And if others have told you that you won't like it or be good at it. 😉

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Agnes Jekyll
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1 year ago

YES!!!

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BusLady
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1 year ago (edited)

When higher income, more educated people try to intimidate me, I don't fall for it. I am not a lesser person than they are.

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Lady_Youtube
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1 year ago

Don’t forget the “What if..?”

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Lady_Youtube
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1 year ago

I guess what she wanted to say is simply "don't rush". Like, try living with a few men before you find the one for you - Daria B (Just wanted to “repost” this for the people who don’t scroll all the way down)

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BusLady
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1 year ago

The longer you stay in a bad job, the more you think you deserve it.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

Behind every successful person, is a lot of failures.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

Where is that magical place? There are a**holes everywhere.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

Conquer that fear, ladies.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

"Comparison is the thief of joy." How true. Ignore all those FB posts proclaiming "my perfect life." Things can be quite different behind the lens.

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Jacqueline Lavanchy
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1 year ago

Oh so true ! Be the captain of your life ! Love yourself, you are your best friend !

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Baconismybae
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1 year ago

Yaaaassssss!

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BusLady
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1 year ago

Reminds me of Mean Girls.

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Isabel Care
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1 year ago

Be your own version of "normal", it takes far less energy than faking "average"

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Isabel Care
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1 year ago

Don't stay in a bad relationship through fear of being alone

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BusLady
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1 year ago

First step is to get diagnosed.There is much more awareness now about Aspergers. My son was not diagnosed until age 18. Throughout school, he was labeled as Emotionally Disturbed. Guess what that did for his self esteem?

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Agnes Jekyll
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1 year ago

What is Lexapro?

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BusLady
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1 year ago

The reason people fear aging, is because it is a youth oriented society and you are judged by what you look like. You are often disrespected and sometimes spoken to as if you are a child. Your feelings and needs are often ignored. You are regarded as if you are useless. All of this stems from the fear younger people have of their own aging. Ignore all of that and save your self esteem. Join the Red Hat Club.

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Isabel Care
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1 year ago

If you do want kids (not me at all) there are loads of different ways to have a family. You don't have to grow them yourself, there are millions of children out there pre made and awaiting a parent

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Marina Popescu
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1 year ago

My most favourite quote. Great one!

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BusLady
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1 year ago

I admire your success.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

For Heaven's sake, dont mention God. You will offend the atheists.

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2WheelTravlr
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1 year ago

I'm not a fan of this one. You are definitely not required to smile, but using your indoor voice, playing fair (even when others are not) and waiting your turn means you're a polite person. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being polite, and plenty right about it. I would say, be polite, but fierce in defending your rights.

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Gwinevere von Ludwig
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1 year ago

Ummm not everyone needs therapy. Or am I just not understanding this one?

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BusLady
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1 year ago

A trait of successful people. Dont let fear hold you back.