Web Users Are Flabbergasted After Learning ‘Bridezilla’ Is Eager To Serve Seafood At Wedding Despite Best Friend’s Severe Allergy
Gather around, because today we’ll be looking at a fishy (pun intended) post from “Let’s Shame Those Weddings,” which is a leading title of a well-liked subreddit that dedicates itself to, well, weddings and all their glory.
According to the description, the community was designed to shame wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, guests, Uncle Bob (of course – how could we forget about him?), and last but not least, vendors. The creators also mentioned that this sub is not for advice, judgment calls, or any questions about whether something is shameful or not.
Now, the star of the article is a bride-to-be with a huge dilemma. Allegedly, the woman went on Facebook to have netizens weigh in on the situation and to potentially get some help picking between her and her family’s obsession with seafood and her deeply allergic best friend, who’s also set to play the role of the maid of honor.
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“There is nothing that turns a normally pretty decent woman into a demon from the pit faster than a wedding”
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“Ah yes. Someone potentially dying at your wedding is a much better idea than simply not having seafood for one day” – this web user turned to Reddit’s r/weddingshaming community to chastise a post that was reportedly written in a bride-dedicated Facebook group. It managed to garner 4K upvotes as well as 572 comments.
Woman wants to serve seafood at her wedding despite knowing that her maid of honor has a serious allergy
Image credits: Dmitri Kuliuk (not the actual image)
Image source: u/Why-am-i-like-this97
What happened is that a bride, or shall I say “bridezilla,” took online to seek advice on a pretty delicate matter. Turns out that she and her family are big seafood lovers – however, her best friend, who’s also her maid of honor, is allergic, and quite severely. The original poster revealed that she’s very saddened by the fact that she can’t have some crab at her wedding or the events leading up to it. She said that she doesn’t want to seem insensitive, but she also has her relatives on her back who feel that it’s unfair to not have seafood just because of one person. Crazy, isn’t it?
Well, she still hasn’t talked to her maid of honor, which, in reality, should’ve been her first move, and is basically asking fellow group members to help her out and perhaps tell her how to even approach the issue, since she’s convinced that her best friend is assuming that she won’t have any seafood at the party. Finally, the wife-to-be finished her post by saying that while she knows that her friend’s health is important, she only gets one wedding, so she feels like she’s missing out.
Image credits: Rene Asmussen (not the actual image)
A digital media company called Everyday Health Group that creates material about health and wellness for both patients and medical professionals states that “seafood allergies often cause severe, life-threatening reactions to someone who is allergic to fish or shellfish.” There is also one main factor – you can have an allergic reaction without eating it. So, the question stands: why is the original poster willing to put her dearest friend at such big risk?
While it’s understandable that the bride-to-be is yearning to make her wedding day as memorable as possible, surely the possible death of her closest friend shouldn’t be a part of it? But what do you think? And how would you handle the situation?
Fellow community members shared their opinions on the situation
One of the Redditors that goes by the name u/teramu allegedly saw the original post and said that the bride was thinking about asking her MOH to stay outside for the cocktail hour as a compromise (which was also confirmed by the person who reposted it to r/weddingshaming), and said that seafood was “important to her culture.” Now, if the woman really valued her friend and, well, her life, surely the discussion wouldn’t have even existed in the first place. There are a million and one ways to handle this sticky situation – for instance, not having seafood at your wedding and perhaps going out the next day to enjoy it with your family.
Most Redditors were appalled by the original post and couldn’t believe that the bride-to-be was even debating the matter
Others shared their own stories and remarked on how lucky they were to have great friends who didn’t want them to die at their weddings
Image credits: photosforyou (not the actual image)
Just look at another community member’s remark: u/The-Lost-Girl said that her best friend and her godsister both had fake flowers at their weddings because she’s seriously allergic to pollen, and the best thing is that both women initiated the idea, even though the Redditor told them that they didn’t need to do that. At the end of the day, the thing that you enjoy – whether it’s seafood or something else – won’t run away, but your closest friend will deal with some dire aftermath if you fail to choose what matters to you the most.
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Am I the only one who is starting to think some of these 'AITA' posts aren't real? I mean seriously, who would even think to ask such a question. I'm tempted to get a throwaway and post something like "I kicked a mentally disabled child with a stutter out of line at the Starbucks because they were trying to order an obnoxiously long drink and were inconveniencing everyone else in the line, AITA?". I don't think I've ever met someone this entitled, stupid or inconsiderate, and I think I should count myself lucky.
I’ve unfortunately met people as entitled/self-centered as this OP (hell, my mother is one of them) so I sadly know that this kind of c**p DOES exist. It seems impossible, that NO ONE could be that way… but it’s possible. My mother, for example, refused to tell my dad’s siblings about his death because they “didn’t come to visit often enough” while he was disabled. I could post on AITA pretending to be her and I’d probably see it crossposted to BP after XD
Load More Replies...Personally, I would NOT have had seafood at the wedding in case ANYONE was allergic, not just the MOH. Why not have an inexpensive inoffensive buffet at the wedding and then perhaps at a later date have a'seafood night out' with friends and family. Then take best friend out to the restaurant of her choice for a cosy meal and cocktails just the two of you with maybe a trip to the theatre or something similar to let her know that she really is your best friend.
This is a good option. Watching your bestie die on your wedding day would certainly dampen the celebration. How could she live with the knowledge that underwriting bullies' tantrums cost a life?
Load More Replies...My highschool bf was badly allergic to fish.That meant to my parents that fish wasn't heated in any form while we dated. And my parents didn't even like my bf that much. Also image of a seafood room like the smoking room comes to mind as an alternative
Does anyone else wonder how much the "Disney princess" stuff impacts little girls into becoming these self-centered, entitled bridezillas?
