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“He Was Crying The Whole Ride To The Airport”: Husband Calls Wife Pathetic And Cruel After She Skipped FIL’s Funeral Because MIL Bought Her An Economy Ticket
Two days ago, a 31-year-old woman took it to the AITA subreddit to ask for advice. Nicknamed Sadandexhausted133, the author explained that she and her mother-in-law don’t have a close relationship. “She’s civil towards me but can be a bit passive-aggressive at times and we tend to disagree oftentimes,” she wrote.
“FIL passed away suddenly and MIL told me and my husband to come to attend the funeral. She booked our tickets to fly to her state.”
However, when the author found out her MIL bought her an economy seat while her husband received first class, she felt humiliated. “I felt like she was treating me as less than even in her hard times.”
Feeling down, Sadandexhausted133 made her decision not to go to the funeral, causing a huge stir in the family and leaving her husband livid.
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A woman felt so humiliated over her MIL buying her an economy class seat and a first class for her husband that she refused to fly to his dad’s funeral
Image credits: Pavel Danilyuk (not the actual photo)
Image credits: Suhyeon Choi (not the actual photo)
Image credits: Sadandexhausted133
Some people thought that everyone was to blame in this situation
Others believed that the author was wrong
While the rest thought it was not the author’s fault and that the MIL was not right to get her an economy seat
What do you think ?
Max 3 years ago
I'm guessing this was a final straw thing. MiL has been a petty ***** to OP for years in a way that seems 'civil', her husband has probably not supported OP at all, and this made OP realise that she was putting in a lot of emotional labour to help and support people who don't return it.
BluEyedSeoulite 3 years ago
I agree. But if you care about someone, you bottle that up until after the body is in the ground!! Unless you plan on getting divorced
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Mad Dragon 3 years ago
Everyone sucks here. MIL for the deliberate slap against the OP even while MIL dealing with her husband's death. OP for storming off and leaving her husband to take the flight alone, when she could have dealt with her MIL once she got there, and the husband for not taking the obvious solution and asking the flight attendant to see if the person next to the OP's seat wanted to switch seats and enjoy a free first-class upgrade.
Melissa Harris 3 years ago
Yeah. The husband down grading would have solved everything! I bet if OP and husband had explained that there had been a mix up with seating and they were on their way to a funeral the seats would been been swapted quickly.
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Giddyfish 3 years ago
When my dad passed, I wanted my spouse. But I'm not so full of myself that I would have flown in first with him in economy. Even in extreme grief, I'm not a pompous a*s. My spouse is not a doormat because of the death. Would I have been weird about the situation? Absolutely. But my spouse wanting to leave signals something bigger here. My dad was/is REALLY important to me, but even then my spouse IS the relationship that matters. Anyone toying with that is in the wrong. MIL is an a*s an knows it. The OP was put in a shitty situation and chose to stand up for herself. Bad optics because of timing? Oh yes. Lots to repair and healing needed for a healthy relationship.
OmBoyGanesh 3 years ago
THIS!!! Narcissists are going to put you on a position to stand up for your boundaries at the worst of times. The MIL used the death of her husband to try to force her DIL submit to her control. That she’s using her own sons emotions as the p**n to put the DIL in her place, a backseat in her own marriage with mommy always taking precedence, is classic narcissist abuse. It often happens at funerals and family emergencies when they strike. I’m glad the OP stood up for herself no matter what. She wouldn’t have had to if her husband had historically had a backbone with his mother. If my mother did that to my spouse, I’d say goodbye to my father on my own terms, be that a different time or different flight. I sure as shît wouldn’t be letting mommy call the shots.
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Tisha Breaux 3 years ago
I would have rode in the bathroom rather than send my husband to his fathers funeral alone... what a horrid wife
rabbitsrabbit 3 years ago
Everyone sucks but OP is the suckiest one. 1 - entitled because her MIL is being generous to buy her a ticket in the first place, 2 - clearly her pride and ego trumps supporting her husband because if she really wanted to be there for him - why don't she just upgrade her ticket? Her 'solution' to not go while claiming she didnt want to leave his side hardly seem convincing. 3 - yes its obviously a slight from her MIL but she should have just suck it up for now instead of making drama when its a tragic event.
bob van wijk 3 years ago
Yes. Now MIL has a point giving her a cheap ticket. She's too uninterested to even go. Why pay first class for that?
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Bunzilla 3 years ago
Hard ESH (everybody sucks here). Obviously the MiL for putting her daughter-in-law in that situation (probably hoping for exactly this outcome, OP played right into her hands), Husband for telling his Wife at the last possible minute to just "suck it up" when she's specifically going with him to support him, and OP for throwing a fit over it and abandoning her grieving husband. Doesn't sound like a healthy marriage.
