Guy Finds A Date On Tinder, However After Meeting Her He Soon Realizes Something Is Not Right
Dating in this day and age is an increasingly fraught affair, with the breakdown of previous ‘norms’ almost complete and new rules and expectations far from clear in a technology obsessed world.
Online dating and apps like Tinder do have the advantage of getting to know your date pretty well before actually meeting, it is common to exchange texts for days and have a pretty solid idea of who you are flirting with through their Facebook profile etc.
However the following story might make you think twice about jumping straight into fancy dinners and weekends away. Imgur user minilogo37 quickly realised that his ‘date’ was more interested in the material benefits that a date can bring, rather than his company, and he was being played.
What to do in such a situation? Grit your teeth and pay up, as the gentleman was previously expected to do? Insist on a bill split, with a potentially embarrassing confrontation? Quietly explain the situation to the waiter, pay him your share and leave quietly?
Scroll down below to see how minilogo37 dealt with his unscrupulous ‘date,’ and the ensuing discussion about modern dating ethics. What’s your take on the situation? Let us know in the comments!
Commenters were quick to applaud his actions
But some had other ideas
What is your take on the situation?
It’s sounds like she used him, but it is only from his side of the story. What every really happened, just leaving is terrible thing to do. Don’t be little ++++ and own situation, not run away from it!
Right! Be a gentleman and ask her what is going on, why is she so not interested on the date. THEN you can tell her to pay her meal, if you think she tries to take advantage on a free meal.
If you're smart you'll agree to go Dutch before you go out with them! I don't expect anyone to pay for me.
Adam Maye, way to fail troll. Sergio wasn't saying pay for the meal when he says be a gentleman, he's saying just don't run out on her and stick her with the bill on a guess, be upstanding and actually ask her what was up with her behavior instead of running away.
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How dare you say "be a gentleman" you sexist prick. Nice social standards you put out for men. Better pay for every meal even if the girl is taking advantage of you!
There's nothing in this post that indicates she wasn't going to pay for her food, just that she wasn't interested in HIM!
Exactly. Considering her being so dressed down, for all we know she may have been a sort of shut in and really wanted to get out for a good meal, but felt super awkward doing it alone. Hell, even not being a shut in I remember the first time I went out to see a movie by myself I felt super awkward being at the theatre alone.
Where in this story, Jesus, is there any indication of her using him? He took her out. With no guidelines, she ordered and ate. He didn't know for sure whether she was going to pay, yet he ran out on HIS tab. How is that right? Who got shat on? She did.
I kind of hope some guy does this to you and then you'll see it's not bad of a thing. Don't be a person who runs up a bill then leaves. Also, women want equality so why does he have to pay for her food?
Men should not HAVE to pay for women, but where in this scenario does it indicate he had to pay?
oh so he should still pay so he doesn't hurt the special little snowflakes feelings? you're stupid. the girl has definitely done this before so shes just getting her own medicine
Oh so this girl should pay for this guy because he's a special snowflake? Isn't it just common sense to pay for your own food? How do you think it is a cool thing to do to bail out like that?
Never said he had to pay her meal, I said to ask her to pay HER meal if he's sure she's taking advantage. Btw, if the date was with another guy I would do the same thing, no sexist here. Have a nice day.
Where in this read does it state she wasn't going to pay for her own meal? Furthermore, where does it state a date can't order what she did? I don't understand the problem here, except with what he did. He stiffed her not the other way around, so why are you blaming her. They both should have made it clear from the start who was paying for what.
Sergio, he TRIED to talk to her the whole me, she ignored him, when the bill came around she would probably just walk out, making him pay for all of it anyway, either way he loses..wheres the incentive?
You said it, probably.
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That's a womans response. The ol do as i say not as I do rule eh? I would've eaten MY meal and left her with that bill too!
Sexist pig
I dunno, maybe slip the money for your part to the waiter on your way out so she only gets stuck with her part to pay?
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This is ridiculous. Something hardly worth congratulating or justifying. The post about this talks about heroic dogs. This man is hardly a hero and just a dog. She definitely deserved it IF getting free food was her motive, BUT it still wasn't fair OR mature to ditch her.
