Woman Gives Boyfriend An Ultimatum: She Will Only Go On Their Romantic Holiday If He Doesn’t Bring His Friend Along
Life can be rather hectic, and is there a better way to unwind from all the business than to go on a little pick-me-up vacay with your significant other?
Of course, unless your partner decides to have his mate tag along while reassuring you that he’ll “just sleep on the sofa” and “do his own thing,” as if it’s a very common practice to have a third wheel join what’s supposed to be your romantic getaway with your girlfriend.
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The couple is soon heading to France for a “romantic getaway”
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However – the woman discovers that her significant other has invited his buddy to join them
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“AITA for refusing to go on vacation with my boyfriend because he invited his friend without telling me?” – this web user took to one of Reddit’s most honorable communities to ask its members whether she’s indeed wrong for backing out of her and her boyfriend’s romantic trip abroad after discovering that he planned on dragging his buddy there too. The post managed to garner 7K upvotes as well as 1.4K comments discussing the situation.
Now, each and every one of us has longed for some guidance at least once or twice. It’s not shameful; life is a complicated affair, and there are moments when you just don’t know what to do.
Some folks are fortunate to have family or peers who are willing to listen and offer some clarity on the situation; however, not everybody is keen on dumping their issues on those close to them – plus, discussing things in your inner circle can potentially result in some biased verdicts.
The point is, we all need a shoulder to cry (or, should I say, rant) on – it’s just that sometimes, that said shoulder is a several-million-member group on Reddit.
While nobody is protected from being attacked by the snarky comments of the infamous internet trolls, venting anonymously online is not too bad of an idea. Just think about it, you’re going full incognito, and no matter how minor or significant you think your problem is, you can still expect a fair judgment from most netizens.
Did you find yourself in a quarrel with your in-laws? Maybe you yelled at an entitled stranger? Or perhaps you’ve been wronged by your boyfriend, like the star of today’s article? No biggie, the Judge Judys of the world wide web will help you determine who’s, in fact, the jerk in your scenario.
She tells her boyfriend that she doesn’t feel comfortable with the idea, but gets branded as “manipulative”
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The story itself is pretty straightforward. A couple had planned to go abroad for a few days for a “romantic” getaway. The two were excited to spend some quality time together and finally get a break from life; however, the woman soon discovered that her boyfriend had also invited his buddy to tag along under the pretext that “he’s always wanted to see France.”
Such a shocker leaves our author totally flabbergasted, and she tries to get her partner to rethink his rather absurd, and may I add undiscussed, decision.
It all turns into a nasty fight, and the woman gets called “manipulative” for refusing to go and making the man choose between her and his friend.
The situation is not as cursed as many other dilemmas that get posted in the online community – however, it is all fairly odd. Why did the man keep such vital information from his partner? Why was his only solution to get a room with two beds or let his pal crash on the sofa instead of booking a separate room for him? And why does it all seem normal to him when he specifically called it a “romantic getaway”? We can only guess.
The jokes, though, write themselves, and a couple of commenters did say that the guy should just go and enjoy the aforementioned romantic getaway alone with his bro, as it seems that’s exactly what he wants. Others also found an opportunity to banter about polyamory, but I digress.
The majority, if not all, of the community members decided that the woman is not wrong for choosing to back out of the vacation, as let’s face it, nobody in their right mind would want to be romantic with their significant other with their mate snoring 5 feet away from them.
It’s unfortunate because – get ready for a little fun fact break – a survey that was conducted by OnePoll determined that 42% of couples have found their lost spark after going on vacation together, and judging by how the two have been busy with work – it could’ve really benefited them. But after the man’s weird antics with his buddy, maybe it’s for the best, and the author should use her newfound free time wisely and reconsider her relationship altogether.
What is your take on this story?
Fellow online community members shared their thoughts and opinions on the situation
I'm just surprised the "Eiffel Tower" comment made it through 😆 (it's a sexual position involving 3 people)
When my wife and I got married we brought a friend along on our honeymoon (separate rooms though). We both agreed on it because Jim was dying of AIDS and he had always wanted to visit Europe. He did do his own thing but we traveled together and most of all, it was a decision we took together to have him tag along. Jim died a month after we returned, after meeting my folks in Rome. To this day I am glad we could do that for Jim. He was a good man and a good friend and did not deserve to die like that. This, this is different. She is right in not wanting the third wheel.
Yes it's a very different situation. What you and your wife did was a very wonderful kind thing to do.
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A romantic getaway is the couple and no one else. If that's too boring for bf he should have stayed single. If friend always wanted to see France he could have gone by himself or with someone else.
So, a certain Egyptian river is making an appearance here, I'm just not sure who's swimming in it....
NTA. Nott sure why he invited his girlfriend at all since he obviously wanted to go with his friend. It's 2023, nothing is wrong with a man wanting to have a little romantic trip in Paris with his male friend. No need to drag that poor girl into this.
The OP should understand..this romantic holiday is not about her. This is a trip to force the idea, that her bf, wants his bf to be in their relationship. It's red flag city, please don't be dense.
