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When enough people adhere to the same standard, that standard transforms into a societal expectation that is mutually and openly agreed upon without the need for law. Men shouldn't show emotion, and women should wear makeup, are two standards that are prevalent enough to be found everywhere.

But each of us is unique. These "expectations" do not accurately describe the majority of people. Therefore, artist Lainey Molnar explores these topics in particular as she creates comics that most people, especially women, can relate to.

With that being said, Lainey's work has been featured on Bored Panda previously, and if you'd like to see the previous parts to this series, then make sure to click here, here, and here.

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This time around, Bored Panda reached out to Lainey with some new questions regarding her upcoming works.

"As of late, I started posting short videos around the topics of being a woman, relationships, little wisdom, and self-healing besides the regular illustrations and I'm enjoying them tremendously. Instagram infamously changed their algorithm to favor videos, slashing so many creators' engagement and forcing them to do videos they're not necessarily comfortable with, but I feel like I can get even deeper this way to support women all over the world."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

PMS is a fact and to be honest, I am much mooore emotional before and while on my period.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me too but other people shouldn't use pms as a reason to dismiss us or our concerns. Like I told my husband, pms doesn't cause me to invent things I am upset about, it just increases my emotions about those issues.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Although pms is a real thing, too many people, other women included, use it as a phrase when a woman is just expressing emotions or is justifiably angry.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a (lovely) form of PMS called PMDD. For about half the month I am miserable to the point of having suicidal thoughts. Hormones and their effects are real.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Has a gynecologist helped with it? Like are you having periods for 1/2 a month where you should see a gynecologist or am I misunderstanding?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When women go through their periods/pms it is due to an increase in testosterone so its actually when women behave more like men emotionally. Soooo... men behave like period women except all the time. Lol.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Overheard as I walked by 2 guys on the sidewalk " I don't wanna hear anymore about her F*n period. I'm outta here".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love that most men don't realize they too have a monthly hormonal cycle. And they become whiny bitches too.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not agreeing, getting tired of behavior, not in the mood, crying; All these things happen even when not. Stop using their biology as an excuse to behave like a jerk. A man is called assertive and alpha, and women are called crazy b****es. Dear sir, just because I'm in no mood to soothe your ego and treat you like a spoiled baby doesn't make me the crazy one.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not to rain in anybody's parade here, but "Expressing" emotions and "processing" emotions aren't the same thing...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when you try to process or express your emotions as a man, you'll be seen as weak and useless, and would probably be told to "man up". Sweet irony.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Woman here, my daughter is noticeably more reactive prior to and during her period. What I want to know is if she's reacting now because of the hormones or are the hormones just cutting down her desire to let things go that actually bug her. If someone blows up during the hormone swing it may be that they are tired of suppressing their feelings. I know I did.

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Lainey's message would be great but here are a few issues with her: 1) She is tracing people's faces, bodies, and clothes from photos on the internet WITHOUT their permission. Check this one out. https://www.intheknow.com/post/establish-and-complete-woman-meme-averie-wright/ If you look, you will find a real person behind each drawing (many are Hungarians). 2) Lainey's message is feminist and progressive that can be inspiring. But she is NOT living that life. If you are watching her stories, you will realize that Lainey is the opposite of her message and is full of contradiction. She claims to be eco-conscious who rarely shops yet there is a Zara haul almost every day. She claims to be almost vegan yet all she posts in non-vegan food. She claims to have been healed by a shaman yet clearly has very serious mental health issues (constant sads, panic attacks, train trauma, trauma, and manic episodes). She picks trendy topics to be famous...But she is fake and damaging. Not a role model..

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Let's be honest, neither of these soyboys are punching anything

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You want to let women act out crazy, sometimes violent, tantrums and call it healthy emotions, while calling the cops when a man shows 'healthy emotions'? Lashing out at others is not healthy, it's abusive, no matter the gender nor hormonal cycle.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who said the woman was lashing out? she probably didnt want to dance with him or something.

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We also wanted to know if the artist had a comic she was proud of, and we thought it was only fair if she'd share her thoughts with us!

"My absolute favorite is one of my earliest illustrations that I recently re-drew. I know that so many of us women are criticized or shunned by society by not hitting the "right" milestones, not hitting them at the right time, or having entirely different plans than what is expected. My goal is to lift the weight of societal stigma from every woman's shoulder, because personal life decisions that don't hurt anyone are not right or wrong, they're simply... personal. I am 33, single, I don't plan on having children, and I'm traveling the world instead of settling down. I don't have a college degree, I can't drive a car, I don't own an apartment, and I don't feel like a black sheep, I just feel like myself. As everyone should."

