Each of us creates the world we live in. We choose what to include in it and we also decide what to leave out.

Interested in the latter, we dug around Reddit and found a few discussions where people have been sharing difficult-to-accept truths that they know are correct but actively try not to think about.

So we put together the most popular entries, and I gotta say, it's not the easiest list to go through, but it's definitely intriguing and thought-provoking. After all, even if we refuse to acknowledge a fact, that doesn't make it go away.

Continue scrolling to check out what things are bothering people the most and the talks we had with social science writer and researcher Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D., MPP, and professor of psychology at Otterbein University in Westerville, Ohio, Noam Shpancer, Ph.D.

#1

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear No-one wants to hear your shitty music in public, especially in class.

N1ght_ShadeH2HOES , Budgeron Bach Report

Mistiekim
Community Member
1 week ago

If only there were some sort of device that could be used to stop this from happening.. Wait a minute, there is! HEADPHONES!!

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According to Shpancer, refusing to think about something we know is true is a form of avoidance. "It may provide short-term relief from discomfort, and can sometimes help us keep from becoming distracted, but in the long term, a habit of persistent avoidance—a refusal to face your known challenges—becomes a bigger problem than whatever issue you were avoiding in the first place," the author of The Good Psychologist told Bored Panda.

This, let's call it practice, sounds quite similar to denial, but, as Shpancer pointed out, the latter is a refusal to accept or acknowledge the truth altogether. "The benefit of denial is that it may, in the short term, buy you some time to summon and mobilize your coping resources," he explained.

"When we hear bad, surprising news, our first reaction is often 'No, it can't be,' even if we have every reason to trust the source of the bad news. This momentary denial may allow us to 'catch our breath' as it were, before delving into the hard work of coping. Relying on denial for the long term is, however, unhealthy. Such persistent refusal to acknowledge and face facts erodes interpersonal trust and communication and leads to bad decisions. If you're falling, there's no use telling yourself that you've learned how to fly."

#2

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Just because someone is related to you doesn't mean they are a good person.

ohnomyglasseye , Some Tale Report

Well-Dressed Wolf
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1 week ago

My mother and sister are my abusers. I remember seeing a Tumblr post about how great it is to have a sibling as you’ll “always have a friend”. I almost choked laughing at the naivety.

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Sherman, the author of Neither Ghost nor Machine: The Emergence and Nature of Selves, agreed, highlighting how human life is uniquely anxious compared to other organisms. "Just compare the range of worries a human could have compared to any other critter. No contest. To cope, we need denial, escapism, entertainment, but to survive we need all hands on deck in reality too," he explained to Bored Panda.

"I'm on a campaign I call 'optimal: see illusion, safe escapism or strategic gullibility', encouraging people to take their denialist flights of fancy but always with a return ticket to reality safe in your heart pocket. It's not how far out you go, but whether you remember to come back. The big difference between a death metal concert and an authoritarian political rally is what happens in the parking lot after. After the metal concert, people return to reality. After the rally, people think they've experienced something more real than reality. That's dangerous."

#3

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Voting Trump out of office won't magically fix everything. He is a symptom of a bigger disease here in the USA.

Greedence , Matt Johnson Report

Well-Dressed Wolf
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1 week ago

Yeah, but it sure made me FEEL better to help vote him out of office!

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One study of 2,000 adults across the United States, which was commissioned by global tour operator G Adventures, suggests that the average American spends 12 hours and 56 minutes escaping their reality each week. (That's roughly four years over a lifetime.)

The most popular forms of disconnecting from work, responsibilities, and everything else that drives them crazy came in the form of reading books (1 hour 34 minutes), watching movies (2 hours 37 minutes), and dreaming of vacations (44 minutes).

#4

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Life is easier for attractive people.

BobSacramanto , AYKUT AKTAŞ Report

Momma Panda
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1 week ago

And being unatrractive woman makes you invisible.

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However, as previously mentioned, this can't go on forever and we need to come to terms with the world around us. Jeremy Sherman thinks people can make it easier for themselves by focusing on what he calls ironic fallibilism.

"An ironic situation is one where you get the opposite of what you expected: you do the right thing and it comes out wrong or vice versa. An ironic attitude is recognition that despite your best effort, ironic situations are not entirely escapable. There is no sure-fire formula for living. Just when you discover the meaning of life, it changes."

"Ironism is not cynicism. It's the recognition that life is deeply tragic and deeply slapstick. Life is tragicomic," he explained.

