“So Nice To Finally Meet His Home Wife, I’m His Work Wife”: Pick-Me Is Put Into Place, Finds A New Target

Some people often face a dilemma: if you know your friend’s partner is cheating, do you tell them? According to a 2017 YouGov UK poll, only 53% of Brits would tell their friend that their partner is cheating. On the other hand, 75% would want to know if they were being cheated on.

This woman warned her pal not to befriend her husband’s “pick-me” coworker, but she didn’t listen. So, when the husband kicked her out of her own house and moved in the mistress, the only thing her friend could tell her was, “I told you so.” Still, she wondered if she was being a bad friend and decided to ask for opinions online.

A woman warned her friend not to become pals with her own husband’s manipulative coworker

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The friend didn’t listen and had her marriage implode

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In an update, the author detailed some of the unhinged ways “Jane” used to manipulate everyone

Jealousy and resentment among friends may be more common than we think

Friendships can be complicated, but female friendships are often even more complex. As this story illustrates, feelings of jealousy, resentment, and manipulation can arise even between long-time friends. And there doesn’t even need to be a man involved for tensions to rise.

According to data from the Pew Research Center, men and women generally report having a similar number of friends. About 50% of American men say they have between one and four close friends, while 55% of women say the same. “Kate” and the author of this story were friends for almost 10 years, so that most likely makes them close friends.

Still, when “Jane” showed up, “Kate” chose to believe her over her long-time friend. In a way, that’s not unusual in this situation. People may believe their partners over their friends, as research shows that spouses are more likely to be a source of emotional support than friends.

74% of women rely on their partner in tough situations, while 54% and 38% turn to friends. So, it’s not surprising that “Kate” kept contacting the author even after she didn’t believe her and accused her of jealousy.

Interestingly, such feelings are not uncommon among friends. As a 2017 British study showed, 29% of people feel resentful toward friends who have a more luxurious lifestyle and material things. What’s more, almost a third of Britons admit that they’re secretly jealous of a friend who has seemingly done better in life.

The end of a friendship might hurt just as much as breaking up with a romantic partner

A lot of modern media positions romantic relationships as the most important in a person’s life. The biggest heartbreak, therefore, can only be caused by a partner to a partner, from a spouse to a spouse, or a boyfriend to a girlfriend, and vice versa.

But for some, breaking up with friends is much more significant and hurtful. Like everything else in life, friendships aren’t permanent. According to research, an average friendship usually lasts about seven years. The proponent of this idea, Dutch sociologist Gerald Mollenhorst, suggests that people replace half of their social network every seven years.

But that’s for friendships that dissolve naturally. You simply stop going out together, meeting up, and end up calling or texting each other less. Those types of friendship breakups, perhaps, are not so hurtful. When the breakup is caused by serious conflict, it’s bound to hurt more.

Nevertheless, losing a friend is never easy. One study of American middle schoolers found that 86% have experienced a friendship breakup. Senior lecturer in psychology at the University of East London, Sonja Falck, claims that adults take such breakups just as seriously.

“A bond with a friend – your companion, confidante, and co-traveler through big changes as you enter adulthood – can be stronger than any other bond,” Falck writes. “Women in particular tend to discuss personal issues with friends more than they do with family.”

“Friends provide ongoing stability even when romantic relationships might come and go,” she adds. Perhaps James Blake was right when he sang, “In the end, it was friends who broke my heart.”

Commenters sided with the author, saying that she did all she could

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