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“I’ll Be Gone”: Woman Who Watched Her Poly Husband Take Home Girlfriends Decides Enough Is Enough
Sad couple in bedroom, woman coming to her senses about polyamory after three years of unwanted relationship.

“I’ll Be Gone”: Woman Who Watched Her Poly Husband Take Home Girlfriends Decides Enough Is Enough

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In recent years, polyamory has risen in popularity. Monogamy, after all, is not “natural” among humans, and more people have been accepting enough to explore romantic relationships involving multiple partners. 

However, entering such an arrangement can be problematic if only one person does so, as this couple experienced. The man wanted a polyamorous marriage, much to the heartbreak of her loyal wife.  

The woman endured the pain of seeing her husband’s girlfriends for three years until she finally decided that enough was enough. You will find the entire text below, along with the satisfying end

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    Polyamory can be a problematic experience, especially if only one person in a relationship wants it

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    It’s an ordeal this couple went through, after the man went through with the poly marriage despite his wife’s hesitatons

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    After going through a three-year nightmare, the woman finally decided that enough was enough

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    Attempting polyamory can be disastrous for relationships on shaky ground

    Image credits: Curated Lifestyle (not the actual photo)

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    The couple had already broken up the first time, which likely shook the foundation of their relationship. Adding multiple partners to the equation may worsen the underlying issues. 

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    “Non-monogamy’s demands for emotional maturity and time can overwhelm a couple, delaying resolution of deeper incompatibilities,” relationship psychologist Dr. Madeline Roantree told Vogue.

    Dr. Roantree says managing multiple relationships can already be overwhelming, noting that mismatched goals and poor communication increase the chances of conflict. 

    Author Ruby Rare adds that non-monogamous relationships can only work if everyone feels good about trying it. 

    “Without that shared sense of trust and curiosity, things can quickly become painful or destabilizing,” she said. 

    In the story’s case, the wife was never on board, and she had to endure three years of hell from seeing her husband bring home one girlfriend after another. 

    Fortunately, fate stepped in her favor, and opportunities came her way. She had her safety net, which should be the number one priority before leaving a toxic marriage. She owed it to herself to leave a marriage that was only making her miserable.

    The woman responded to some questions from readers

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    Commenters collectively showed support for the wife

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    I'm a Visual Editor for Bored Panda. I’m also an analog collage artist. My love for images and experience in layering goes well with both creating collages by hand and working with digital images as an Editor. When I’m not using my kitchen area as an art studio I also do various experiments making my own cosmetics or brewing kombucha. When I’m not at home you would most definitely find me attending a concert or walking my dog.

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    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know I‘ll get downvoted for this but poly more often than not is just code for „I want to f**k several people“. How can someone have time for several „partners“ while being a parent to little kids? Does his day have more than 24 hours?

    Catherine Kane
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm mono because I can't see having tine to manage more than one relationship. most of the poly relationship I've seen have broken up- but not all. I've seen some work but it takes a special kind of person

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems reasonable to me, as I've never been into sharing. Clearly he's a woman as appliance bro and we're all interchangeable to him anyway, so he'll be fine either way. Sounds like he really brings little to the table and is only good for a child support check.

    Catherine Kane
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    but he's not good because he's losing her and he can't stand that. He's on the collector style of relationship

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What he's doing isn't polyamoury. It's an open relationship. Very different, and not the only thing he's dishonest about. I'm surprised OP hasnt been online to find out more about Poly life. Nothing Polycules love more than discussing how they do constant boundary check-ins and maintenance. But really importantly, the primary relationship leads. If the primary says stop, everything stops. And while not every polycule will have a primary, if you don't know if you do youre not poly. This guy is just a married man with regular hook ups .

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    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know I‘ll get downvoted for this but poly more often than not is just code for „I want to f**k several people“. How can someone have time for several „partners“ while being a parent to little kids? Does his day have more than 24 hours?

    Catherine Kane
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm mono because I can't see having tine to manage more than one relationship. most of the poly relationship I've seen have broken up- but not all. I've seen some work but it takes a special kind of person

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems reasonable to me, as I've never been into sharing. Clearly he's a woman as appliance bro and we're all interchangeable to him anyway, so he'll be fine either way. Sounds like he really brings little to the table and is only good for a child support check.

    Catherine Kane
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    but he's not good because he's losing her and he can't stand that. He's on the collector style of relationship

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What he's doing isn't polyamoury. It's an open relationship. Very different, and not the only thing he's dishonest about. I'm surprised OP hasnt been online to find out more about Poly life. Nothing Polycules love more than discussing how they do constant boundary check-ins and maintenance. But really importantly, the primary relationship leads. If the primary says stop, everything stops. And while not every polycule will have a primary, if you don't know if you do youre not poly. This guy is just a married man with regular hook ups .

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