Groomsman Orders Some Pizzas During Vegetarian Wedding Because There Was Nothing To Eat, Bride Says She Won’t Forgive Him
Recently, a 36-year-old groomsman shared an incident that happened at his long time friend Sara’s wedding. “I’m on medication for anxiety and depression that has to be taken at a certain time of the day and also requires food, so I asked Sara what time the food would be served,” the author, who goes by the handle u/pizzaweddingthrow, shared some background information in the post on the AITA subreddit.
Turns out, this was a vegetarian wedding, which the author assured was no problem to him at all. “The only issue I had was when I found out the size of the meals,” he said and added that “The entire course consisted of a side salad, a side of corn, and a side of broccoli…” As you may suspect, this was far from enough for a groomsman of 6’2″, 185 lbs.
So he came up with a plan to “covertly” order some pizza, sneak out from the reception and grab a few slices… What he didn’t know was that he was far from the only guest at the wedding with a grumbling stomach.
Recently, a groomsman at a vegetarian wedding has shared how he covertly ordered some pizzas to snack in his car since the portions at the reception were very small
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To find out an expert’s take on this whole incident, Bored Panda spoke with Aurelie Della Maggiore, the wedding planner and wedding designer based in the French Alps from Lucy Till French Weddings. Aurelie said that from her experience, she has never heard about guests being unsatisfied with the wedding dinner portions, and added “it’s also the caterer’s responsibility to recommend the right amount of food per guest.”
“Here the issue is really more about feeding your bridal party during the day prior to the wedding dinner,” she said and added that “Sometimes brides and grooms are focused on the wedding itself and forget about the rest of the day that could be long prior to the wedding.”
Aurelie believes that “it would have been good to think about feeding the bridal party and at least make sure to have snacks available to avoid that situation.”
“We usually take care of the bridal party from the day before the wedding and no one gets hungry. That’s why it’s always good to hire a wedding planner,” the professional wedding planner concluded.
And this is what people had to say about this whole situation
The article is missing a crucial plot point - that THE GROOM WAS EATING THE PIZZA AS WELL. It skipped an image, I guess, in which that's explained, hence the bride found out what's going on...
And look at the person who didn't get blamed.
I also checked further into OP’s additional comments. The mother of the bride was made aware of his meds and needs at the rehearsal party and she stated that there was no need to worry and there would be ample food. At the wedding, after the dinner one of the other bridesmaids, a friend of OP asked if he was ok to take his meds. He told her then that He needed to order something and have it delivered outside at his car or have to leave to get food. He is 100% NTA in the situation.
I had to literally Ctl+F GROOM to see if it was mentioned anywhere that the Groom actually partook in this pizza feast haha Thank you
I did the search and didn't see where it said the groom had some pizza. It just 12 members of the wedding party. I think she should be glad he was discrete. He didn't force anyone to eat.
Oh come on folks. How TF is ordering a pizza "ruining" someone's wedding, for God's sake? This dude had a nutritional need that wasn't being med for his body and meds. Sarah is a whiny brat and the "friends", especially those who actually ate the pizza can for f#ck themselves. I mean, this woman should have had way more regard for her lifelong friend. And the mom staring daggers can screw herself as well. Move on dude, this woman isn't your friend if she let's this break her and your relationship.......goodness these are getting stupider and stupider.
Thank you!!! I feel like that too... either this stories are all fake, or people is getting more and more stupid, making a fuzz and getting offended for everything, and getting triggered by everything...
ESH. The lack of food is awful, but you could have handled this better. No one could blame you for discretely eating a sandwich or something. Ordering pizza and talking about it is not very gentleman-like.
Where exactly was he supposed to get the sandwich though? I've certainly never taken a sandwich with me to a wedding. He was hungry. He bought his own food. Why is that a problem?
I think the problem was telling others and expanding the operation.
I don't really get why that's an issue either. People were hungry so they found themselves some food. It's not like they complained to the bride about the food they were given or demand the wedding party give them more.
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Thing is, he knew beforehand that there will be too little food for him, he even brought it up with the bride. It's not entirely his fault that the whole pizza operation grew so big, but it did end up looking like he was throwing an alternative party at his car, which could've been avoided if he just quietly ate a sandwich by himself.
From how I read it he didn't know until the day of when he was already at the wedding not before and a groomsmen disappearing is gonna attract attention anyway. Other wise why would you want them there if you wouldn't miss them.
I don't know, in my country weddings seem much less structured (e.g. nobody color-codes their clothes like they're part of the decorations) so maybe it's that the whole attitude is different... but I've never been to a wedding where a best man / maid of honor would have to be constantly available to the couple. Unless you disappear for an hour without telling anyone, nobody will keep track.
How is a sandwich better than pizza? I'm genuinely confused about your logic here. He still would have had to either leave the wedding to go buy the sandwich, or order it to be delivered...Further, he told one friend, who told everyone else in the wedding party.
