45 People Recall The Wildest Behavior From Their Exes That Proved They Dodged A Bullet
Dating and falling in love can be a lot of fun, however, there’s no guarantee that you’ll get the happily ever after you’re looking for. Unfortunately, some relationships turn out to be complete train wrecks that continue to haunt people years after they break up due to all the toxicity.
Today, we’re featuring various internet users’ stories about the most unhinged, outrageous, and dumbest things their exes have ever said or done, as shared on TikTok. You’ll find their most unpleasant experiences with their ex-partners as you scroll down.
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She would hide my things. medication, bank cards, appointment letters, my camera, keys, cash. On the day I left, I found a box full of my things on top of the wardrobe. I'd been to the doctor about my memory problems.
Oh wow, the gaslighting. Do they do that as a power trip? Because I seriously don't understand it
Him:"I don't believe in DNA tests"
Judge: "Well the State of Indiana does..."💀
Some relationships are simply not meant to be. The person who you think might be your soul mate can turn out to be incredibly toxic once you spend more time with them. And in some cases, it can take months or even years for their true character to shine through.
At the end of the day, everyone’s responsible for communicating and enforcing their healthy boundaries. If someone continues to disrespect you and constantly ignores your boundaries, you’re better off breaking things off. Nobody deserves to be mistreated in relationships.
Got jealous when I helped an old man to find the bus he needed to get on to go see his dying wife.
Soon after my aunt got divorced, her crazy ex-husband called her to yell at her for "having so little respect for herself that she's now f*cking a man twice her age." The man in question was my grandfather aka her own father, she was at the supermarket holding arms with him like she does with me or a lot of other people. Completely normal thing. But her ex-husband's new wife saw them and reported it to him making it sound like they were basically f*cking in the supermarket. (She didn't know what my grandfather looked like, but she obviously still exaggerated the whole thing to get my aunt in trouble.)
"Just stop your period if it's hurting you 🙄" I'M NOT JOKING
My gay best friend, whom I met at a v prestigious UK university, thought all women had their period on the 28th of every month, like a universal menstrual meltdown. Still one of the most intelligent people I know.
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He didn’t want me to have a boy cat, he was like u better not have a boy cat watching u get dressed and cuddling with u, LIKE WHATTTTT.
Especially considering that most responsible owners neuter their male pets XD
Load More Replies...To have that thought process…does that mean he is turned on by girl cats?
So far, the most fecking STUPID thing I've read all day. Just WTF did I read..... jealous of a male animal???
According to ‘Calm,’ toxic partners tend to belittle and sabotage you instead of supporting you. You can also tell that you’re likely in a toxic relationship if you persistently feel unhappy, there’s constant tension at home, and you argue very frequently.
Things are also far from healthy if your partner constantly insults or accuses you, tries to control you in various ways, neglects your emotional needs, or attempts to manipulate you.
The result of staying in a toxic relationship is a big negative impact on your mental, emotional, and even physical health. You can develop anxiety, depression, insomnia, see changes in appetite, develop chronic health issues, feel isolated, and your sense of self-worth might diminish.
"Cheating is normal in my culture. I'm only limiting my cheating out of respect for you."........ ummmmmm WHATTT??? 😂
"Limiting my cheating"? That's like saying you're a little bit pregnant.
In a few cultures it’s not considered cheating if the male frequents s*x workers.
Load More Replies...Reminds me of something that happened to my friend. Her (Now ex) boyfriend cheated on her with two other girls, she found out (Don't know how), confronted him and then he said "Why can't you just be happy I didn't break up with you?"
Cheating is actually considered normal in several cultures. But then, it's not called "cheating" because it's simply the norm for everyone to be in open relationships.
"Okay, if we're still "dating" others then I will "date" others too!" I'm sure he'd be fine with that and ALWAYS wearing a c****m, forever without exception.
"Having affairs is French but getting caught is American." - Dirty Rotten Scoundrels
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After my dad passed away, he said “can you not cry, it makes me uncomfortable” 😎
When I had to euthanize my 19-year-old cat, I was was devastated. I was gross-sobbing in the special "this is where we euthanize your pet" room at the vet. My now-ex said to me, "Why are you so upset? You KNEW she was going to die."
"So are you, but I can look forward to THAT one!"
Load More Replies...Sounds a lot like my cousin's now ex-husband. When her brother died from cancer later 1 night she was in bed sobbing. He told her she needed to stop because he had to go to work. They owe their own business that he's trying to screw her out of. I can't remember if he went to the funeral or not. Her grandma died about 3 mos later and he didn't go. The next year her Daddy died and he did go to the funeral and went back to the shop as soon as it was over instead of being with the family. For his family she was there for everything!
