It can be easy to fall into the trap of forgetting that the other half of the population lives a very different kind of life. The things that you might do without a second thought can, at times, be completely out of the ordinary for someone else.
So one curious internet user asked, “What is normal to men but weird to women?” and netizens shared their best examples. From prison-cell-like living spaces to simply never asking questions, get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites, and be sure to add your own thoughts and examples in the comments section below.
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Not getting details. Case in point: One of my best friends wife had a baby. I swung by the hospital on my lunch break, congratulated him, and left.
That night, I told my wife they had the baby. It was a boy, and the name. She started asking all this other stuff, length, weight, time, etc, and I had no idea. Didn't bother to ask. Baby was good, Mom and Dad were good. I thought I had covered the bases.
I wouldn't think to ask about any of that either. It's not my baby🤷🏽♀️ but congrats!!
What u gonna do with information like weight, length, time etc anyway? Calculating the volume?
Not far. Calculating how much chocolate the new mother will need to recover from pushing said volume out and if emergency supply should be sent
Load More Replies...Just read this out to my husband. Him: "It's not about details, that depends on what it is. If it's your own family, you'd remember". Me: So how much did you weigh when you were born? Him: I don't know, I meant like your own children. Me: How much did our daughter weigh when she was born, then? Him: gets up and stomps out of the room. Point proven, I think.
Details only matter to people who love stats. If you only care that friends and family are happy and healthy, you are simply a good caring person. My family loves me, and I love them, so nothing else really matters.
Load More Replies..."It had 4 limbs, a head and a torso - from my perspective a fully functional baby"
Never been pregnant and never want to, but I think the dimensions of a baby are a lot more significant to people with uteruses for obvious reasons.
Accidentally walking behind a woman at night and quickly going to the other side of the road or slowing down to create distance so you don't seem like a creep.
Did this last night, crossing throu a big apartment complex, there are routes to cross it in less time, she was about 15ft in front of me. After taking the same path for 5 minutes y redirected and took a longer route cause I was feeling creepy.
If she realised you did that, she probably appreciated the fact that you weren't after her and breathed a little easier on the way home. Us girls shouldnt feel threatened when we travel but the sad reality is, not all of us live in safe neighbourhoods.
Load More Replies...It’s actually too bad that men have to think this way because of the way women are often treated. But I thank you.
It's sad, but thank you for going out of your way to make women feel that little bit safer. We see it and appreciate it.
If you find yourself walking behind a woman at night and they are walking too fast for you to overtake them. Either stop for a few moments so they can get farther away from you, or I sometimes call my wife and just say things like "hi honey, do we need milk of anything for the house?" My wife would say "Isolated female console operation?" and we would laugh. I don't know hearing someone call their home to ask if they need any groceries usually puts people at ease. At least it works for me.
My dad also doesn't like sitting next to younger women on the bus (except me and my cousins) for the same reason.
I used to finish work quite late at night in several towns and cities (I was a Chef), and as I was a clever bunny and usually lived reasonably close to where I worked, I would walk home. I have lost count of the times of situations where I've encountered lone women or a couple of tipsy ones where I've basically, loudly stated that I'm knackered after a long shift, on my way home, and would they like company on their way home ....... I've just read that back and it sounds creepy but it usually broke the ice and I made some really good friends over the years ; had a couple of brief relationships as well but that's another story. Didn't fancy going on a long detour after a 12 hour shift so this approach worked well for me !!
I was attacked by, as it turned out, a rapist when I was 39. It was in broad daylight and I fought back, so I only got punched in the face. That was 34 years ago and I still feel super anxious if someone is walking behind me on a quiet street.(Even though I now live in a lovely safe little town)
Several years back, my wife and I moved abroad. Our first Christmas back in the US we had separate guys/ladies nights to catch up with our old friends. When we got back that night she was able to give me an update on everyone because for the past few hours they just sat in a circle and took turns talking about their lives. When she asked me about the guys, I responded "I dunno, we just ordered pizza and played video games".
Crippling depression? No idea. Divorced from his wife and the kids ran away? Also no idea.
Load More Replies...TBF, this is not necessarily indicative of guys' friendships. Some of us talk about our lives with each other, and what's going on. But ngl, if you put on the old N64 with multiplayer GoldenEye 007 it's gonna be all business for the night 😅
Women have face to face friendships, and men have side by side friendships. This is a documented sociological phenomenon.
there's a fantastic dylan moran skit about this. kills me every time. if anyone wants to watch (starts about 1:45 though the whole bit is good): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJdprkOVyno
I love this. Typical male behavior. Doesn't matter what job you landed in etc etc etc.... Just having a good time enjoying each others company.
But it's s****y when you need support and don't get it. It shouldn't always be just shallow stuff like gaming.
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Me and the bros have been friends for like 15 years... I think we have a total of 3 pictures together haha
Start taking pictures NOW. When best friends go it can be very quick...
Yep, maybe 10 pics of all 3 together, been friends for 44 years (we're 49)
I love pictures, I take even candid ones {if it's of strangers I show them afterward and tell them I don't use them for money but for the pose in my art, and usually they don't care, or it's easily deleted or sent to them since I have a few be like "that's good can I get that too?"}.... But I hardly have actual pictures of myself or my brother, tons of my aunts and mom and sister, but like only 3 of myself and 5 of my brother lol and thats after 30 years together!
