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Man Buys House Two Doors Down To Block In-Laws From Moving Nearby, Watches Drama Unfold
While we generally can pick the folks we marry or date, the reality is that this also often means dealing with their family, which can be quite the wildcard. As cliche as it can sound, in-laws are often annoying, nosey, demanding and just unpleasant to be around. The only salvation is that, hopefully, they don’t live with you.
A netizen shared their bit of skullduggery when they decided to outbid their in-laws who wanted to move in nearby. We reached out to the person who made the post via private message and will update the article when they get back to us.
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Having annoying in-laws living in the neighborhood is a nightmare
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Which is why one netizen decided to take drastic measures to keep them out
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Later they shared a few clarifications
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In-law relationships are complicated
While the stories about “nightmare in-laws” are old as time, research suggests that these days most folks are more optimistic about their partner’s family. After all, many people have come to recognize that the norms and “jokes” that get thrown around all the time don’t often reflect reality. Plus, most people also prefer optimism and are willing to give their newfound family a chance.
However, this doesn’t mean that things are easy. One immediate difficulty is that developing a relationship with your in-laws often means braving uncharted waters. In this day and age, cross-cultural relationships are quite normal and people might live in other continents from where they were born.
Every family has their own expectations, but, as humans often do, there can be difficulties actually communicating these things. Some parents insist on being near their kids even when they are adults, despite the fact that often enough this is what drives their offspring to move further away.
There can also be difficulties when it comes to personal space, money or even things like showing up uninvited. After all, in some cultures, you can just waltz on over to your child’s home, walk in and join them for dinner. It is not at all hard to see how this could annoy a person to no end. Boundaries are different in every family, which is a common source of drama.
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There is some merit in the idea of keeping distance
One issue is just acting on assumptions and not realizing that your uncommunicated preferences don’t, in the grand scheme of things, matter at all. These are the sorts of pitfalls that do, ultimately, spark a good degree of family drama. It’s important to note that this isn’t even always a conflict between a person and their in-laws, it’s sadly common enough for someone to not have a great relationship with their own parents.
This is one of the main reasons why most couples prefer some distance, as it cuts down on “surprises”. At the very least, visits have to be planned and there is always the possibility of “escaping” if things get too uncomfortable. So if you had this arrangement and suddenly learned your in-laws would be moving in nearby, it’s not hard to see why it would cause some concern.
However, it’s fair to say that most people would probably not be able to pull off this strategy. The real issue isn’t if this person was wrong to outbid their in-laws, that’s their prerogative, it’s that they should ultimately talk to their wife about it. Secrets, even if well intentioned, don’t really help strengthen a relationship.
There is research to suggest that distance is ultimately healthy for families, but deception is not. How they choose to tell their wife is their own business, but it’s worth pointing out that she is probably not going to be happy to learn that her spouse’s brother knew before her.
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Some were more on the fence about their methods
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Scott Rackley 10 months ago
Just from the motive alone, looking out for your wife, NTA. Eventually you'll need to tell her though. Plus, it was your money, so YTAs can go p**s off. An inherited house will only tank her finances when you're gone if she can't sell of rent it, which won't happen.
Papa 10 months ago
Maybe the person who wrote that assumed there's a mortgage in the house that she would be responsible for? I didn't get the impression that it does, but it might explain the part about tanking her finances.
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Littlemiss 10 months ago
I wouldn't want awful people family or not moving in down from me. The fact they've kept their distance from the parents for so long says a lot. There needs to be communication with the wife about the choices the husband has made on their behalf. If I had the money, I would have made the same decision if someone I had little contact with suddenly wanted to move within a spitting distance of me. My own egg donor wanted to move to the same town as me after years of living hours apart. Though when she realized she was going to have to make all the effort and when we refused to do her bidding, all her packing and moving for her she suddenly changed her mind. Entitlement knows no boundaries.
Janissary35680 10 months ago (edited)
I really want to believe this story is true but it reminds me too much of the bit in "Breaking Bad" where Jesse recruits Saul to buy his parents' house on the cheap. BTW: velleity: a wish or inclination that is so insignificant that a person feels little or no compulsion to act. (I had to look that one up.)
bElLa sTairZz 10 months ago
most AITAS are fake tbh, its a fun story though!!
Load More Replies... Scott Rackley 10 months ago
Just from the motive alone, looking out for your wife, NTA. Eventually you'll need to tell her though. Plus, it was your money, so YTAs can go p**s off. An inherited house will only tank her finances when you're gone if she can't sell of rent it, which won't happen.
Papa 10 months ago
Maybe the person who wrote that assumed there's a mortgage in the house that she would be responsible for? I didn't get the impression that it does, but it might explain the part about tanking her finances.
Load More Replies... Littlemiss 10 months ago
I wouldn't want awful people family or not moving in down from me. The fact they've kept their distance from the parents for so long says a lot. There needs to be communication with the wife about the choices the husband has made on their behalf. If I had the money, I would have made the same decision if someone I had little contact with suddenly wanted to move within a spitting distance of me. My own egg donor wanted to move to the same town as me after years of living hours apart. Though when she realized she was going to have to make all the effort and when we refused to do her bidding, all her packing and moving for her she suddenly changed her mind. Entitlement knows no boundaries.
Janissary35680 10 months ago (edited)
I really want to believe this story is true but it reminds me too much of the bit in "Breaking Bad" where Jesse recruits Saul to buy his parents' house on the cheap. BTW: velleity: a wish or inclination that is so insignificant that a person feels little or no compulsion to act. (I had to look that one up.)
bElLa sTairZz 10 months ago
most AITAS are fake tbh, its a fun story though!!
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