Zombiedoll 3 years ago
Doesn't matter what an a**hole the MIL is, in the end of the day it's you and your husband and if you really love and care about him you should have stayed with him the whole time and sort out the seating issue some other time.
Makajha Banjjjak 3 years ago
Why would mil buy the tickets in the first place?? Unless they are 17, i don't see why this happened at all, but definitely wife that didn't want to fly economy to support her husband is TA!!
Kristie French 3 years ago
Is there a possibility that there were not any other seats available? Likely a last minute flight? We have no info on that.
Niall Allen 3 years ago
She sucks for sending FC & Economy ticket, knowing it’d cause problems, you suck for not going and your husband sucks for not trading the ticket with whoever was sat next to the wife.
Max 3 years ago
I'm guessing this was a final straw thing. MiL has been a petty ***** to OP for years in a way that seems 'civil', her husband has probably not supported OP at all, and this made OP realise that she was putting in a lot of emotional labour to help and support people who don't return it.
BluEyedSeoulite 3 years ago
I agree. But if you care about someone, you bottle that up until after the body is in the ground!! Unless you plan on getting divorced
Load More Replies... Mad Dragon 3 years ago
Everyone sucks here. MIL for the deliberate slap against the OP even while MIL dealing with her husband's death. OP for storming off and leaving her husband to take the flight alone, when she could have dealt with her MIL once she got there, and the husband for not taking the obvious solution and asking the flight attendant to see if the person next to the OP's seat wanted to switch seats and enjoy a free first-class upgrade.
Melissa Harris 3 years ago
Yeah. The husband down grading would have solved everything! I bet if OP and husband had explained that there had been a mix up with seating and they were on their way to a funeral the seats would been been swapted quickly.
Load More Replies... Giddyfish 3 years ago
When my dad passed, I wanted my spouse. But I'm not so full of myself that I would have flown in first with him in economy. Even in extreme grief, I'm not a pompous a*s. My spouse is not a doormat because of the death. Would I have been weird about the situation? Absolutely. But my spouse wanting to leave signals something bigger here. My dad was/is REALLY important to me, but even then my spouse IS the relationship that matters. Anyone toying with that is in the wrong. MIL is an a*s an knows it. The OP was put in a shitty situation and chose to stand up for herself. Bad optics because of timing? Oh yes. Lots to repair and healing needed for a healthy relationship.
OmBoyGanesh 3 years ago
THIS!!! Narcissists are going to put you on a position to stand up for your boundaries at the worst of times. The MIL used the death of her husband to try to force her DIL submit to her control. That she’s using her own sons emotions as the p**n to put the DIL in her place, a backseat in her own marriage with mommy always taking precedence, is classic narcissist abuse. It often happens at funerals and family emergencies when they strike. I’m glad the OP stood up for herself no matter what. She wouldn’t have had to if her husband had historically had a backbone with his mother. If my mother did that to my spouse, I’d say goodbye to my father on my own terms, be that a different time or different flight. I sure as shît wouldn’t be letting mommy call the shots.
Load More Replies... Tisha Breaux 3 years ago
I would have rode in the bathroom rather than send my husband to his fathers funeral alone... what a horrid wife
rabbitsrabbit 3 years ago
Everyone sucks but OP is the suckiest one. 1 - entitled because her MIL is being generous to buy her a ticket in the first place, 2 - clearly her pride and ego trumps supporting her husband because if she really wanted to be there for him - why don't she just upgrade her ticket? Her 'solution' to not go while claiming she didnt want to leave his side hardly seem convincing. 3 - yes its obviously a slight from her MIL but she should have just suck it up for now instead of making drama when its a tragic event.
bob van wijk 3 years ago
Yes. Now MIL has a point giving her a cheap ticket. She's too uninterested to even go. Why pay first class for that?
Load More Replies... Bunzilla 3 years ago
Hard ESH (everybody sucks here). Obviously the MiL for putting her daughter-in-law in that situation (probably hoping for exactly this outcome, OP played right into her hands), Husband for telling his Wife at the last possible minute to just "suck it up" when she's specifically going with him to support him, and OP for throwing a fit over it and abandoning her grieving husband. Doesn't sound like a healthy marriage.
Zombiedoll 3 years ago
Doesn't matter what an a**hole the MIL is, in the end of the day it's you and your husband and if you really love and care about him you should have stayed with him the whole time and sort out the seating issue some other time.
Makajha Banjjjak 3 years ago
Why would mil buy the tickets in the first place?? Unless they are 17, i don't see why this happened at all, but definitely wife that didn't want to fly economy to support her husband is TA!!
Kristie French 3 years ago
Is there a possibility that there were not any other seats available? Likely a last minute flight? We have no info on that.
Niall Allen 3 years ago
She sucks for sending FC & Economy ticket, knowing it’d cause problems, you suck for not going and your husband sucks for not trading the ticket with whoever was sat next to the wife.
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