I lost my mother when I was 18. The guy I dated shortly thereafter said "You need to stop crying over your dead mom. It's making me sad to think that my parents are going to die some day too"
Broke up with me on my birthday and still wanted to take me to dinner and called it "the last supper".
I hope you handled the supper appropriately by having them brutally executed the next day.
Briefly dated a guy that I think was only using me for psychology research. Refused to talk about himself, but asked me constant questions about me and accused me of hogging the conversations, or that I was unable to go more than a few minutes without talking. He literally would not speak about anything even remotely personal to himself. Not even what he did that day. Split with me on new years eve (“we should just try being friends”), and then a couple weeks later called to tell me happy birthday and be insulting. Ghosted me after. Seriously, it was a weird roller coaster of a freaking MONTH.
My brother's ex broke up with him on his birthday, but waited until after they had dinner and then sent him a break up text.
My first boyfriend did just that. And then he jumped out of the window of my best friend's house where we were celebrating my birthday. And somehow everything was my fault... Because I was "overdramatic"... Fun times
Only because he wants to have the "Last Temptation" before you break up
Meanwhile, 'BetterUp' points out that some of the biggest relationship red flags to look out for include your partner being overly controlling, not trusting or respecting you, and not supporting you emotionally.
Other signs of toxicity include physical, emotional, and mental violence, substance misuse, narcissistic behavior, anger management issues, and co-dependency.
On top of that, other glaring relationship red flags are things like conflict avoidance, constant jealousy, gaslighting, a lack of emotional intelligence, love bombing, the partner’s attempts to socially isolate you, and an unwillingness to communicate openly.
He did a poll at the party to see if my shirt neckline was disrespectful to him. I was wearing a basic white shirt 🙈😆
He got jealous BECAUSE I HAD A BROTHER.
What are you supposed to do? Have the brother done away with or kidnapped and sent to start a new life in Nigeria?
To all of the young boys and girls out there. Please don't put up with jealous behavior. Trust me, NOTHING good comes of it. All you'll get is a lot of arguments and a miserable relationship, even if they love bomb you the rest of the time. Walk away. I know it's easier said than done, but WALK AWAY.
My one uncle's wife was jealous that he used to hang out with his younger sister. She was also rude to his mother (my grandmother). The family consequently hated her guts. (I think she had borderline personality disorder or something; her behaviour over the years was always erratic.)
Got jealous of me serving male customers (I'm a waitress).
Next step: He'd have her quit her job, give her no money, take the car, regulate her phone usage == total isolation.
Load More Replies...First boyfriend, hyper jealous. Me, faithful. Him, not so much. Learned about projection..,.....
This is a sensitive topic, but if you feel like sharing your stories about the most toxic things your ex-partners have ever said or done, feel free to do so in the comments, dear Pandas.
What advice would you give anyone who feels stuck in a bad relationship? What are the biggest relationship red flags for you personally? Let us know.
Robbed my parents house and said he had no control over his body.
Kick him in the sack and tell him you don't have control over your body
Promised to take me to Disneyland one day, together 12 years. Told my friends he had booked it as a surprise for my 30th so not to make plans. 30th came, no Disney. In fact made no plans at all… used it as a way to make my friends look bad for not doing anything for my Bday, and make them look like terrible friends 💔
Lol like my ex. We've been together for 6 years and I begged him to go and visit Venice, but he always said it's too expensive. After we broke up we've been still texting and he told me "oh btw I just went to Venice bc I felt like it and it's a beautiful city, you definitely should see it one day"... Well, thanks. That was the last time I spoke to him.
He was crazy jealous because I put my horse as my wallpaper instead of him.
Imagine if this one found out he wasn't in her MySpace Top 8!!!
Accused me of cheating every single day then cheated on ME.
I couldn't so much as speak to someone without being accused of cheating by my ex-husband. If the phone rang and it was a wrong number, it was obviously someone I was seeing on the side. If I went to the shops or to visit family, I was obviously meeting someone else. If we were dining out at a restaurant and the waiter smiled at me or spoke to me and not him, we were obviously having an affair. I reality he was judging me by his own standards.
