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Woman Refuses To Change The Destination Of Her And Her BF’s Getaway After Learning Sister “Plans” To Spend Her Honeymoon There
Woman Refuses To Change The Destination Of Her And Her BF’s Getaway After Learning Sister “Plans” To Spend Her Honeymoon There
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Woman Refuses To Change The Destination Of Her And Her BF’s Getaway After Learning Sister “Plans” To Spend Her Honeymoon There

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It’s not a crime to want a perfect wedding and all things related to this special occasion – however, it is pretty bonkers to find yourself willing to sacrifice all human decency to have it your way. 

A Reddit user that goes by u/Traditional_List_263 recently took to one of the platform’s communities to share that when her sister, who’s a bride-to-be, learned that the woman’s anniversary getaway destination coincides with her honeymoon location, she threatened to remove her from the wedding if she doesn’t cancel or change the location.

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    The woman asks her sibling to cancel or change the getaway destination and threatens to remove her from the wedding if she won’t do so

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    AITA for vacationing at my sister’s dream honeymoon destination?” – this internet user took to one of Reddit’s most thought-provoking and judgmental communities to ask its members if she’s indeed a jerk for refusing to change her anniversary getaway location after her sister demanded she did so. The post managed to garner over 6K upvotes as well as 1.7K comments discussing the situation.

    Siblings bicker – that’s what they do; however, this specific tale is more related to a person’s lack of self-awareness and extreme entitlement. 

    So, without further ado, let’s jump into the story. 

    The woman began her post by revealing that her sister has always been a wedding person. Ever since she was younger, she dreamed about a perfect wedding and even planned it all before meeting her now-fiancé. 

    Now that she’s engaged, she wants everything from an expensive venue to a designer dress – plus, the bride-to-be also cares a lot about being “the first” and making everything “just hers.” The post’s creator has no issues with that whatsoever and is happy that her sibling gets to live her dream – however, recently, a rather ugly conflict arose. 

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    The problem is that the author’s boyfriend arranged an anniversary getaway to Honolulu, which actually happens to be where her sister plans to spend her honeymoon. The woman stated that neither she nor her boyfriend was aware of her sibling’s plans and added that nothing had been reserved yet; rather, everything had just been agreed upon. 

    The sister said that if the woman goes there first, it’ll rob her of the surprise and “specialness” of the destination, so she insisted that she cancel the trip or change the location. 

    The OP called her sister “entitled” and refused to change anything, as it was a surprise vacation planned by her boyfriend

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    Naturally, the author got upset and called her sister out on her entitlement, as there was no way she was going to tell her partner to change or cancel things when he did something so nice for his significant other.

    The sister wouldn’t let up and eventually threatened to remove the woman from the wedding if she didn’t change her vacation spot. And as the cherry on top, their parents weren’t super helpful either and practically begged the author to give in to “keep the peace.”

    The author’s gem of a boyfriend has offered to pick a new location as he despises seeing his loved one so upset and fighting with family – however, the woman doesn’t want to change anything, so she took online to seek out some unbiased opinions on whether she is indeed a jerk.

    What do you think about it? Would you change the location of your trip if you were in the author’s shoes?

    Fellow community members shared their thoughts and opinions on the situation

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    N Miller
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's actually not the entitled bridezilla that bothers me with these posts, it's the crazy number of parents who are apparently more than happy to demonstrate they have a favourite child (to keep the peace!)

    Yu Pan
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ughhhhhhhh! I want to tear my hair out because of these parents!!! What is it with this obsession of keeping peace?? That's more important than teaching your kids right/wrong?!

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    Craftsman 64
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell her you're shopping for a white dress to wear to her wedding and have the boyfriend mention that he's planning on proposing to you at the reception and see if you can completely push her over the edge.

    Roddfergg
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah... Don't go to the wedding. Go back to Hawaii again and send her pics during the reception.

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    RoanTheMad
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so... the sister is mad because she wants to go to one of the most visited islands used as a honeymoon island that exists.. first? HA. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. *coughs and chokes* HA,...HAHAHAHAHHAHAHA*wheezing* nta.

    Honu
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. And they're from California. Hawaii is a massively popular destination in the Western states because it's not that long of a flight. Most people I know that have the discretionary income to travel have been there multiple times.

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    Roddfergg
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "... My parents are begging me to give in to keep the peace." THIS is why she is an entitled beech! I'll lay $100 that mommy and daddy have done that her entire life, and never told her that she doesn't get everything she wants.

    Honu
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. Been there. There's a reason I've barely talked to my sister since my parents passed.

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    Jack S
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd tell her to shove her wedding invite where the sun don't shine (in a bin with a lid) and just not go the the wedding anyway. Any "adult" who is that childish deserves a good slap in the left tit. But seriously, if she's not careful her sister won't be the only one she pushes away. And changing hair colour cos you don't want anyone the same... wtaf?

    SkyBlueandBlack
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Srsly. I can't understand why this chick is even still on speaking terms with her a-hole sister.

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    Natalie H
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Manipulative, selfish, narcissistic, unrealistic, entitled bridezilla. I hope OP enjoys her surprise vacation, & I hope the bridegroom notices this big red flag🚩

    Ron Baza
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am I the only one who thinks the parents sound dreadful? “My parents are begging me to give in just to keep the peace”. B****r that.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait, "búgger" gets censored now? We used to have a cat named Búgger, for heaven's sake.