There's only one pic of me with my best friend and we've been best mates for 24 years. I HATE having my photo taken let alone do selfies 🤢
My best friend and I also have 3 pics where we're together. One from when we were 6 or 7. One from graduation. One from wedding (his). We'll probably have a fourth during mine. That's all. We've been friends nearly 25 years now! 😉
I was heartbroken when my best friend showed me her book of memories taken from Facebook posts and I wasn’t in a single pic. Now I make sure we take photos together every time we do something together.
Not having any real friends to support them through tough times.
This is particularly true of boomers - I hope it won't be the same for my generation. As I watch my parents and their friends get old, sick, and die, I see that none of the men visit each other in hospital or even know why their "friends" are sick. My mom and her female friends spend their days checking in on and taking care of each other. But when a husband gets sick, there is no one except their wife to take care of them.
The only exception in my parents' friend-group was the gay male couple. They had a community of gay men supporting them.
Further up this list are men cheerily talking about how they know nothing about their friends and never check in on how their life is going, just do stuff together. Is it surprising that at an age that they can't do things together anymore there's nothing else there? This isn't genetic for men, other cultures are very different. This is how society has taught them to 'be men' - make it very clear they don't care about emotions or feelings and have no actual fondness or love for other men.
It's not a good thing that we do this, we actually train men in our society to distance themselves from each other. So when many men actually crave that bond, they just hang out together in mutual silence, or fill the void with meaningless details like sports or video games. It is all our society will accept us to have.
Load More Replies...Too many men outsource all social interaction to their wives or girlfriends. Not maintaining friendships will bite anyone in the a*s in the long run.
This because of the same reason men don't ask each other personal questions and make fun of each other. I know all that stuff seems quirky and cute about men, but I think it leads to discomfort being vulnerable. And you are never more vulnerable when either your are sick and frail, or when someone you love is. Women practice it their whole lives though.
Gay boomers have had a LOT of practice watching friends die, from the time they were young. One day, they were going to work, going to parties, forming their social network, and the next day, they were going to work, forming their social network, and preparing to die.
I don't think this is true. My FIL was a boomer and he had several friends visit him while he was dying.
It's a phenomenon but obviously not everyone is like that. Good on your FIL!
Load More Replies...Refer to #3. Maybe put down the video game controller and have a chat sometime. Support groups talk to each other.
I must be in the minority then, because I've faced most of my worst times with maybe only a few MALE friends to help me through. As a female, I grew up with virtually no friends at all and most of my crisis I had to cope with emotionally alone because my parents werent interested past the : how much is gonna cost me to sort this out for you? phase.
Being scared of randomly being accused of being a creep in public, possibly even reported, even though you're just minding your own business.
No, I'm not staring at you, I'm thinking about a certainly relevant scenario about how I would fight off a random armed bank robber right now and my state of mind is "Where am I going again? Oh, look, a bunch of ants. Nice."
My dad used to drive to a park on his lunch break, eat his lunch then lay his seat back and take a short nap. He was reported to the police because they thought he was "watching the kids". He wasn't even facing the playground. If I (female) did the same thing I doubt anyone would've thought anything of it.
And you would be correct, noone would have been as concerned over a woman at a park. This is one of the main reasons you hear about men alone in their rooms, since it is the only place they don't feel like they are threatening to others. It turns out being lonely is not the worst possible condition, if you're a guy.
Load More Replies...Men should be angry at the men who assault, grape, and unalive women and children
It's a shame women must be wary of all men. If in the past only our male-dominated society had done more to police men's bad behavior we wouldn’t be in this situation. Perhaps in the future law enforcement will believe crime victims and begin enforcing the law. With criminals behind bars, everyone will be safer and good men won’t have reason to feel bad.
I understand where OP is coming from, 100%. Being scared of being accused is both a real and valid fear. BUT, think of how terrifying it is to be afraid you are being watched/stalked by a creep. I am an AFAB who dresses very feminine, I've had cars pull up to ask me where I lived, and how pretty I was. (I was twelve.) So from now on, every slow car next to me is a reason to be afraid. My mother went for a walk to take the dog at night and came back saying that some random guy really freaked her out, but my dad has never had that problem. While OP's struggles make sense and are important, there is also a reason that women or AFABS assume the worst. Plus, most who assume things like that, have had experiences that led them to have that fear.
This is me with people thinking I'm staring at them, but I have ADHD so sometimes I'm in La La Land and my own head bouncing around with a thousand random thoughts and something like a movement or a flashlight behind them has caught my attention and then I just don't release my attention. I have seriously had people get very offended and be like why are you staring at me and I just look at them in a complete daze and video like huh
Load More Replies...Yeah... one accusation can ruin your life. I refused to ever be alone with female employees after one accused me of trying something when she drunkenly hit on me and I said I wasn't interested. 1) I was/am in a longterm, committed relationship; 2) if I wasn't, I still wouldn't be interested in someone so sloppily drunk - I like drinking, but not to the point of losing control and definitely not when I had to drive people later; and 3) watching as she spent most of the evening with her tongue down our married kitchen manager's throat... do I really need to say more. It took a long time for her to finally admit I never even showed interest in her, let alone touched her, but the harm was never fully undone.
It must suck to have people think you are creepy. It sucks more to have random men think they can touch you or follow you until you find a cop.
Yeah it absolutely does but you know what It doesn't change the fact that the other person has something creepy going on or something annoying or sucky. and the more that other men call out the bad men or even just the men who think it's funny to say s****y things the better it will be. fully dismissing another person's experience as invalid just makes it really easy for them to do that to you or other people.
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That side step to unstick your nutsack.
Is this the moment to introduce men to the reality of pubic hair / dried blood / sanitary towel? BIG sideways step + grimace.
