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Bride Stunned As Wedding Caterers Hand Her Different Food Than All Guests Because Of Her Diet
Bride with allergy looking upset while holding a pastry, highlighting issues with wedding vendors and cupcakes.

Bride Stunned As Wedding Caterers Hand Her Different Food Than All Guests Because Of Her Diet

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As The Rolling Stones famously sang, “You can’t always get what you want.” But there are a few times in life where you should definitely be able to call the shots. And one of those is on your wedding day. If you want to have your favorite local band perform, have a fountain of nacho cheese during the reception or ask guests to wear all white, that’s your prerogative.

So when one bride found out during her reception that the caterer failed to appropriately accommodate her food allergies, she was heartbroken. Below, you’ll find the full story that the newlywed recently posted on Reddit, as well as some of the replies readers left her.

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    This bride learned the hard way that not all companies know how to properly prepare allergy-friendly food

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    Many readers took the bride’s side and called out the caterers for leaving her disappointed

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    However, some blamed the bride for assuming that the vendor would cater to her allergy

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    And some shared similar stories of their own about dietary restriction drama

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    “The whole reason I came here was to shame them, not to be shamed myself”

    To find out more about this situation, we got in touch with the bride, Reddit user Chill_dog_. She was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and share a few more details about her situation.

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    “Many replies assumed we were able to sue or needed a lawyer,” she noted. “It’s not that easy to sue or lawyer up in my country, and we don’t have a big budget to fight this. Suing is not something standard and has a very difficult process.”

    “The main reason I am angry is not because they made the mistake of not serving me anything we wanted. But the fact that they won’t admit it was a mistake and call it standard procedure,” the author clarified.

    “Also, the whole reason I came here was to shame them, not to be shamed myself,” Chill_dog_ says. “[It] was mainly written due to the fact that the subreddit is called wedding shaming, and I was there to vent about a vendor.”

    One in ten adults in the United States has a food allergy

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    Most wedding vendors go above and beyond to accommodate the happy couple. As long as their requests are realistic, there’s absolutely no reason why their special day shouldn’t be exactly how they imagined it. And one of the easiest ways to make a bride, groom and their guests happy is by serving delicious food. As long as they can actually eat it, that is.

    According to Food Allergy Research & Education, 33 million Americans have food allergies. This means that one in ten adults and one in thirteen children have to eliminate certain foods from their diets. The most common allergens in the U.S. today are peanuts, milk, shellfish and tree nuts. But many are also allergic to eggs, wheat, soy, fish and sesame.  

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    Considering how prevalent these allergies are, one would think that understanding how to accommodate them would be common knowledge. After all, being exposed to these allergens can lead to serious, and sometimes even life-threatening, consequences. 

    Every year, 3.4 million Americans end up in the emergency room due to their food allergies. And over 40% of American children with food allergies have experienced a severe allergic reaction, such as anaphylaxis. 

    While it may not be the default to prepare food without common allergens, it’s certainly not hard to do, especially with all of the alternatives available today. Dairy, in particular, is becoming extremely easy to avoid, as it’s estimated that over two thirds of the world’s population is lactose intolerant

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    Any skilled wedding vendor should know how to accommodate food allergies

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    Because of this, and because many have chosen to avoid dairy products for ethical reasons, there are dozens of milk, cheese and butter alternatives on the market today. And when it comes to baking, it’s incredibly easy to find dairy free or vegan recipes that taste just like the classic versions containing animal products. Gone are the days of having bland, boring substitutions. 

    When it comes to catering a dairy free wedding, choosing the right vendor will be the most important step. Seeking out a vendor who is specifically allergy friendly will ensure that the bride, groom or any guests who have dietary restrictions don’t have to miss out on the tasty treats served on the big day. 

    Chateau Gassies even notes in their article about how to choose the right wedding caterer that any good vendor will know how to properly accommodate dietary restrictions. Everyone in attendance should be well fed, and no one should feel like their menu was an afterthought. 

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    At the same time, having a tasting prior to the big day can prevent any issues from arising later down the line. There shouldn’t be any surprises on the wedding day; the bride and groom should feel confident knowing that they’re happy with the exact menu that will be served.

    While the bride in this story admitted that hindsight is always 20/20, many commenters also noted that the vendor should be taking accountability for their disappointing dessert selection. We would love to hear your thoughts on the situation in the comments below, pandas. Then, if you’re interested in checking out another article discussing similar wedding drama, look no further than right here

    Later, the bride updated readers on how the company responded to her complaints

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    Finally, the bride shared another update on the situation

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    Meanwhile, some readers thought that she should have been even harsher on the company

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Lee Gilliland
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not a professional caterer. Non-dairy is an easy accommodation for any professional chef.

    BlackestDawn
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah especially when their so called accommodations is just substitutions, even on stuff that didn't have dairy (main meal). It seems their protocol is to substitute everything a person eats if they have any notes about allergy/intolerance, which is just stupid.

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    Dusty's mom
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cupcakes can be made lactose free. Buttercream can be lactose free. The caterers are idiots.

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    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s unfortunate that she’ll probably end up removing the bad review if she wants a refund. Leaving a review like that is essential for future customers, many who have allergies. Maybe the owner didn’t know what was going on in his business but that is his fault for not overseeing their policy and not OP’s fault.

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    Lee Gilliland
    Community Member
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not a professional caterer. Non-dairy is an easy accommodation for any professional chef.

    BlackestDawn
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah especially when their so called accommodations is just substitutions, even on stuff that didn't have dairy (main meal). It seems their protocol is to substitute everything a person eats if they have any notes about allergy/intolerance, which is just stupid.

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    Dusty's mom
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cupcakes can be made lactose free. Buttercream can be lactose free. The caterers are idiots.

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    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s unfortunate that she’ll probably end up removing the bad review if she wants a refund. Leaving a review like that is essential for future customers, many who have allergies. Maybe the owner didn’t know what was going on in his business but that is his fault for not overseeing their policy and not OP’s fault.

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