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a father, I hate it when people refer to me caring for my daughter as 'babysitting', it's parenting. Honestly though I've never met a father who called it babysitting himself, its mostly other people who do that.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i like how subtle the change in their faces are, yet you see them :) great art style

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Artists go through a few art phases trying to find the art style they could call their own, and for Lainey, it is likely the same, given that the artist is currently thinking about pursuing her ultimate dream.

"Before digital art, I used to draw with markers which I really miss, but I don't have time for it anymore, but my ultimate dream is to paint on designer handbags. My background is in fashion and my hobby is refurbishing (vintage) designer accessories in the name of sustainability and value, so creating artworks on pieces I already consider artworks would marry all of my passions and talents."

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Louder for those in the back! Edit: I really hate how every time Lainey's comics get posted one BP and there is a woman with a hijab on the comments are mostly hate and how she's oppressed. Like you're missing the whole point.

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Starting out with comics (or art in general) isn't easy, so we asked the artist if she had any tips to share for those who might be starting out.

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"This is an advice to everyone creating any kind of art: Do not put too much weight on how you are doing on social media. Having followers or likes doesn't validate how valuable your art is, it's simply a tool to echo your voice. The art and the message should come from your heart and it should be something you would create the same way just for yourself if you lived in a hut up in the mountains for a year with no internet. I started off creating these comics just for myself, to process my experience as a woman in the world and I didn't intend to have an audience or have it as a full-time job. Until this day I refuse to draw anything that doesn't come from the heart."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hm. Growing up, that assigned role of Provider was a heavy burden on me, and it led to me choosing a field of study less aligned to my interests but more profitable. It was a bad choice. Never met somebody who had his heart set that much on the provider role.

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When it comes to people having overall opinions on her comics, here's what the artist thinks, "My biggest goal is for all women to feel seen, heard, and feel like they are not alone. To give them a new perspective about things the system, the patriarchy, life, and society taught them are the norm. To give them tools to heal themselves from past traumas and stuck patterns. I know this might sound incredibly ambitious, but I'm set on changing the world."

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Most artists usually create art in order to accomplish something, therefore we were wondering if Lainey perhaps felt the same in some type of way.

"I truly hope that I can establish a community where like-minded women uplift one another. I am fascinated by how it's happening in the comment section under each one of my posts, they get vulnerable, share their personal stories, like and support one another. I believe there is a huge need for a safe space online for women where there is no judgment and they can share, express, bond, and grow. So I'm planning on building all that in the future - starting with my Instagram page."

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Molnar has been in the comic scene for quite some time now so we were curious whether she had any comments from her followers that might've particularly stood out.

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"One time I received a message from a follower that she has shown my illustrations to her young brother and they started having discussions about what girls and women are going through. She told me that her brother was only familiar with the male narrative and ended up opening his mind to so much on the 'other' side and even sharing the illustrations with his friends. This is the kind of ripple effect I aim for with everything I do. I just start the conversation, but how it's interpreted or how it unfolds is fascinating."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao as a black woman, I didn't get called beautiful until I made myself look less black. People literally went out of their way to make sure they thought I was ugly and would never date me, despite having no interest them. Just because I was nice to them, they were scared I was interested in them or they'd become bullied for it. Because I'm brown I can make myself 'look' like different POC depending on especially my hair and the way I introduce myself as. Despite having the same features, I'm seen as far more attractive when people think im asian/latina/native American (I'm pretty ambiguous when not wearing black hairstyles because of mixed ancestry). I'm also seen as more intelligent and people approach me less aggressively. I mean, the girl in the pic IS beautiful, but not the best example for this picture, because the racism is just as real as what is being portrayed here: ageism and sexism. Luckily its getting better with more representation!

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Lastly, we wanted to know what kind of hobbies Lainey has aside from making comics, and here's what she shared with us, "Besides doing art and refurbishing accessories and trying to read all the books in the world while traveling to every corner of the globe, I love to do puzzles. It's becoming a problem because I buy and do them in such a rate that they have taken over my apartment. Maybe I should consider making puzzles with my illustrations, that would be a fitting project!"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care who wears a bikini, as long as it is a well fitting bikini where you aren't sausaging your body into two slivers of fabric that are struggling to uphold your public decency.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you don't want to shave don't. If you do then go for it. Its your body.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, you are still the same person and people don’t get to treat you differently because of how you look

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i need help... this i've been going through all year and still don't know what to do... stay with who I need or go and be with who I want/what I deserve

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