Someone Asks Whether Parents Should Say ‘Sorry’ To Their Kids, People Share Eye-Opening Messages

This is so obvious. People forget that you're not just raising them to BE good people, kids already ARE people. They're just learning how to be people in this world. I hate the people saying that their kids owe something to them just for being their kids. Children don't pay the bills because they literally can't. When you have children you have a responsibility to them to care for them properly and do your best to make them good people

I think parents sometimes play the "I'm The Parent" card to justify their crappy actions. You chose to become a parent, you have the responsibility, not your kid. You should be a role model to them and teach you child how they should except people to treat them. My mother has never apologized for me, ever. Not for belittling me over the tiniest mistakes, not for blaming me for her own problems, not for anything. This led to a broken relationship with her and low self-esteem. If you would rather damage your kid for life then take a tiny hit to the ego, then you shouldn't be a parent.

I understand (but don't agree) with the concern some have about appearing fallible. However, the reasons people gave are weird. The kids don't pay the bills? Mom mother didn't apologize and I'm fine? What?!

Of course you say sorry. Why wouldn't you give your kids, that you love, the same courtesy you'd give a stranger?

You should say "sorry" to everybody who deserves it. Nevermind, it's your grandma, boss, child or just random stranger. You did something wrong? Apologize. I don't understand, why some people do not get it. As for me, apologizing when you said or did something wrong is not only a way to fix things - it also shows that you respect this another human being, that you understand their anger and broken feelings. Most people love their children and want them to be happy. If so, why dehumanizing and belittling them by denying them their basic right to receive an apology?

I find it strange that we should have different standards for our children than we do for other people. If I tread on your foot by mistake, or I give you the wrong information, or I bite your head off when you did nothing wrong, then I owe you an apology and you get one. Why would it be any different for a child, mine or anybody else's?

If you want the child to learn healthy boundaries and how to properly treat others and themselves, you must treat them like human beings from the get go. This is especially important for building trust between you and your child. If you child sees you as an honest, thoughtful, caring parent, they are more likely to be an honest, thoughtful, caring person themselves, and will trust you to protect and nurture them, and will be more inclined to listen and respond correctly to your direction.

That moment when elder people not only "won't apologize" to you (when they are at fault), but also bring out the "La Chancla" if u TRY to make them apologize in the most kindest way.....

People are acting like others are saying that parents should apologise lots and for everything! NO! You apologise for your wrongdoings! Is it really that difficult to grasp!? OF COURSE YOU NEED TO SAY SORRY!

Sorry is such a simple yet complicated thing. I mean it's not even acknowledging you are wrong, it can be simply stating that you feel bad for causing discimfort, hurting someone. But for some people it just means admitting being weak and it's extremely hard to understand, accept and practice when you are already grown up

One thing you learn as an adult is that you are not perfect- there is no such thing as the perfect parent or the perfect child or perfect human being. You WILL make mistakes, and when you have done something wrong, you should apologize, even if that someone that you've wronged is your child. If they see you do it, when it's appropriate, they will learn to say sorry to others too and grow into a better human being. I personally believe you should also say sorry even if it was an accident, because we do hurt people unintentionally sometimes. It took me forever to learn how to say sorry, even for accidents. It's a tough but very important lesson.

Of course you say sorry if you are sorry. If you are not sorry, you don't. What 's the problem here? Normal courtesy, young or older, same.

PARENTS SHOULD SAY SORRY TO THEIR KIDS ONLY WHEN THEY DO SOMETHING WRONG OF COURSE. As an adult, I've realized how unfair it was before when my parents hurt me when I didn't even do anything wrong at all and they didn't even admit that they're wrong nor say sorry. Not saying sorry to your kids will teach the kids to stick to their pride and think that they're right all the time. Worst, they won't learn how to weigh things and identify which is right and wrong and they won't learn to say sorry or feel that their pride is devastated when they get to a situation in which they have to say sorry. Honestly, my parents never taught me a lot of values especially the importance of saying sorry but luckily, I grew up to be the child they're happy to have.

The people who are saying No, parents don't need to apologize, are giving the argument that the person in power never needs to apologize. Apply that to your job, to the government, to the police. "Oh hey, do you make the purchasing decisions here? No? Then I don't need to apologize for laying off 20 people and not giving you a cost-of-living increase this year." or "Oh hey, do you carry a gun and keep the peace? No? Then keep your nose out of the fact that we're unlawfully holding an innocent person." If the people in charge are not held accountable, they can get away with anything. That's why it's MORE important for the people with power to apologize, not less.

My father has never apologized for anything...ever. Even when he knows he's wrong... which he always is. According to him...he pays for everything and he's the boss. He's a huge trump supporter. Enough said. I find myself over apologizing to people...even when I didn't do anything because I never want to be like the a*****e who raised me.

There are people who have a policy of never apologising to kids? Wtf?

As I learned on a kids' show to "say sorry and ask how I can fix it". I was 26 ; Even adults need reminders.

Some parents feel that with authority comes a certain level of respect and that authority and respect makes them feel like they are not required to apologize to the people under their authority (i.e. their children). It's hard to not hold it against them, but I am aware that it is something that was passed down to them and to us. The same thing applies to other people in positions of authority: bosses who never feel like they owe their employees apologies, teachers with their students, etc. I experienced this growing up and it frustrated me to no end. I will try my best (and hopefully succeed most times) to end the perpetuation of this attitude when I have my own kids. At the end of the day it's really simple. You do something wrong, you apologize. No one should be above this.

Wtf?. Of course apoligize. Trust is two way ppl! Omg, how messed up r u to ask that, or say NO U DONT. If you ask these same ppl is abuse okay? Of COURSE not. But there is verbal abuse too!!! And, really, the "I apoligize because it's the right thing to do" line- that was my favorite. You don't apologize because it's the right thing to do. You apoligize because you are genuinely SORRY. And some ppl wonder why the kids are f****d up... And then, these kids are the future, ppl want them to be good adults. When they grow up, they have to have manners. I guess what I'm trying to say is that kids watch the adults and imitate them. Parents set the first examples they ever see. You have to treat them with respect.

I try to teach my kids that sometimes you're wrong or make a mistake and it's okay. It doesn't mean you're a bad person, as long as you are able to admit it and apologize AND DON'T TRY TO FIND EXCUSES. So yes, I do apologize to my kids when I'm wrong, even if it's a small unimportant thing.

Yes.