Never discount the possibility that that accusations are projection. But it could also be a serious mental health disorder. My husband is going through this right now. Every day is brutal but it isn't his fault. (And, no, he isn't actually cheating.) https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversmark/2024/07/10/a-psychologist-explains-the-extreme-jealousy-of-othello-syndrome/ He accuses me of having s*x parties with dozens of people in the yard. He put up 17 security cameras and there's not one frame of footage of that but he still believes it's true. He needs help but doesn't believe he needs help so he won't get it.
Load More Replies...Most people who regularly accuse their partner of cheating are cheating.
He probably cheated on you BEFORE making those accusations.....
He locked me up in his apartment without any hygiene products when I was on my period and then told me to “just sit on a towel.”
I am fairly certain that deprivation of liberty is a crime in most countries.
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Load More Replies...is he from a culture that segregates women during their period? this is really horrific!
I was delivering his baby and he decided to go home and sleep. Things went bad and he was called to come because I was taken for emergency C-section. He arrived saw the baby and left after 5 mins.
I can out do this one. Had to have an emergency C section baby was 6 weeks early & in NICU. Called the house at around 1 am so upset , another woman answered the phone next to my bed & put him on the phone. He got mad at me for calling & waking them up. Then this woman came to my house 1 week after I got home from the hospital to beat me up( at his instructions) but her sister said I was just so kind to her they felt sorry for me & left . I made my exit plan got full custody no visitation & have been happy ever since Married to a great guy over 30 years
Jesus Christ! I'm glad the last 30 years have been better to you.
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He admitted he was glad my dog had just passed away unexpectedly because the grief had made me more vulnerable and easier to taken advantage of.
No, he should come home to a brick in the face - no explanation required.
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I asked him while sobbing, “Does hurting me not hurt you???” And he said “I'm Batman. I don't have feelings.”
What? I hope you dropped him like a hot potato just out of a volcano!
He meant "Bats**** Crazy". Either that or likes wearing tights and a cape.
I asked the same question some hours after an earthquake, because he promised he was going to meet me but he never came.. because he wasn't finish with his job. And he said: "what do you want me to say?" I can't just leave my job to take care of you. As if I asked him for the fck moon in the middle of an earthquake. And some days later he was joking with his friends because I got scared... while the earth was shaking during an earthquake. That man had no feelings
Told me she couldn’t support me when my brother in law was CRUSHED to death bc her nan died three years prior.
wait, your "brother in law" is HER brother! & you are looking for support FROM her not offering support TO her about his death?!?!?
It's more likely to be his sister/brother's husband, don't you think?
Load More Replies...Some people get along fine with their in-laws. And a family tragedy like this would leave some scars no matter what.
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He got jealous whenever i called my cat a good boy 💔
He cheated & said the devil made him do it.
I have found this to be true with religious people I have known who have done "bad" things. They frequently blame an external source rather than believing that they could have done something wrong. VERY difficult to make progress with in therapy, in my personal experience.
From experience (former mental health professional) these patients are the MOST narcissistic people and nearly NEVER take any responsibility.
Load More Replies...His junk was possessed? I hope you did a circumcision, I mean exorcism...whichever.
Okay, so you're demon possessed, which means I don't want you anywhere near me ever again under any circumstances.
My bro's ex wife said, during a therapy session, "If you'd been a better husband I wouldn't have had to cheat." He filed the next day
He cheated because his grandpa died.
He sobbed and sang "When I was your man" by Bruno Mars after I caught him cheating 🧍🏻♀️
Got jealous when I reposted a guy who went missing in my town…
"what?? you want to go missing too?? why the hell are you jealous of a missing man????"
Screamed at me for 30 minutes because I boiled water with a lid. Apparently they don’t do that in Romania and it’s disrespectful to their culture.
Boiling water with a lid is much more energy efficient. Anyway, any Romanian panda to chime in? I feel this is total bs
Romanian here, total BS. We actually DO boil with the lid on, it boils faster.
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“I didn’t know Tinder was a dating app” as his bio said *hookups only*
He cheated and said AI was texting the girls.
He SAID HE HAD TO CHEAT SO I COULD PROGRESS.
( She could have done that without him cheating, too. )
Load More Replies...His family and him kept their dog under the stairs (in like a harry potter type of room) no windows, just his food and a bed… and it was totally normal for them.
A neighbor is booting their little lap dog outside for hours and I'm like, why did you get a lap dog?
A former neighbor situated their dog run (with a dog house) on a corner of their back yard that was the farthest from their house. I never understood why. They never let the dog out to play or take him for a walk. He was just always in there. And it's not as though the dog was going to protect them or their house. So, what's the point in even having a dog??
