Guy Finds A Date On Tinder, However After Meeting Her He Soon Realizes Something Is Not Right
Dating in this day and age is an increasingly fraught affair, with the breakdown of previous ‘norms’ almost complete and new rules and expectations far from clear in a technology obsessed world.
Online dating and apps like Tinder do have the advantage of getting to know your date pretty well before actually meeting, it is common to exchange texts for days and have a pretty solid idea of who you are flirting with through their Facebook profile etc.
However the following story might make you think twice about jumping straight into fancy dinners and weekends away. Imgur user minilogo37 quickly realised that his ‘date’ was more interested in the material benefits that a date can bring, rather than his company, and he was being played.
What to do in such a situation? Grit your teeth and pay up, as the gentleman was previously expected to do? Insist on a bill split, with a potentially embarrassing confrontation? Quietly explain the situation to the waiter, pay him your share and leave quietly?
Scroll down below to see how minilogo37 dealt with his unscrupulous ‘date,’ and the ensuing discussion about modern dating ethics. What’s your take on the situation? Let us know in the comments!
Commenters were quick to applaud his actions
But some had other ideas
What is your take on the situation?
I dunno, maybe slip the money for your part to the waiter on your way out so she only gets stuck with her part to pay?
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This is ridiculous. Something hardly worth congratulating or justifying. The post about this talks about heroic dogs. This man is hardly a hero and just a dog. She definitely deserved it IF getting free food was her motive, BUT it still wasn't fair OR mature to ditch her.
Do NOT call this man a dog. Dogs are wonderful friendly loyal beautiful animals. Calling this man a dog is an insult to dogs just like calling her a b*itch is an insult to a dog.
i agree :) i apologize for disrespecting dogs like that.
Yes. I think he could tell her that he will pay for his meal since it's a first date and if she insists he could turn the tables on her and saying something smart make her pay for her own meal. If he had shown her that he got it that she wanted a free dinner I don't think she would insist. I don't believe there are women like her out there. She doesn't have any pride???
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American Girls are so Entitled.. and ALWAYS assume that on 1st Dates they must be Treated to a FREE Dinner.. Going Dutch is a no no for them...
Its not cool to sneak out. You should have kept the honor to yourself and take it as a lesson. You did to her what you thought she did to you. Lame situation
She could have been planning on paying for herself. It's not fair for him to run out on her
He's the one who picked a restaurant he couldn't afford. SHE assumed he wouldn't have picked it if he couldn't. So who's at fault? Why should she push a lettuce leaf around on an empty plate and drink tap water?
It doesn't matter what her intent was. It doesn't matter what he *thought* her intent was. You don't walk out of a restaurant without paying.
Exactly. You pay for your food, period. Otherwise it’s theft.
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He didn’t steal, he left a member of his party to pay the bill.
he should have just paid for himself. modern times says its not the mans responsibility to pay
I agree it's not the man's responsibility to pay, but nothing here suggests he had to pay. I personally think the inviter pays for the invitee, but that's just me. I like to make it clear from the get-go.
'Modern times' (and before modern times, as far as that goes) etiquette says that the person who invites, pays. So, yes, if the man invites, it IS the man's responsibility to pay.
I dunno, maybe slip the money for your part to the waiter on your way out so she only gets stuck with her part to pay?
<3
This is ridiculous. Something hardly worth congratulating or justifying. The post about this talks about heroic dogs. This man is hardly a hero and just a dog. She definitely deserved it IF getting free food was her motive, BUT it still wasn't fair OR mature to ditch her.
Do NOT call this man a dog. Dogs are wonderful friendly loyal beautiful animals. Calling this man a dog is an insult to dogs just like calling her a b*itch is an insult to a dog.
i agree :) i apologize for disrespecting dogs like that.
Yes. I think he could tell her that he will pay for his meal since it's a first date and if she insists he could turn the tables on her and saying something smart make her pay for her own meal. If he had shown her that he got it that she wanted a free dinner I don't think she would insist. I don't believe there are women like her out there. She doesn't have any pride???
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American Girls are so Entitled.. and ALWAYS assume that on 1st Dates they must be Treated to a FREE Dinner.. Going Dutch is a no no for them...
Its not cool to sneak out. You should have kept the honor to yourself and take it as a lesson. You did to her what you thought she did to you. Lame situation
She could have been planning on paying for herself. It's not fair for him to run out on her
He's the one who picked a restaurant he couldn't afford. SHE assumed he wouldn't have picked it if he couldn't. So who's at fault? Why should she push a lettuce leaf around on an empty plate and drink tap water?
It doesn't matter what her intent was. It doesn't matter what he *thought* her intent was. You don't walk out of a restaurant without paying.
Exactly. You pay for your food, period. Otherwise it’s theft.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
He didn’t steal, he left a member of his party to pay the bill.
he should have just paid for himself. modern times says its not the mans responsibility to pay
I agree it's not the man's responsibility to pay, but nothing here suggests he had to pay. I personally think the inviter pays for the invitee, but that's just me. I like to make it clear from the get-go.
'Modern times' (and before modern times, as far as that goes) etiquette says that the person who invites, pays. So, yes, if the man invites, it IS the man's responsibility to pay.