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“I’m Betraying My Integrity”: Man Refuses To Take A Paternity Test For His Wife’s Friend’s Baby
Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce. There are many reasons couples head for Splitsville. But among the most common are infidelity and/or broken trust. 60% of couples polled in one survey cited cheating as the reason for their marriage crumbling. Sometimes the affair can be proven. But other times, a spouse will walk out based on suspicion.
One man claims he was caught completely off-guard when his wife of five years accused him of stepping out on her. She’s convinced he fathered a child outside of the marriage. She’s given him an ultimatum that’s left him feeling very uncomfortable. The man is now wondering whether he should give into his wife’s request. Or whether they’ve reached the end of the road.
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The man said they’d never had problems before, and he thought they were happily married
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Everything suddenly changed when the wife’s friend had a baby
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A lab would need samples from the man and the baby in order to do a paternity test
The most common type of paternity uses a cheek swab to collect a DNA sample from the potential father. Cleveland Clinic explains DNA like this: “the genetic material inside your body’s cells. It acts like an instruction manual to help make you who you are. You inherit DNA from both of your biological parents — half from each parent.”
A healthcare provider will use a cotton swab to get cheek (buccal) cells from the inside of your mouth. But there are also home paternity test kits available nowadays. “When we test a biological father, both the child and their father will share identical sections of DNA at each marker. If the man tested is not the child’s biological father, there will be differences in the DNA,” reads one laboratory site that specializes in DNA testing.
DNA paternity tests are quite accurate. The results show a probability of paternity. 0 means no genetic match between the man and the child. In other words, he isn’t the father. While a result of 99.9 indicates it’s highly likely the man is the genetic parent.
“Hand her the test results and divorce papers”: Many took the man’s side, with some advising him to leave his wife
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Hphizzle 1 year ago
She already has one foot out of the marriage. Take the dna test and present the results with divorce papers.
R Dennis 1 year ago
It's the same thing I would tell a wife if her husband demanded a paternity test... trust broken.
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FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
Even with DNA proof the child isn't yours, that doesn't prove you didn't cheat. You can't prove a negative, and now that it's clear your wife thinks you would/have cheated, it's only going to escalate. She will see signs of cheating in other situations. The trust is gone, and you should end things. The relationship is heading that way and dragging it out will only be more painful.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago
Argh, I need an update but it’s age locked and I don’t have the app. Can someone else check?
Bamboozled Panda 1 year ago
His account and the post are deleted but people in the comments think it’s fake
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Bookworm 1 year ago
That would definitely add more drama to the paternity issue
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Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein 1 year ago
The thing I find really wild is this idea of open phone policy to check on each other, ring cameras to check on visitors, tracking apps to check location. None of that is what trust looks like. I trust my partner unconditionally, and don't need any of this paranoia-inducing, spy-normalising technology to do so. (I have him on a map tracker in case he gets into trouble while walking in the hills). But also, if he asked me for a paternity test it would be game over.
Bookworm 1 year ago
I didn't get the sense that the cameras and the Google location were specifically for tracking each other. Lots of people have Ring cameras just to watch the front door, and Google tracks everywhere your phone goes unless you specifically turn your location off. They probably weren't using the tech to spy on each other, until OP had a reason to go looking for proof that his wife might be cheating.
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Hphizzle 1 year ago
She already has one foot out of the marriage. Take the dna test and present the results with divorce papers.
R Dennis 1 year ago
It's the same thing I would tell a wife if her husband demanded a paternity test... trust broken.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
Even with DNA proof the child isn't yours, that doesn't prove you didn't cheat. You can't prove a negative, and now that it's clear your wife thinks you would/have cheated, it's only going to escalate. She will see signs of cheating in other situations. The trust is gone, and you should end things. The relationship is heading that way and dragging it out will only be more painful.
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago
Argh, I need an update but it’s age locked and I don’t have the app. Can someone else check?
Bamboozled Panda 1 year ago
His account and the post are deleted but people in the comments think it’s fake
Load More Replies... Bookworm 1 year ago
That would definitely add more drama to the paternity issue
Load More Replies... Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein 1 year ago
The thing I find really wild is this idea of open phone policy to check on each other, ring cameras to check on visitors, tracking apps to check location. None of that is what trust looks like. I trust my partner unconditionally, and don't need any of this paranoia-inducing, spy-normalising technology to do so. (I have him on a map tracker in case he gets into trouble while walking in the hills). But also, if he asked me for a paternity test it would be game over.
Bookworm 1 year ago
I didn't get the sense that the cameras and the Google location were specifically for tracking each other. Lots of people have Ring cameras just to watch the front door, and Google tracks everywhere your phone goes unless you specifically turn your location off. They probably weren't using the tech to spy on each other, until OP had a reason to go looking for proof that his wife might be cheating.
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