Mom Forces Son To Apologize For Racist Joke To Chinese Delivery Guy Who Already Had It Rough, Dad Doesn’t Like The Punishment
I once stumbled upon an idea by a dad who said that we ought not to view kids as children, but rather as “humans in progress.” And as such, of course they will need to be taught certain things as they grow.
And while there are a slew of methods for teaching kids life lessons, not everyone necessarily agrees on them, especially when said lessons come in the form of punishments.
This 39-year-old mother of two shared a story of how she turned her son’s incredibly racist anecdote into a serious life lesson. Unfortunately, the dad was not too supportive of the punishment, as it “didn’t fit the crime,” prompting a Reddit post for the internet to decide who was wrong here.
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While parenting is a worthwhile experience, it does come with its challenges, like when you have to teach your kids hard social life lessons
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So, Reddit user u/SnooPaintings9288 approached the r/AmITheA-Hole community with a short story of how she punished her son for an insensitive racist joke and how the dad ended up getting into an argument with her for said punishment.
But, let’s rewind. The family has a cat that loves having a go at their take-out food. It just so happened that they ordered some Chinese food and the courier had just arrived. This was the cue for the daughter to pick up the cat and carry it upstairs.
This mother went to Reddit to figure out if she was harsh with her punishment of her son who said a racist joke
As she was doing so, the Reddit user, i.e. the mother, was at the door, accepting the order. During that time, the 13-year-old son decided to loudly say “make sure [to] hide the cat from the Chinese guy.” Both mom and the courier heard it very clearly, and she saw just how upset the courier got because of it.
One apology later, the mom stormed over to the son, who refused to accept that his joke was extremely insensitive towards the courier. She ended up forcing him to do some atoning in the form of a sincere apology to the delivery guy, and to write a one-page paper on Chinese culture as well as how jokes like his perpetuate racism.
The next day, she took him to the restaurant and had him read the apology. The courier appreciated the gesture and shared some stories of what he goes through as a courier on a daily basis.
Well, later that night, mom and dad got into an argument regarding the punishment. In his eyes, it seemed too much as it was hella embarrassing for the son and that it was “just a joke,” making the mom think she may have overreacted. Hence the post on Reddit.
Image credits: u/SnooPaintings9288
However, the internet was not having any of it—even if it was a joke, comments like that still humiliate and demean not just one person, but an entire group of people. People agreed that the punishment did in fact fit the crime, and should have been extended to the dad too, which some speculated is the reason the son said something like that in the first place.
In any case, the story got quite a bit of attention, garnering nearly 53,000 user upvotes and getting over 200 Reddit awards with 2,600 people voicing their opinion on the matter.
People online showed support, not only cause they thought the punishment fit the crime, but also because it taught a lesson
You can read through the entire post as well as all 2,600 comments if you’re that kind of a person here. But before you go, tell us your thoughts and what you would have done in the comment section below!
If "it's just a joke" then why didn't the driver find it funny. Racists always try to excuse themselves with that wafer thin justification.
It’s like I always say. It’s not a joke unless the person finds it funny. (sexist jokes, racist jokes, homophobic jokes etc.)
exactly, this girl used to make homophobic jokes in front of me or even to me knowing that im in the community and then go "its just a joke, stop being so sensitive, i can't believe your getting mad rn" like yea, when you make a joke about gays burning im probably going to get offended
I certainly hope she doesn't ever have authority over others. A bigot boss or teacher is a pretty awful trap and they can turn other people against one. If that girl wants to play no-holds-barred stand-up comedian, she can go do that in a nightclub. That way, the audience is free to heckle, walk out, or not attend.
She should have asked the husband why it’s so funny
This!
"Just a joke", well I guess we get where the son learned it. I'm against "shaming" children, but apologizing for wrong doing is teaching them and the son got to hear from the person about their perspective.
child should be embarassed. what he did was shameful
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Actually it wasn't racist. And you don't know that he was making a joke. You have to be living under a rock not to know that people in China eat cat and dog. That there are rescue set up that specifically go to China to rescue cats and dogs so that they don't get eaten.
You really are doubling down on the racism aren't you? There are over a billion Chinese people. Few eat dogs and even fewer eat cats, but keep banging on about that stereotype and feeling victimized by being down voted.
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I don't think the kid intended to be racist. He was worried about the cat eating the food. It still came across as racist so the kid needs to know not to say things like that in jest or otherwise.
If he was worried about THE CAT eating the food he wouldn't have joked that the DELIVERY MAN was going to eat the cat. It was racist and the kid thought it was funny and it seems like he got that from his father
Also, kudos to the delivery driver for engaging with the son when he came back to apologize, sharing stories of racist treatment he's had to endure. The kid may have actually learned something about why what he said was so wrong. (Too bad Dad didn't come along too.)
Racism is always learned, so you have to break it as soon as possible, or it will stick maybe forever in its head. (i wrote maybe because, some people learn later one, but its more likely, the don't. )
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It wasn't racism he was stating a fact. Chinese people in certain parts of China do eat cats and dogs.
So it wasn't racism, but only a generalization on a certain race from the actions of some of the members of that group?