Prepared rose petals leading to a bouquet in the kitchen with 3x rounds of dishes and a dirty house. On Valentine's day. Then spent the night with his mum.
Hope he was told Happy Singles Awareness Day.....and that he stayed single after that?
Broke into my house and I hid my bathroom and he freestyle rapped to me while I was yelling at him to go home because I didn’t want to see him then he challenged me to a dance battle.
Talked about how much his ex cheating traumatised him. Cheated on me.
He said that cheating on me was his way to make sure cheating won't happen to him again, and he was in fact protecting himself from the pain
Ten to one he was already cheating and was devastated when his ex took that as permission to cheat also.
“You can’t go through my phone bc I have secret military stuff on there” he was in the National Guard….
Having "secret military stuff" on your phone is way wicked verboten. He would get anything from a disciplinary action to jail time. If it were true, that is.
I guess he thought the person wasn't physically capable. Oh, like hell.
When I confronted him about downloading Grindr 4 times he said “I just wanted to see more of the gay community” 💀💀 and I stayed for another 6 months.
Had a male voice on siri and he demanded for me too change it.
I have the English male voice because I wanted Siri to be JARVIS. Instead he sounds condescending when giving me driving directions.
He paid 4 my bday brunch (30 USD). When I broke up, asked for it back. I gave it back. As I was gave it, he said it comes with 5% interest. 🙄 Anyways threw the 30 USD & told him he can sue 4 the rest.
Anne, typos exist, autocorrect exists, people who's first language are not English exist.
Load More Replies...“If you really love me I don’t have to pay you back”. Our trip to London; paid his part in advance ~600€. He had a job, I didn’t…
“You only think i’m cheating bc you listen to too much Lana Del Rey, it’s making u sad.”
Wouldn’t let my bitmoji wear a crop top.
“You don’t even know what gaslighting means”.
Do you? It mean's intentionally trying to make someone doubt their sanity. I don't know how it's used on social media. Check out the movie Gaslight.
he was so clingy he always wanted to follow me to the bathroom... like a weird pet or a kid... and after a year of embarassing fights in front of the bathroom door i just gave in... that makes me more angry than anything else. bc i just sighed and said "ok, well, then come..." like he was a toddler on a tantrum. split up with this guy after 2 years... 🤔
I would had k.lled for a partner willing to go to the bathroom with me in public places. Bathrooms are very unsafe in my country
This sounds like in their spaces; not out in public
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He genuinely thought he could become Spiderman.. I’m not joking he switched majors to chem and everything.
There's a movie called "Earth vs. the Spider" where a janitor in a research lab intentionally gets bitten by a genetically modified spider so he can get super powers. And it worked. He got super strength, climb up walls, and spin webs. He also got 8 arms, 8 eyes, and a craving for meat, human or otherwise. But hey, no plan is perfect!😝
And n̈ow I will look that up as a potential next watch....
Load More Replies...You should have reminded him that most male spiders get killed by their mates after they have s*x😈
Had a dog together, the night we broke up I was moving out and took the dog with me. He said “fine I’m taking the dog food since I bought it”
"Fine. You can have your kibble and eat it too, you stupid b***h boy!"
Told me when I confronted him about cheating on me and asking if he was at least “safe” that she wasn’t the kind of girl to have an STD. Then was too scared to go the clinic so I had to.
I hope his pinkie toe gets caught on the corner of a coffee table and breaks it <3
Or that he has to pee 3 times tonight but only wakes up twice.
Load More Replies...“Close your eyes, imagine I’m giving you flowers - now hold onto that feeling because I’m not giving you any, lets go” - as we walked by the flower display in the store.
Downloaded tinder after I had an abortion even though it’s what he wanted.
Accused me of cheating for months, now his face is plastered all over are we dating the same man, he was cheating on me.
Told me that he had blood cancer, that’s why he disappeared as he wasn’t well and why he would be abusive towards me because it was the side effect of the medication he was taking. He never had cancer..
Accused me of cheating on him with the ai Snapchat guy😐
I fully had to beg him to brush his teeth in the morning.
Lied about being german, idk.
He’d say “I’m taking you away for the weekend” then I’d end up having to pay for myself🤦♀️
Whenever I tell my wife "Dinner's on me!" she points out we have a joint checking account.🤪
Booked creamfields with a load of couples, was so excited had my hair/ makeup done waiting for him to come to then ring & said I’ve decided I don’t want to go I’ve sold my ticket, come to ours.. And we will watch a film.. got told to F off went with all the couples on my own & had an absolute BALL 🙌
What's "creamfileds"? A little capitalization and Id assume an establishment...