Do NOT call this man a dog. Dogs are wonderful friendly loyal beautiful animals. Calling this man a dog is an insult to dogs just like calling her a b*itch is an insult to a dog.
i agree :) i apologize for disrespecting dogs like that.
Yes. I think he could tell her that he will pay for his meal since it's a first date and if she insists he could turn the tables on her and saying something smart make her pay for her own meal. If he had shown her that he got it that she wanted a free dinner I don't think she would insist. I don't believe there are women like her out there. She doesn't have any pride???
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American Girls are so Entitled.. and ALWAYS assume that on 1st Dates they must be Treated to a FREE Dinner.. Going Dutch is a no no for them...
It’s sounds like she used him, but it is only from his side of the story. What every really happened, just leaving is terrible thing to do. Don’t be little ++++ and own situation, not run away from it!
Right! Be a gentleman and ask her what is going on, why is she so not interested on the date. THEN you can tell her to pay her meal, if you think she tries to take advantage on a free meal.
If you're smart you'll agree to go Dutch before you go out with them! I don't expect anyone to pay for me.
Adam Maye, way to fail troll. Sergio wasn't saying pay for the meal when he says be a gentleman, he's saying just don't run out on her and stick her with the bill on a guess, be upstanding and actually ask her what was up with her behavior instead of running away.
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How dare you say "be a gentleman" you sexist prick. Nice social standards you put out for men. Better pay for every meal even if the girl is taking advantage of you!
There's nothing in this post that indicates she wasn't going to pay for her food, just that she wasn't interested in HIM!
Exactly. Considering her being so dressed down, for all we know she may have been a sort of shut in and really wanted to get out for a good meal, but felt super awkward doing it alone. Hell, even not being a shut in I remember the first time I went out to see a movie by myself I felt super awkward being at the theatre alone.
Where in this story, Jesus, is there any indication of her using him? He took her out. With no guidelines, she ordered and ate. He didn't know for sure whether she was going to pay, yet he ran out on HIS tab. How is that right? Who got shat on? She did.
I kind of hope some guy does this to you and then you'll see it's not bad of a thing. Don't be a person who runs up a bill then leaves. Also, women want equality so why does he have to pay for her food?
Men should not HAVE to pay for women, but where in this scenario does it indicate he had to pay?
oh so he should still pay so he doesn't hurt the special little snowflakes feelings? you're stupid. the girl has definitely done this before so shes just getting her own medicine
Oh so this girl should pay for this guy because he's a special snowflake? Isn't it just common sense to pay for your own food? How do you think it is a cool thing to do to bail out like that?
Never said he had to pay her meal, I said to ask her to pay HER meal if he's sure she's taking advantage. Btw, if the date was with another guy I would do the same thing, no sexist here. Have a nice day.
Where in this read does it state she wasn't going to pay for her own meal? Furthermore, where does it state a date can't order what she did? I don't understand the problem here, except with what he did. He stiffed her not the other way around, so why are you blaming her. They both should have made it clear from the start who was paying for what.
Sergio, he TRIED to talk to her the whole me, she ignored him, when the bill came around she would probably just walk out, making him pay for all of it anyway, either way he loses..wheres the incentive?
You said it, probably.
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That's a womans response. The ol do as i say not as I do rule eh? I would've eaten MY meal and left her with that bill too!
Sexist pig
I dunno, maybe slip the money for your part to the waiter on your way out so she only gets stuck with her part to pay?
<3
This is ridiculous. Something hardly worth congratulating or justifying. The post about this talks about heroic dogs. This man is hardly a hero and just a dog. She definitely deserved it IF getting free food was her motive, BUT it still wasn't fair OR mature to ditch her.
Do NOT call this man a dog. Dogs are wonderful friendly loyal beautiful animals. Calling this man a dog is an insult to dogs just like calling her a b*itch is an insult to a dog.
i agree :) i apologize for disrespecting dogs like that.
Yes. I think he could tell her that he will pay for his meal since it's a first date and if she insists he could turn the tables on her and saying something smart make her pay for her own meal. If he had shown her that he got it that she wanted a free dinner I don't think she would insist. I don't believe there are women like her out there. She doesn't have any pride???
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
American Girls are so Entitled.. and ALWAYS assume that on 1st Dates they must be Treated to a FREE Dinner.. Going Dutch is a no no for them...