“No Honey, You Need To Find Another Planner”: Wedding Planner Won’t Take Orders From Homophobic Bride, Fires Her
Wedding planning can be hectic, stressful work, so it makes sense why some would offload some of the responsibilities to a professional. After all, these people have experience, contacts, and no doubt many good ideas. But they are also humans, and can very quickly drop you as a client if you have the wrong attitude.
A wedding planner documented her story on TikTok and the video quickly went viral. She described a bride-to-be looking for a wedding photographer with a specific style. So she was a bit surprised when the bride called her sometime later, furious about her choice. It turns out, the photographer’s second shooter was his husband.
Some people allow their personal prejudices to run so deep that they will self-sabotage important life events
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A wedding planner told her TikTok followers about a time she had to ‘fire’ a bride
“I just fired a bride. I feel bad because we’re six months away from her wedding, but I don’t feel bad enough to keep working with her. As a lot of you know, I’m a virtual wedding planner and I was helping a bride plan her wedding on the outskirts of Atlanta. She procrastinated on finding a photographer and then said “Hey, can you help me find a photographer because I’m very overwhelmed.” And I said “Sure.””
Image credits: Agung Pandit Wiguna (not the actual photo)
At first, it was a normal client, a bride-to-be who was looking for a photographer that would fit her planned wedding
“She had a very specific aesthetic that she was looking for. She wasn’t looking for like, bright and airy or dark and moody. She was looking for like, true color documentary style, somewhere in between. She wanted two shooters, full-day coverage, within her budget, etc.”
I do so much research, I reached out to a bunch of Atlanta photographers that kind of fit her aesthetic. I asked them for their availability, I get pricing info, etc. And I find her the perfect photographer. And she said “Thanks, I’ll call them and make sure it’s a good fit.” And I said “Sounds great.””
Image credits: Olivia Bauso (not the actual photo)
So the planner scoured the area for compatible professionals and found one that was a great match
“She calls me today pretty [angry] and says we need to find a different photographer. And I’m like “Why, what happened?” She’s like “Well, his portfolio is great, but his second shooter is his husband.” And I was like “Oh, okay. Were they like, rude to you?” She was like “No, they’re perfectly nice. But his second shooter is his husband.” And I’m over here dumb as hell, no thoughts going on up here. And I’m like “I don’t understand the problem.””
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Unfortunately, the bride’s homophobia led to a tirade against the planner, causing to her be dropped as a client
“She’s like “Well, they’re gay. And that goes against our values, and it’s not appropriate for a family event, and I can’t believe that you would feel comfortable suggesting them to me.” I’m like, first of all, I didn’t know they were gay. I don’t make it a habit to call photographers and be like “Hey, are you by chance sleeping with your second shooter?” Two, if you spent any time researching me or spent two seconds on my TikTok you would know that I would never see that as a problem.
So she was like “You need to find me more photographers.” And I was like “No, honey, you need to find another planner.” So I guess let this be a warning to anyone thinking of hiring me. I’m not a homophobe. And I don’t want my clients to be.”
You can watch the full TikTok here
@laurafragosohiller I just fired a bride #weddingtiktok #weddingplanner #weddingplanner #bridaltok #weddingvendor #storytime #lgbtq #lgbtqia ♬ original sound – Laura Fragoso Hiller
Commenters applauded the wedding planner for her integrity and mocked the bride for her bigotry
Of course, gay photographers always make love in front of clients weddings, to spite their god and steal more of his rainbows! Seriously, I feel sorry for the photographer couple, that bridezilla probably went off against them like a volcano telling them about their sinful life, considering she even complained to the poor wedding planner.
Gay people do not predate on kids. Any kids at the wedding are more at risk from their own families.
People, Cityhamster is correct, being gay does not mean you won't predate on kids any more than being straight, or being female, or male, or whatever. He did not comment on the second sentence, which is true, that kids are more likely to be victimized by someone they know, likely a family member, not a stranger. And that family member could be from any group.
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If you have religious beliefs that are so bigoted-or whatever you want to call it- you literally can't have someone taking pictures who you suspect is gay, then it's your own responsibility to make sure you are working with people who follow your "values". Do searches for Christian wedding planners. But since you don't want to do that because you don't want to out yourself as a horrible, evil bigot, then maybe you should keep your fu(king mouth shut. Also, just because I saw something in the news recently, don't get into the wedding industry or issuing wedding licenses if you don't want to serve people who want to get married. And maybe don't become a pharmacist if you don't want to give women birth control/medications that you are against. In fact, I think we should be allowed to fire people who work in public service who don't want to serve specific members of the public out of bias. If I had a problem with alcohol, I don't becomes a bartender because I'm not an idiot.
Sincerely held religious beliefs are not evil. Do you feel the same about Orthodox Jews and eating Kosher? Or Muslims and gays? You are right about one thing though, it is their own responsibility to make sure everything aligns with their values. But for some reason Christians are the only ones not allowed to have religious beliefs without being labeled as evil bigots.
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Of course, gay photographers always make love in front of clients weddings, to spite their god and steal more of his rainbows! Seriously, I feel sorry for the photographer couple, that bridezilla probably went off against them like a volcano telling them about their sinful life, considering she even complained to the poor wedding planner.
Gay people do not predate on kids. Any kids at the wedding are more at risk from their own families.
People, Cityhamster is correct, being gay does not mean you won't predate on kids any more than being straight, or being female, or male, or whatever. He did not comment on the second sentence, which is true, that kids are more likely to be victimized by someone they know, likely a family member, not a stranger. And that family member could be from any group.
Load More Replies... If you have religious beliefs that are so bigoted-or whatever you want to call it- you literally can't have someone taking pictures who you suspect is gay, then it's your own responsibility to make sure you are working with people who follow your "values". Do searches for Christian wedding planners. But since you don't want to do that because you don't want to out yourself as a horrible, evil bigot, then maybe you should keep your fu(king mouth shut. Also, just because I saw something in the news recently, don't get into the wedding industry or issuing wedding licenses if you don't want to serve people who want to get married. And maybe don't become a pharmacist if you don't want to give women birth control/medications that you are against. In fact, I think we should be allowed to fire people who work in public service who don't want to serve specific members of the public out of bias. If I had a problem with alcohol, I don't becomes a bartender because I'm not an idiot.
Sincerely held religious beliefs are not evil. Do you feel the same about Orthodox Jews and eating Kosher? Or Muslims and gays? You are right about one thing though, it is their own responsibility to make sure everything aligns with their values. But for some reason Christians are the only ones not allowed to have religious beliefs without being labeled as evil bigots.
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