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Being friends with someone and knowing absolutely nothing about them
To fix this: Knowing absolutely nothing about them that someone else thinks is normal to know.
I think that is the right way to interpret this. Women will ask for detailed information about the other people's lives, but men feel like "If he wanted me to know, he would have told me." So, it isn't that we won't know things about the other guys, it will be that we will know what they have told us without us digging into their lives. And since some people are more "private" than others, you might in fact know very little about a guy you are friends with.
Load More Replies...So weird. My friends and I have always shared our thoughts and feelings.
My man explained this to me when one of his close friends tried to get closer to me and other gfs in our friends group. He didn't know he was like that. After 15 years he never asked. Including not knowing he was a predator xD now he keeps more communication and knowledge of his friendships
Whether that's a joke or not, both ways it's perfectly said :)
Load More Replies...That's fine but do you know what his politics are, do you know his attitude towards women's rights Do you know his attitude towards music? I think those questions matter a whole lot more than his favorite color
Load More Replies...part of it also is a lot of guys don't have best friends not real close best friends They have two or three people they know that they go to a game with once in awhile or grab a beer and I agree it's kind of sad that they don't know each other better. The point is also lots of guys only have that kind of intimate relationship with a woman where they explain their thoughts and feelings if they even do that and that is why a lot of men become so possessive any woman in their life and resent them having friendships Even with other women and then they began separating their wives from other women even when it's not abusive it's simply a case of the only person who gives them any kind of emotional connection to the world how dare that person have anything to do with anyone else
Load More Replies..."Are they kind to the people around them" would be a better approach.
Load More Replies...Part of happy humanity. Never discussing your religion, politics, beliefs, or what you do behind closed doors to your bestest buddies.
And it also gives you plausible deniability... You know like when you find out later that the guy you knew for 20 years has been beating his wife and messing with his kids you can always say Oh I didn't know he was that kind of guy
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The one who gets roasted the most is probably our star of the group. We insult because we love.
I know this concept, but that doesn't necessarily have to be the case. It is also possible that one is venting frustration in this way. While (more or less consciously) disguising it as banter. It's a fine line ;)
My old "friends" used to roast me all the time. They thought it was just a laugh; no harm done. They didn't realise they were bullying me. I still feel the pain.
part of it is because one of the aspects of toxic masculinity is a lot of guys feel they can't speak out and say hey you're going too far partly because if they do speak out the other guys feel that they have a right to push harder and be like I'm just joking dude can't you take a joke? But I do know what you mean and I think part of the difference is a lot of guys don't know the difference between ribbing someone kind of like nudging them in the ribs "Oh remember that time you got drunk?" and bullying which would be "every time you go out you're such a drunk hahaha You can't handle any beer"
Load More Replies...I was in the middle of the mall & saw an old war buddy of mine. I used a racial slur & he used one back. We hugged. We were just that tight from serving in such terrible conditions together.
But that's because you know each other is limits and I'm guessing you probably respect them. I'm pretty sure you know what you cannot say to this guy and you have probably at some point subtly or straight out made it clear dude that's a step too far. That's a very healthy form of masculinity Believe it or not you call each other f****r and if you've made it clear that's fine then that's not an unhealthy thing. But if he knows you don't want to be called whatever that's just that one little bit too far cuz it really annoys you and then he goes ahead and does it and then tells you not to get upset because he's just joking then that stoxic
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stopping to pick up a good stick
For me, it doesn't just stop with picking up the stick. What follows is stick becomes lightsaber in my head and whoosh, whoosh, imaginary Stormtrooper falls XP
I am a girl. Give me a good stick and i will be thrilled lol. My friend and i actually had a sort of wrestling/playfight over a really good stick. He won :(
Load More Replies...I do this, that's why I started using hiking poles because I'm committed to leave no trace even though I want to bring everything home.
I've got 4 dogs, if I pick up a stick, they expect me to throw it to the next continent. What kind of man would I be if I disappoint them?
The dogs I have now aren't interested in sticks that much but I threw a stick up for a dog in the park and the man said 'he'll not leave you alone now' and yikes he was right! I nearly went home with a third dog! Not that I'd have minded!!
Load More Replies...With magpies and plovers wanting to swoop you (I'm in Australia of course) a good stick is a necessity on all my walks
yeah we have plovers here in SA and they are c***s.
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Having no decorations whatsoever.
Hmm, by the number of Persian rugs and paintings in the house before we met, it would appear that Mr Auntriarch is a woman (he wasn't last time I checked)
You know almost every guy I know over the age of 20 has at least some cool and interesting stuff in his house I really would feel very uncomfortable if I went to someone's house and they had no decorations whatsoever and they were over the age of 20 or had lived in a place more than 6 months
Load More Replies...Not entirely true. I like art and appreciate it. I'm not big on scatter cushions or lamps or statuettes, but definitely paintings or prints.
This isn't true. A lot of men have collections and trophys and stuff they display.
Dont you have hobbies or interests you want to display? I mean i get not having random stuff, but nothing??
Funny how some men say women have no interests or hobbies and then there are these completely dead male rooms with no soul.
Load More Replies...I disagree. I made a wine room in our lower level/basement. With bar tables, giant wine rack, sports memorabilia on the wall. Our living room has a cabin theme with bear, elk, and deer accents: lamps, coasters, pillows, etc. Our sunroom has nice seating, a potting table, antique lights, and a lanter. I did all of it. Maybe in my teens and early 20s, it wasn't important to me. But I still had decor back then... just not a bunch of stuff covering every surface - that's my wife's jam.
