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Bio Dad Thinks He Can Humiliate Daughter’s Stepdad At BBQ, Gets Red Hot With Embarrassment Himself
Bio Dad Thinks He Can Humiliate Daughter’s Stepdad At BBQ, Gets Red Hot With Embarrassment Himself
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Bio Dad Thinks He Can Humiliate Daughter’s Stepdad At BBQ, Gets Red Hot With Embarrassment Himself

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Divorce is not an easy thing, especially when you have children. However, life goes on, and it’s something that you absolutely must accept! 

Sadly, though, coming to terms with new changes is not a swift task. For some, it takes months, and for others – years; but there are also those who are not even trying to move on and constantly direct their insecurities toward their ex’s partners. 

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    The netizen has been one of the primary caretakers of his stepdaughter for the past 7 years

    Image credits:  Polesie Toys (not the actual photo)

    “Mark,” the kid’s bio dad, is notorious for teasing the OP and calling him his daughter’s ‘nanny’

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    Image credits:  Tatiana Syrikova (not the actual photo)

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    AITA for correcting my stepdaughter’s dad when he called me her nanny?” – this internet user took to one of Reddit’s most judgmental communities, asking its members if he’s indeed a jerk for shutting down his wife’s ex’s snarky remark. The post managed to garner nearly 12K upvotes as well as 1.7K comments discussing the matter.

    Did you know that according to a 2020 report from the Census Bureau – which is a leading provider of quality data about American citizens and the economy – the United States has about 12.9 million custodial parents? 

    Life is a highly unpredictable thing, and it just so happens that even the most seemingly stable and “happy” bonds can end up in separation. 

    Calling it quits with a person you once thought to be your forever partner is taxing enough; yet, when children are involved, it’s in your best interest to put whatever hurt, resentment, and offense you have aside and handle this unpleasant process in a manner that’s as pain-free as possible. 

    Now, co-parenting is beneficial to everyone.

    It requires consistent communication between the parents, meaning that you’ll have a greater chance of developing a healthy relationship that’ll allow you to raise your child jointly and in wholesome conditions. You’ll get a stable environment and emotional support, demonstrate positive role modeling to your offspring, have fewer things to quarrel about, and have an overall support system!

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    In spite of that, it’s vital to remember that people are different, and all 8.1 billion of us handle and do things the way we see fit. Unfortunately, sometimes the bats in the belfry make themselves known, which results in poor judgment that doesn’t only affect your own well-being but the well-being of your kid and the important someones that surround them.

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    Dealing with such hiccups is challenging and might not bring you the desired result because, well, people are who they are – however, a little clapback to set things straight has never hurt anyone! 

    One day, the author had enough of his games and publicly corrected the man – however, “Mark” later bashed him for humiliating him

    Image credits: Vidal Balielo Jr. (not the actual photo)

    u/gregsol, the author of today’s story, is a stepfather to 9-year-old Santana; the girl sees her bio dad, Mark, every other weekend and on some holidays, which seemed to have been working pretty well for the entire family until Mark let his insecurity get the best of him.

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    Since the man has been in Santana’s life for the past seven years, the two have grown very close – plus, since the birth of the couple’s middle kid, the OP also fully immersed himself into the stay-at-home dad role, meaning that he’s the one making lunches and driving the kids to activities, which, of course, includes Santana. 

    It was said that Mark has always been self-conscious about the Redditor’s place in his daughter’s life and has repeatedly teased him for his stay-at-home duties and given him the moniker of Santana’s nanny. 

    Naturally, the OP’s wife always shut him down, and the man chose to ignore his antics and minimize their contact – until the day he had to pick up Santana from his house.

    On the day of the incident, the guy was throwing a BBQ, and there were quite a few relatives there whom the netizen had never met before, so when his stepdaughter ran into his arms, it did raise a few eyebrows. 

    Surprise, surprise, instead of approaching this situation correctly and like an adult, Mark let out a chuckle and introduced the OP as Santana’s nanny once again; however, the author had had enough of his games and re-introduced himself as the girl’s stepfather. 

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    Later that day, Mark blasted both the OP and his ex-spouse for “humiliating him.”

    What is your take on this story? Do you think Mark was being too much? 

    Fellow online community members shared their thoughts and opinions on the matter

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    Darja Zinina

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    Darja is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. She studied at the University of Westminster, where she got her Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Media Practice. She loves photography, foreign music and re-watching Forrest Gump.

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    Darja Zinina

    Darja Zinina

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    Darja is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. She studied at the University of Westminster, where she got her Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Media Practice. She loves photography, foreign music and re-watching Forrest Gump.

    Saulė Tolstych

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    Saulė is a photo editor at Bored Panda with bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design. The thing that relaxes her the best is going into YouTube rabbit hole. In her free time she loves painting, embroidering and taking walks in nature.

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    Saulė Tolstych

    Saulė Tolstych

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    Saulė is a photo editor at Bored Panda with bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design. The thing that relaxes her the best is going into YouTube rabbit hole. In her free time she loves painting, embroidering and taking walks in nature.

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    ConstantlyJon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP literally just introduced himself. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that whatsoever. I wouldn't have even taken that as correcting Mark in his house or anything like that. They asked a question and OP answered. Really a stupid thing for Mark to be upset about. As a stepdad myself, it seems OP is doing a fantastic job co-parenting to the best of his ability.

    Ken Beattie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's lucky the daughter wasn't there. If she hadn't that would have been the perfect time to come back with "oh hi, Santana's Sperm Donor"

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    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP sounds like an awesome stand up guy. Not only being a SAHD for his own two but raising his step daughter like she was his own. Those are some lucky kids

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the OP was, given the nature of Mark and the fact that Mark tried to make OP look like a fool, very civil actually.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like Mark missed the mark (pun intended) with that jibe. OP only had to put him in his place by introducing himself. Good Guy Greg wins while Marko Bozo got well-deserved pie in his face.

