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Woman Plans To Leave Long-Term Partner Homeless If She Dies After 20 Years Of Living Together
Mistreatment of a romantic partner comes in many forms. Most of those that come to light are evident because of physical and emotional manifestations.
But in some cases, one person’s suffering is hidden behind the image of a picture-perfect relationship. In this story, a man is bound to be homeless, thanks to his dying wife. The worst part is that he is unaware of what is about to happen.
Bearing the burden of that secret is his daughter, who is left stressed out and overwhelmed. With no one else to turn to, she decided to ask the internet for answers.
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Some people endure relationships where they are being taken advantage of by their partner
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In this story, it happened to a man who had been with his girlfriend for nearly three decades
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Things took an ugly turn when the woman got severely ill
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The woman then spoke to her partner’s daughter in secret and revealed a rather disturbing plan for after she passes on
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The daughter admitted she felt bitter after the conversation
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Feeling stressed and overwhelmed, she turned to the internet for some answers
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Having your emotional needs unmet is a possible sign that someone is using you
The dad may not recognize the possibility that his partner is taking advantage of his goodwill and show of care, but his daughter did. And she may be onto something.
As licensed clinical social worker Katie Leikam tells Insider, it could be a self-esteem issue where you feel like you “deserved” to be used. However, it’s also essential to notice if you are doing all the giving in the relationship and not getting anything out of it, especially in terms of your emotional needs.
Failing to show appreciation is another tell-tale sign that the man’s partner showed in her conversation with the daughter. She even felt she was doing him a massive favor by him living “mortgage-free for 20 years.”
At this point, the daughter may be better off telling her father the harsh truth about his relationship. It would give him time to devise a plan for when he does end up without a place to stay.
While it isn’t an easy process, it appears to be the necessary step in this situation. And in doing so, a straightforward conversation is essential, according to communications expert Brandie Claborn.
“The best thing you can do for yourself (and the other person) is(to) be direct,” Claborn wrote in an article for Forbes. “From there, be very clear about the solution or changes you would like to see going forward.”
The author may need to have a sit-down with her father and express her concerns. She may have promised not to tell, but she must also look after his well-being, which could very well be neglected.
The daughter answered some questions as readers gave it to her straight
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Beak Hookage 7 months ago
Wow, what kind of heartless reptile would you have to be to pull something like this on someone who loves you? And that's an insult to reptiles; I've met some very friendly snakes.
nicholas nolan 7 months ago
And to someone that retired from their job and cashed in a private pension to help take care of her when her health started to fail.
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Deborah B 7 months ago
Lady, your father is an adult, who has lived with this woman, with separate finances and no stake in the house for 20 years. He has known about the house, and her declining health for a long time. It is his responsibility to protect himself financially, and organise his life, not yours. Stop taking so much on yourself. If you are worried, talk to him about it, and suggest he speaks to a lawyer or citizen's advice, and to his stepkids. The situation may well not be as dire as you are painting it, and he is unlikely to be immediately homeless.
BrunoVI 7 months ago
Yes, she's not responsible for the problem. But she did also write that the mother-in-lawlessness (that's good... I gotta remember that one) just told him a few weeks ago of the situation. It's kinda his fault for not having taken any steps to protect himself earlier and instead relying on assumptions. Sure, you know what they say about assumptions. (When you make an assumption, you make an a*s out of u and ... an MP? and their tion? chin? This saying makes a whole lot less sense than I remember. ;-) )
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Schnitzel 7 months ago
This makes me think of my idiot father, who at the age of 55 realized he hadn't been paying his Socials (in Sweden), as a self employed since he was 20. This means that he won't receive the benefits he should have, had he been paying taxes, when he retires. This, of course, made him rip my mom and I a new a-hole because, we somehow should have told him?
Tabitha 7 months ago
Guess he now needs to man up and start pouring a huge chunk of his earnings into his Socials to get caught up, if that’s allowed. If not, then he needs to get to a financial advisor and start pouring his money into safe long term investments that could maybe kinda sorta help to support him in retirement—-if he continues to work LONG past the age when he thought he’d be enjoying his retirement, so he can squirrel away five, ten, twenty years of earnings to pay for his advanced old age, or at least help his widow survive until she too passes.
Load More Replies... Beak Hookage 7 months ago
Wow, what kind of heartless reptile would you have to be to pull something like this on someone who loves you? And that's an insult to reptiles; I've met some very friendly snakes.
nicholas nolan 7 months ago
And to someone that retired from their job and cashed in a private pension to help take care of her when her health started to fail.
Load More Replies... Deborah B 7 months ago
Lady, your father is an adult, who has lived with this woman, with separate finances and no stake in the house for 20 years. He has known about the house, and her declining health for a long time. It is his responsibility to protect himself financially, and organise his life, not yours. Stop taking so much on yourself. If you are worried, talk to him about it, and suggest he speaks to a lawyer or citizen's advice, and to his stepkids. The situation may well not be as dire as you are painting it, and he is unlikely to be immediately homeless.
BrunoVI 7 months ago
Yes, she's not responsible for the problem. But she did also write that the mother-in-lawlessness (that's good... I gotta remember that one) just told him a few weeks ago of the situation. It's kinda his fault for not having taken any steps to protect himself earlier and instead relying on assumptions. Sure, you know what they say about assumptions. (When you make an assumption, you make an a*s out of u and ... an MP? and their tion? chin? This saying makes a whole lot less sense than I remember. ;-) )
Load More Replies... Schnitzel 7 months ago
This makes me think of my idiot father, who at the age of 55 realized he hadn't been paying his Socials (in Sweden), as a self employed since he was 20. This means that he won't receive the benefits he should have, had he been paying taxes, when he retires. This, of course, made him rip my mom and I a new a-hole because, we somehow should have told him?
Tabitha 7 months ago
Guess he now needs to man up and start pouring a huge chunk of his earnings into his Socials to get caught up, if that’s allowed. If not, then he needs to get to a financial advisor and start pouring his money into safe long term investments that could maybe kinda sorta help to support him in retirement—-if he continues to work LONG past the age when he thought he’d be enjoying his retirement, so he can squirrel away five, ten, twenty years of earnings to pay for his advanced old age, or at least help his widow survive until she too passes.
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