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“I Want A Relationship Not A Monthly Subscription”: 60 Things About Women That Don’t Impress Men
There are a lot of things men get wrong about women. In turn, there are loads of misconceptions women have about men. It's an argument as old as time; it's where legends like "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus" were born.
In reality, both men and women tend to make assumptions about the opposite gender. According to a 2024 international survey by the dating app Tinder, this "assumptions epidemic" is ruining the dating vibe. For example, 65% of women think that men only want casual flings. In reality, only 29% of men really do.
However, women get a lot of things wrong, too. Things that they think attract men might actually be repelling them. At least that's what we learned from these two online threads where someone asked: "What's something women think impresses men but actually doesn't?" If you're currently a single lady, you might want to check some of these out!
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#1
Lip fillers are hideous. I've no idea why so many women willingly keep doing this to themselves.
Michael Largey 6 minutes ago
Like ballerinas, a woman's lips should be prized for their talents, not their size.
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#2
Being "high maintenance."
I want a relationship not a monthly subscription.
#4
Testing men to see how much they care.
0110110111:
My buddy dated a girl for a couple of months and one day out of the blue she broke up with him. It was quickly discovered that it was a test because when hit with that news he felt a bit of relief and responded that he understood and wished her well. No hard feelings…on his part. She lost her mind and borderline stalked him for months.
Charlotte Ingle 13 hours ago
This is straightforward emotional a***e a d manipulation. No one should put up with it
#5
Acting hard to get only makes you hard to want.
anon:
To me it always just looks like a lack of interest, and if there’s no interest I’ll stop trying.
UDPviper:
This is coming from a gay man, but I've seen it fail for my girl friends a ton.
Playing 'hard to get.'
Most guys eventually just take it as a lack of interest and move on. Clear communication and showing genuine interest is way more impressive than a guessing game.
Charlotte Ingle 13 hours ago
Is anyone idiotic enough to play games like this? Or is it a genuine lack of interest all along?
#6
Socials. I don't care about followers count or anything of that nature. If they brag about that, it's my cue to leave.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 hours ago
I'm terrible with social media. I don't understand the obsession with it. I do *have* an Instagram, but it's 80% pictures of my (many) pets, 10% my artwork, and 10% pictures of me holding a giant potato or me wearing a horrible St. Paddy's Day hat or something XD
#7
Being difficult. The whole “if you can’t handle me at my worst” nonsense just screams the “best” ain’t worth it. Why would anyone want that?
#8
Lip fillers, ditto. They look fake and horrible.
Fake eyelashes: look like caterpillars
Overly long fake nails.
"Designer" anything.
Daisydaisy 14 hours ago
I don't know why anyone thinks false eyelashes look attractive. Maybe on a drag queen for a laugh, but in real life they just look terrifying
#9
Speaking in a childlike voice to appear cute. I guess some guys like it but to me it’s creepy.
#10
Lots of make up. Although, as I get older I become more and more convinced that women aren’t actually bothered about impressing men, it’s really other women they want to impress/make jealous!
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 hours ago
I remember being in my 20s and desperately wishing I was "better" at applying makeup. I wanted to look "pretty". But I have a lot of negative associations with makeup - my mom was born in 1944 and is of the generation/mindset that a woman MUST apply a FULL FACE of makeup EVERY DAY, even if she is literally not leaving the house (I wish I was being facetious.) She used to scream at me and slap me for NOT wearing makeup every day. That aside, it takes SO much time to apply properly (if you're doing a lot of makeup) and then later on your have to remove it/use special cleansers XD No thanks, too much work for me. I shall remain my hideous un-makeuped self XD
#11
Claiming to be an influencer or model. The delusional need for social media acceptance.
Michael None 3 hours ago
"The delusional need for social media acceptance." Well there goes 95% of them.
#12
Game playing. Instead, just say what you want. That would be a godsend to men everywhere.
#13
Those hideous painted eyebrows.
Lil be lil 11 hours ago
They are tattooed some of them and looks like drawn and filled in using a pattern cutout.
#14
Mar-a-lago face makes me want to throw up.
Smasa224:
I haven't met any humans of any gender who thinks that looks good. Its like the Amazon guy's wife, any time her photo pops up, whoever i am near comments how terrible she looks...
Ive heard.. "all the money in the world, and she chooses to look this terrifying "... but never "i wish I could afford to look like that."
Skara Brae 9 hours ago
It's sad to see so many women, like Kristi Noem's trowelled-on makeup in the picture above, and 'influencers' with hideous beauty filters, toothpick legs under hippo butts and protruding suction-cup lips. Is this the behavior of well-balanced people? Who decided ideal women should look this way, a circus? How can they expect anybody to respect or trust them when they look and act so fake? Also, take a hard look at that picture. If a man looked at you like that and followed you, wouldn't you call the police?
#15
Putting other women down.
#16
Telling us about how many other dudes are interested in you or what they did for you.
Rachel_Silver:
I dated someone who did that. I think she believed that was how you got a man to spoil you. I also came to the conclusion that she had "traded up" to me from the last guy, because she would compare me to him a lot if she felt I was slacking.