I think most men like some decoration in their home, but we don't need 14 pillows in the bed and another 12 on the couch.
I like a cushion just for the comfort (dodgy back) and it might as well go with the room but a dozen cushions you have to move before getting in the bed? I will never understand that!
Load More Replies...Men are usually only home to eat sleep and maybe watch TV/play games, and none need the stimulation of decorations . . . . . . . . I used to do that before I could walk or do much, and now stay inside, so instead of looking at plain walls I need something more stimulating, So I put up paintings and other stuff, but that's the reason
My husband has decorated his study...Ancient Greek style. He's a History buff.
Deciding to do something and leaving the house 5 minutes later to get it done.
Going to a store to buy one thing, buying the one thing, then immediately leaving.
This is about mental charge. You go to the store for one thing and don't think of what could be needed later in the house while the other one is constantly listing what is running out and how long whatever remains will last so maybe it would be better to buy some to avoid shortage at a bad moment...
Load More Replies...I'm a woman and I'm always ready first, it feels like I spend my life waiting for my husband and/or child/ren to get ready
Yet the kitchen sink is still leaking and the roof is on fire... but yeah.. we need that super weird screwdriver to put together your new computer chair.
Who are these men? seriously I've dated more men than I care to admit, I'm 55 I can say that, I've had male roommates, do you know how many times I've said Let's get going, we need to run to the store to do that errand you were planning on yesterday. I often have to say I'm running out of energy We have to get that thing you've been talking about all week long done now.
Oh I am 100% on board with this!!! And once I get to the shop or whatever I'm doing, I get my s**t done and get out as quickly as possible. Then it's done and I can move on
Using shampoo, conditioner, body wash and face wash from the same bottle
I'm a man and I live with 4 women, the shower is filled with "Lilly of the Valey" theres no room for my stuff so I come out of the shower smelling like a gardenia
It's bad for your hair though. You don't notice any damage because you cut it often.
Load More Replies...A shampoo for my oily scalp and a bar of green soap made with olive oil. The latter highly recommended by doctors and used by nurses, for washing patients and avoid eczema.
That's what I noticed first! Lol I dunno if I'd get Gladys' name tattooed even if I loved her a bunch
Load More Replies...Body wash? Face wash? Don't those get clean during the hair cleaning thing?
This isn't looking good for Mr Auntriarch - separate soap (for sensitive skin) shampoo and conditioner.
Body hair. It’s fine for men to have hairy legs, armpits, etc., but everyone loses their mind if they see a woman with body hair
That's OK, after 50 the hair on the arms and legs quit growing but begin popping out of the nose and ears.
If you're a women, they also start sprouting on the chin and suddenly you understand the true value of a nice set of tweezers.
Load More Replies...Hairy lady here. If anyone loses their mind over my hair, that's a them problem. You do you with your own hair, and let me do me. If the 70's look puts you off, we're just not compatible and that is okay.
And heaven forbid a woman have any visible facial hair! Back in the day men knew to shut up and not say anything, but nowadays there's a group of extremely disrespectful men who get in our faces and start acting like jerks, calling us men and saying we'll never be real women and stupid c**p like that. It makes me want to slap them across the face.
I was told by a man to shave my face because of my dark hair. Another time a jealous woman started commenting on hair on my hands and wondering why women don't shave there. It's disgusting to shame someone for something so natural and innocent.
Load More Replies...The bit I don't get is why evolution has decided that men over 40 suddenly need additional nose, ear and eyebrow hair.
Help to keep potential airborn illness out of body (nose) and the excess sweat of exertion out of their eyes?
Load More Replies...Not fine for me. From the neck down, I shave. I hate having body hair, but don't mind it on ANYONE else.
I've never been that hairy to be honest. I only shave my armpits because otherwise it becomes irritated. I dont shave anything else. Due to my thyroid, my legs rarely show the fine hairs so no one has told me: eww girl shave your legs because no one has ever noticed.
The only reason men think female body hair is weird is because they haven't ever seen it.
My dad always shaves his armpits. He says he feels gross when he has armpit hair.
Love hairy men 🥰 FYI I shave legs and pits. As a woman I have never understood why a lot of people would want to resemble a prepubescent to be sexy! Or as an adult find that sexy! Let it grow ladies.
Nodding to other random dudes on the street, and getting nods back in acknowledgement
Up if you know them, down if you don't. No one taught us this, but we all know it.
Motorcyclist have a code when passing each other on the road. Left hand, 2 fingers pointing down. Oddly enough, guys that ride crotch rockets never do it.
That's strange, I only rode a motorscooter, but chaps on really big bikes, always, acknowledged me in this way and gave me a head nod as well.(UK) I was not a "Dolly Bird" either. I was in my 40's
Load More Replies...I nod to everyone, just acknowledging that we exist, we're human, and we're right here right now having the shared experience that is life.
Going literal years without any sort of physical contact
This shouldn't be normal. Deprivation of touch is a problem, not a normal.
This doesn't belong here, I've met women that have spent years without any human touch. It's an individual thing and has nothing to do with gender.
Same for many women, especially if you're on your own when the menopause strikes. Nature takes away the incentive to do something about it.
Idle mode, literally not thinking of anything for a short period of time
How is that possible?! I’m a guy, and my brain whirls endlessly.
It still does, the key detail is that the thoughts are more like a screensaver level of trivial, to the point when someone asks we have already forgotten the last meaningful thought. The lovely way the angles on that corner seem to blend with the background is forgotten almost reflexively. And we say we were thinking of nothing instead.