#5

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear We need to stop consuming animal products the way we currently are. It's absolutely unsustainable.

The amount of downvotes this post will receive proves the title of this post.

Nemo1ner , Annie Spratt Report

Ripley
Community Member
1 week ago

The key part of this is "the way we currently are", and this is very true. You don't have to be a vegan to not participate in the cruelty of intensive factory farming. It is possible to eat genuinely ethically raised animal products where the animal had a happy life - it's just really expensive. Killing is not inherently cruel - subjecting an animal to pain and terror before it's killed is.

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"Fallibilism is a concept in philosophy and more than any other notion, fallibilism has given me peace of mind about dealing with reality," Sherman continued. "I think of the fallibilist mantra as 'no matter how confident I am in a bet, I remain still more confident that it is a bet. Life is iffy guesswork. Yoda is wrong. There's only try. One can make better bets. One can bet with high confidence. One can't escape betting."

Sherman sees ironic fallibilism as the antidote to two unworkable approaches that are often combined:

The first one is fundamentalist hypocrisy, or pretending you have the formula for living though you don't, can't, and shouldn't live by it. And the second one is cynical hypocrisy, or pretending there's no formula so you can do whatever you want.

"[Jerks] (I'm a psychoproctologist) employ both. Everyone should live by their supposed fundamentalist formula that they cynically don't think they have to live by. No deed is too dirty for saints like them."

#6

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Just because you've been doing something longer than other people doesn't mean you're better at it (driving, job role, sports etc)

northsouth261 , Israel Andrade Report

Jakub Neumann
Community Member
1 week ago

It doesn't, but it is a good indicator you might be.

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Professor Noam Shpancer added that we should revise our expectation that life should be easy, and the attendant aversion to discomfort. "Hardship is not the end of the world," he said. "It is just the world. The default position for human beings is resilience. Normalizing the struggle is useful."

"Second, accepting reality tends to be easier when we take a long-term perspective, because the danger and damage associated with a failure to face reality are usually obscured in the short run and clarify only in the long run. When making decisions, it is, therefore, useful to consider not only your present self but the well-being of your future self as well. When you fail to deal with the facts of your circumstance, you in effect sell out your future self."

#7

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear "You can achieve anything you put your mind to" is NOT true.

Not even close.

Genetics play a HUGE role in whether or not someone will be a good athlete, or a super successful scientist.

Can you be an "OK" athlete if you try really hard and practice really hard? Sure. Will you break world records or play for a professional team? No. You have to be especially gifted in the genetics department to do those sorts of things.

The same thing applies for mental pursuits. Not everyone is smart. Some people just don't... get it. You can try a million different ways of teaching a subject and some people just... won't... get it. Critical thinking (the ability to see a problem and visualize how to get a solution) comes MUCH MORE EASILY to some people than to others. Can you sit there and memorize things and get good grades and what not? Absolutely. Will you ever be a scientist who does extremely important research and solves the world's next huge problem? Probably not, unless you get hired because of nepotism are dragged along by someone who IS good at critical thinking.

Furthermore, much of what you CAN do is limited by who you know. If you're rich or your parents are rich and they know lots of people and have a large social network or a lot of people who want to please them for one reason or another, you'll likely find a job in whatever career you want to extremely easily provided you're not totally inept. If you're the first in your family to get a degree and aren't good at maintaining a social network you'll likely have an extremely hard time finding a job, even if you are the person best suited for the jobs you are applying for. Even if the job you're applying for is LITERALLY what you spent 5 years getting a PhD on, if you don't know somebody, you likely won't get that job.

corrado33 , Chris Chow Report

Isabella
Community Member
1 week ago

This should be much higher.

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Finally, we must constantly work on educating ourselves and seeking knowledge that can provide answers to questions we sometimes can't even articulate. Shpancer believes that history is the subject to start with, as it "shows what happens to those who deny the facts, and about the scientific method, which shows that in refereeing competing truth claims, following the evidence is our best bet.

"'Facts,' said John Adams, 'are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence.' The evidence wins out in the end. Don’t you want to be on the winning side?"

#8

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear All children are innocent, but they’re not all good. Some people will grow up to be f*****g assholes regardless of what they’re exposed to.

BiggChimpin , Piron Guillaume Report

Katie Lutesinger
Community Member
1 week ago

Oh yeah, there are some shockingly evil kids out there. I've met a few.

