Man Discovers Wife Purposefully Cooks Meals Daughter Won’t Eat, Decides On Divorce
Adolescence is a tough period for many young people who are simply trying to discover themselves and find their place in this world, which is already a difficult task. However, it is made even more complex with a surge of hormones and unexpected feelings happening alongside it.
No wonder parenting teenagers is such a tough task. One has to help them navigate this world without intruding too much and help manage very strong emotions and big changes.
Each kid, of course, presents a unique challenge. The daughter in this story (which has many parts) seems to be a perfectly sweet, responsible girl. The big issue her step mother has with her is her picky eating. The way the stepmom decided to deal with it, though, can be considered borderline neglectful. Scroll down to read why the husband thought he was the jerk in the situation and how the story unfolded for the family.
The reasons for a divorce can be many; lack of intimacy, too much conflict, and financial stress being the main few
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But sometimes, one single thing can lead to unraveling of a marriage. This is what happened in the following story
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The author proceeded to post updates, explaining how the situation is progressing
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The last update revealed the real reasons behind the neglectful behavior
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Picky eating is normal in children
Experts say that picky eating is normal when it comes to little children. Many go through this phase, preferring to eat pasta and nuggets instead of vegetables and fruit.
A lot of the time, selective eating is about control. Children want to be in charge of what goes into their little bodies, while parents feel the responsibility of providing them with nutritious meals that meet their developmental needs. When these two sentiments meet, they can create a serious power struggle at the dinner table.
One way to avoid it is to set realistic expectations and make peace with the fact that the child won’t be an adventurous eater from the get-go. Introduce different foods, make sure there’s a variety of healthy things they can choose from, but let them try everything at their own pace.
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Adults can also be picky eaters, but then the situation is usually more concerning
Note that while many grow out of the picky eating phase, it is not the case for everybody. Adult picky eaters are also a thing and it can sometimes even be classified as an eating disorder.
Adult picky eaters usually stay this way because they are really sensitive to smells, flavors and textures. This behavior can be linked to autism or obsessive-compulsive disorder. Bad childhood experiences with food, such as choking, can also have a negative impact on a person’s willingness to experiment with flavors.
Seems like the girl in this story might be suffering from food-related anxiety. There are ways to treat it that involve traditional therapy and other tactics, but forcing someone to eat what disgusts them is certainly not the right way to do it. The step mother’s lack of consideration for the daughter is certainly very alarming, so the dad’s behavior is understandable.
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People in the comment section posted questions and showed support
Nothing else in that story mattered the second the wife said she resented the girl for looking like her mother. It was no longer, oh the girls a picky eater, oh the woman is tired of catering to her, oh she doesn't want to upset her son; it's twisted jealously and she's letting the kid starve because of it. That's the only point that matters here.
I agree. And her saying she doesn't want to upset her son but has no problem letting the daughter (also hers now!) go hungry, not even shopping for her off a list the girl drew up. The wicked step-mom also says he son's needs come before the daughter's needs! Sounds like abuse to me.
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I don’t understand the people who say the daughter can cook her own food. She does, but the wife isn’t even buying her the food she needs to use to make her meals. 16 year olds should not be financially responsible for providing their own home cooked meals, especially if the parents can afford it. This lady shouldn’t be trusted with the welfare of the daughter. Not to mention hiding all of this from her husband. It’s a bad situation.
Yes. It's lopsided. The step mother is being abusive and a bully. How is a 16 year old going to do her own shopping, cook for herself, maintain her grades and take care of her own responsibilities? The stepmother uses the daughter's father's money to abuse her. AWFUL.
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both kids are 'steps' but he refers to 'his daughter' and 'our son', just thought that was interesting - and how on earth does she keep fruit and vegies fresh for an entire month?!
I thought it made a lot of sense. By the time he wrote this, he already knew his wife didn't love his daughter and didn't care about her needs. She doesn't see her as her daughter, so why should he write it like she does? It's heartbreaking that he still sees the son as his.
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Nothing else in that story mattered the second the wife said she resented the girl for looking like her mother. It was no longer, oh the girls a picky eater, oh the woman is tired of catering to her, oh she doesn't want to upset her son; it's twisted jealously and she's letting the kid starve because of it. That's the only point that matters here.
I agree. And her saying she doesn't want to upset her son but has no problem letting the daughter (also hers now!) go hungry, not even shopping for her off a list the girl drew up. The wicked step-mom also says he son's needs come before the daughter's needs! Sounds like abuse to me.
Load More Replies... I don’t understand the people who say the daughter can cook her own food. She does, but the wife isn’t even buying her the food she needs to use to make her meals. 16 year olds should not be financially responsible for providing their own home cooked meals, especially if the parents can afford it. This lady shouldn’t be trusted with the welfare of the daughter. Not to mention hiding all of this from her husband. It’s a bad situation.
Yes. It's lopsided. The step mother is being abusive and a bully. How is a 16 year old going to do her own shopping, cook for herself, maintain her grades and take care of her own responsibilities? The stepmother uses the daughter's father's money to abuse her. AWFUL.
Load More Replies... both kids are 'steps' but he refers to 'his daughter' and 'our son', just thought that was interesting - and how on earth does she keep fruit and vegies fresh for an entire month?!
I thought it made a lot of sense. By the time he wrote this, he already knew his wife didn't love his daughter and didn't care about her needs. She doesn't see her as her daughter, so why should he write it like she does? It's heartbreaking that he still sees the son as his.
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