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“What’s The Point?”: Teen Refuses To Shave His Head To Support His Niece Who Has Cancer
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“What’s The Point?”: Teen Refuses To Shave His Head To Support His Niece Who Has Cancer

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Finding out that a loved one has cancer can turn your world upside down. Suddenly, your only concern is making sure that they have all of the support and resources necessary to get healthy. And a huge part of this is helping to keep their spirits up.

But when one teenager’s family decided that they would all shave their heads in solidarity with his niece who’s battling cancer, he just couldn’t get behind their idea. Below, you’ll find all of the details that this teen recently shared on Reddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers left him. 

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    This teen was devastated to hear that his niece had been diagnosed with cancer

    Teen boy sitting on steps looking upset and frustrated about family support and cancer-related head shaving struggles.

    Image credits: MikeShots / Envato (not the actual photo)

    But now, his relatives are putting immense pressure on him to shave his head

    Text post asking if refusing to cut hair for a 7 year old niece with cancer makes someone an a**hole.

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    Text on screen describing a 17-year-old male discussing family upset over not shaving his head to support a 7-year-old with cancer.

    Text describing a family upset as their 17-year-old won’t shave his head to support a 7-year-old with cancer.

    Text describing a family upset about a 17-year-old not shaving his head to support 7-year-old with cancer.

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    Text about family shaving heads in support of 7YO with cancer, but 17YO refuses to shave head.

    Family upset as 17-year-old refuses to shave head in support of 7-year-old with cancer.

    Text excerpt from 17-year-old expressing hesitation to shave long hair to support 7-year-old sibling with cancer.

    Teen boy with shaved head being brushed after haircut in support of family member with cancer at home near window.

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    Image credits: peus80 / Envato (not the actual photo)

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    Family upset as 17-year-old refuses to shave head in support of 7-year-old with cancer.

    Teen refuses to shave head to support sibling with cancer, causing family upset over the decision.

    Text message expressing emotional support and family pressure for 17-year-old to shave head for younger relative with cancer.

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    Teen refuses to shave head to support sibling with cancer, causing family upset and tension over the decision.

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    Family upset 17YO refuses to shave head in support of 7YO with cancer, causing tension and emotional conflict.

    Teen girl with headscarf looking out window, symbolizing family upset over 17YO not shaving head to support 7YO with cancer.

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    Image credits: bialasiewicz / Envato (not the actual photo)

    Teen refuses to shave head in family cancer support, causing upset and tension among relatives.

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    It’s extremely important for family members to show support to those battling cancer

    Teen cancer patient wearing headscarf receiving IV treatment in a bedroom, illustrating family upset over head shaving support.

    Image credits: Kateryna Hliznitsova / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

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    According to the American Cancer Society, Acute Lymphocytic Leukemia, or ALL, is not a very common type of cancer. In fact, it only accounts for less than .5% of all cancers in the United States. However, the risk for developing ALL is highest amongst children under the age of five.

    It’s estimated that the US will see about 6,100 new cases of ALL this year. And sadly, about 1,400 may not survive. But children have the best chance of beating ALL, as Cancer Research UK reports that survival rates among children can reach up to 90%.

    Unsurprisingly, living with ALL isn’t easy. The Cleveland Clinic notes that symptoms may include bleeding, bruising, fatigue, frequent infections, joint pain, loss of appetite, night sweats, paleness, shortness of breath, swollen lymph nodes and unexplained weight loss. 

    So as with any form of cancer, it’s important to try to keep the ill person’s spirits up. This can be particularly crucial for children, who may not fully understand their diagnosis, treatment or what they’re going through.

    Proton International recommends helping the child learn how to explore and embrace their emotions. It can also be helpful to celebrate all victories, big or small. They might be interested in joining a support group, especially if they can make friends their age who are going through similar experiences. 

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    And when possible, it’s a good idea to have spaces where the child can play and enjoy life that aren’t connected to the hospital at all. This might allow them to feel “normal” again and get back to their old self, at least for a moment.

    But patients have mixed opinions on whether or not it’s a good idea for loved ones to shave their heads

    Teen with shaved head looking in mirror, reflecting family upset over not shaving head to support sibling with cancer

    Image credits: Getty Images / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

    Now, when it comes to whether or not it’s encouraged to shave your head in support of a loved one who has cancer, people have mixed opinions. Do It For Cancer notes on their site that this can be an excellent way to show support, especially if you turn it into a way to raise money.

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    For example, loved ones can “auction off” sections of their hair or let the highest bidder decide what hairstyle or color they should rock. Then, all of the proceeds will go towards their ill friend or family member’s treatment. Another option is waxing your entire body (legs, chest, back, etc.) to hilariously support someone you love who has lost all of their hair due to chemotherapy.

    However, UVA Health says that before making any drastic decisions, it’s important to consider your loved one’s feelings. Not everyone is thrilled about the idea of all of their friends and family members shaving their heads, as this can turn into a constant visual reminder of their cancer.

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    At the same time, some people argue that shaving your head draws way too much attention and makes someone else’s illness all about you. Plus, it can be frustrating to see how quickly friends’ and family members’ hair grows back, if the person undergoing chemo doesn’t see the same growth for a long time.