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    LH25
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honolulu is a huge tourist destination. Wonder what sis will think when she's just one of many there, even many honeymooners. "my parents are begging me to give in to keep the peace" says it all.

    N Miller
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here's the thing, sis probably knows she's not the first person ever to honeymoon in Honolulu, she just needs to be first out of the sibling group. Hence the parents announcing who is the favourite child - sis already knows it's her, being first in her parents affections was just the start

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    Marno C.
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So get uninvited. OPs absence will be noticed and asked about. There is no way Sister can spin that explanation without sounding like a lunatic no matter how much she stamps her pretty little bridal foot. And, once the wedding is over and OP is left out, there is no way SIL can undo that tantrum, forever colouring the family's perception of her. Groom better watch out. Actually, treat this like any toddler having a tantrum over being a Gimme Pig. Say no. Stick to it. Let them cry themself out. If you keep giving into a spoiled brat, their demands just keep getting worse and worse. Set and keep a boundary no matter how much you want to give in at the moment.

    Solandri
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bridezilla will just make up some BS to make it her sister's fault. Like sister was invited to the wedding but refused to attend because *she* didn't like Bridezilla's program or decorations or something. Entitled people have spent their whole lives making others out to be the bad guy, if for nothing but to justify their entitled behavior to themselves. Do not underestimate their ability to convince others of their delusions. You pretty much have to catch them in the act in public so they have no out, and are forced to confront their own misbehavior.

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    S Mi
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who's gonna tell bride that she most certainly won't be a the first person to visit...

    LH25
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She won't even be the first honeymooner. And not the only one that week.

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    N Miller
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's actually not the entitled bridezilla that bothers me with these posts, it's the crazy number of parents who are apparently more than happy to demonstrate they have a favourite child (to keep the peace!)

    Yu Pan
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ughhhhhhhh! I want to tear my hair out because of these parents!!! What is it with this obsession of keeping peace?? That's more important than teaching your kids right/wrong?!

    Load More Replies...
    Craftsman 64
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell her you're shopping for a white dress to wear to her wedding and have the boyfriend mention that he's planning on proposing to you at the reception and see if you can completely push her over the edge.

    Roddfergg
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah... Don't go to the wedding. Go back to Hawaii again and send her pics during the reception.

    Load More Replies...
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    RoanTheMad
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so... the sister is mad because she wants to go to one of the most visited islands used as a honeymoon island that exists.. first? HA. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. *coughs and chokes* HA,...HAHAHAHAHHAHAHA*wheezing* nta.

    Honu
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. And they're from California. Hawaii is a massively popular destination in the Western states because it's not that long of a flight. Most people I know that have the discretionary income to travel have been there multiple times.

    Load More Replies...
    Roddfergg
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "... My parents are begging me to give in to keep the peace." THIS is why she is an entitled beech! I'll lay $100 that mommy and daddy have done that her entire life, and never told her that she doesn't get everything she wants.

    Honu
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. Been there. There's a reason I've barely talked to my sister since my parents passed.

    Load More Replies...
    Jack S
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd tell her to shove her wedding invite where the sun don't shine (in a bin with a lid) and just not go the the wedding anyway. Any "adult" who is that childish deserves a good slap in the left tit. But seriously, if she's not careful her sister won't be the only one she pushes away. And changing hair colour cos you don't want anyone the same... wtaf?

    SkyBlueandBlack
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Srsly. I can't understand why this chick is even still on speaking terms with her a-hole sister.

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    Natalie H
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Manipulative, selfish, narcissistic, unrealistic, entitled bridezilla. I hope OP enjoys her surprise vacation, & I hope the bridegroom notices this big red flag🚩

    Ron Baza
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am I the only one who thinks the parents sound dreadful? “My parents are begging me to give in just to keep the peace”. B****r that.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wait, "búgger" gets censored now? We used to have a cat named Búgger, for heaven's sake.

    Load More Replies...
    LH25
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honolulu is a huge tourist destination. Wonder what sis will think when she's just one of many there, even many honeymooners. "my parents are begging me to give in to keep the peace" says it all.

    N Miller
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here's the thing, sis probably knows she's not the first person ever to honeymoon in Honolulu, she just needs to be first out of the sibling group. Hence the parents announcing who is the favourite child - sis already knows it's her, being first in her parents affections was just the start

    Load More Replies...
    Marno C.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So get uninvited. OPs absence will be noticed and asked about. There is no way Sister can spin that explanation without sounding like a lunatic no matter how much she stamps her pretty little bridal foot. And, once the wedding is over and OP is left out, there is no way SIL can undo that tantrum, forever colouring the family's perception of her. Groom better watch out. Actually, treat this like any toddler having a tantrum over being a Gimme Pig. Say no. Stick to it. Let them cry themself out. If you keep giving into a spoiled brat, their demands just keep getting worse and worse. Set and keep a boundary no matter how much you want to give in at the moment.

    Solandri
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bridezilla will just make up some BS to make it her sister's fault. Like sister was invited to the wedding but refused to attend because *she* didn't like Bridezilla's program or decorations or something. Entitled people have spent their whole lives making others out to be the bad guy, if for nothing but to justify their entitled behavior to themselves. Do not underestimate their ability to convince others of their delusions. You pretty much have to catch them in the act in public so they have no out, and are forced to confront their own misbehavior.

    Load More Replies...
    S Mi
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who's gonna tell bride that she most certainly won't be a the first person to visit...

    LH25
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She won't even be the first honeymooner. And not the only one that week.

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