Load More Replies...ladies, please stop asking us "what are you thinking" because most of the time it's "I hope she doesn't ask me what I'm thinking...quick make something up that sounds romantic and not how many cornflakes there is in a box "
It isn't something I ask but I'd love it if 'how many cornflakes there is in a box' was the response! Who doesn't have drifting rubbish in their head at times?
Load More Replies...The never ending cycle, “What are you thinking about?” “Oh, nothing”. “Whatdoyamean nothing? How can you possibly not be thinking about something? Who is it? Who are you seeing behind my back?”
I knew a girl who was proud of that, that she doesn't think about anything sometimes. For me it seems impossible.
I have ADHD and before I was taking Cymbalta for fibromyalgia I didn't even dream loud meaning I didn't have dreams I was aware of By the way that's really common with people with ADHD and when I started taking Cymbalta and it corrected my serotonin And I started having dreams that I was aware of having I hated it with all my heart because as a person who's wearing his constantly running on multiple tracks at one time it felt like that was the only silent time in my head when I was asleep
Strapping something down and saying “that’s not going anywhere”
Gotta give it a good smack for good measure too. Especially bags of soil, mulch and the like.
Not true. My wife does this to me all the time. (NO, I'm only joking. Neither of us are into that.)
I talk to anything and everything. My garden plants, my knitting and sewing.. If I'm multitasking I remind myself what comes next ( I've been known to make two types of bread and a cake at the same time) I'm always having to tell my husband that I'm talking to myself and not him. I believe he thinks I'm weird.
Click tongs before use. No work otherwise. Prep drill (make drilling whirring noise)
Er no. Most girls will put something down on a chair and tell it to STAY. I've seen this, and I do this too.
Not having to constantly worry about waiting on line for the bathroom/finding a bathroom
My wife is amazed men can pee while standing right next to each other without issue.
I read an interview with a women designing a basket ball stadium. When ask why there are more facilities for men than women she explained. "Women will wait in line, men will pee in a corner".
This is why I wear pads. No way am I waiting in a long line of women. Guys have it easier.
I spent my career in libraries, and always noted at library conferences that there was no line for the men's room.
Go to the races at Birdsville, outback Queensland...men have to line up there. 1 women to every 100 men. Only time at a public event I didn't have to line up, nice to experience how the other half live
Just say ´welcome gender neutral restrooms´. Since COVID these popup everywhere in the Netherlands.
I'm trans, and not many people know that. It gives me a very unique perspective in life of having acclimatised to both men and women social norms. A major difference is that men and women gossip, - but differently. When girls gossip, it's about "who did what, when, how, and *the audacity*" and when men gossip, it's one guy saying "this guy is a s**t c**t, ay." And other guys going "yeah." If I treated either in reversal, men would be put off by it, and women would be wondering *why* I don't like them over the fact that I just *don't,* women need reason, context. Forgiveness is different too. Women are so much more understanding, but rarely forgive once a line is crossed. Men might just not like you over something petty. Buy him a beer or make his life a little easier and suddenly you're not so bad anymore. "He's still a s**t c**t, but he's not that bad" Men aren't better drivers, they're more decisive ones. Women are more cautious, which can slow reaction time when they're accessing the situation. Men leave much more to instinct. Often in each other's eyes, men are reckless, women are too slow. Neither are necessarily right or wrong. Being "gross". Men in men-only environments don't tend to think much about spitting, sticky taping wounds, adjusting their junk, farting, burping, not washing their hands as often as they probably should. There seems to be a lot more group forgiveness that "yeah I do that too, it's normal." When women are together, you still don't hear them ripping one and congratulating each other.
I think this is really interesting. It's not often someone gets to see 'both sides of the story' from an insides perspective. Would make for a great anthropological study.
I'd love to learn a little more, the farting however idk about that. My sister and her friends are worse then me and the homies. I think everything else is pretty spot on.
Load More Replies...You are a wise person, but ladies can say c**t too, and we mean it.
I don't know, does "bloody hell that one must have registered on the seismograph at Milton Keynes" count as congratulations?
I (woman) have a friend (woman) who likes to burp and fart and laugh about it and I just find it so disgusting and off putting. I’ll never laugh with her about it.
A wise man once said that if you refuse to laugh at farts, you're choosing to live in a world with less joy but the same number of farts.
Load More Replies...I can promise you that some of my friends and I beat the boys hands down for burping. I have IBS though so it's not really wise to properly let rip in public - just in case...
I'm concerned about the hand washing especially if they are preparing my food.
SPITTING ON THE SIDEWALK. WHYYYYY DO THEY DO THAT
I've never done this. I've seen some men do it but I never know why? I mean... did a fly land in your mouth? Or do you have tuberculosis?
Agreed, disgusting. Solution: make them do it on their own kitchen floor.
one of my biggest gripes, every time I see something out the corner of my eye, I turn my head and sure enough its some guy hocking one the side walk. turns my stomach. UGH.
Washing your hair every time you shower
Well I wash my hair every time but I only shower about twice a week.
That’s interesting. Where I live now is so hot that I shower almost twice a day. I’d love needing to do it less often.
Load More Replies...I don't know how people don't do it. My head itches just thinking about it.
There is absolutely no need to wash your hair every single time you shower.
Well some people have actual medical reasons like psoriasis or whatever that they have to wash their hair daily but as a person who watches their hair once a week with shampoo bars I 100% agree that most people Who washed their hair daily don't need it
Load More Replies...Uhm, yeah? I get in and do everything at once, normally. The only times I don´t do my hair is when they don´t have enough time to dry before going out or to bed.
