“AITA For Screaming At My Husband And Forcing My Son To Pay For His Boyfriend’s Medical Bills Out Of His College Fund?”
One of the greatest painters once said, “Learn the rules like a pro so you can break them like an artist” – the thing is, nobody likes abiding to rules, and that’s a well-known fact.
It doesn’t matter if it’s your beloved mother telling you to finish all your food before heading off to play with your best mates or the strict boss that asks you to run yet another seemingly unnecessary errand that he could’ve handled himself – chances are, you’re overstepping your ego just to keep all the parties satisfied.
But why is that? Maybe it’s a constant thirst for freedom or a simple hatred towards compliance – whatever it is, there’re a couple of exceptions:
We all know that following the rules and doing the right thing aren’t necessarily the same things, but when you’re a teenager whose raging hormones are constantly provoking you to engage in a risk-taking activity, you’re bound to learn your lesson sooner or later.
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Many teens want more freedom than they can actually handle, meaning that they can be quite impulsive
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“AITA for screaming at my husband and forcing my son to pay for his boyfriend’s medical bills out of his college fund?” – this mother turned to one of Reddit’s favorite communities wondering whether she’s a jerk for making her son sponsor his boyfriend’s medical expenses following a motorcycle crash. The post has managed to receive nearly 15K upvotes and 2.5K comments discussing the situation.
Woman forces son to pay for his boyfriend’s medical bills after they got into a motorcycle accident
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The woman began her post by revealing that her husband sneakily got their oldest son a motorcycle for his 16th birthday. It turned out to be a last-minute gift that she knew nothing about, so since she couldn’t really do anything, the mother decided to lay out a couple of strict rules: the teen was told to drive within a speed limit and only while accompanied by his father, and he was banned from having passengers.
Husband goes behind wife’s back and gifts their son a motorcycle for his 16th birthday
The woman set some strict rules – however, not long after, she received a call from the hospital saying that there was a crash
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The author and her spouse are currently separated, and the man is staying in a nearby apartment until they figure out their relationship, so the 16-year-old consequently goes from house to house every single week.
Recently, when “Bryan” was staying with his dad, the OP got a call from the hospital saying that he and his boyfriend had been in a motorcycle accident.
Naturally, the mother rushed to the hospital, where she found her son with a gash on his forehead, some cuts, bruises, and a concussion. She wondered what happened, yet he wouldn’t look at her before finally giving in and admitting that they wrecked his motorcycle when he was street racing some guy while taking “Clark” home.
Turns out that the couple decided to race some guy, which left them with injuries
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The author was furious; she asked the teen to explain why he was out there riding on his own, let alone with a passenger. The 16-year-old was full of emotions, he apologized and said that he just wanted to know if “Clark” was doing alright.
When the woman went to check up on her son’s boyfriend, she was told that he had broken a few ribs, his leg, and two of his fingers – however, she did say that she would cover his medical expenses, which managed to calm his folks down a little.
Later on, the OP’s husband showed up. The woman didn’t waste a second and went off on him right in the middle of the hospital for being an irresponsible parent, claiming that this was the reason why they were separated.
The OP told her son that he would be responsible for sponsoring his partner’s medical expenses
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Image source: Dennis van Zuijlekom (not the actual photo)
When she went back to speak to her son, she told him that he’d be paying for his boyfriend’s medical bills out of his college fund and his savings. The decision sparked some outrage, resulting in her husband and his family calling her a jerk for taking college away from “Bryan” because of a mistake.
What do you think about it? Was it a fair decision or would you have handled things differently?
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NTA, this is a mom taking responsibility of her son and handling a situation she wasn't onboard with in the first place and not directly involved with. Someone has to be the responsible parent. Another thing, college funds are luxuries, privileges. Not every kid has a family that has the means to set one up. There's always other ways to pay for college. Go abroad to a cheaper college somewhere else in the world, work, grants, scholarships. I don't recommend student loans but it is an option if all else fails. College isn't even the be all, end all thing to do anymore. There are apprenticeship programs, too. Some careers don't require anything but proven skills and introductory experience through High School.
Sell the bike. The college fund probably won't cover the medical bills, anyway.
Bikes may not be in a condition to net enough money to cover the medical bills
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Terrible situation all around. I'd rather see Dad pay Clark's hospital bills, not the kid. The kid is 16 and his frontal lobe is still growing in, but Dad should have known better. I suspect the son learned his lesson as soon as he realized his boyfriend was really hurt. This is the kind of thing that tends to happen in my home country, unfortunately, because college and healthcare costs are both sky-high.
Wrong. let's stop this "kids will be kids" ignorant mindset. The mother laid down rules for a reason, and even with the mistake, it's never too young to learn how to grow tf up. He thought he was old enough to street race and have passengers, he's old enough to take the financial responsibility.
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NTA, this is a mom taking responsibility of her son and handling a situation she wasn't onboard with in the first place and not directly involved with. Someone has to be the responsible parent. Another thing, college funds are luxuries, privileges. Not every kid has a family that has the means to set one up. There's always other ways to pay for college. Go abroad to a cheaper college somewhere else in the world, work, grants, scholarships. I don't recommend student loans but it is an option if all else fails. College isn't even the be all, end all thing to do anymore. There are apprenticeship programs, too. Some careers don't require anything but proven skills and introductory experience through High School.
Sell the bike. The college fund probably won't cover the medical bills, anyway.
Bikes may not be in a condition to net enough money to cover the medical bills
Load More Replies... Terrible situation all around. I'd rather see Dad pay Clark's hospital bills, not the kid. The kid is 16 and his frontal lobe is still growing in, but Dad should have known better. I suspect the son learned his lesson as soon as he realized his boyfriend was really hurt. This is the kind of thing that tends to happen in my home country, unfortunately, because college and healthcare costs are both sky-high.
Wrong. let's stop this "kids will be kids" ignorant mindset. The mother laid down rules for a reason, and even with the mistake, it's never too young to learn how to grow tf up. He thought he was old enough to street race and have passengers, he's old enough to take the financial responsibility.
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