Wife Revealed Her Mother-In-Law Tried To Sabotage Her Relationship, Got Blamed For Manipulation After Telling Her Husband The Truth
The relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law often becomes a very problematic topic that has destroyed a lot of marriages. Mom often believes only she knows best what kind of woman her son needs, and that by destroying his relationship, she only makes him happier.
Needless to say, the wife suffers the most from such problems. By and large, she was marrying a man and did not expect to receive, in addition, some painful jealousy from his mother. And very few people actually have real wisdom to discuss things openly rather than acting on the sly.
Let’s look at the way, for instance, the mother-in-law of this redditor acted. This woman’s post in the AITA community gained as much as 20.4K upvotes and almost 1.5K various comments. Apparently, the topic turned out to be very close to many redditors.
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A man ended up in the hospital after a car accident, and it became worse when his mother and wife had beef over his request for a meal
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So, the husband of the Original poster was unlucky not only in the sense that he had a car accident which put him in the hospital, but also in the sense that his wife and mother did not get along at all.
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The husband asked his wife to bring him a steak, which he liked best
During their next visit, the man, so tired of hospital food, asked for his favorite meal – a steak. The problem was that the wife didn’t have much time to cook it, and steak is quite expensive where they live. And then the mother-in-law came to the rescue.
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The OP’s mother-in-law offered to cook the steak herself
When the women left the room, the MIL told the OP not to worry – she would take care of everything and cook the steak herself. The wife was a bit surprised by this turn of events, but agreed to such a noble offer.
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MIL suddenly claimed that she had not made any promises
And so, during the next visit, when the husband asked the OP if she had brought a steak, she replied that his mom had promised to cook. Suddenly, the MIL claimed that she had not made any promises, and it actually wasn’t her business to perform the duties of a good wife.
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To prove she was right, the wife just called the husband’s mom and put her on speaker
The OP was confused and did not know what to do. Her husband was very upset, and when his mother left to talk, she tried to explain what had really happened – but the man did not believe her. Then the wife called the MIL, putting her on speaker and asking why she tried to frame her.
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As a result, the husband heard for himself how his mother said she did so deliberately to break them up, just showing how this woman allegedly could not be relied upon in a difficult situation. The man got extremely angry and forbade his mother to visit him in the hospital at all – who, as a result, later accused the OP of manipulating.
People online blasted this mother-in-law, saying she behaved simply horribly
By the way, the OP’s husband also did not win much sympathy from the commenters. Agreeing that hospital food is far from the most exquisite in the world, people noted that demanding a steak from his wife was not the best idea, and it would have been worth immediately taking his wife’s side in this conflict.
Folks online have described the mother-in-law’s behavior as classic narcissistic, while noting the OP now has both good and bad news. The bad news is that she apparently married a “momma’s boy”. The good news – now her husband at least knows what his precious mother really is like.
We are sure there are both wives and mothers-in-law, and of course husbands, among the people reading this text, so we’ll be glad to have your expert comments too. Or maybe you already have your own tremendous story that’ll make this one sound like a kids’ fairy tale – then we are definitely eager to find out!
For those who don't read the little 'explanatory' paragraphs between the copy/pasted content, here's the missing part of the OP's reddit post: "I swore to him his mom said she'd take care of it but he said he didn't believe me. I pulled my phone out, called his mom and put her on speaker so he could hear the conversation. I said "didn't you say you'd make the steak dish and that I didn't have to worry about it?" she relied "I did...but I obviously wasn't actually going to do it, I was just trying to help my son see how his wife is during the rough times and you took the bait". My husband raised his eyebrows. He got pissed he called her later and picked a fight then said no more visiting."
I just got out of a marriage similar to this one. My ex would run to his mommy every time something happened he didn't like and they would both raise hell with me at the same time. Girl you need to RUN.
My ex-BIL used to literally tattle on me. He was a big, mean bully and he didn't like that he couldn't intimidate me and push me around. I always told my husband exactly what was said/done on both sides when he would get abusive with me. Also he only ever treated me that way when my husband was NOT there. As this was pre-cellphone he would 'take it upon himself' to come over to our house to tattle in person. He would regale my husband with an altered tale, tailored to make me look disrespectful/bad. My magic power was that I would tell him(Hubby) EXACTLY what happened, EXACTLY what I said or did, with no exaggeration even if I made myself look bad. I'm not perfect but I am honest! It was always so satisfying to see him work up to drop this "BIG BAD" thing I said to him and have my hubs say, "I know, she told me.", he was always surprised. It was crazy that he never figured out that I was going to tell the truth every time, but seeing as he never told the truth he couldn't fathom it.
For clarity, I would go home and tell my hubs what had happened, 100% truth. My ex-BIL would chew on whatever name or smartass remark I would say for a couple of hours and get himself all worked up then come over. He wasn't following me directly home.
Load More Replies...NTA. The husband and MIL both are. He's a spoiled mama's boy and she is a manipulative control freak. I don't know who needs to hear this but when you get married your spouse takes priority over your parents and siblings. That includes believing your spouse over your parents in all matters at all times, unless and until you have proof to the contrary. Anyone that thinks otherwise shouldn't get married.
Husband and MIL are both AH. What a whiny, spoiled baby the husband is, to demand his wife go home and make him a steak dinner. He is so not a keeper. A good spouse would have been happy with a burger and fries or Chinese take out from near by place. But no, his expected his stressed out and tired wife to go to the grocery store, come home and make him a steak and then schlep it back to the hospital. Serve that entitled AH divorce papers. You can do better, dear.