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#9

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Money can actually make your life happier.

mlo92895 , Alexander Mils Report

Gin. No tonic
Community Member
1 week ago

Up to a certain point. If you have 100 million or 500 million, then it might not make much difference.

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#10

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear You need to have your views challenged.

Being around and positively engaging with people who disagree with you is one of the healthiest intellectual practices we can do.

Big_Muff_Pie , essica Da Rosa Report

Tilfeldig Forbipasserende
Community Member
1 week ago

A good advice for everybody, even for many bored pandas. If someone posts a comment you don't like, it doesn't mean that they are wrong, or that they are bad people.

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#11

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Having an opinion doesn't make you right.

Philosofried , Kristin Wolff Report

Max M
Community Member
1 week ago

Some are even left

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#12

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear The more children you have, the more you contribute to environmental decline. Literally nobody likes hearing this because HUMANS MUST REPRODUCE YADA YADA.

turtlemari , Kelly Sikkema Report

iseefractals
Community Member
1 week ago

Most true for Americans, and to a lesser extent the other "western" countries. There were 1 billion people on the planet in 1800. In 1950, there were 2.53 billion, 1980 4.43 billion, 1999 6 billion, 2011, 7 billion, today we sit at 7.95 billion, and will reach 8 billion people by next year. We can't effectively sustain the human population now, 1/3rd of food production ends up wasted, while 1/4 of the global population doesn't have enough to eat because getting it everywhere is a logistical nightmare, and yet a large portion of the population continues to think the only way to solve the big problems of the world is to stay the course, continue unchecked expansion and hope that solutions will be born along with the rising population. We've been playing this game for 40 years with the climate, and we're almost out of time. Yet the mindset seems unchanged.

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#13

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Just because you love someone it doesn't mean they will love you back. No matter how hard you try to get them to, they just won't.

anon , Milan Popovic Report

Bellala
Community Member
1 week ago

After a while, you just need to give up and move on. You deserve better <3

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#14

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Everyone's a hypocrite. Even you.

booksoverppl , Adrian Swancar Report

Ripley
Community Member
1 week ago

But it's alright when I do it! 😁

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#15

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear I guess to counter some people in here:

Not every "real talk", "tough to swallow pill", or "harsh truth" that you have to offer someone is going to be accurate to them, or their situation.

Sometimes you're actually a f*****g d**k that is incapable of considering their perspective or feeling empathy towards them.

¯ _(ツ) _ / ¯

NappyFlickz , Jon Tyson Report

BadCat
Community Member
1 week ago

Exactly. Just let people be. Maybe things will work out for them. Maybe it won't. At least they tried. This is a huge problem with long distance relationship communities. You could have one minor question, seeking a boost of optimism. Then people want more information about the relationship. They use that information against the op and base dooming "opinions", some irrelevant to the op's main issue, on their own past experiences that could have been much, much different of a situation. I don't even bring it up anymore. Don't need to.

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#16

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear There's going to be a day where you are totally forgotten by everyone.

PunchyPractitioner , Dan Meyers Report

Tilfeldig Forbipasserende
Community Member
1 week ago

Why is it important to be remembered? Honest question.

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#17

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Things are going to keep getting worse on our planet and we are in for some serious human tragedy.

LemmeLaroo , Li-An Lim Report

Erin Geiger
Community Member
1 week ago

Here's the thing, the planet is going to be fine, it's been around 4.5 billion years. It's the people who are F***ed

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#18

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Your spouse/child/home/job/vacation, etc. is not nearly as important to anyone else as it is to you.

tappytaps , Natalya Zaritskaya Report

SelkieBlackfysh
Community Member
1 week ago

And their quota/hours/numbers mean much less to me than to them.

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#19

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear You can't control what happens to you, only how you react to it.

sheikhyerbouti , Jorge Saavedra Report

SelkieBlackfysh
Community Member
1 week ago

You can also hold anyone who causes those things accountable for it.

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#20

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear That there are people who won’t like you or agree with you and you won’t be able to change their mind so you just have to deal with it

animeweebgrill , Ketut Subiyanto Report

Gian Marco
Community Member
1 week ago

I don’t agree with this.

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#21

That all gods are man made, start taking responsibility for your own actions and stop thinking that some magical being is going to come and help you out.

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rspanther
Community Member
1 week ago

Religion is the worst invention humans have ever created.

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#22

Your skin color / sexual orientation is the least interesting thing about you.

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flutterbyy
Community Member
1 week ago

Are you telling me my neon purple skin is the least interesting thing about me?? Oh well then.

