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Envious Woman Tries To Hurt Sister At Her Own Wedding, Faces Harsh Backlash In Return
Envious Woman Tries To Hurt Sister At Her Own Wedding, Faces Harsh Backlash In Return

Envious Woman Tries To Hurt Sister At Her Own Wedding, Faces Harsh Backlash In Return

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Probably, few will argue that almost any wedding, like a giant magnet, attracts various troubles, literally generates weird situations and stories. We have written about this way more than once or twice – and this, by and large, is a kind of wedding axiom.

Axioms do not require proof – but we have this story from the user u/Infinite_Tank620, so let it be proof anyway! I think scientists will not be offended by this, and you’ll probably be interested in reading this tale. So, let’s quickly move on to the text itself.

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    The author of the post has a younger sister who has always been a bit envious towards her

    Image credits: Soner Görkem / Pexels (not the actual photo)

    The sister didn’t spare any passive-aggressive words towards the author, so our heroine finally got sick and tired of this

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    Image credits: Infinite_Tank620

    Image credits: Wesley Hilario / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

    At the author’s recent wedding, she said in public that a red gown would suit her better, subtly hinting that the bride had low moral standards

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    The bride came back harshly, replying that the sis is still a virgin at 27 years old, and thus envious

    So, the Original Poster (OP) has a younger sister “Tara,” with whom she has always had a strained relationship. The author claims that she tried to be sensitive to it, but Tara regularly resorted to passive-aggressive techniques in communication. Both with her sister and with parents. For example, envying the fact that the OP studied at a college that she didn’t get into.

    However, such situations aren’t that uncommon in many families, and Tara, of course, was invited to the recent wedding of her older sister. The ceremony was very lovely and beautiful, and Tara probably experienced envy again. At least, when she approached the bride, who was talking to one of the guests, she said that a red wedding gown would suit her better.

    According to the author, this sounded like a direct insult – that the bride is unworthy of wearing white, as her moral level doesn’t allow her to do so. And our heroine didn’t mince words for her response. She sarcastically said that the sis was simply jealous of her because she was still a virgin – and that she shouldn’t make own insecurities her problem.

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    Many guests heard this squabble – and, of course, continued to discuss it after the wedding. And the bride’s own brother, after some time, directly said that she overreacted here, and that she should apologize to Tara. But our heroine, in turn, believes that she didn’t cross any lines, and that her sister actually got what she deserved.

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    In fact, different cultures at different times had various interpretations of the color code for wedding dresses, but the tradition of wearing white is not that old. It is believed that the first bride to wear a white wedding gown was Queen Victoria in 1840 – and thus set the vogue that has been followed by brides around the world for almost two centuries.

    At the same time, for example, in many Eastern cultural traditions, the red color of a wedding dress, on the contrary, is only welcomed. “In Indian weddings, the bride often wears a red sari or lehenga, symbolizing fertility, auspiciousness, and marital bliss. In Chinese weddings, red is a symbol of luck, happiness, and prosperity,” the AG Studio official website says.

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    “Similarly, in many Middle Eastern and North African cultures, red is associated with celebration and good fortune. Brides may opt for red or crimson-colored wedding dresses to honor their heritage and embrace their cultural identity.” However, some people do associate bright red dresses with low moral standards for women. This is probably what the sister meant when trying to hurt the author.

    Many commenters on the original post also wrote that they hadn’t heard of any traditions associated with the red color for wedding gowns, but it’s quite obvious that the sister really was trying to ruin the bride’s big day. “I don’t know if I’ve ever heard that about a bride wearing red, but it does not sound like a simple comment either,” someone commented reasonably.

    In any case, almost all of the readers are sure that if someone starts a controversial conversation in public, then they need to be prepared for a public comeback. “For her to say that at your wedding, she’s lucky she didn’t get thrown out. Hell no,” one of the responders wrote. And what do you, our dear readers, think about this tale?

