“He Told Me I Should Grow Up”: Man Returns His Future Wife’s Dream Wedding Dress Unbeknownst To Her Because It “Was Wasting Money”
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It’s no secret that wedding preparation can become a lethal cocktail for a conflict to blow up. Think of the amount of stress, pressure, and decision making that the bride and groom have to go through for what is known as the most important day in their lives. That definition alone is already a strain.
So this story comes from a 29-year-old woman who has been planning a wedding with her 33-year-old husband-to-be and it was going well until things turned sour. And the wedding dress was the cause of it.
“This might sound clichè but ever since I was young I dreamed of having my own beautiful wedding dress, I can afford it but my [soon to be husband] thinks it’s not okay to waste a couple of thousands on a dress I’m only going to wear once,” the author wrote in a post on r/AITA.
So imagine her coming home one day and realizing the dream wedding dress she had just purchased was missing from the closet. Let me leave you with the full story right below which made the author wonder if she was right in this whole situation at all.
Recently, a woman shared a story of how her husband-to-be took her dream wedding dress from the closet and returned it without saying anything
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There’s no right budget for the wedding dress, experts say. It all depends on your budget and priorities, so for one person, $1000 can be a splurge, while another would think of it as a bargain.
But according to The Knot Real Weddings Study, which surveyed over 15,000 couples who got married last year, the average wedding dress cost in 2021 was $1,800. Moreover, buying a new dress for the occasion remains the most popular option for to-be-weds, with 93% purchasing a new design instead of renting one.
It’s important to note that the average wedding dress cost varies by region. According to The Knot, spend in the Mid-Atlantic was over $2,000, while in the Midwest, an average wedding dress cost about $1,600. Interestingly, wedding venues also contribute to the average cost of a wedding dress. It turns out that individuals tend to spend less on a dress for a hometown wedding, while those who hosted an international destination celebration spent over $2,000 on their look.
And this is what people had to say about this whole situation
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It will only escalate from here. She needs to escape now! Make him think she'll rent a dress, get her money back, and go.
Run......RUN, girl!!!!!!
I'm a guy, but even I can see this guy is an A.
Can't say it much better than this!
I was going to post the same thing!!!! Lol
Great minds think alike, lol. I really hope no one stays with a person like that after having a issue like this. I hope that the advice and support she gets will show her that she deserves better. I think his control issues would only get worse and him and his mother would make her life miserable.
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I don't know if OP will see this, but these are enormous, neon-blinking red flags. He has committed theft in an effort to control you, and is disparaging what you do. You are not married yet. It is really easy to miss/overlook/unconsciously assume it will all work out in this relationship phase. We need to be taught, I think, how to discuss important issues and understand consequences as a society, instead of being fed the illusion of happily-ever-after-marriages. Are you on the same page in regards to finances? How to discuss and resolve issues? Relationships with friends and family? Having or not having a family? Where you will live and what your life goals are? How you treat and respect each other - and other people in general? Driving habits, words, how people treat others, explanations of past relationships can reveal a lot - but when we are in love, headed towards marriage, we have a huge blind spot. Listen to what others say they see, and consider what they are saying.
In my country a lot of people go for a church wedding because it's traditional and fancy. But in order to do that, the couple must go through mandatory counselling sessions with a priest or other church representative. Most of my friends aren't religious, but everyone who did it says that it's been really good, because those are exactly the things they are encouraged to discuss. I have a complicated relationship with the church (to put it mildly) but this, apparently, is one of the things they really get right. Of course, my friends all carefully chose specific, relatively liberal, places to do this.
If you are from Poland (it is really similar in Poland) there are counselling sessions organised not only with priests, but with psychologists (also sexologists), other couples with long-term and short-term marriages and even weekend trips together to establish values. We went for the full option - it really helps you to realise the differences and how to overcome them. (My husband is atheist btw and he loved it, it really helped us to go through certain issues). I think if the couple is not religious they should really organise such sessions by themselves - it should be mandatory for real.
I'm not crazy about mandatory, but sometimes I wish there were a series of free sessions with a good psychologist for every couple and individual expecting a child...
Of course, it was a bit of a joke, 😉 but I have a feeling that people don't realise how much it helps. Anyway there are free sessions, but the waiting list is a bit long.
I totally agree, Barbara. Before people get married, they need to communicate. Money, children, holidays, religion, extended family. All of that needs to be talked about in detail. The problem is, sometimes people are SO in love, that they're subconsciously afraid to get into these conversations and find out that they're really not compatible. But it needs to happen. Better find out you're not compatible BEFORE you get married. Also, if his mommy is going to run to his defense every time he has a disagreement with his wife, is his wife prepared for this to happen EVERY time for the REST of their married life? No? Good. Run.
