Bride Stunned As Wedding Caterers Hand Her Different Food Than All Guests Because Of Her Diet

As The Rolling Stones famously sang, “You can’t always get what you want.” But there are a few times in life where you should definitely be able to call the shots. And one of those is on your wedding day. If you want to have your favorite local band perform, have a fountain of nacho cheese during the reception or ask guests to wear all white, that’s your prerogative.

So when one bride found out during her reception that the caterer failed to appropriately accommodate her food allergies, she was heartbroken. Below, you’ll find the full story that the newlywed recently posted on Reddit, as well as some of the replies readers left her.

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Bride looks disappointed holding a cupcake, highlighting issues with wedding vendors and allergy-related cupcake problems.

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This bride learned the hard way that not all companies know how to properly prepare allergy-friendly food

Bride disappointed as wedding vendors fail to provide allergy-safe cupcakes due to her dairy intolerance at the celebration

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Wedding vendors neglect bride’s allergy, leaving her without cupcakes on her wedding day.

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Bride upset as wedding vendors fail to provide cupcakes due to her allergy, highlighting vendor challenges.

Wedding vendors failed to provide cupcakes for bride due to her allergy, causing last-minute issues before the wedding.

Bride left without cupcakes at wedding due to allergy, wedding vendors fail to provide suitable dessert options.

Bride expressing disappointment as wedding vendors fail to provide allergy-friendly cupcakes on her wedding day.

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Text excerpt explaining the bride’s allergy caused wedding vendors to leave her with no cupcakes as an alternative option.

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Bride reacts with shock and frustration after wedding vendors leave her with no cupcakes due to allergy concerns.

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Bride looking upset and thoughtful after wedding vendors failed to provide cupcakes due to her allergy concerns.

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Bride disappointed as wedding vendors fail to provide cupcakes due to her allergy, highlighting challenges with allergy-friendly treats.

Bride upset as wedding vendors fail to provide cupcakes due to her allergy despite prior communication.

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Many readers took the bride’s side and called out the caterers for leaving her disappointed

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Wedding vendors causing cupcake issues due to bride’s allergy and challenges with cross-contamination processes.

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Wedding vendors fail to accommodate bride’s allergy, leaving her without cupcakes on her special day.

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However, some blamed the bride for assuming that the vendor would cater to her allergy

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Bride left with no cupcakes by wedding vendors due to allergy, receiving only fruit cup instead of dessert on her wedding day.

And some shared similar stories of their own about dietary restriction drama

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Reddit post describing wedding vendors failing to provide cupcakes due to bride’s allergy, causing stress before the event.

“The whole reason I came here was to shame them, not to be shamed myself”

To find out more about this situation, we got in touch with the bride, Reddit user Chill_dog_. She was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and share a few more details about her situation.

“Many replies assumed we were able to sue or needed a lawyer,” she noted. “It’s not that easy to sue or lawyer up in my country, and we don’t have a big budget to fight this. Suing is not something standard and has a very difficult process.”

“The main reason I am angry is not because they made the mistake of not serving me anything we wanted. But the fact that they won’t admit it was a mistake and call it standard procedure,” the author clarified.

“Also, the whole reason I came here was to shame them, not to be shamed myself,” Chill_dog_ says. “[It] was mainly written due to the fact that the subreddit is called wedding shaming, and I was there to vent about a vendor.”

One in ten adults in the United States has a food allergy

Bride with allergy looking disappointed while holding phone in kitchen, surrounded by baking ingredients, no cupcakes from wedding vendors.

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Most wedding vendors go above and beyond to accommodate the happy couple. As long as their requests are realistic, there’s absolutely no reason why their special day shouldn’t be exactly how they imagined it. And one of the easiest ways to make a bride, groom and their guests happy is by serving delicious food. As long as they can actually eat it, that is.

According to Food Allergy Research & Education, 33 million Americans have food allergies. This means that one in ten adults and one in thirteen children have to eliminate certain foods from their diets. The most common allergens in the U.S. today are peanuts, milk, shellfish and tree nuts. But many are also allergic to eggs, wheat, soy, fish and sesame.  

Considering how prevalent these allergies are, one would think that understanding how to accommodate them would be common knowledge. After all, being exposed to these allergens can lead to serious, and sometimes even life-threatening, consequences. 

Every year, 3.4 million Americans end up in the emergency room due to their food allergies. And over 40% of American children with food allergies have experienced a severe allergic reaction, such as anaphylaxis. 

While it may not be the default to prepare food without common allergens, it’s certainly not hard to do, especially with all of the alternatives available today. Dairy, in particular, is becoming extremely easy to avoid, as it’s estimated that over two thirds of the world’s population is lactose intolerant. 

Any skilled wedding vendor should know how to accommodate food allergies

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Because of this, and because many have chosen to avoid dairy products for ethical reasons, there are dozens of milk, cheese and butter alternatives on the market today. And when it comes to baking, it’s incredibly easy to find dairy free or vegan recipes that taste just like the classic versions containing animal products. Gone are the days of having bland, boring substitutions. 

When it comes to catering a dairy free wedding, choosing the right vendor will be the most important step. Seeking out a vendor who is specifically allergy friendly will ensure that the bride, groom or any guests who have dietary restrictions don’t have to miss out on the tasty treats served on the big day. 

Chateau Gassies even notes in their article about how to choose the right wedding caterer that any good vendor will know how to properly accommodate dietary restrictions. Everyone in attendance should be well fed, and no one should feel like their menu was an afterthought. 

At the same time, having a tasting prior to the big day can prevent any issues from arising later down the line. There shouldn’t be any surprises on the wedding day; the bride and groom should feel confident knowing that they’re happy with the exact menu that will be served.

While the bride in this story admitted that hindsight is always 20/20, many commenters also noted that the vendor should be taking accountability for their disappointing dessert selection. We would love to hear your thoughts on the situation in the comments below, pandas. Then, if you’re interested in checking out another article discussing similar wedding drama, look no further than right here. 

Later, the bride updated readers on how the company responded to her complaints

Bride on phone looking concerned while discussing wedding vendors and cupcake allergy issues before event.

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Bride disappointed by wedding vendors failing to provide allergy-friendly cupcakes for her special day celebration

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Finally, the bride shared another update on the situation

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Meanwhile, some readers thought that she should have been even harsher on the company

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