    Bart
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A wild thought: does Mark have a woman in his life? If not, is it possible he pretends towards his family to be on a "temporary break but it's going to work out" with the mother?

    Seabeast
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For nearly 9 years? That's going to backfire, if it hasn't already.

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    Riche White
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you were the a*****e you could have said "That's right, Mark, but as her nanny I do a lot more for her than you do as her dad!"

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You, sir, are NTA. Mark is a braying jackass; he deserves to be called out each and every time he calls you the nanny. Mark may be Santana's biological father, but you are her dad. You are there for her without judgment or ego, and she knows this. If Mark keeps going on the way he is, it's only a matter of time before he alienates Santana completely. When she graduates high school, you'll be occupying his seat at commencement. When she gets engaged, you'll be sharing her joy. Where Mark may get an invitation to the wedding, you'll be walking Santana down the aisle, and leading the father/daughter dance. Keep on being the wonderful human being you are.

    iMOGENE CARGO
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, he's an insecure dude & instead of facing the facts that OP is more of a father figure than he is, he's choosing to project it onto mark & act like mark is somehow the problem. When he's not. Dude has issues & he needs to work thru them b/c there is no doubt that Santana sees this behavior & there is no doubt it makes her uncomfortable. My husband has 2 kids from a previous marriage & his ex cheated on him w/ multiple men & brought those men around the kids. My husband didn't know what was going on until his SIL told him. Anyway, they divorced & his ex got w/ one of the dudes who his ex hung photos of all over the house. My oldest step daughter would run around the house & hide the photos everytime she knew her dad was coming over b/c she didn't want him to get hurt. Even though they had never even fought about this in front of the kids. She was only 5. Kids pick up on everything. So there is no doubt that Santana sees this petty s**t which isn't fair to her.

    Tom Banks
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mark is a d!ck. Don't be a mark.

    Michelle Wallace
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One day the father is going to whine wondering why his daughter is so distant from him. Meanwhile the daughter is going to love her stepdad and hold him in the highest regards, and thank him for being the dad she needs. And he will tell her how he's loved her since day one, that she is his daughter. And one day, with tears streaming, she will stand up and read the four page eulogy she wrote, knowing she could write an entire novel and it still would not skim the surface of what an amazing person her stepdad was and how much she loved him. Ask me how I know.

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    ConstantlyJon
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP literally just introduced himself. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that whatsoever. I wouldn't have even taken that as correcting Mark in his house or anything like that. They asked a question and OP answered. Really a stupid thing for Mark to be upset about. As a stepdad myself, it seems OP is doing a fantastic job co-parenting to the best of his ability.

    Ken Beattie
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's lucky the daughter wasn't there. If she hadn't that would have been the perfect time to come back with "oh hi, Santana's Sperm Donor"

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    The Doom Song
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP sounds like an awesome stand up guy. Not only being a SAHD for his own two but raising his step daughter like she was his own. Those are some lucky kids

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the OP was, given the nature of Mark and the fact that Mark tried to make OP look like a fool, very civil actually.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like Mark missed the mark (pun intended) with that jibe. OP only had to put him in his place by introducing himself. Good Guy Greg wins while Marko Bozo got well-deserved pie in his face.

    Bart
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A wild thought: does Mark have a woman in his life? If not, is it possible he pretends towards his family to be on a "temporary break but it's going to work out" with the mother?

    Seabeast
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For nearly 9 years? That's going to backfire, if it hasn't already.

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    Riche White
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you were the a*****e you could have said "That's right, Mark, but as her nanny I do a lot more for her than you do as her dad!"

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You, sir, are NTA. Mark is a braying jackass; he deserves to be called out each and every time he calls you the nanny. Mark may be Santana's biological father, but you are her dad. You are there for her without judgment or ego, and she knows this. If Mark keeps going on the way he is, it's only a matter of time before he alienates Santana completely. When she graduates high school, you'll be occupying his seat at commencement. When she gets engaged, you'll be sharing her joy. Where Mark may get an invitation to the wedding, you'll be walking Santana down the aisle, and leading the father/daughter dance. Keep on being the wonderful human being you are.

    iMOGENE CARGO
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, he's an insecure dude & instead of facing the facts that OP is more of a father figure than he is, he's choosing to project it onto mark & act like mark is somehow the problem. When he's not. Dude has issues & he needs to work thru them b/c there is no doubt that Santana sees this behavior & there is no doubt it makes her uncomfortable. My husband has 2 kids from a previous marriage & his ex cheated on him w/ multiple men & brought those men around the kids. My husband didn't know what was going on until his SIL told him. Anyway, they divorced & his ex got w/ one of the dudes who his ex hung photos of all over the house. My oldest step daughter would run around the house & hide the photos everytime she knew her dad was coming over b/c she didn't want him to get hurt. Even though they had never even fought about this in front of the kids. She was only 5. Kids pick up on everything. So there is no doubt that Santana sees this petty s**t which isn't fair to her.

    Tom Banks
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mark is a d!ck. Don't be a mark.

    Michelle Wallace
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One day the father is going to whine wondering why his daughter is so distant from him. Meanwhile the daughter is going to love her stepdad and hold him in the highest regards, and thank him for being the dad she needs. And he will tell her how he's loved her since day one, that she is his daughter. And one day, with tears streaming, she will stand up and read the four page eulogy she wrote, knowing she could write an entire novel and it still would not skim the surface of what an amazing person her stepdad was and how much she loved him. Ask me how I know.

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