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#23

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear There is always someone better than you

Planarian171 , Jonathan Chng Report

Autistic apricot
Community Member
1 week ago

But then who is better than the most best person?

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#24

Capitalism as it’s currently implemented doesn’t work and only increases the wealth of the wealthy at the cost of the poor, the oppressed, and the world. We are literally destroying our ability to live on this planet, and we’ll need drastic societal change to barely survive the coming era.

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CJay M (They-them)
Community Member
1 week ago

Fun fact: social capitulation, a rare system used in some insignificant island nations and small Asian countries (tu mi au, xibi San ma) in which the basic necessities of survival are provided but to live comfortably you need to work. It’s an interesting system that seems to work well and I’d be willing to give it a try. An interesting blend of capitalism and socialism

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#25

So many of these are negative... So how about the truth that one of the best ways to be happy in life is by helping other people. People don't want to do it, because helping other people feels like you're losing out, but it's true

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Nimues Child
Community Member
1 week ago

This is part of my mail .sig: "You're not a sucker to have integrity and treat people with respect." - Barack Obama

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#26

Sometimes, you are the toxic person

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Gin. No tonic
Community Member
1 week ago

If everyone around you is an a'hole, then you're the a'hole

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#27

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear No matter how nice you are, people will still just be assholes to you just cuz.

anon , Deva Darshan Report

BadCat
Community Member
1 week ago

I've dealt with people at work who tried so hard to get me upset. Like really reaching. There are people who will just try to get a reaction out of you, make you feel bad for doing your job, or even just being somewhere. What they really hate is calmness and positivity in their presence of negativity.

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#28

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear We don't know everything and probably never will.

joculator , Niklas Ohlrogge Report

geo
Community Member
1 week ago

Curiosity is a major part of life. We need to have space to learn

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#29

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Your friends and family likely talk tons of s**t about you behind your back

CrustyTowel , Rui Fernandes Report

BadCat
Community Member
1 week ago

I already know this.

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#30

Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Sometimes good things happen to bad people.

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Ezigma
Community Member
1 week ago

Sometimes?!

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#31

You can’t love someone into loving you

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flutterbyy
Community Member
1 week ago

SO many people need to understand this! For others' sake and for themselves as well.

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#32

That people need to stop putting their trust in god to do things and do it themselves

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Tofu
Community Member
1 week ago

Yes, more personal responsibility please!

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#33

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Everyone you love will die. Everyone you hate will die. Everything ends.

6675636b5f6675636b , Pavel Danilyuk Report

Alex Hamilakis
Community Member
1 week ago

thats kinda a relief

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#34

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Corona may never go away and be in our lives forever in some capacity.

fib16 , Gabriella Clare Marino Report

Peej Maybe
Community Member
1 week ago

Or some other vaccine / antibiotic-resistant pandemic. I think COVID has definitely demonstrated rather graphically what I've feared has happened to people over the course of the last 30 year though - people have become more selfish and more prone to f*cking each other over, even for something as simple as a toilet roll - and far more opinionated and entitled when presented with something relatively simple that they could do to prevent getting infected or spreading an infection (like wearing a mask)

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#35

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear No matter what you do you polluted the planet

Rusky82 , USDA NRCS Montana Report

DennyS (denzoren)
Community Member
1 week ago

Yes, I agree but I can take steps to minimize my impact.

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#36

The only person responsible for -you- is -you-.

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Csaba Hegedűs
Community Member
1 week ago

So parents should just leave their newborns in the woods or something?

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#37

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear Americans don't want to hear that Columbus murdered and enslaved people.

anon , Metropolitan Museum of Art Report

SelkieBlackfysh
Community Member
1 week ago

It's not that they don't want to hear it. It's that they were taught a GROSSLY different version of the story. Though some probably would prefer to keep believing that old lie.

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#38

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear No one really gives a s**t what your eyebrows look like.

amynivenskane , Rune Enstad Report

Jayne Kyra
Community Member
1 week ago

But if being and looking groomed and neat makes you feel good and happy, go for it. Not everything is about others´ opinions.

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#39

You are always replaceable.

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Well-Dressed Wolf
Community Member
1 week ago

Oh, thank god. I’m starting to wear out. They’d better replace me soon before one of my internal components breaks.

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#40

People Share 40 Things That Are True But That No One Wants To Hear You aren't special.

MrM0nday , Katie Montgomery Report

Mistiekim
Community Member
1 week ago

I am too. Jerk.

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