I grew up loving Disney princesses and I am not this entitled or self centered. But I grew up loving the ones like Belle and Mulan that were considerate of others. Either way, if you claim that you love someone, you don't serve a food that could hurt them.
Load More Replies...Plot twist: the bride's family are actually mer people. But seriously, why pick a Maid or Matron of honor when you know something in your wedding may literally kill her.
eh... the wedding is only one day, and a friendship is for much longer I assume. Why do people make such a big deal over one day - even if it is a wedding day? It is only the start of a marriage - basically nothing more than that. To lose a friendship over that... still don't get it.
I could not agree more. I had a simple but lovely wedding that cost just a thousand dollars. Sure I dreamed of a beautiful wedding when I was a kid, but then I grew up. Ultimately, I just wanted to be married, and didn't care that much about the actual wedding.
Load More Replies...When my son got married, my flowers and my husband's were made of silk. I didn't even asked; my soon-to-be DIL thought about it. Everyone else got real flowers and my son made sure I wasn't sitting with anyone that had flowers so I stayed away too. OP got crushed by the community and I hope the MOH doesn't go to the wedding. Even if seashells were exclusive to weddings and OP had to ask, there would still be a problem between the two friends. The families are not helping either.
Screw what the family says. There's plenty of other times they can have seafood. Some people are ignorant to the severity and effects of allergy attacks, so they likely are not considering it a serious thing. (I know. I'm speculating, but that is the reaction I've seen people have towards allergies.) This is the bride's MOH and best friend. She should totally compromise on the food. There are ample of other non-seafood options.
Any time I provide food for a gathering, I make sure there are no allergies involved. Me being lactose intolerant has caused me horrible pain and sickness. I have other family members with food allergies. I would never want to create a harmful experience for anyone. And anyone who would do that should find out why risking someone's health or life is more important. This is a no brainier. I don't care if it's a 3rd cousin's stepson's girlfriend's child who is allergic to something. Whatever they would be allergic to would not be served. Plain and simple.
Am I the only one who is starting to think some of these 'AITA' posts aren't real? I mean seriously, who would even think to ask such a question. I'm tempted to get a throwaway and post something like "I kicked a mentally disabled child with a stutter out of line at the Starbucks because they were trying to order an obnoxiously long drink and were inconveniencing everyone else in the line, AITA?". I don't think I've ever met someone this entitled, stupid or inconsiderate, and I think I should count myself lucky.
I’ve unfortunately met people as entitled/self-centered as this OP (hell, my mother is one of them) so I sadly know that this kind of c**p DOES exist. It seems impossible, that NO ONE could be that way… but it’s possible. My mother, for example, refused to tell my dad’s siblings about his death because they “didn’t come to visit often enough” while he was disabled. I could post on AITA pretending to be her and I’d probably see it crossposted to BP after XD
Load More Replies...Personally, I would NOT have had seafood at the wedding in case ANYONE was allergic, not just the MOH. Why not have an inexpensive inoffensive buffet at the wedding and then perhaps at a later date have a'seafood night out' with friends and family. Then take best friend out to the restaurant of her choice for a cosy meal and cocktails just the two of you with maybe a trip to the theatre or something similar to let her know that she really is your best friend.
This is a good option. Watching your bestie die on your wedding day would certainly dampen the celebration. How could she live with the knowledge that underwriting bullies' tantrums cost a life?
Load More Replies...My highschool bf was badly allergic to fish.That meant to my parents that fish wasn't heated in any form while we dated. And my parents didn't even like my bf that much. Also image of a seafood room like the smoking room comes to mind as an alternative
Does anyone else wonder how much the "Disney princess" stuff impacts little girls into becoming these self-centered, entitled bridezillas?
I grew up loving Disney princesses and I am not this entitled or self centered. But I grew up loving the ones like Belle and Mulan that were considerate of others. Either way, if you claim that you love someone, you don't serve a food that could hurt them.
Load More Replies...Plot twist: the bride's family are actually mer people. But seriously, why pick a Maid or Matron of honor when you know something in your wedding may literally kill her.
eh... the wedding is only one day, and a friendship is for much longer I assume. Why do people make such a big deal over one day - even if it is a wedding day? It is only the start of a marriage - basically nothing more than that. To lose a friendship over that... still don't get it.
I could not agree more. I had a simple but lovely wedding that cost just a thousand dollars. Sure I dreamed of a beautiful wedding when I was a kid, but then I grew up. Ultimately, I just wanted to be married, and didn't care that much about the actual wedding.
Load More Replies...When my son got married, my flowers and my husband's were made of silk. I didn't even asked; my soon-to-be DIL thought about it. Everyone else got real flowers and my son made sure I wasn't sitting with anyone that had flowers so I stayed away too. OP got crushed by the community and I hope the MOH doesn't go to the wedding. Even if seashells were exclusive to weddings and OP had to ask, there would still be a problem between the two friends. The families are not helping either.
Screw what the family says. There's plenty of other times they can have seafood. Some people are ignorant to the severity and effects of allergy attacks, so they likely are not considering it a serious thing. (I know. I'm speculating, but that is the reaction I've seen people have towards allergies.) This is the bride's MOH and best friend. She should totally compromise on the food. There are ample of other non-seafood options.
Any time I provide food for a gathering, I make sure there are no allergies involved. Me being lactose intolerant has caused me horrible pain and sickness. I have other family members with food allergies. I would never want to create a harmful experience for anyone. And anyone who would do that should find out why risking someone's health or life is more important. This is a no brainier. I don't care if it's a 3rd cousin's stepson's girlfriend's child who is allergic to something. Whatever they would be allergic to would not be served. Plain and simple.


























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