Modern airlines do often attempt to get away with too much, since what, are you going to drive across the ocean? They overbook, charge for average-sized bags, and attempt the weirdest seating arrangements.
A worried woman asked the internet if not giving up her first-class upgrade was the right move. On a long flight that she had booked well in advance, the airline offered her a free upgrade to first class due to the travel points she had accrued. But just moments into the flight, a flight attendant came by to ask her if she wouldn’t mind downgrading her seat.
Even first class-flying can come with it’s own set of difficulties
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A woman wondered if she was the bad guy for not giving up her seat so a family could sit together
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Flying does cause an inordinate amount of stress
Setting aside moral dilemmas for a moment, air travel, while magical, can be highly stressful at the same time. If we were to ask, for example, a Medieval peasant, what might be the worst, most tension-inducing part of air travel, they would probably suggest the safety issues, perhaps storms and wind, air bandits, dragons, and other sky-monsters. They might be as shocked about air travel as they would be learning that the main issue is lines and other people. But that’s what studies say. Being confined in an elongated can for extended periods of time ends up creating a decent amount of tension and even rage.
Air travel isn’t the only case where we are “trapped” with other people for some time, but there are a number of other factors that make airplanes the perfect storm of brewing rage. Air travel, for the most part, is pretty expensive and involves dealing with an airport. As many a novice traveler has learned the hard way, airports are far away from city centers and generally require the person to be there well in advance of the flight. Why? Check-in and security, of course! Even if one is taking zero luggage (congratulations,) going through an airport means dealing with lines of irritable people, security, and other hassles. And pretty often, flights are at inconvenient times, so you and all the people impatiently waiting in line with you are often tired, perhaps even jetlagged, and probably in a rush.
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OP was not wrong to stay in her seat
But, finally, you have made it through and after waiting a bit and hopefully not having a delayed flight, you are off. But, research says, the tension doesn’t end there. In nearly all commercial flights, first-class passengers, like OP, board first, near the front of the plane. Then everyone else piles past them, getting a full view of the legroom they won’t have and the larger seats they won’t be sitting in. This creates a feeling of envy and can manifest itself as “air rage.” On top of that, planes are frequently loud, cold, and stuffy, creating a host of tiny irritants for most passengers, and that’s not even getting around to the tiny irritants that are screaming kids.
This phenomenon, unfortunately, appears to be growing more common, and one can find frequent examples in the news, of diverted flights over passenger arguments to literal terminal-side brawls. The causes are many and, obviously, an airline can’t be held responsible for immature, aggressive people acting like lunatics. However, there are numerous things the airline can do to perhaps lessen the stress passengers go through. Overbooking has become all too frequent and planes are already packed to the gills, leading many an amateur-humorist to speculate that standing room in planes will be next.
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Fortunately for OP, the worst that happened to her was the nosy, somewhat judgemental older woman who felt entitled to give her a piece of her mind. Indeed, the free upgrade is one of those little things that airlines do which other companies could learn from. Imagine if Ford would give you free leather seats for buying your third vehicle from them. As many commenters have noted, she was absolutely not in the wrong for refusing to give up her seat. Firstly, the parents simply could have stayed in economy and taken the upgrade later, if it was that important to them. However, there is a pretty strong argument to be made that the child didn’t exactly need to be with them for the whole time. There are flight attendants and both parents and the child can move around the cabin. And it’s not like a kid can really “enjoy” first class anyway, the free champagne and legroom might be lost on them.
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Readers supported OP thought the old woman was too judgemental
OP didn't make the boy sit alone in economy for 13 hours, the parents did
They had options! First of all, the kid and one parent could have sat in first class while the other parent sat in the back. Second one or both parents could have traded seats with someone in economy so they could sit in the back with their kid and let someone else enjoy the free upgrade. This wasn't on OP and kinda s****y on the airline to even suggest it.
Load More Replies...I'm with the people who said one of the parents should go to sit with the child in economy instead of expecting a stranger to give up their seat. Also airlines need to stop sitting families apart. Here's a clue, anyone travelling on a childs ticket needs to sit with the other ticket holders.
Or both the parents could have given up their seats for the two persons in economy, so they could sit in first. Pay for your child, and be decent humans.
Load More Replies...NTA, not even the littlest bit. One of the parents could have switched with the son.
Exactly! What dreadful parents to not have even one of them switch with their son! Poor kid needs more loving parents.
Load More Replies...They were trying to make their problem your problem. You just refused delivery. If they wanted to sit together, that could have happened in economy. Who leaves their 10 year old to sit alone?
1. If the old woman next to you worries about the kid so much, why doesnt she give up her seat? 2. Parents are s**t and should have said no to the first clas upgrade or should have switched seats with 2 people in economy. You are not the problem, others are. And its a shame the poor kid is in between it all (just like you).
