“Seek Help ASAP”: The Net Shares Concerns With Man Worried About Pregnant Wife’s Habits
There’s nothing more beautiful than the miracle of life. But before parents are holding a tiny infant in their arms in the hospital, someone will have to experience the joy of pregnancy. Morning sickness, intense cravings, swollen feet, fatigue and needing to use the bathroom every hour are only a handful of the symptoms moms get to enjoy before giving birth.
But pregnancy is capable of causing more than purely physical symptoms. One man recently reached out to Reddit asking for advice, as his wife’s behavior has become concerning since she got pregnant. Below, you’ll find the full story, as well as some of the replies invested readers left him.
Pregnancy can be an extremely stressful time for anyone
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But after noticing some bizarre behavior from his wife, this man is wondering if he should intervene
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Later, the concerned husband responded to a few readers and shared some more background information
Pregnancy comes with a long list of physical and mental symptoms
When a couple learns that they’ve got a little bun in the oven, they are likely overwhelmed with excitement. They have less than 9 months to plan, prepare and get ready to invite a tiny new member into their family. As far as the symptoms that pregnant women experience go, we all know the obvious, physical ones: nausea and perhaps vomiting, increased urination, fatigue, food aversions and cravings, back pain and more.
But there are plenty of symptoms we can’t see with our own eyes that pregnant women experience as well. Due to the rapid hormone changes and all of the upcoming changes to a woman’s life, Better Health notes that it’s expected for pregnant women to have mood swings as early as the first trimester.
During the second trimester, a woman might feel less fatigued and moody, but her mind may start wandering more. She might have trouble focusing at work or at home, and she may start experiencing “pregnancy brain.” Many moms report struggling to remember details, focus on tasks or keep their attention on anything, which is commonly referred to as pregnancy brain. This can be caused by a combination of hormone changes, sleep deprivation and stress or anxiety.
Many women struggle with depression and anxiety while pregnant
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During a mom’s third trimester, she may continue to be forgetful, and she will likely become increasingly uncomfortable and annoyed by the discomfort of pregnancy. She may also start to worry about her upcoming delivery and have an even harder time sleeping.
Because of all of the changes pregnant women experience, to their bodies and their lives, it’s important that they prioritize their mental health. According to the MGH Center for Women’s Mental Health, between 10-15% of women experience clinically significant depressive symptoms while pregnant, and up to 20% struggle with mood or anxiety disorders during their pregnancies.
Some of the symptoms of perinatal depression and anxiety that might arise are panic attacks, persistent worry focused on health concerns, obsessive or compulsive behavior, having no interest in things that bring joy, being nervous or on edge, fear of being alone with the baby and engaging in risk taking behavior.
It’s crucial for expecting mothers to prioritize their mental health
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As far as how women can be sure to prioritize their mental health during pregnancy, Better Health recommends ensuring that they get adequate sleep, find time each week to do something they enjoy, allow family and friends to help, continue to exercise and eat well. And, of course, it’s always wise to seek guidance from a mental health professional and have someone to talk to.
Some experts even believe that psychotherapy should be a requirement for expecting mothers. “We could add mental health care to routine prenatal care,” associate professor of psychiatry and obstetrics from Columbia University, Catherine Monk, told The Washington Post. “Let’s start earlier in pregnancy to prevent these depressions, and help women be physically, mentally and emotionally as healthy as possible.”
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. If you were in this husband’s shoes, how would you have reacted to your wife’s behavior? Feel free to share, and then if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article discussing what pregnancy is really like, check out this piece next.
Concerned readers were quick to share their thoughts, along with advice for the couple
I agree with the redditor who said it sounds like OCD that’s been exacerbated by the pregnancy.
(Although fixations vary from sufferer to sufferer, this is how actual OCD presents, not to be confused with the way some TikTokers casually throw around the word.)
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I agree she is crazy and also dangerous to herself and the child. The vit A in the liver can give overdoses and demetrial effects. Lack of vit D during pregnancy increases the risk of autism for the child. Prenatals keeps you filled up with vit B6,b12, iron and all other essentials. Hope they can sort her out.