Load More Replies...Mine lied about having a dead brother for an entire year.
Hoping for sympathy?? Or it's just a pathetic excuse for his/her horrible behavior.
Load More Replies...Put empty containers back in the fridge after finishing.
This is a guy thing maybe? Annoying, yes, but not a deal-breaker possibly
I don't know. Mine used it as weaponized incompetence. He didn't want to take the time to wash the container, so he'd just let me discover it.
Load More Replies...“I treated you badly becauseI was insecure of you and your job.”
My ex who I was still friends with, decided that when my father was dying, I was suddenly too much work. He decided that he was moving to a new city and didn't want any 'stress'. Didn't matter I'd supported him through a butt load of stuff that wasn't mine to deal with. He dropped me like a hot coal. He turned up at my place randomly a year later after no contact and was looking for sympathy cause he'd written his car off. He asked how my father was, I replied "Dead. Now f off!" and shut the door.
We might have dated the same person 🙄 the whole dropping me/come back when HE needed help sounds too familiar. Worked up to thee times until I regained some common sense and self esteem
Load More Replies...Who are these people? Basic cheating I kinda get, but the mind games are unreal.
I don't even get the basic cheating. I'm an old bag and still don't get it. It scars you for life and gives you trust issues.
Load More Replies...4 years into a relationship, he promised me a new life, with us working as a team, together, so I could start again after some nightmarish stuff that happened in my life. He promised me marriage, and help, and kindness and peace, so I left my country, moved to his country half the world away, without speaking the language there. He promised me we would drive together to his hometown after he picked me up from the airport. But the car's motor got broken, so the car needed a new motor which I paid, and when the car was repaired he said he was going tho his hometown by himself, and left me stranded in Istanbul, alone, without money, without knowing anyone and without speaking Turkish. So much for a new start together. Never another man in my life, not even close
1. Cheated on me, and told me explicitly how much better than me he was. Then there was ex 2. She admitted to deliberately pushing me to commit s*****e. Number 3, dumped me on my birthday. Not deliberately, she forgot it was my birthday. Don't know if that's better or worse.
#3: it’s better if she forgot. I have like a 98% rate of remembering birthdays every day for 2 weeks beforehand, then _completely_ forgetting on the actual birthday and for like 2 days afterwards. No malice; I don’t know why my brain does that. I have started wishing people happy birthday a few days early
Load More Replies...My ex told a mutual friend he could sleep with me if he got him some d***s.
My ex who I was still friends with, decided that when my father was dying, I was suddenly too much work. He decided that he was moving to a new city and didn't want any 'stress'. Didn't matter I'd supported him through a butt load of stuff that wasn't mine to deal with. He dropped me like a hot coal. He turned up at my place randomly a year later after no contact and was looking for sympathy cause he'd written his car off. He asked how my father was, I replied "Dead. Now f off!" and shut the door.
We might have dated the same person 🙄 the whole dropping me/come back when HE needed help sounds too familiar. Worked up to thee times until I regained some common sense and self esteem
Load More Replies...Who are these people? Basic cheating I kinda get, but the mind games are unreal.
I don't even get the basic cheating. I'm an old bag and still don't get it. It scars you for life and gives you trust issues.
Load More Replies...4 years into a relationship, he promised me a new life, with us working as a team, together, so I could start again after some nightmarish stuff that happened in my life. He promised me marriage, and help, and kindness and peace, so I left my country, moved to his country half the world away, without speaking the language there. He promised me we would drive together to his hometown after he picked me up from the airport. But the car's motor got broken, so the car needed a new motor which I paid, and when the car was repaired he said he was going tho his hometown by himself, and left me stranded in Istanbul, alone, without money, without knowing anyone and without speaking Turkish. So much for a new start together. Never another man in my life, not even close
1. Cheated on me, and told me explicitly how much better than me he was. Then there was ex 2. She admitted to deliberately pushing me to commit s*****e. Number 3, dumped me on my birthday. Not deliberately, she forgot it was my birthday. Don't know if that's better or worse.
#3: it’s better if she forgot. I have like a 98% rate of remembering birthdays every day for 2 weeks beforehand, then _completely_ forgetting on the actual birthday and for like 2 days afterwards. No malice; I don’t know why my brain does that. I have started wishing people happy birthday a few days early
Load More Replies...My ex told a mutual friend he could sleep with me if he got him some d***s.