We lasted less than a week.
Lil be lil 12 hours ago
Yea but I don't like cheap guys or guys that are always tallying in their heads how much they're spending on you and as if you don't reciprocate by making a nice dinner or something p. I had a guy who treated me as if every date was a transactional event called him out on that and broke up!
#17
Not eating when on a date, like if he sees you consuming food you’ll immediately become obese and he will be disgusted, so all you order is a side salad and then steal his fries.
Just get the steak. Men tend to like women with a healthy appetite especially when it carries over to other activities.
Pittsburgh rare 7 hours ago
Dunno, I've had men commenting on my appetite, because apparently it was bigger than theirs/ not feminine. Dude, I work two jobs, I go to the gym and carry a household. I watch what I eat but I want big volume meals.
#18
Being "sassy" or a "brat" .... it's just being annoying and/or obnoxious.
#19
There’s a difference between being an independent individual vs simply not taking others into account. I’m glad you’re your own person, absolutely! I don’t want to be responsible for somebody’s sense of self. But, if there’s no room for others in your narrative it’s probably going to be a lonely one.
#21
Maybe it's just me, But non-stop traveling and endless party pictures don't impress me at all.
Pittsburgh rare 7 hours ago
As a woman, I really don't get how the #of countries you've been to defines your value as a human being. Yeah, travelling expands your views, but at some point it becomes a ridiculous competition without any added value.
#22
Pretending to be dumb.
2ManyMonitors:
I remember watching my sister, who is extremely intelligent, play dumb for a boy when she was 14 or 15 and I was shocked. He said some dumb fact about Europe, and she said some ditzy comment like, "So Europe is a continent, hehe?" I don't know why it bothered me so much in the moment, but I laughed at her and called her out, something to the effect of, "Aren't you in the Geography club and spent last summer in Rome!?"
We all try different approaches when we're figuring out how to talk to the opposite sex, and she definitely grew up to be an assertive woman who leads with her intelligence.
Skara Brae 9 hours ago
Why would any intelligent woman subject herself to being with a dullard? It must be soul-crushing.
#23
When they say they can’t get along with other women. I always think man there’s no way you’re a stable, honest and interesting person. If you can’t maintain friendships with your own gender I know a few women who think it’s a flex when talking to guys but I just don’t think it’s impressive at all.
Charlotte Ingle 13 hours ago
I genuinely find most men easier to get along with because there's typically less ritualized conversations (aside from the sports blabber)
#24
Had a girl on the first date that kept bringing up making money and wanting to be super rich out of context to the point where it got weird. Wanting to be rich is fine, but like it shouldn’t be 75% of your personality.
#25
Women seem to think men are impressed by how much money they spend on clothes or bags, but most men either don't notice or don't care.
Giraffe Sitter 12 hours ago
To me, it’s a turnoff. $1,000 for a purse? It screams vanity and misplaced priorities. Unless you’re filthy rich, then I’m turned off for different reasons.
#26
Acting disinterested to seem to be COOL.
Pingu-was-a-penguin:
I remember bumping into a girl I liked from school a good 10 years after we left and she was talking about how she used to have a crush on me yet she very strongly rejected any flirting I tried or even general conversation. I straight up thought she was disgusted by me so idk what on earth her plan was lol
Tabitha 2 hours ago (edited)
I have never been attracted to fro the guys who try to act cool by acting totally uninterested in anything. They weren’t interested in studying in school, participating in school or other activities, apparently not even interested in their girlfriends—-unless, of course another guy was interested in her—-and later in life seemingly uninterested in their jobs and lives. That’s not being cool, that’s being boring as f**k. It’s not attractive, it doesn’t give you an air of mystery, and it definitely does not make you look cool. You just look empty. I always gave guys like that a wide berth because to me, their behavior is just off putting and dull. I would rather spend my time with people who are interesting and interested—-not just in me but in the world around them, with the sharing of ideas, with figuring life itself out. To me, that’s what’s the most attractive about anyone.
#27
I went on a date with a girl who told me like 5 different stories of her getting into fights. Did not take her yp on a 2nd date.
#28
Idk but a lot of women seem to post up their dating profiles like they are ads for a job application. Tell me about YOU, don't tell me what I should be.
#29
“I know my worth” post. Having a healthy self esteem is good and necessary but it doesn’t work that way.
Saying you see yourself as a “Queen” doesn’t means people must treat you as one.
#31
Everything excessive so it shows. Make-up, cosmetic stuff, especially the ugly lip thing they do. Excessively high heels, small purses. I like my women sort of natural and not fake. I must recognize her without make-up, in jeans and t-shirt as well.
KatSaidThat 1 hour ago
I have a tardis tiny purse. It looks like it would only fit keys and lipstick, but the reality is that it has keys, travel card, card wallet, phone, vape and maybe some mascara and a sample perfume. People always amused.
#32
Once the makeup doesn’t match the skin tone of your neck/shoulders it looks way worse than your natural face ever could.
Chris the Bobcat 14 hours ago
Just like a certain orange-painted traitor my uneducated countrymen elected and worship.