Guess I’m autistic because I was born in December with little sunlight. Guess I’m a vampire. Totally not genetics in my case. /s
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You can be really smart, and still make REALLY EFFING STUPID AND DANGEROUS decisions, and listen to absolute pseudoscience EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER out of anxiety/fear, if you're caught up in mental illness. I have anorexia and I've known a lot of really intelligent, science-trained people with anorexia, who've believed/done the most unscientific rubbish peddled online out of fear relating to weight. Your wife needs help, because she's gone way past the point of 'making optimal choices' (a positive when not taken too far) to compulsive and obsessive behaviour that's risking her and your baby's health and is causing great distress, but which she cannot stop. Those are diagnostic criteria for a mental illness (I'm no psychiatrist and not attempting to diagnose here, I hope that's clear).
She’s not ok. See if you can find a gestational nutritionist who can talk some sense into her.
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As somebody who supports abortion, I'm outraged by the intentional attempt to onset gestational diabetes. This is a wanted pregnancy?
That was worrying to read. My wife was very close to getting gestational diabetes during her pregnancy and it was a real concern to the medical staff during her checkups
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The more she intentionally deprives herself of vitamin D, the worse she'll spiral.
WHY IS THE OB CONVINCING PATIENTS TO DELAY AN INFANT'S VACCINATION SCHEDULE??
She doesn't go out to avoid vitamin D but eats liver which is so full of vitamin A you can poison yourself with raw liver?
Your wife is insane and needs to be taken to both psychiatric and pediatric care if you want any chance of this pregnancy even being carried to term it sounds like. Do not pass go do not collect 200$ get the F**K OFF THE INTERNET, and go to the hospital, right now go lets go, i called an ambulance for you get your s**t together lets go.
Just the fact that she is trying to give herself gestational diabetes is enough for me to see she's riding the crazy train. I hope he contacted her doctor and told the whole story, because she needs serious help.
Go to her when she goes to the dr. Bring her book of stuff. Explain her issues an have the doctor tell her what's up. If it comes from a med specialist she might listen. If not then get her therapy to calm her nerves.
I agree with the redditor who said it sounds like OCD that’s been exacerbated by the pregnancy.
(Although fixations vary from sufferer to sufferer, this is how actual OCD presents, not to be confused with the way some TikTokers casually throw around the word.)
Load More Replies... I agree she is crazy and also dangerous to herself and the child. The vit A in the liver can give overdoses and demetrial effects. Lack of vit D during pregnancy increases the risk of autism for the child. Prenatals keeps you filled up with vit B6,b12, iron and all other essentials. Hope they can sort her out.
Guess I’m autistic because I was born in December with little sunlight. Guess I’m a vampire. Totally not genetics in my case. /s
Load More Replies... You can be really smart, and still make REALLY EFFING STUPID AND DANGEROUS decisions, and listen to absolute pseudoscience EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER out of anxiety/fear, if you're caught up in mental illness. I have anorexia and I've known a lot of really intelligent, science-trained people with anorexia, who've believed/done the most unscientific rubbish peddled online out of fear relating to weight. Your wife needs help, because she's gone way past the point of 'making optimal choices' (a positive when not taken too far) to compulsive and obsessive behaviour that's risking her and your baby's health and is causing great distress, but which she cannot stop. Those are diagnostic criteria for a mental illness (I'm no psychiatrist and not attempting to diagnose here, I hope that's clear).
She’s not ok. See if you can find a gestational nutritionist who can talk some sense into her.
This was originally posted on Reddit. The poster will not see your comment.
Load More Replies... As somebody who supports abortion, I'm outraged by the intentional attempt to onset gestational diabetes. This is a wanted pregnancy?
That was worrying to read. My wife was very close to getting gestational diabetes during her pregnancy and it was a real concern to the medical staff during her checkups
Load More Replies... The more she intentionally deprives herself of vitamin D, the worse she'll spiral.
WHY IS THE OB CONVINCING PATIENTS TO DELAY AN INFANT'S VACCINATION SCHEDULE??
She doesn't go out to avoid vitamin D but eats liver which is so full of vitamin A you can poison yourself with raw liver?
Your wife is insane and needs to be taken to both psychiatric and pediatric care if you want any chance of this pregnancy even being carried to term it sounds like. Do not pass go do not collect 200$ get the F**K OFF THE INTERNET, and go to the hospital, right now go lets go, i called an ambulance for you get your s**t together lets go.
Just the fact that she is trying to give herself gestational diabetes is enough for me to see she's riding the crazy train. I hope he contacted her doctor and told the whole story, because she needs serious help.
Go to her when she goes to the dr. Bring her book of stuff. Explain her issues an have the doctor tell her what's up. If it comes from a med specialist she might listen. If not then get her therapy to calm her nerves.
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