    The sister demanded apologies but most commenters claimed that the author actually didn’t overreact here

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    Oleg Tarasenko

    Oleg Tarasenko

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    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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    Oleg Tarasenko

    Oleg Tarasenko

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP's sis is lucky that's ALL OP said. I'm sure OP had more stuff to say that wasn't nearly as nice. And for sis to basically call OP a wh**e at her wedding??? That right there is enough to go NC with her + block her on everything. After years + years of this s**t, OP would be justified.

    Libstak
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know someone who wore a red wedding dress, think Gone with the Wind bell skirt and cinched waist with off the shoulder sleeves, just devine. It was perfect and not for any "lack of purity" reason, just because she wanted that colour and that dress. Don't know what her sexual status was, nobody gave a s.hit, nobodies business, just a beautiful dress on a beautiful bride.

    Kate
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got married on New Year's Eve and wore a beautiful, deep red, silk dress.

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    C.O. Shea
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe the píssy sister is not a virgin after all. 🤣

    nm (he/him)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, OP opened to her virgin sister a new arsehole.

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    Jack Butler
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am I the only person who remembers "don't start none, won't be none"? Lil sis needs to learn it

    Roberta Surprenant
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    White dresses for bride did not have anything to do with virginity when Queen Victoria started the trend. It was bragging that you could AFFORD to have a white dress cleaned.

    Angela C
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    By that logic almost no one should be getting married in a white dress because we're all broke bítches

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    Pamela Blue
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Younger sister is resentful and jealous that her older sister was smarter and, well - better than her in most ways. Even her parents are aware she has issues that she needs to deal with. Sounds very much like two royal brothers I know. The younger sister needs to learn to live her own life, and stop trying to bring her own sister down to make herself feel better.

    Just a little dog
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It might have been more effective to play dumb. "I hear that in China the bride wears red for good luck. Cool idea, but I like my dress." The best way to embarrass a harasser is make them explain themselves. Then when they do, you can clap back and they look worse for it. "I'm sorry you can't attract a man, maybe you should work on your personality. You could start by not insulting a bride on her wedding day."

    Baali Venomax
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Pagan weddings, red is considered to be a symbol of the Goddess in her Mother phase and thus very fertile. It's also considered good luck. It's only Christainity and Jewish faith too(unsure here dont quote me) that has a problem with women wearing red indicating it means you are a *Lady OF The Night*. Mom was Catholic and never let me wear red in mixed company because it meant I was a bad girl, a girl who charges for a good time. She never actually use the w word because she considered it crass but there were other ways to say what she meant.

    Key Lime
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Luckily you are married now and get to make a whole new family. Please go no or low contact with her and your brother.

    Jonathan Setter
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    should have slapped her right in the face. Let her be embarrassed about that....

    Jaya
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How is saying someone isn't a virgin the same as calling someone a whore? Not being a virgin when you get married, is a positive thing. I get that the sister may have meant it as an insult, but for me it would be the same like if someone calls you gay to insult you: they're not actually insults at all because there is nothing wrong with it, so I wouldn't be bothered. I would be like "yes, I have sex with my long-term partner and that gives us a lot of very happy moments together, and it also made us we know that our partner is compatible sexually, thank you for acknowledging my wise choice to have sex with my partner before marriage. I encourage you to do the same".

    Paula Glasscoe
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don’t know why you got a downvote for this, nobody asks if the groom is a virgin and you’re right that a pairing should know if they’re sexually compatible before marriage. I’ve upvoted to restore equality!

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    Sunny Day
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    1 year ago

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    2 younger sibs *always* stick up for each other and OP doesnt know why? Wonder if OP is the golden child of the family.

    P Peitsch
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if she is, calling your sister a whore in front of others, doesn't sound really well, and tells more about you, than her. Let's say, OP is the "golden" child, can be. For your own sanity as a sibling of a "golden child", the best you can do, don't give a flying f.uck about it, after a certain age. They are 29 and 27 years old, not anymore kids or teens. By that age I was already living my own life, without any thoughts about my family, and my "golden child" younger brother. I never wished them anything negative, just brushed them off. Makiing dramas doesn't help. Anybody. Move on with your own life!