Every single word out of your boyfriend's mouth was the classic response of the narcissist. Note that YOU are overeacting. Note that after HE screwed up, it was YOUR fault that things were going awry. Please - do NOT marry this man. If you're smart, you will pack up and leave the instant he and his friend get on the plane. If you stay with him, your life is going to go downhill rapidly (at least when you don't go along with his plans).
She is not his fiance, they don't talk about marriage anywhere
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Bf doesn’t want a romantic vacation with you. What his buddy wants is more important than what you want. That says something about your relationship. Proceed accordingly.
I dare say I'd let the bf go have a romantic getaway with his buddy, and use that time relocating all my stuff elsewhere and not leave a forwarding address. Seriously. I've heard of the "bros before ho's", but a romantic getaway trip to Paris is definitely NOT the time to play the card. Baseball game? Sure. Darts at the pub? Okay. Paris? The dude needs to book his own vacation, separate from yours. If they want to have lunch one day there, that's okay, but the night time is 100% NOT the RIGHT Time for a third wheel.
Time to kick this idiot to the curb and find someone who understands the concept of romantic getaway.
How well do you know this friend? How long have you been dating? I would be ticked most about thinking that sharing a room with this friend was OK
Your relationship is over. Move on and save your money for a solo trip to Aruba.
Go and get your own room or hotel and leave the "buddies" on their own. His request is really weird and I'd be livid.
Hmm im guessing he's involved with the 'friend' hence wanting him along on the romantic trip.
Op is not the a*s. Ditch this guy. So many reasons to find someone that VALUES YOU as his woman. I've been on the periphery for 40 years. It's a bummer.
Maybe he was going to approach her about having a threesome with the friend.
I say go on the trip... if boyfriend says his friend won't affect anything then fine, trust is important in a relationship. However, let's see how boyfriend feels when OP dresses incredibly sexily, walks around their hotel room naked or in skimpy sexy underwear and showers with the bathroom door open.
Sorry, but why would she want to dress sexily, walk around make or in skimpy underwear and shower with the door open with a STRANGER there? I actually think that unless she can get a refund on what she paid, then she should go on the trip, but do her own thing, get her own room if she can afford it, but she shouldn't have to show herself off to prove a point.
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Why can't his stupid friend book a SEPARATE room or even better, a separate hotel? If it's really true his friend will do his "own thing" and they won't ever have him tagging song for meals or fun plans with them and he could afford a plane ticket he apparently already bought, WHY dosen't the friend head to France on his own? If he's coming with them you better believe he's not going to then abandon his bro to sightsee and eat alone if he can't even tell him to sleep elsewhere. It would be the 3 of you doing everything together 90% of the time and if you say anything YOU'RE the mean/ungrateful one as if YOU'RE the third wheel tagging along on THEIR trip. It will be the two of them against you the whole time and even if you manage to get your boyfriend alone for something, men just sulk and ignore you because they didn't get what they wanted and whatever cool experience you were trying to have he'll purposely not enjoy. Invite you mom to go with you too or a male friend, only fair
She should cancel whatever part of the trip she paid for. If he and his friend want their romantic trip so bad let them pay for the whole thing!
I am not convinced boyfriend acted with any malice, but this relationship sounds exhausting. Trip or no trip she has been set up to compete for attention from her boyfriend.
we've had trips away with friends or family members, in the same room. those were NOT romantic trips away. it's either a romantic couples trip, or it's a friends group holiday. it can't be both
Ugh~ it sounds so faaaaaaaake. What happened to the realistic sounding write-ups? I saw one today, it was refreshing. If in the off chance this is real, put your bf and his friend in their place, let him and his buddy go on the trip together and you plan a nice weekend with one of your friends.. who happens to be a boy.. and see how excited he is for your getaway while he's gone.
Time to test the waters! How open are you about a polygamous relationship?
Guys it's reddit. The post was made by a throwaway account who only posted this and did not make any further comment or reply. 100% fake story, as is usual for those dumped on here by Darja Zinina and Monika Pašukonytė.
Come on, the more the merrier! 😄 This is something me or my husband could have done, and the other person wouldn't mind. Didn't realise that we were unusual like this. I think OP should reconsider, it's fun to do stuff as a group and s*x is no different for doing it in another country.
I might be OK with it if the friend was getting their own room. If they wanted to do their own thing, whatever. It's a big enough country. But I would not have my boyfriends friend sharing our room on our romantic getaway.
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I'm just surprised the "Eiffel Tower" comment made it through 😆 (it's a sexual position involving 3 people)
When my wife and I got married we brought a friend along on our honeymoon (separate rooms though). We both agreed on it because Jim was dying of AIDS and he had always wanted to visit Europe. He did do his own thing but we traveled together and most of all, it was a decision we took together to have him tag along. Jim died a month after we returned, after meeting my folks in Rome. To this day I am glad we could do that for Jim. He was a good man and a good friend and did not deserve to die like that. This, this is different. She is right in not wanting the third wheel.
Yes it's a very different situation. What you and your wife did was a very wonderful kind thing to do.