Nope. Shower everyday but only shampoo my hair maybe twice a week. And no, just putting your head under the spray isn't "washing", that's just rinsing.
I have very short hair that is wildly dyed so I wash my hair with a mild shampoo bar once a week
Been working out at a local gym for half a year with 3-4 guys . Don’t know their names. Don’t plan on asking.
Yep. There's Hey Man, What's Up Dude, Bro and Mate.😁
Load More Replies...Why not? There's a post on this page where a man mourns men's lack of friends to help during illness. Here's why. Don't bemoan lack of friends if you can’t be bothered to ask the names of people you've been seeing regularly.
Half a year and youre only working out vaguely together? Nah, no reason to learn their names.
If I'm meant to know your name, I'll learn through osmosis the way nature intended.
Sleeping on a mattress on the floor with no sheets and only one flat yellow pillow.
Maybe in my early 20s but I have so many pillows now. I love my little nest.
How do you find so many pilllows that are any good? The flipping things go lumpy so quickly! I've tried all types! Driving me insane trying to find a decent pillow😭
Load More Replies...okay I will 100% give that one to the guys, young guys not all of them by any means but the only people I have ever known in that situation under the age of 22 and dudes I don't even mean men I mean dudes
I've slept on the floor and didn't even care. One time I didn't have a bed until my sister came over and saw. She gave me one but I could have stayed on the floor.
I lived with my GF in penthouse apartment in Germany. We slept on a mattress on the floor with a long pillow & a down comforter. Typical German style, the windows were always open.
I have cried once in the last 15 years and it was when I watched my father die 12 years ago. I don't 'try not to cry,' I just don't cry. My wife and my 7 sisters have very clearly informed me this is, uh, not their normal.
Don't know why you got downvoted Ray. Apparently some people think men shouldn't display emotion. Have an upvote from me.
Load More Replies...actually, you might try seeing if you have Sjögren’s syndrome: This is an immune system disorder often accompanied by dry eyes and a dry mouth, which can make it difficult for a person to produce tears . . . or . . . Keratoconjunctivitis sicca: This condition is often referred to as “dry eye” syndrome. It is when the tissues around the eye are inflamed and dry, and can make people unable to cry . . . . . . There are also many many reasons to "I don't cry" for men, Please don't assume that we are all the same that every man can or can't cry, Sometimes it's a painful reason like me
I'm a female and I don't cry. I do it on purpose because I hate crying so I haven't cried for years
Their normal is not everyone's normal. I'm a woman, and for the past year I've cried maybe 3-4 times, and they were quite literal life-or-death situations.
Yeah I don't buy it. I cry at good emotional scenes in movies. I cry when I remember a beloved pet that died. I cry at a good book. Crying is normal.
I only cry when I get angry. Decades of my Dad yelling at me(his daughter) that tears were a weakness and an invitiation to get picked on because you are showing people you are WEAK meant I can only cry now if I am about to lose complete control or I've injured myself. Rest of the time, if its around real people, the tears won't come though I can cry if I'm watching a movie, providing no one else is there. I didnt cry at all at my Mother's Funeral after I got berated and humilated by Dad for crying at Granddad's funeral. Then I was called cold and hateful for not crying for Mom. He was in floods of tears and all I could think was, you're a hypocrite. You never cried for anyone else and berated me when I did and now you're doing it and berating me for not. Double standards would like a word I think.
A sad part in a movie might give me the sniffles; a pretty song at church can choke me up.
When you walk behind a woman up the stairs you truly evaluate the architectual design and thinking that went into them by looking down
these are some beautiful m***********g stairs, man I gotta applaud whoever designed these, they're pretty nice. the steps are perfectly spaced, the color is immaculate, and oh I'm at the top now. bye stairs!
There was a woman in front of me? Gosh, I had no idea. I was googling who designed the stairs so I could write them a thank you letter.
Load More Replies...i think hes saying he looks at the floor in order to not look at the woman's butt?
Load More Replies...In the UK we had to pass a muthafuqqing law against upskirting - the practice of taking a photo of underwear under a dress/skirt.
"God...hope she doesn't stop, I'll never know it until I bump into her"
Periods of silence. Sometimes you chill with the boys and just enjoy the moment. No words, just drinking, gaming, smoking, etc in silence..
I do this with a few of my friends who just enjoy being around. These are actually my closest friends and we love just doing our own thing but in the same room.
Me & my bestie do this. We just watch TV, have some snacks & a joint or 2
Walking alone at night to "clear the mind", as men usually say. I wish I could do that!
I'm a female who loves cold dark winter walks. I love it because I feel unseen. I don't want to be seen, or commented on, or yelled at from a passing car, or judged because I'm wearing the tackiest combination of layers. I just want to walk and it's easier to do that in the dark. I just don't walk much because it's unsafe and I often have a hard time finding someone to go with me.
I'm a 39-year-old man and I've never felt unsafe walking around anywhere at any hour ever in my life. I guess I'm privileged in that way.
I wish I could take long walks at night but it can definitely be scary when you're a female.
This depends on neighborhood and if there are other people out walking.
Oh, you know, that thing where your friend is being abused by her mother, so you kill the mom for her. You both are tried, convicted, and sent to prison. She gets paroled while you are still serving a life sentence.
Walking around outside topless.
This is more a cultural thing. Go to Polynesia, a topless woman is not shocking there. Also, it's about comfort. I for one would rather wear a piece of garment that holds thight my stuff, even in a context where I can take it off.