Don't worry about the loss of the dress, you won't need it when you show him the door.You can get another when you find a decent man to marry.
The poor girl needs to run a mile from this control freak and his Mummy a.s.a.p.That being said,he still owes her HER $2000.What he did is theft.
That’s what I said. She needs to file a police report and end the relationship ASAP.
She can sue. I would.
What the fork? That bridal shop is in question to me (or this story is fake), when a purchase is made by Jenny on Tues, the dress is returned by Matt on Weds, the shop should have called the Jenny to verify a change of mind and cleared the refund to Matt. What stops a third person of stealing the dress to get the money? Or that the shop recieves the dress and holds the refund to give it to Jenny, How fast does this jerk lie? For me, I don't care how fast you think you can spin a story, there is a certain level of truth better exist to be comfortable to hand over 2 grand to anyone other than the bride (or the purchaser).
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Sucks n a breath-damn don’t hold back. Don’t necessarily agree, but Rose, you got moxie.
It will only escalate from here. She needs to escape now! Make him think she'll rent a dress, get her money back, and go.
Run......RUN, girl!!!!!!
I'm a guy, but even I can see this guy is an A.
Can't say it much better than this!
I was going to post the same thing!!!! Lol
Great minds think alike, lol. I really hope no one stays with a person like that after having a issue like this. I hope that the advice and support she gets will show her that she deserves better. I think his control issues would only get worse and him and his mother would make her life miserable.
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I don't know if OP will see this, but these are enormous, neon-blinking red flags. He has committed theft in an effort to control you, and is disparaging what you do. You are not married yet. It is really easy to miss/overlook/unconsciously assume it will all work out in this relationship phase. We need to be taught, I think, how to discuss important issues and understand consequences as a society, instead of being fed the illusion of happily-ever-after-marriages. Are you on the same page in regards to finances? How to discuss and resolve issues? Relationships with friends and family? Having or not having a family? Where you will live and what your life goals are? How you treat and respect each other - and other people in general? Driving habits, words, how people treat others, explanations of past relationships can reveal a lot - but when we are in love, headed towards marriage, we have a huge blind spot. Listen to what others say they see, and consider what they are saying.
In my country a lot of people go for a church wedding because it's traditional and fancy. But in order to do that, the couple must go through mandatory counselling sessions with a priest or other church representative. Most of my friends aren't religious, but everyone who did it says that it's been really good, because those are exactly the things they are encouraged to discuss. I have a complicated relationship with the church (to put it mildly) but this, apparently, is one of the things they really get right. Of course, my friends all carefully chose specific, relatively liberal, places to do this.
If you are from Poland (it is really similar in Poland) there are counselling sessions organised not only with priests, but with psychologists (also sexologists), other couples with long-term and short-term marriages and even weekend trips together to establish values. We went for the full option - it really helps you to realise the differences and how to overcome them. (My husband is atheist btw and he loved it, it really helped us to go through certain issues). I think if the couple is not religious they should really organise such sessions by themselves - it should be mandatory for real.
I'm not crazy about mandatory, but sometimes I wish there were a series of free sessions with a good psychologist for every couple and individual expecting a child...
Of course, it was a bit of a joke, 😉 but I have a feeling that people don't realise how much it helps. Anyway there are free sessions, but the waiting list is a bit long.
I totally agree, Barbara. Before people get married, they need to communicate. Money, children, holidays, religion, extended family. All of that needs to be talked about in detail. The problem is, sometimes people are SO in love, that they're subconsciously afraid to get into these conversations and find out that they're really not compatible. But it needs to happen. Better find out you're not compatible BEFORE you get married. Also, if his mommy is going to run to his defense every time he has a disagreement with his wife, is his wife prepared for this to happen EVERY time for the REST of their married life? No? Good. Run.
Don't worry about the loss of the dress, you won't need it when you show him the door.You can get another when you find a decent man to marry.
The poor girl needs to run a mile from this control freak and his Mummy a.s.a.p.That being said,he still owes her HER $2000.What he did is theft.
That’s what I said. She needs to file a police report and end the relationship ASAP.
She can sue. I would.
What the fork? That bridal shop is in question to me (or this story is fake), when a purchase is made by Jenny on Tues, the dress is returned by Matt on Weds, the shop should have called the Jenny to verify a change of mind and cleared the refund to Matt. What stops a third person of stealing the dress to get the money? Or that the shop recieves the dress and holds the refund to give it to Jenny, How fast does this jerk lie? For me, I don't care how fast you think you can spin a story, there is a certain level of truth better exist to be comfortable to hand over 2 grand to anyone other than the bride (or the purchaser).
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Sucks n a breath-damn don’t hold back. Don’t necessarily agree, but Rose, you got moxie.