Something cold (like a sandwich) you could make at home or buy on the way to the ceremony and eat discretely in your car. Ordering pizza requires a delivery person to come to the venue or be intercepted in the parking lot. IMO this groomsman should have either made/bought a packed lunch for himself or said to his friend, weeks before the wedding “hey, the wedding party will be there longer than most guests, why don’t I arrange for a platter of veggie sandwiches to be in the dressing room so you don’t have to worry about it?”
Yes, he should have used his psychic powers to predict the absolute baby portions of food that would be served at that wedding.
Right?! He was told it would be vegetarian catering, not that the "meal" and portion sizes would be akin to a midmorning preschool snack. Plus it's not like he was the one telling others about the pizza, his friend blabbed about it. And if the groom himself was getting in on the pizza party, then that tells you right there that the food/portion sizes were not only an issue for OP. Hell, it appears that the groom wasn't even consulted about what HE might want on his wedding day. Most of all though, it's freaking 2022, "traditional" weddings are so passe. What may have been "proper" in the past is not going to fly with a lot of folks today, including acting like a spoiled brat and forcing your agenda on others. If you're not going to provide basic necessities for your guests then you really don't have the right to get upset when they practice self care and see to their own needs.
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Why would ANYBODY bring their own food to a wedding when they are told that food is being provided? That's not a thing.
Actually it is. I been to weddings that had limited bar so others got there own liquor. Also he had out in his car so as not to make a scene. He also had medicine that he need to take with food (that means to protect your stomach).
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You can eat a sandwich in private, whereas pizza smells like you ordered an entire restaurant and everyone knows you have pizza within minutes.
So because he refused to starve he wasn't a gentleman? If you don't want people to order food at your wedding, you should serve meals for adults, not rabbits.
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Not because he refused to starve, but because he was talking about having his food delivered so it became a thing. Being a gentleman also means not rubbing other peoples mistakes (ie the couple not providing enough food) in their faces,
How could he have handled it better. Say it to her face?
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No, being discrete. Bride was wrong about the catering. He was wrong about making a public event of having food delivered. So hence the ESH.
Where in the world are you getting that HE made a spectacle of it? He discreetly told a single friend of his who then took it upon himself to share that information. OP wasn't out there, going around surreptitiously and asking "who else wants to chip in for some 'za?!" Did you even read what was written?!
He only told one friend who then spread the word.
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I agree. He knew in advance the food was going to be an issue for him, so he could have packed a cooler in the car with some ice packs and a couple of sandwiches, granola bars, etc. Having a delivery driver show up with pizza boxes was bound to draw attention.
Why would you bring your own food to a wedding? Nobody does that unless it's a potluck
How was he supposed to know the portion sizes and meal itself weren't going to be enough? All he was told was that it would be vegetarian. That doesn't mean "only a small salad, 2 veggie sides, and a single piece of cake" - there are lots of ways to do a vegetarian banquet or feast and ensure people's hunger is sated and they walk away happy and full. You're assuming way too much here (like that vegetarian = not enough or not filling enough) and you seem to believe that he should have, as well, without any other information beyond the fact that the catering would be meatless. Fact of the matter is, this bride was cheap and didn't provide enough food. And based on her reaction, it seems like she just wanted to force her dietary choices on others without regard for THEIR dietary needs. I guess all the hypoglycemics and diabetics in attendance, who depend on regular meals, were just supposed to be SOL then?
The article is missing a crucial plot point - that THE GROOM WAS EATING THE PIZZA AS WELL. It skipped an image, I guess, in which that's explained, hence the bride found out what's going on...
And look at the person who didn't get blamed.
I also checked further into OP’s additional comments. The mother of the bride was made aware of his meds and needs at the rehearsal party and she stated that there was no need to worry and there would be ample food. At the wedding, after the dinner one of the other bridesmaids, a friend of OP asked if he was ok to take his meds. He told her then that He needed to order something and have it delivered outside at his car or have to leave to get food. He is 100% NTA in the situation.
I had to literally Ctl+F GROOM to see if it was mentioned anywhere that the Groom actually partook in this pizza feast haha Thank you
I did the search and didn't see where it said the groom had some pizza. It just 12 members of the wedding party. I think she should be glad he was discrete. He didn't force anyone to eat.
Oh come on folks. How TF is ordering a pizza "ruining" someone's wedding, for God's sake? This dude had a nutritional need that wasn't being med for his body and meds. Sarah is a whiny brat and the "friends", especially those who actually ate the pizza can for f#ck themselves. I mean, this woman should have had way more regard for her lifelong friend. And the mom staring daggers can screw herself as well. Move on dude, this woman isn't your friend if she let's this break her and your relationship.......goodness these are getting stupider and stupider.
Thank you!!! I feel like that too... either this stories are all fake, or people is getting more and more stupid, making a fuzz and getting offended for everything, and getting triggered by everything...