Load More Replies... A romantic getaway is the couple and no one else. If that's too boring for bf he should have stayed single. If friend always wanted to see France he could have gone by himself or with someone else.
So, a certain Egyptian river is making an appearance here, I'm just not sure who's swimming in it....
NTA. Nott sure why he invited his girlfriend at all since he obviously wanted to go with his friend. It's 2023, nothing is wrong with a man wanting to have a little romantic trip in Paris with his male friend. No need to drag that poor girl into this.
The OP should understand..this romantic holiday is not about her. This is a trip to force the idea, that her bf, wants his bf to be in their relationship. It's red flag city, please don't be dense.
Every single word out of your boyfriend's mouth was the classic response of the narcissist. Note that YOU are overeacting. Note that after HE screwed up, it was YOUR fault that things were going awry. Please - do NOT marry this man. If you're smart, you will pack up and leave the instant he and his friend get on the plane. If you stay with him, your life is going to go downhill rapidly (at least when you don't go along with his plans).
She is not his fiance, they don't talk about marriage anywhere
Load More Replies... Bf doesn’t want a romantic vacation with you. What his buddy wants is more important than what you want. That says something about your relationship. Proceed accordingly.
I dare say I'd let the bf go have a romantic getaway with his buddy, and use that time relocating all my stuff elsewhere and not leave a forwarding address. Seriously. I've heard of the "bros before ho's", but a romantic getaway trip to Paris is definitely NOT the time to play the card. Baseball game? Sure. Darts at the pub? Okay. Paris? The dude needs to book his own vacation, separate from yours. If they want to have lunch one day there, that's okay, but the night time is 100% NOT the RIGHT Time for a third wheel.
Time to kick this idiot to the curb and find someone who understands the concept of romantic getaway.
How well do you know this friend? How long have you been dating? I would be ticked most about thinking that sharing a room with this friend was OK
Your relationship is over. Move on and save your money for a solo trip to Aruba.
Go and get your own room or hotel and leave the "buddies" on their own. His request is really weird and I'd be livid.
Hmm im guessing he's involved with the 'friend' hence wanting him along on the romantic trip.
Op is not the a*s. Ditch this guy. So many reasons to find someone that VALUES YOU as his woman. I've been on the periphery for 40 years. It's a bummer.
Maybe he was going to approach her about having a threesome with the friend.
I say go on the trip... if boyfriend says his friend won't affect anything then fine, trust is important in a relationship. However, let's see how boyfriend feels when OP dresses incredibly sexily, walks around their hotel room naked or in skimpy sexy underwear and showers with the bathroom door open.
Sorry, but why would she want to dress sexily, walk around make or in skimpy underwear and shower with the door open with a STRANGER there? I actually think that unless she can get a refund on what she paid, then she should go on the trip, but do her own thing, get her own room if she can afford it, but she shouldn't have to show herself off to prove a point.
Load More Replies... Why can't his stupid friend book a SEPARATE room or even better, a separate hotel? If it's really true his friend will do his "own thing" and they won't ever have him tagging song for meals or fun plans with them and he could afford a plane ticket he apparently already bought, WHY dosen't the friend head to France on his own? If he's coming with them you better believe he's not going to then abandon his bro to sightsee and eat alone if he can't even tell him to sleep elsewhere. It would be the 3 of you doing everything together 90% of the time and if you say anything YOU'RE the mean/ungrateful one as if YOU'RE the third wheel tagging along on THEIR trip. It will be the two of them against you the whole time and even if you manage to get your boyfriend alone for something, men just sulk and ignore you because they didn't get what they wanted and whatever cool experience you were trying to have he'll purposely not enjoy. Invite you mom to go with you too or a male friend, only fair
She should cancel whatever part of the trip she paid for. If he and his friend want their romantic trip so bad let them pay for the whole thing!
I am not convinced boyfriend acted with any malice, but this relationship sounds exhausting. Trip or no trip she has been set up to compete for attention from her boyfriend.
we've had trips away with friends or family members, in the same room. those were NOT romantic trips away. it's either a romantic couples trip, or it's a friends group holiday. it can't be both
Ugh~ it sounds so faaaaaaaake. What happened to the realistic sounding write-ups? I saw one today, it was refreshing. If in the off chance this is real, put your bf and his friend in their place, let him and his buddy go on the trip together and you plan a nice weekend with one of your friends.. who happens to be a boy.. and see how excited he is for your getaway while he's gone.
Time to test the waters! How open are you about a polygamous relationship?
Guys it's reddit. The post was made by a throwaway account who only posted this and did not make any further comment or reply. 100% fake story, as is usual for those dumped on here by Darja Zinina and Monika Pašukonytė.
Come on, the more the merrier! 😄 This is something me or my husband could have done, and the other person wouldn't mind. Didn't realise that we were unusual like this. I think OP should reconsider, it's fun to do stuff as a group and s*x is no different for doing it in another country.
I might be OK with it if the friend was getting their own room. If they wanted to do their own thing, whatever. It's a big enough country. But I would not have my boyfriends friend sharing our room on our romantic getaway.
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