It’s hard to believe the petty s**t people fight over and give such importance to. 🙄
Dude in hospital complaining about the hospital food (understandable) and asks wife to make him a steak dinner?!? How about some take out Chinese or Mexican instead, spoiled entitled man-child? OP do yourself a favor and kick this bozo to the curb and rid yourself of a grown man-child and his manipulative witch of a mother.
My uncle was diagnosed with cancer and was in the hospital. My grandmother was laying into his wife for not properly taking care of him. That side of my family is Mexican and my uncle's wife is Caucasian. The wife was defending herself. One of my Aunts tore into the wife and saying that 'can't you see my mother is upset! Her Son has cancer!!' The wife was a saint. She ended up divorcing my Uncle. She was worth 10 of my Uncle.
Is this some 5th grade level of pettiness on MIL and husbands part. Girl needs to find nearest exit
To spread the lies to the rest of the family, ugh! I couldn't resist going on SM and replying 'Not what happened and you know it you lying drama mama-IL.'
Going a little crazy over all the posters whinging on about how her husband 'demanded' she make him a steak. She flat out says he asked her too, not demanded.
We dont know what her circumstances were. She might be working extra shifts to cover the mortgage while her Husband is laid up. Perhaps they have young children and she is now juggling them alone. Maybe the hospital is a long way from their home and travel is very time consuming. Nice and judging of you to assume that she has the freedom and capacity to drop every one of her other obligations just to make a steak simply because he doesn't like the hospital food.
Load More Replies...For those who don't read the little 'explanatory' paragraphs between the copy/pasted content, here's the missing part of the OP's reddit post: "I swore to him his mom said she'd take care of it but he said he didn't believe me. I pulled my phone out, called his mom and put her on speaker so he could hear the conversation. I said "didn't you say you'd make the steak dish and that I didn't have to worry about it?" she relied "I did...but I obviously wasn't actually going to do it, I was just trying to help my son see how his wife is during the rough times and you took the bait". My husband raised his eyebrows. He got pissed he called her later and picked a fight then said no more visiting."
I just got out of a marriage similar to this one. My ex would run to his mommy every time something happened he didn't like and they would both raise hell with me at the same time. Girl you need to RUN.
My ex-BIL used to literally tattle on me. He was a big, mean bully and he didn't like that he couldn't intimidate me and push me around. I always told my husband exactly what was said/done on both sides when he would get abusive with me. Also he only ever treated me that way when my husband was NOT there. As this was pre-cellphone he would 'take it upon himself' to come over to our house to tattle in person. He would regale my husband with an altered tale, tailored to make me look disrespectful/bad. My magic power was that I would tell him(Hubby) EXACTLY what happened, EXACTLY what I said or did, with no exaggeration even if I made myself look bad. I'm not perfect but I am honest! It was always so satisfying to see him work up to drop this "BIG BAD" thing I said to him and have my hubs say, "I know, she told me.", he was always surprised. It was crazy that he never figured out that I was going to tell the truth every time, but seeing as he never told the truth he couldn't fathom it.
For clarity, I would go home and tell my hubs what had happened, 100% truth. My ex-BIL would chew on whatever name or smartass remark I would say for a couple of hours and get himself all worked up then come over. He wasn't following me directly home.
Load More Replies...NTA. The husband and MIL both are. He's a spoiled mama's boy and she is a manipulative control freak. I don't know who needs to hear this but when you get married your spouse takes priority over your parents and siblings. That includes believing your spouse over your parents in all matters at all times, unless and until you have proof to the contrary. Anyone that thinks otherwise shouldn't get married.
Husband and MIL are both AH. What a whiny, spoiled baby the husband is, to demand his wife go home and make him a steak dinner. He is so not a keeper. A good spouse would have been happy with a burger and fries or Chinese take out from near by place. But no, his expected his stressed out and tired wife to go to the grocery store, come home and make him a steak and then schlep it back to the hospital. Serve that entitled AH divorce papers. You can do better, dear.
It’s hard to believe the petty s**t people fight over and give such importance to. 🙄
Dude in hospital complaining about the hospital food (understandable) and asks wife to make him a steak dinner?!? How about some take out Chinese or Mexican instead, spoiled entitled man-child? OP do yourself a favor and kick this bozo to the curb and rid yourself of a grown man-child and his manipulative witch of a mother.
My uncle was diagnosed with cancer and was in the hospital. My grandmother was laying into his wife for not properly taking care of him. That side of my family is Mexican and my uncle's wife is Caucasian. The wife was defending herself. One of my Aunts tore into the wife and saying that 'can't you see my mother is upset! Her Son has cancer!!' The wife was a saint. She ended up divorcing my Uncle. She was worth 10 of my Uncle.
Is this some 5th grade level of pettiness on MIL and husbands part. Girl needs to find nearest exit
To spread the lies to the rest of the family, ugh! I couldn't resist going on SM and replying 'Not what happened and you know it you lying drama mama-IL.'
Going a little crazy over all the posters whinging on about how her husband 'demanded' she make him a steak. She flat out says he asked her too, not demanded.
We dont know what her circumstances were. She might be working extra shifts to cover the mortgage while her Husband is laid up. Perhaps they have young children and she is now juggling them alone. Maybe the hospital is a long way from their home and travel is very time consuming. Nice and judging of you to assume that she has the freedom and capacity to drop every one of her other obligations just to make a steak simply because he doesn't like the hospital food.
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