I don't know why you got voted down, I voted your comment up. This is definitely a culture kind of thing. Not to mention the fact that in a large part of the world a woman would get arrested for it. Our culture/laws are crazy. "Eat natural foods, but don't show your boobs!".
Load More Replies...This has more to do with men see women's breast as their toys and not what they are for.
I've watched too many police programmes. In the UK a man taking his shirt off is getting ready to fight.
I really don't get it. What is so shocking about either gender going topless ? We're human beings made that way by nature ( or God if you prefer ). Some are beautiful and others not so. It's like people who get upset by a woman breast feeding in public. Get over it. Humans have done it since humans have existed.
I'm 50 now and I no longer go shirtless. That's just not good for anybody.
Never venting about your day
I can't speak for other men, but if I have a bad day I just want to move on and forget it ever happened. Why relive it by talking about it? That's like pouring salt in the wound.
This. It's not bottling things up, it's just not letting them get to you. If something really bad happened, then I'll discuss it with my family. Any other little nuisance is better to let go of and move on.
Load More Replies...Because when I leave work, the work stuff stays there. My off-work mind kicks in.
Oh...you mean like "it was a day", when you were pissed for 50% of it.
Hiding feelings because of society's understanding of how men should be
Just left seeing my mom in the hospital where she might die, stilll held my tears back as a I left..
Which is implied, lol. Someone get this person a thesaurus.
Load More Replies...I have a friend I’ve been friends with for nearly 8 years I don’t even remember his birthday or how old he is
Not strictly a male thing. I don't recall my niece's birthday (I know the month, not the day). Things like that, or anniversary dates with Husband, I never remember those. I don't see the point. I know somewhere in X month is a Thing We Are Supposed To Celebrate, and in two years I know it will be our 25th anni. I remember the exact date there because it's engraved on my wedding ring. But in general, I have never understood why it has to be ON THAT SPECIFIC DAY. Send me a Christmas present in January if that's what happened. I'm not offended. Flowers a few days after Valentines? Very sweet. And so on.
I have friends for 20 years who's bday I don't know, or even family members Not weird, rather normal.
Pants with pockets in the front.
Let's face it, this isn't what woman find weird. It is the weird people that design clothing that think that women shouldn't have real pockets.
Pants with pockets big enough to actually put stuff in instead of the literal inch we get.
What?!?!!? How is this weird?!?! We women don't think it's weird. You're weird!!
Sometimes I wear men’s trousers, and the pockets nearly reach the knee! Fabulous, I don’t need a handbag 😄
This should be illegal! Why do I have to take a purse even for small shopping?
The Helicopter
i had gf that done the "Chinook" , yeah different body parts but she wasn't gonna be outdone 😆
Why is it called that??? Helicopter blades spin horizontally, and it's very difficult to do it while laying down.
To have just one towel for face, head, body and..a*s.....
Why would I need more than one? Start at the top and work your way down. It's not rocket science.
My wife is a woman. She does have a hair towel, but certainly not an a*s-towel! What's going on?
Being ignored socially.
not true? In SA we are very patriarchal and women are generally only noticed if they do something glamorous or controversial like get involved in grand corruption. Otherwise men totally rule the roost here and are the most visible celebs. Not that this is a good thing, just saying maybe this is an american or european thing.
I think it was revelation when I realised that if a young man needs to pop to the shops, even in a very urban environment, he can just put his shoes on and go. A young woman has to think about what she's wearing and where she'll be walking and how able she feels that day to cope with the comments, looks, and cat calls she might get. I can't imagine that freedom to go out in shorts, a vest top (whatever Americans call sleeveless tee shirts), and flip flops, and it not occur to you that other people are going to make it their business.
They have a few names depending on where you live. "Wife beater" is pretty common as is "muscle shirt", but "officially" they're usually called "tank tops" in shops, etc.
Load More Replies...No trash can in the bathroom.
they mean a trash can in every stall, as a janitor at a retail place, taking out the mens trash was so much easier (one trashcan by the door for paper towels) on the other hand the womens bathroom had 4 trashcans (one by the door and one in each stall) my retail place tried to conserve trashbags by moving all the trash into one bag and so please don't stick your pad to the bottom of the trash-bag because then i would need to get gloves and remove it myself, instead of just dumping the contents from one bin to another.
Load More Replies...It's not a men thing, I've been to many bathrooms without one and no men lived in the home.
My dudes, put a trashcan with a lid in your bathroom. We'll love you for it. I used to date a guy who didn't have one, and I'd have to walk across his house to the kitchen trashcan to throw away gross stuff. Not cool.
Having a beard
I think they were referring to a "Duck Dynasty" type beard.(Lord I hope menopause doesn't do THAT!)
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Doing nothing
Women don't understand that laying on the couch doing nothing doesn't mean you aren't busy. I'm busy doing nothing!
she: What are you doing? me: Nothing. she: That is what you did yesterday. me: I was not finished.
Spending a half hour pooping.
nah it's because you're reading a magazine or something ... not because of fibre.
Load More Replies...More accurately, spending half a minute pooping and 29.5 minutes reading.
Sure fire way to get hemorrhoids that is sitting on a toilet for long periods, even if you're not pooping just sitting there does damage.
Is that for momen or for men? My wife takes milliseconds to p**s but years to - uhm - drop a bomb.
Having low success on social posts, for instance reactions are generally low and dating apps are not really favorable for men.