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    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP's sis is lucky that's ALL OP said. I'm sure OP had more stuff to say that wasn't nearly as nice. And for sis to basically call OP a wh**e at her wedding??? That right there is enough to go NC with her + block her on everything. After years + years of this s**t, OP would be justified.

    Libstak
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know someone who wore a red wedding dress, think Gone with the Wind bell skirt and cinched waist with off the shoulder sleeves, just devine. It was perfect and not for any "lack of purity" reason, just because she wanted that colour and that dress. Don't know what her sexual status was, nobody gave a s.hit, nobodies business, just a beautiful dress on a beautiful bride.

    Kate
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got married on New Year's Eve and wore a beautiful, deep red, silk dress.

    Load More Replies...
    C.O. Shea
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe the píssy sister is not a virgin after all. 🤣

    nm (he/him)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, OP opened to her virgin sister a new arsehole.

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    Jack Butler
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am I the only person who remembers "don't start none, won't be none"? Lil sis needs to learn it

    Roberta Surprenant
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    White dresses for bride did not have anything to do with virginity when Queen Victoria started the trend. It was bragging that you could AFFORD to have a white dress cleaned.

    Angela C
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    By that logic almost no one should be getting married in a white dress because we're all broke bítches

    Load More Replies...
    Pamela Blue
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Younger sister is resentful and jealous that her older sister was smarter and, well - better than her in most ways. Even her parents are aware she has issues that she needs to deal with. Sounds very much like two royal brothers I know. The younger sister needs to learn to live her own life, and stop trying to bring her own sister down to make herself feel better.

    Just a little dog
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It might have been more effective to play dumb. "I hear that in China the bride wears red for good luck. Cool idea, but I like my dress." The best way to embarrass a harasser is make them explain themselves. Then when they do, you can clap back and they look worse for it. "I'm sorry you can't attract a man, maybe you should work on your personality. You could start by not insulting a bride on her wedding day."

    Baali Venomax
    Community Member
    11 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Pagan weddings, red is considered to be a symbol of the Goddess in her Mother phase and thus very fertile. It's also considered good luck. It's only Christainity and Jewish faith too(unsure here dont quote me) that has a problem with women wearing red indicating it means you are a *Lady OF The Night*. Mom was Catholic and never let me wear red in mixed company because it meant I was a bad girl, a girl who charges for a good time. She never actually use the w word because she considered it crass but there were other ways to say what she meant.

    Key Lime
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Luckily you are married now and get to make a whole new family. Please go no or low contact with her and your brother.

    Jonathan Setter
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    should have slapped her right in the face. Let her be embarrassed about that....

    Jaya
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How is saying someone isn't a virgin the same as calling someone a whore? Not being a virgin when you get married, is a positive thing. I get that the sister may have meant it as an insult, but for me it would be the same like if someone calls you gay to insult you: they're not actually insults at all because there is nothing wrong with it, so I wouldn't be bothered. I would be like "yes, I have sex with my long-term partner and that gives us a lot of very happy moments together, and it also made us we know that our partner is compatible sexually, thank you for acknowledging my wise choice to have sex with my partner before marriage. I encourage you to do the same".

    Paula Glasscoe
    Community Member
    11 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don’t know why you got a downvote for this, nobody asks if the groom is a virgin and you’re right that a pairing should know if they’re sexually compatible before marriage. I’ve upvoted to restore equality!

    Load More Replies...
    Sunny Day
    Community Member
    1 year ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    2 younger sibs *always* stick up for each other and OP doesnt know why? Wonder if OP is the golden child of the family.

    P Peitsch
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if she is, calling your sister a whore in front of others, doesn't sound really well, and tells more about you, than her. Let's say, OP is the "golden" child, can be. For your own sanity as a sibling of a "golden child", the best you can do, don't give a flying f.uck about it, after a certain age. They are 29 and 27 years old, not anymore kids or teens. By that age I was already living my own life, without any thoughts about my family, and my "golden child" younger brother. I never wished them anything negative, just brushed them off. Makiing dramas doesn't help. Anybody. Move on with your own life!

    Load More Replies...
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