    We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation, pandas. Do you think this teen made the right choice by refusing to give into his family’s pressure? Feel free to weigh in. Then, you can find another Bored Panda article discussing similar family drama right here.

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    Many readers took the teen’s side, noting that shaving his head wouldn’t help his niece’s treatment

    Comment discussing family upset over 17-year-old refusing to shave head to support 7-year-old with cancer.

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    Comment about family upset over 17YO not shaving head to support 7YO with cancer, discussing true support.

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    Comment discussing family upset over 17-year-old refusing to shave head to support 7-year-old with cancer.

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    Comment from cancer survivor explaining why shaving heads doesn’t always show support for a child with cancer.

    Comment on forum thread supporting 17-year-old upset about shaving head to support 7-year-old with cancer.

    Comment suggesting to wear a bald cap and send a photo to family upset about 17-year-old not shaving head to support sibling.

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    Comment from a cancer survivor explaining why shaving heads doesn’t always support a family member with cancer.

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    Comment discussing family upset over a 17-year-old refusing to shave his head in support of a 7-year-old with cancer.

    Comment text discussing a family upset over a 17-year-old who refuses to shave his head to support a 7-year-old with cancer.

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    Reddit comment discussing family upset over 17-year-old refusing to shave head to support 7-year-old with cancer.

    Reddit comment explaining supportive actions beyond shaving heads for families with a child cancer patient.

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    Family upset over 17YO refusing to shave head like others to support 7YO with cancer treatment and care.

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    Comment discussing family upset over 17YO refusing to shave head to support 7YO with cancer, emphasizing personal choice.

    Comment expressing distress over family pressuring 17-year-old not to shave head supporting younger sibling with cancer.

    Comment discussing a 17-year-old refusing to shave his head in family support for a 7-year-old with cancer.

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    However, some thought that the teen was selfish for choosing to keep his hair

    Screenshot of a Reddit comment discussing a 17-year-old refusing to shave his head to support a 7-year-old with cancer.

    Screenshot of an online comment discussing a 17-year-old’s decision not to shave his head in support of a 7-year-old with cancer.

    Comment explaining family upset over 17YO not shaving head to support 7YO with cancer, emphasizing emotional support.

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    Teen boy refuses to shave head, causing family upset while supporting young cousin with cancer together.

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    Comment expressing frustration over a 17-year-old refusing to shave his head to support 7-year-old with cancer.

    Screenshot of a forum comment discussing a family upset over a 17-year-old not shaving his head to support a 7-year-old with cancer.

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    Text comment from user MapOk1410 saying a 17-year-old’s hair will grow back but a 7-year-old with cancer might not survive, highlighting family upset.

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    Adelaide May Ross

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Rika
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    4 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People shaving their heads to "show support" (unless it's a friend's pact between consenting adults) are actually seeking attention: they want everyone to praise them for making a huge sacrifice when it doesn't change anything to the cancer victim's situation. OP should buy his niece a cool wig, a 7-year-old will love to have hair like her favorite princess/superhero, it'll cheer her up a lot more than people shaving their heads (and potentially weirding her out because such a drastic change in appearance can be difficult to process for a kid so young.)

    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If support is forced, it is not support at all. If they can't understand that SIMPLE FACT, then everyone who did it and wants to force others to are simply POSERS. You know who is REALLY good at smelling posers? Yeh even when they are just kids... They are the ones who end up feeling bad even start doubting the integrity of people overall.

    Undercover
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, to me it sounds a lot like posers. Cancer is a long, long, difficult road. Shaving off your hair takes 5 minutes. You can do a LOT of kind gestures with a full head of hair that involve, in fact, more effort and love

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    Emilu
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's be real; shaving your head isn't actually going to do anything. OP actually showing proper support like driving her to appointments (assuming he's old enough), making the family meals etc, would be *actual* support.

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    Rika
    Community Member
    4 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People shaving their heads to "show support" (unless it's a friend's pact between consenting adults) are actually seeking attention: they want everyone to praise them for making a huge sacrifice when it doesn't change anything to the cancer victim's situation. OP should buy his niece a cool wig, a 7-year-old will love to have hair like her favorite princess/superhero, it'll cheer her up a lot more than people shaving their heads (and potentially weirding her out because such a drastic change in appearance can be difficult to process for a kid so young.)

    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If support is forced, it is not support at all. If they can't understand that SIMPLE FACT, then everyone who did it and wants to force others to are simply POSERS. You know who is REALLY good at smelling posers? Yeh even when they are just kids... They are the ones who end up feeling bad even start doubting the integrity of people overall.

    Undercover
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, to me it sounds a lot like posers. Cancer is a long, long, difficult road. Shaving off your hair takes 5 minutes. You can do a LOT of kind gestures with a full head of hair that involve, in fact, more effort and love

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    Emilu
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's be real; shaving your head isn't actually going to do anything. OP actually showing proper support like driving her to appointments (assuming he's old enough), making the family meals etc, would be *actual* support.

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