So - I take issue with this: I've recently become divorced and have started dating at 40. I am a bigger man - 5'11" and on the heavy side. On my best days - I'm a solid 5. (I'm being honest and yes - I love myself, lol). I put myself out there by talking and holding an actual conversation. During the dating process - I found many women were surprised that I was able to hold a conversation as most men they had met were very reserved. Have confidence my dudes! At this point - I am dating a beautiful woman, all because of confidence and having a sense of self-worth. Everyone has worth and something to bring to a relationship - just be yourself and be confident.
In my experience if you can carry on a normal conversation you're far ahead of most guys that either won't talk or only talk about themselves. Been there, done that, too many times.
Load More Replies...there are scientiic reasons for this. Let me see if I can find the video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3lypVnJ0HM
I can't understand the dowvotes. The video is quite solid.
Load More Replies...Getting financially ruined in a divorce proceeding.
That happens to women as well. My Ex obliterated me finacially, mentally and emotionally.. I appreciate that it appears to happened to "only" men, but that is not correct. Same gender couples may beg to differ as well.
@Angela B: I hear you. My ex and I just had ordinary jobs and no real assets when we split, but we did have credit cards and there was this truck that we bought together about two years before. When we divorced, the agreement was that he'd pay for the truck and a couple of credit cards, I'd pay for the rest. I paid it all off. It took a long time for me to get to the point where my credit rating wasn't horrible.
Load More Replies...Yeah it doesn't really work like that anymore. I've been working in family law for over 15 years.
I have a friend that married a woman with a small child. She was not in a good financial state when they got married. He had a great 6 figure job, and great retirement benefits. She was prone to easily getting nose bleeds if you just bumped her nose (this is important). One day he came home early to find her in bed with her ex. The ex proceeded to bloody her nose and put bruises on her. Then he the ran out the door. She let the nose bleed until she was covered in blood. The kit saw mommy covered in blood and started screaming. Then she called 911. When the cops got there, they looked at both parties, and arrested him. He was convicted of aggravated battery and spousal abuse. He got 10 years. She divorced him and got all his money and his home. She then went back to the ex and they are living large on my friend's money. The court would not believe him when he said he never hit her. Because she is a woman, they immediately sided with her. The ex later admitted to it.
So never say that the courts don't favor women over men. That is total b******t.
Load More Replies...It's more common but not true for all divorces. I know a couple women personally ruined by it
How is this "weird to women"? This sounds like an american stereotype. When I got a divorce I didn't get financially ruined by it. I got financially ruined when I lost my job. Different thing.
Thinking about Rome and the tragedy of its fall.
I've hated this dumb meme since it popped up. I've always had an interest in history and I find it worrying that every damned hobby or interest is being gendered now.
Somebody asked her SO about it, and it is now, apparently, a thing
Load More Replies...Just finished reading Tacitus and Suetonius, both for the 3rd time in the last 35 years. Would like to read more on Roman Britain as well as Britain post WWII and the birth of the NHS and I’m interested in quantum mechanics too. If I stop learning I feel like I’ll die.
This one again. I'm not exactly a normal adult man but why? Just why the Roman Empire? It's so oddly specific.
I am african and I think about the roman empire probably every day.
Load More Replies...Getting rejected when asking a woman out and then trying again.
Thoroughly disagree. My wife of 10+ years turned me down the first time I asked her out. I guarantee she is not uncomfortable.
Load More Replies...you see, this is why most men I know don't ask women out. not just fear of rejection, but fear that it might be considered harassment. ofc no means no, so when you get rejected don't try again, but like even the first ask can be hard
Also waiting for a girl to turn 16 so you can then "legally" perv. Dude, she is literally one day older, not another year.
From my dim memories of my dating, my advice to ladies is if you tell a man you can't go out with him because you're busy that day, don't be upset if he asks you again. If you just aren't interested then tell him that, nicely of course. I know there will be some jerks who won't give up, but most will move on and leave you alone.
I'm not 100% sure, but I think OP is saying that getting rejected would not prevent a guy trying again with someone else in the future, not trying again with the same person.
Uh ... depends? Did she say "No, I have to do other stuff that day!" or did she say "No, you suck, eff off!" ? - also, if some relevant changes have occured to one or both of them, the reasoning behind the answer will vary as well, and so will the outcome. Unlikely to happen like between today and tomorrow, but over a period of considerable duration, and as dating is more prevalent in young people, as are major changes about them, ...
Accountability
“Accountability”? You really think that is only a male ‘thing’? What an obnoxious and misogynistic thing to claim.
Many of these are what leads to men (like myself) saying they hadn’t seen any signs before their friends suicide. We need to talk to each other if and when we’re feeling low! Too many young men die at their own hands, and in so many cases it’s entirely avoidable.
i totally agree. there is so little support or room out there for simply talking about what they're going through, and as someone who's had a close friend almost die of suicide, that really needs to change. Simply being able to reach out to one person who you can actually talk to can save your life. Guys, please let yourself be that one person to someone you care about.
Load More Replies...hmm mostly sexist nonsense that applies mostly to western societies.
As a guy I can say like almost none of these r true. Like, esp the ones abt emotions a lot of those r untrue
Many of these are what leads to men (like myself) saying they hadn’t seen any signs before their friends suicide. We need to talk to each other if and when we’re feeling low! Too many young men die at their own hands, and in so many cases it’s entirely avoidable.
i totally agree. there is so little support or room out there for simply talking about what they're going through, and as someone who's had a close friend almost die of suicide, that really needs to change. Simply being able to reach out to one person who you can actually talk to can save your life. Guys, please let yourself be that one person to someone you care about.
Load More Replies...hmm mostly sexist nonsense that applies mostly to western societies.
As a guy I can say like almost none of these r true. Like, esp the ones abt emotions a lot of those r untrue
