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Wife Finds Husband’s Texts With His Coworker Just 2 Weeks After Their Wedding: “My Stomach Sank”
Man in black shirt and tie texting on smartphone in office hallway, wife finds husband texting coworker early in marriage.

Wife Finds Husband’s Texts With His Coworker Just 2 Weeks After Their Wedding: “My Stomach Sank”

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You’ve likely heard someone say, “Never underestimate the power of a woman’s intuition.” Because, according to them, many “recognize game before you even play it.” 

There are scientific explanations as to why a lady’s gut feeling can be eerily accurate, and it couldn’t have been truer for this woman. After sensing something “off” with her husband and his female subordinate, she later discovered text exchanges between the two that left her in utter disbelief. 

She still refuses to believe he’s been cheating on her, but she nonetheless wants some answers. 

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    A woman’s intuition can be eerily accurate

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    This was put to the test when a newly-married man hired a female subordinate

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    His wife began suspecting something inappropriate between the two 

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    The wife also shared a rather peculiar interaction with the woman in question, further solidifying her hunch

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    Things came to a head one night when she discovered text exchanges between the two that her husband seemingly tried to hide

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    She has since felt utterly confused, trying to figure out the best way to approach the situation 

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    Here’s the scientific explanation behind a woman’s intuition 

    As mentioned in the intro, experts have looked into women’s intuition. According to psychiatrist Dr. Judith Orloff, it all comes down to the corpus callosum, the white matter that connects our left and right brain hemispheres. 

    As she explained, a woman’s corpus callosum is thicker than a man’s, which gives them “better and faster abilities” to access both hemispheres. As a result, their emotions and gut feelings are integrated with the logical functions of the left hemisphere, making a woman’s brain “optimized for rapid, intuitive decision-making.” 

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    “Women often tend to be psychologically more in touch with their emotions and are more likely to integrate hunches and emotional intuitions about people with the functions of logic,” Dr. Orloff wrote in an article for Psychology Today

    However, there is a line between intuition and insecurity, which the woman struggled with before she found the messages. But in such cases, experts like licensed professional counselor Jeff Guenther advise not getting caught up in whether it’s one or the other.  

    “If something is bothering you or doesn’t feel okay, talk about it with your partner,” Guenther told Refinery29, adding that it is normal to feel insecure about things that make us feel uncomfortable. 

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    Being overly emotional isn’t the way to handle a partner’s micro-cheating

    The woman described the ill feelings that took over her upon discovering the text exchanges. However, she didn’t seem to react with emotion, which was the right thing to do. 

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    The husband may have been guilty of micro-cheating, which, according to Very Well Mind, includes “coy text messages” and social media interactions. And once this issue becomes apparent, as it did with the couple in the story, the next step would be to define boundaries. 

    As marriage and family therapist, Claudia de Llano, told the publication, couples must define what is acceptable and unacceptable for each other. While the process may take time, both partners must carefully consider each other’s input. 

    Moving forward, it may be necessary for the wife to enforce her boundaries firmly. And if it does happen again, she may need to rethink the marriage.

    The woman provided an update and clarified parts of her story

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    People in the comments questioned the man’s interactions with his coworker, as some shared their own theories

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    Paul C
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So he knew and admitted it was wrong to keep up contact with this woman, but decided to do it for two years afterwards until OP found out? He deleted lots of messages to/from her on his phone. Conclusion: He didn't / doesn't care about his relationship with the mother of his daughter and now his marriage. Why the hell did he want to get married?

    Mari
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is why you have a gut feeling. You sense that something is off, not normal.

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    Ryan-James O'Driscoll
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They both need to sort themselves out. He's wrong for continuing to communicate in secret, regardless of whether he is cheating or not, but if you are uncomfortable with a woman talking to your husband, you have issues of your own. I know Reddit and internet comment threads like to pretend life is a soap opera, but real life isn't. Partners of either gender should not be policing each other from having even platonic casual friendships with other people.

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    Paul C
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So he knew and admitted it was wrong to keep up contact with this woman, but decided to do it for two years afterwards until OP found out? He deleted lots of messages to/from her on his phone. Conclusion: He didn't / doesn't care about his relationship with the mother of his daughter and now his marriage. Why the hell did he want to get married?

    Mari
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is why you have a gut feeling. You sense that something is off, not normal.

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    Ryan-James O'Driscoll
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They both need to sort themselves out. He's wrong for continuing to communicate in secret, regardless of whether he is cheating or not, but if you are uncomfortable with a woman talking to your husband, you have issues of your own. I know Reddit and internet comment threads like to pretend life is a soap opera, but real life isn't. Partners of either gender should not be policing each other from having even platonic casual friendships with other people.

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