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Get over yourself.
Lmao and you can go f**k yourself
Oh i don't mind. Just rephrasing what you said. If you did the same with women people would call you a sexist, with gays a homophobe, with whatever xenophobe. Except offcourse in the particular case about a minority of men abusing women ... There people will support your generalization. You go wild on the fickle topic of generalization bear.
Just because some people in Alabama sleep with their relatives, doesn't mean I can call all white people sister f**ckers
Well who is generalizing now. I'm sure a lot of asians can pronounce the r quite correct.
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That's not racist though
Yes , Bear, and in some parts of Canada it is legal to eat horse meat. In Some parts of Europe, sometimes in a region but not the entire country, it is legal to eat horse meat and dog meat. I, personally, find it disgusting, but I know there is a cultural tradition behind that cuisine , and do not use that knowledge to make broad generalizations about a person, Their entire country, or their culture. Hell, in the US, people eat pigs' feet. Not the meat pulled off and cooked down into something else so you can't tell where it came from. Literally the foot of the hog cut off and cooked or pickled whole.
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Yeah and bears s**t in the woods, so why are you doing it here?
A panda is a bear too so this is the place for bears to dump their s*i*
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You are aware that you're now defending the racist in this thread?
I m aware i don't start insulting or using bad logic against anybody. Specially if your logic implies bearism. So in stead of criticizing his name, it would ve been better if you went for his "he was stating facts" remark
If "it's just a joke" then why didn't the driver find it funny. Racists always try to excuse themselves with that wafer thin justification.
It’s like I always say. It’s not a joke unless the person finds it funny. (sexist jokes, racist jokes, homophobic jokes etc.)
exactly, this girl used to make homophobic jokes in front of me or even to me knowing that im in the community and then go "its just a joke, stop being so sensitive, i can't believe your getting mad rn" like yea, when you make a joke about gays burning im probably going to get offended
I certainly hope she doesn't ever have authority over others. A bigot boss or teacher is a pretty awful trap and they can turn other people against one. If that girl wants to play no-holds-barred stand-up comedian, she can go do that in a nightclub. That way, the audience is free to heckle, walk out, or not attend.
She should have asked the husband why it’s so funny
This!
"Just a joke", well I guess we get where the son learned it. I'm against "shaming" children, but apologizing for wrong doing is teaching them and the son got to hear from the person about their perspective.
child should be embarassed. what he did was shameful
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Actually it wasn't racist. And you don't know that he was making a joke. You have to be living under a rock not to know that people in China eat cat and dog. That there are rescue set up that specifically go to China to rescue cats and dogs so that they don't get eaten.
You really are doubling down on the racism aren't you? There are over a billion Chinese people. Few eat dogs and even fewer eat cats, but keep banging on about that stereotype and feeling victimized by being down voted.
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I don't think the kid intended to be racist. He was worried about the cat eating the food. It still came across as racist so the kid needs to know not to say things like that in jest or otherwise.
If he was worried about THE CAT eating the food he wouldn't have joked that the DELIVERY MAN was going to eat the cat. It was racist and the kid thought it was funny and it seems like he got that from his father
Also, kudos to the delivery driver for engaging with the son when he came back to apologize, sharing stories of racist treatment he's had to endure. The kid may have actually learned something about why what he said was so wrong. (Too bad Dad didn't come along too.)
Racism is always learned, so you have to break it as soon as possible, or it will stick maybe forever in its head. (i wrote maybe because, some people learn later one, but its more likely, the don't. )
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It wasn't racism he was stating a fact. Chinese people in certain parts of China do eat cats and dogs.
So it wasn't racism, but only a generalization on a certain race from the actions of some of the members of that group?
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Get over yourself.
Lmao and you can go f**k yourself
Oh i don't mind. Just rephrasing what you said. If you did the same with women people would call you a sexist, with gays a homophobe, with whatever xenophobe. Except offcourse in the particular case about a minority of men abusing women ... There people will support your generalization. You go wild on the fickle topic of generalization bear.
Just because some people in Alabama sleep with their relatives, doesn't mean I can call all white people sister f**ckers
Well who is generalizing now. I'm sure a lot of asians can pronounce the r quite correct.
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That's not racist though
Yes , Bear, and in some parts of Canada it is legal to eat horse meat. In Some parts of Europe, sometimes in a region but not the entire country, it is legal to eat horse meat and dog meat. I, personally, find it disgusting, but I know there is a cultural tradition behind that cuisine , and do not use that knowledge to make broad generalizations about a person, Their entire country, or their culture. Hell, in the US, people eat pigs' feet. Not the meat pulled off and cooked down into something else so you can't tell where it came from. Literally the foot of the hog cut off and cooked or pickled whole.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Yeah and bears s**t in the woods, so why are you doing it here?
A panda is a bear too so this is the place for bears to dump their s*i*
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
You are aware that you're now defending the racist in this thread?
I m aware i don't start insulting or using bad logic against anybody. Specially if your logic implies bearism. So in stead of criticizing his name, it would ve been better if you went for his "he was stating facts" remark