These parents knew what they were doing. I’ve seen it so many times. They were hoping guilt of the FA or premium passengers would have been enough to get the swap. I imagine they even went overboard to cajole the FA who probably resigned with “I doubt it will happen but I’ll ask” knowing it was pointless, but doing so just to put an end to the task and move onto the rest of their busy job.
Load More Replies..."Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm." Unfortunately I was only heard this a few months ago but I really needed to hear this years ago, it's the first thing that runs through my head every time I am asked for anything these days and I swear by it.
So true. It’s. I’m a problem solver and a former people pleaser too, who only just realized recently that it’s not our responsibility to solve other people’s problems. We can’t take on the burdens of everyone else’s life. Don’t wait until you are over 50 to learn that lesson.
Load More Replies...Look at the older woman, hit the call button and say this dear lady is volunteering to switch seats with the boy and smile
NTA. The parents could have refused the upgrade once they found out their kid was stuck in coach. They're the obvious a******s choosing 1st class over their kid. Or for expecting someone else to give up their 1st class seat for their kid. One of them should have switched with the son or the two parents could have even rotated the coach seat between the two of them while the kid stayed in 1st class . Instead, like too many parents, they expect everyone else in the world to accommodate and prioritize their needs and wants because they s**t out a kid.
The parents are definitely at fault for accepting first class seats and expecting a third to miraculously appear for the child, but lost in the shuffle is the airline's complicity in this situation. They offered two upgrades to three people clearly traveling together on the same itinerary, one of whom is a minor. Either that's a major oversight by the airline (possible), or this is another "didn't happen, at least, not the way it's posted" post (probable).
Load More Replies...OP didn't make the boy sit alone in economy for 13 hours, the parents did
They had options! First of all, the kid and one parent could have sat in first class while the other parent sat in the back. Second one or both parents could have traded seats with someone in economy so they could sit in the back with their kid and let someone else enjoy the free upgrade. This wasn't on OP and kinda s****y on the airline to even suggest it.
Load More Replies...I'm with the people who said one of the parents should go to sit with the child in economy instead of expecting a stranger to give up their seat. Also airlines need to stop sitting families apart. Here's a clue, anyone travelling on a childs ticket needs to sit with the other ticket holders.
Or both the parents could have given up their seats for the two persons in economy, so they could sit in first. Pay for your child, and be decent humans.
Load More Replies...NTA, not even the littlest bit. One of the parents could have switched with the son.
Exactly! What dreadful parents to not have even one of them switch with their son! Poor kid needs more loving parents.
Load More Replies...They were trying to make their problem your problem. You just refused delivery. If they wanted to sit together, that could have happened in economy. Who leaves their 10 year old to sit alone?
1. If the old woman next to you worries about the kid so much, why doesnt she give up her seat? 2. Parents are s**t and should have said no to the first clas upgrade or should have switched seats with 2 people in economy. You are not the problem, others are. And its a shame the poor kid is in between it all (just like you).
These parents knew what they were doing. I’ve seen it so many times. They were hoping guilt of the FA or premium passengers would have been enough to get the swap. I imagine they even went overboard to cajole the FA who probably resigned with “I doubt it will happen but I’ll ask” knowing it was pointless, but doing so just to put an end to the task and move onto the rest of their busy job.
Load More Replies..."Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm." Unfortunately I was only heard this a few months ago but I really needed to hear this years ago, it's the first thing that runs through my head every time I am asked for anything these days and I swear by it.
So true. It’s. I’m a problem solver and a former people pleaser too, who only just realized recently that it’s not our responsibility to solve other people’s problems. We can’t take on the burdens of everyone else’s life. Don’t wait until you are over 50 to learn that lesson.
Load More Replies...Look at the older woman, hit the call button and say this dear lady is volunteering to switch seats with the boy and smile
NTA. The parents could have refused the upgrade once they found out their kid was stuck in coach. They're the obvious a******s choosing 1st class over their kid. Or for expecting someone else to give up their 1st class seat for their kid. One of them should have switched with the son or the two parents could have even rotated the coach seat between the two of them while the kid stayed in 1st class . Instead, like too many parents, they expect everyone else in the world to accommodate and prioritize their needs and wants because they s**t out a kid.
The parents are definitely at fault for accepting first class seats and expecting a third to miraculously appear for the child, but lost in the shuffle is the airline's complicity in this situation. They offered two upgrades to three people clearly traveling together on the same itinerary, one of whom is a minor. Either that's a major oversight by the airline (possible), or this is another "didn't happen, at least, not the way it's posted" post (probable).
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