ESH. The lack of food is awful, but you could have handled this better. No one could blame you for discretely eating a sandwich or something. Ordering pizza and talking about it is not very gentleman-like.
Where exactly was he supposed to get the sandwich though? I've certainly never taken a sandwich with me to a wedding. He was hungry. He bought his own food. Why is that a problem?
I think the problem was telling others and expanding the operation.
I don't really get why that's an issue either. People were hungry so they found themselves some food. It's not like they complained to the bride about the food they were given or demand the wedding party give them more.
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Thing is, he knew beforehand that there will be too little food for him, he even brought it up with the bride. It's not entirely his fault that the whole pizza operation grew so big, but it did end up looking like he was throwing an alternative party at his car, which could've been avoided if he just quietly ate a sandwich by himself.
From how I read it he didn't know until the day of when he was already at the wedding not before and a groomsmen disappearing is gonna attract attention anyway. Other wise why would you want them there if you wouldn't miss them.
I don't know, in my country weddings seem much less structured (e.g. nobody color-codes their clothes like they're part of the decorations) so maybe it's that the whole attitude is different... but I've never been to a wedding where a best man / maid of honor would have to be constantly available to the couple. Unless you disappear for an hour without telling anyone, nobody will keep track.
How is a sandwich better than pizza? I'm genuinely confused about your logic here. He still would have had to either leave the wedding to go buy the sandwich, or order it to be delivered...Further, he told one friend, who told everyone else in the wedding party.
Something cold (like a sandwich) you could make at home or buy on the way to the ceremony and eat discretely in your car. Ordering pizza requires a delivery person to come to the venue or be intercepted in the parking lot. IMO this groomsman should have either made/bought a packed lunch for himself or said to his friend, weeks before the wedding “hey, the wedding party will be there longer than most guests, why don’t I arrange for a platter of veggie sandwiches to be in the dressing room so you don’t have to worry about it?”
Yes, he should have used his psychic powers to predict the absolute baby portions of food that would be served at that wedding.
Right?! He was told it would be vegetarian catering, not that the "meal" and portion sizes would be akin to a midmorning preschool snack. Plus it's not like he was the one telling others about the pizza, his friend blabbed about it. And if the groom himself was getting in on the pizza party, then that tells you right there that the food/portion sizes were not only an issue for OP. Hell, it appears that the groom wasn't even consulted about what HE might want on his wedding day. Most of all though, it's freaking 2022, "traditional" weddings are so passe. What may have been "proper" in the past is not going to fly with a lot of folks today, including acting like a spoiled brat and forcing your agenda on others. If you're not going to provide basic necessities for your guests then you really don't have the right to get upset when they practice self care and see to their own needs.
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Why would ANYBODY bring their own food to a wedding when they are told that food is being provided? That's not a thing.
Actually it is. I been to weddings that had limited bar so others got there own liquor. Also he had out in his car so as not to make a scene. He also had medicine that he need to take with food (that means to protect your stomach).
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You can eat a sandwich in private, whereas pizza smells like you ordered an entire restaurant and everyone knows you have pizza within minutes.
So because he refused to starve he wasn't a gentleman? If you don't want people to order food at your wedding, you should serve meals for adults, not rabbits.
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Not because he refused to starve, but because he was talking about having his food delivered so it became a thing. Being a gentleman also means not rubbing other peoples mistakes (ie the couple not providing enough food) in their faces,
How could he have handled it better. Say it to her face?
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No, being discrete. Bride was wrong about the catering. He was wrong about making a public event of having food delivered. So hence the ESH.
Where in the world are you getting that HE made a spectacle of it? He discreetly told a single friend of his who then took it upon himself to share that information. OP wasn't out there, going around surreptitiously and asking "who else wants to chip in for some 'za?!" Did you even read what was written?!
He only told one friend who then spread the word.
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I agree. He knew in advance the food was going to be an issue for him, so he could have packed a cooler in the car with some ice packs and a couple of sandwiches, granola bars, etc. Having a delivery driver show up with pizza boxes was bound to draw attention.
Why would you bring your own food to a wedding? Nobody does that unless it's a potluck
How was he supposed to know the portion sizes and meal itself weren't going to be enough? All he was told was that it would be vegetarian. That doesn't mean "only a small salad, 2 veggie sides, and a single piece of cake" - there are lots of ways to do a vegetarian banquet or feast and ensure people's hunger is sated and they walk away happy and full. You're assuming way too much here (like that vegetarian = not enough or not filling enough) and you seem to believe that he should have, as well, without any other information beyond the fact that the catering would be meatless. Fact of the matter is, this bride was cheap and didn't provide enough food. And based on her reaction, it seems like she just wanted to force her dietary choices on others without regard for THEIR dietary needs. I guess all the hypoglycemics and diabetics in attendance, who depend on regular meals, were just supposed to be SOL then?