
Lunatic Bride Sends Out A List Of Crazy Rules To Her Bridesmaids And People Don’t Even Know What To Say
We’ve all heard stories about over-controlling nuptial freaks, aka Bridezillas, who take wedding planning to a surreal level of craziness resembling the Kardashians’ show. Some of that juicy stuff ends up in the Wedding Shaming subreddit and you can read entertaining and hand-selected wedding dramas from there in our previous posts here and here.
This story also comes from the same subreddit. The redditor u/justasianenough shared an incident on how, to her very big surprise, she was invited to be a bridesmaid for her best friend’s sister who was always very “mean” to her. With red flags already coming from the complicated relationship the author and the bride have had throughout the years, it got way crazier when the bride sent out the list of bridesmaid rules.
Written in a rude tone of voice, the list included things like asking the potential bridesmaids to lose weight and not get pregnant as they’ll be uninvited. Apparently, bridesmaids had two choices: to either ‘suck it up’ or ‘drop out now,’ wrote the bride and got everyone’s eyes on the subreddit rolling big time.
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Here’s the whole story from the author who received a list of rules the bridezilla sent out to her bridesmaids
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The bridezilla phenomenon is very well-documented in the abundance of stories surfing around the internet. So to find out an expert’s take on why some brides-to-be become so overly controlling, rude and chaotic when saying ‘I Do’ is right on the finish line, Bored Panda contacted Annabel Candler, a professional wedding planner and consultant.
“You know you have come across a Bridezilla when they keep having to correct themselves when they say ‘…but it’s my special day!! I mean our day!’. They will vent steam when someone tries to change the plan or offer a suggestion beyond the meticulous theming,” Annabel said when asked how you know you’ve encountered a Bridezilla.
Although Annabel hasn’t actually ‘luckily’ met one, she said that “it seems many films and sitcoms have captured the occurrence well. Take a look at Monica in Friends for a start; The huge binder, the obsession, the stress!” And there are a few certain factors for a Bridezilla to develop. “It’s when wedding planning has been in their minds since they could walk or perfection is a factor in most of their life. There is passion and love there, but it might manifest into a monstrous attitude if not carefully managed.”
And when it comes to telling your bridesmaids how they should look, Annabel said it really depends on a particular situation. She also recommended getting the budget down before committing to any bridesmaid promises. “You can offer to pay for the dresses, but you can also be super flexible with styles. Mix and match, same color but different styles, or vice versa.”
“But you don’t have to buy a ‘bridesmaid dress’ either,” Annabel said. “They are just dresses, so hunt beyond that description. Also think about who are bridesmaids: their hair color, body shape, confidence level, etc.,” she said, adding that in order for a bridesmaid to be “a team player, they need to feel great!”
No bride ever has any right to demand others to cut their hair.
I completely agree. Some of the things were pretty mild (tats can be covered with foundation, that's really the only mild thing), but most of them were absolutely terrible. Hair is a very important part of some cultures, and demanding people cut it is preposterous.
I would just wear a wig
I worked hard to get it as long as it is (and its only just longer than where my shoulders are!)
I think the demands about pregnancy and weight loss *far* outweigh the haircut thing tbh.
i said the same thing in my comment. one thing i did forget to say tho one of my bridesmaids was pregnant during my wedding did i care....of course i couldnt wait to meet the little guy. i told her to get a dress she knew shed b comfy in. i cared for the right reason. i would NEVER uninvite her. she was stunning on the day of the wedding and my wedding was her 5th anniversary my husband even took the mic from the mc to make an announcement about it. ya it was our big day but u kno wat my husband and his closest friend since he was a kid get to share the same day for their anniversary. we care about the ppl in our parties and the ppl we invited
NORPHYSICALLY CHANGE THEIR BODY IN ANYWAY SHAPE OR FORM! SHE JUST SHOULD'VE HIRED MODELS! CUZ LORD KNOWS I WOULDN'T EVEN CONSIDER BEING IN THAT WEDDING! Besides aren't bridesmaids suppose to be family and friends of the bride?! If the doesn't like it and WATCH wat she is doing and/or saying She'll be up at the altar ALL ALONE! NOW HOW IS THAT GOINGN O LOOK TO PTHE. "ON LOOKERS?!
I didn't cut my hair when I started chemo and it fell out (thinned all over not patches) so there is no way of cut my hair for this idiot.
Her poor Fiancè.
And her poor sister
Unless she put some sort of pressure on him he chose his fate - and marriage is no longer the life (or death) sentence it used to be. Divorce is possible. Still I do wonder how people like that end up with likable partners
Stop feeling sorry for these people. He doesn't know? Theyde probably equals
Yes, Jenn is right. Run, Forrest, Run. What kind of psychotic bride makes such a list? The day is not just about her, it is about her partner too. People can look however they want. What an attention-seeking little s**t!
No bride ever has any right to demand others to cut their hair.
I completely agree. Some of the things were pretty mild (tats can be covered with foundation, that's really the only mild thing), but most of them were absolutely terrible. Hair is a very important part of some cultures, and demanding people cut it is preposterous.
I would just wear a wig
I worked hard to get it as long as it is (and its only just longer than where my shoulders are!)
I think the demands about pregnancy and weight loss *far* outweigh the haircut thing tbh.
i said the same thing in my comment. one thing i did forget to say tho one of my bridesmaids was pregnant during my wedding did i care....of course i couldnt wait to meet the little guy. i told her to get a dress she knew shed b comfy in. i cared for the right reason. i would NEVER uninvite her. she was stunning on the day of the wedding and my wedding was her 5th anniversary my husband even took the mic from the mc to make an announcement about it. ya it was our big day but u kno wat my husband and his closest friend since he was a kid get to share the same day for their anniversary. we care about the ppl in our parties and the ppl we invited
NORPHYSICALLY CHANGE THEIR BODY IN ANYWAY SHAPE OR FORM! SHE JUST SHOULD'VE HIRED MODELS! CUZ LORD KNOWS I WOULDN'T EVEN CONSIDER BEING IN THAT WEDDING! Besides aren't bridesmaids suppose to be family and friends of the bride?! If the doesn't like it and WATCH wat she is doing and/or saying She'll be up at the altar ALL ALONE! NOW HOW IS THAT GOINGN O LOOK TO PTHE. "ON LOOKERS?!
I didn't cut my hair when I started chemo and it fell out (thinned all over not patches) so there is no way of cut my hair for this idiot.
Her poor Fiancè.
And her poor sister
Unless she put some sort of pressure on him he chose his fate - and marriage is no longer the life (or death) sentence it used to be. Divorce is possible. Still I do wonder how people like that end up with likable partners
Stop feeling sorry for these people. He doesn't know? Theyde probably equals
Yes, Jenn is right. Run, Forrest, Run. What kind of psychotic bride makes such a list? The day is not just about her, it is about her partner too. People can look however they want. What an attention-seeking little s**t!