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Powerful Comic Reveals The Unspoken Struggles Men Face Almost Everyday And Are Too Afraid To Speak About
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Powerful Comic Reveals The Unspoken Struggles Men Face Almost Everyday And Are Too Afraid To Speak About

The buzz phrase ‘toxic masculinity’ has lost much of its original meaning over time. It has been misunderstood and overused to the point that any debate on the topic usually gets hijacked by angry incels and feminists, with any thoughtful, nuanced discussion buried amidst the fury.

Australian artist Luke Humphris, who describes himself as a “creator of autobiographical comics about my rubbish life,” has a deeply painful personal experience of the damage that toxic masculinity can cause, and has made a moving and eye-opening comic about it. Australia has, particularly in rural areas, a hyper-masculine culture that can discourage guys from opening up and speaking honestly with other about their issues and needs, although organizations like Men’s Shed are doing a great deal to change this. Luke now lives in Toronto, Canada, having chosen to do what many young Aussies do and go out to explore the world. “It’s not that I am escaping Australia, I just like the cold and big cities,” he explained to Bored Panda. “I am older and I do find that I am able to express myself without the same social restraints as when I was younger, but some stuff does linger and I try to be mindful of it. Most people probably find that as well as they get older. I still catch myself doing my part to put these negative expectations on friends and peers, so again, I try to be mindful about that as well.”

“It’s cool to see a lot of people sharing the comic, it makes me happy that people are referencing it as a learning tool, which was the point of it. There are people who disagree with it for a bunch of reasons, and that’s fine. Some say that it is sexist to call masculinity toxic. It’s like, come on dude, one of the points of the comic is that masculinity is not toxic, this comic is made for you!”

“The good feedback seriously outweighs the negative though.”

The comics are a cool hobby for this talented artist, who has a day job and uses them to express himself when he feels like it. But would he like to take it up as a profession? “It would be nice to get there one day, but I don’t want to put too much pressure on it,” he told us. “I can make whatever I want if I am not dependant on the money, and I like what I am making at the moment. It would be nice not to have to worry about rent though!”

Luke, through his comic, presents ‘toxic masculinity’ not as masculine traits being inherently harmful, nor as women trying to ‘feminize’ men out of existence, as the extremes in the debate often portray it. He sees it as the backward attitudes that limit the ways that so-called ‘real men’ can express themselves, stifling frank discussion about important issues while promoting an outwards show of silent ‘strength.’

Scroll down below to be reminded of the true, insidious nature of toxic masculinity, and let us know what you think in the comments.

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People had a lot to say about the moving and eye-opening comic

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Kaisu Rei
Community Member
3 years ago

Also women can be physically abusive in a relationship too. Guys, if a girl ever hits you, dump her. You don't have to endure physical abuse just because some people think it's "humiliating" to be abused by a woman.

Littoface
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3 years ago

A male friend stayed in a relationship like this because "She hits me when she gets mad but it doesn't hurt. She's not strong enough to hurt me..Is this still abuse?" Yeah boy. Luckily he got out of there.

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Reilly Beryll
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3 years ago

I want to thank the author for sharing this.

Whatevers not taken
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3 years ago

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I don't. That shit was misleading.

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Kaisu Rei
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3 years ago (edited)

This is absolutely true, patriarchal society and toxic masculinity are really harmful for men. Men should be allowed to cry and talk openly about their feelings and seek help for mental health issues instead of just being told to "man up". They should be allowed to have whatever hobbies and profession they choose without being ridiculed for it. The same way women are bombarded with toxic ideals, men are as well and it's important to acknowledge and normalise their struggles so it won't become as big of a taboo for them to seek help when necessary.

Pseudo Puppy
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3 years ago

Michal Jastrzebski, I believe you have totally misunderstood both the post, and Kaisu's comment. The first thing this post said, was that "toxic masculinity" was NOT NOT NOT saying that "masculinity" was toxic. It was discussing the toxic expectations that *can* come with a limited notion of what "masculine" means. No-one is saying that "all men" do anything in this post, let alone referencing rape. And to that matter, just as not "all" men rape, not "all" negativity towards men is from "feminists" as a whole. If you read Kaisu's comment, they were saying that men SHOULD be allowed to ask for help... there was NO mention of "how" that help should be given, or that the help should follow any societal pre-requisites. And to say that woman have "zero right of say", is intentionally *excluding* a whole range of support and help that can and is offered, by those who love the men in their lives - which, ironically, is exactly what the "toxic" side of masculinity does :(

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Kaisu Rei
Community Member
3 years ago

Also women can be physically abusive in a relationship too. Guys, if a girl ever hits you, dump her. You don't have to endure physical abuse just because some people think it's "humiliating" to be abused by a woman.

Littoface
Community Member
3 years ago

A male friend stayed in a relationship like this because "She hits me when she gets mad but it doesn't hurt. She's not strong enough to hurt me..Is this still abuse?" Yeah boy. Luckily he got out of there.

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Reilly Beryll
Community Member
3 years ago

I want to thank the author for sharing this.

Whatevers not taken
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3 years ago

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I don't. That shit was misleading.

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Kaisu Rei
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

This is absolutely true, patriarchal society and toxic masculinity are really harmful for men. Men should be allowed to cry and talk openly about their feelings and seek help for mental health issues instead of just being told to "man up". They should be allowed to have whatever hobbies and profession they choose without being ridiculed for it. The same way women are bombarded with toxic ideals, men are as well and it's important to acknowledge and normalise their struggles so it won't become as big of a taboo for them to seek help when necessary.

Pseudo Puppy
Community Member
3 years ago

Michal Jastrzebski, I believe you have totally misunderstood both the post, and Kaisu's comment. The first thing this post said, was that "toxic masculinity" was NOT NOT NOT saying that "masculinity" was toxic. It was discussing the toxic expectations that *can* come with a limited notion of what "masculine" means. No-one is saying that "all men" do anything in this post, let alone referencing rape. And to that matter, just as not "all" men rape, not "all" negativity towards men is from "feminists" as a whole. If you read Kaisu's comment, they were saying that men SHOULD be allowed to ask for help... there was NO mention of "how" that help should be given, or that the help should follow any societal pre-requisites. And to say that woman have "zero right of say", is intentionally *excluding* a whole range of support and help that can and is offered, by those who love the men in their lives - which, ironically, is exactly what the "toxic" side of masculinity does :(

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