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Woman’s Housewarming Party Ends With A Sister Fight, It Gets Her Uninvited From Family Christmas
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Woman’s Housewarming Party Ends With A Sister Fight, It Gets Her Uninvited From Family Christmas

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Women around the world are choosing to have fewer kids, with many deciding to remain completely child-free. While it’s a personal choice whether or not to start a family, research from Population Matters found that over half of young women who have opted not to have children have faced judgment for their decision.

That’s something one Redditor experienced with her own family. After informing her sisters—all of whom are mothers—that she doesn’t plan to have kids, they immediately took it personally. So much so, that they uninvited her from Christmas and blocked her on social media, leaving her unsure of what to do next. Below, you’ll find all of the details, as well as some of the replies readers shared.

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    The woman chose not to have kids, partly because of her family’s history of disabilities

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    This decision offended her sisters, who now don’t want to speak with her

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    Not wanting kids is often perceived as a moral failing

    While being child-free is slowly becoming less of a taboo, the stigma still lingers, as this Reddit story and research show. In fact, a study published in Sex Roles: A Journal of Research revealed that choosing not to have children isn’t just judged lightly—it’s often seen as morally wrong.

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    The study surveyed 197 undergraduate students from a large urban university in the United States. Participants were asked to evaluate a married man or woman who either chose to have no children or two children. They were then invited to share their views on the person’s happiness and their emotional response to the decision.

    Those who were child-free were perceived as far less “psychologically fulfilled” than those with children, the results concluded. The study noted that “child-free targets” triggered significantly greater feelings of moral outrage, including anger, disapproval, and even disgust.

    “What’s remarkable about our findings is the moral outrage participants reported feeling toward a stranger who decided to not have children,” said Ashburn-Nardo, Vice Provost for Diversity, Equity and Inclusion at Drexel University and author of the study. “Our data suggests that not having children is seen not only as atypical, or surprising, but also as morally wrong.”

    Ashburn-Nardo’s research, published in 2017, raised concerns that harsh judgment of child-free individuals might result in workplace or healthcare discrimination. Now, in 2024, these warnings feel even more relevant, especially in countries like the U.S., where the overturn of Roe v. Wade has sparked heated debates. With reports of women losing their lives due to lack of abortion care, there’s growing anxiety about how society treats those who choose not to have children—and what this means for their future.

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    Many commenters supported the woman and believed it was a responsible choice

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    Still, some suggested she could have shared the news with her sisters more delicately

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

    What do you think ?
    moggiemoo
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP has nothing to apologise for, the reasoning is irrelevant, she doesn't want kids.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's always wild to me that people will get angry that a person they think is a selfish b***h doesn't want kids. I don't think it's selfish to not have kids, but if you do, why would you want a selfish person to be a parent?

    marcelo D.
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    well, when that person challenges their world view, they can either admit that all they tell themselves to go on might not be as right, since someone else actually hates it, or they can double down, and claim the other is a AH, so they can go back to being complacent with their half truths they tell themselves to go on

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    G A
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jealousy is a clear motive for their upset.

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    moggiemoo
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP has nothing to apologise for, the reasoning is irrelevant, she doesn't want kids.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's always wild to me that people will get angry that a person they think is a selfish b***h doesn't want kids. I don't think it's selfish to not have kids, but if you do, why would you want a selfish person to be a parent?

    marcelo D.
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    well, when that person challenges their world view, they can either admit that all they tell themselves to go on might not be as right, since someone else actually hates it, or they can double down, and claim the other is a AH, so they can go back to being complacent with their half truths they tell themselves to go on

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    G A
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jealousy is a clear motive for their upset.

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