#33
As a woman I would say acting super jealous or trying to test him with some drama to check if he "cares enough" or is "boyfriend/hubby material".
In reality, most men won't only be unimpressed, they will see it as a huge red flag and rightfully so.
#34
BBL.
#35
Being intentionally rude or sarcastic to seem confident.
#37
Talking about how much they don't need a man. Like, I can respect that they can take care of themselves, but why are you advertising yourself if you'd rather just be alone?
TotallyNOTAFox 6 hours ago (edited)
The partner being a bonus on top of the independence - Honestly, I think I would actually prefer being the bonus on top and not the necessity to have as it's an active choice to be around me
#38
I have had several instances where women have pretended to be interested in my nerdy hobbies only to later be annoyed by them and refuse to participate in them in a relationship.
Charlotte Ingle 13 hours ago
I might find it interesting to hear you talk about your hobbies; doesn't mean I want to participate. Same as telling you about the interesting part of my book doesn't mean I expect you to read the whole thing
#39
Boasting about themselves and how they're important.
Ego
Arrogant
Not being respectful of others.
#40
Talking [trash] about other women - especially their girl friends.
Also family. I get it if you don’t have the greatest relationship with them, but you don’t have to always bag on them; it’s not a good look.
Kelly Scott 1 hour ago
"Not the greatest relationship" is NOT the same as having been a****d both verbally and physically for years to the point of having had childhood depression and s******l thoughts. And if you can't appreciate what a debilitating effect that has on a person, maybe you'd be better off dating the Singing Nun.
#41
Saying “I’m a lot.”
Yes I’m aware. Pointing it out just makes it worse.
#42
Im sure it’s not gender exclusive but I can’t stand a woman who really brags herself up, acts like she’s a take charge type “alpha” or something then literally approaches every situation with what seems like 2 brain cells.
#43
Refusing to answer Yes or No.
Child of the Stars 46 minutes ago
Unfortunately, this is a much more nuanced problem than asking that women just be straightforward. We've been conditioned to be "nice," especially with men. But it's also a safety issue for us. A lot of men (and I don't mean that to mean "most" or "all", just a lot) do not react well to being told "no" by a woman. Until we know you're safe for us to say "no" to, we'll probably just keep being more vague than not.
#44
Boasting about being promiscuous.
#45
It's not gender specific, but I hate it when women are purposely dishonest with you in order to impress you. I want to know the real you so I can know what I'm getting into.
#46
Posting luxury flex pics. Most guys just assume it’s debt or daddy’s money and keep scrolling..
TotallyNOTAFox 6 hours ago
Or that there is constant pressure in the relationship to provide such things in the future
#48
I've seen some interviews with women who, when asked to rate themselves, automatically say they are a 10. And they think that answer will impress men, because, in their words, 'men want confident women.'
Nope. Being *blatantly* deluded isn't impressive or a sign of confidence. Men want a woman who understands reality.
#50
Long stories about exes.
#51
Out in clubs every single weekend.
#53
Bragging about being able to drink as much as men….i don’t think I’ve ever seen it turn out well.
#54
Acting bored is cringe.
#55
Being a girlboss. So we will constantly be in a competition against your career when it comes to your priorities?
The girlboss trope have…”influenced”… our favorite fandoms during the last 10 years, while proudly shouting that ”men arnt needed”. We are looking for a partner to build with, not a rival to compete against. We against the world, not you verses me.
Charlotte Ingle 12 hours ago
Wanted and needed are different things. Two people cannot be partners when one is dependent n the other
#56
I'll probably get downvoted but your money, career, & education don't impress us I'm legit happy for you achieving your goals but it's about as relevant to us as our interests are to you.
Charlotte Ingle 13 hours ago
If your career, education and interests are of no interest to her, what the heck are you going to talk about?
#57
Stating your positive attributes, but listing things women find desirable in men, i.e. good job, independent, earns lots of money etc. Some guys will appreciate this but most guys would prefer someone trustworthy, loyal, respectable, who won't nag them and likes frequent intimacy - with women like this becoming exceedingly rare.
Separately, telling a guy he is stable and secure with all your past partners not being that way. It doesn't impress us and lets us know you're settling and aren't that attracted, that we are only a stable wallet.
#58
Being strong and independent. In the sense of being adult. Not the feminist meaning.
It doesn’t impress me if you say „I work and take care of myself“ yet a lot of women think it is special.
#60
“I can do anything a man can do”. So can all men, but I don’t want a man, I want a lady.
Pittsburgh rare 7 hours ago
You don't want a lady, you want a delicate damsel to feel more manly
What do you think ?
Boris Long-Johnson 9 hours ago
The post is gendered so fair enough but I suspect the majority of these are behaviours that just makes a person unattractive.
David Paterson 9 hours ago (edited)
Perfume. The stronger it is the more of a red flag it is. It's not s*xy, stop it.
Boris Long-Johnson 9 hours ago
The post is gendered so fair enough but I suspect the majority of these are behaviours that just makes a person unattractive.
David Paterson 9 hours ago (edited)
Perfume. The stronger it is the more of a red flag it is. It's not s*xy, stop it.
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