“Left Her A Note Signed ‘What Did You Expect?’”: Roommate Gets A Taste Of Her Own Medicine After Woman She Bullied Decides To Move Out
Some things just happen in life which we have no control over. We didn’t ask for it, we didn’t deserve it, we didn’t anticipate it. In those very moments, having a close support network, be it friends or family, is crucial. Easier to navigate a boat on a rough sea when you have someone helping you out.
But when those people turn their back on you, ridiculing you for your feelings rather than helping you deal with them, one has to make the very tough decision of leaving such people behind. One proud mother decided to share her daughter’s story on the r/PettyRevenge subreddit, and hundreds of people came to offer their support.
Although this may seem like a very vague way to start the article, it’ll make a lot of sense once we get into the story. Make sure you stick around to read the similar experiences from fellow netizens, and leave your own thoughts and stories in the comments below. If you want more, here’s another article. Now let’s dive in!
Having a parent diagnosed with cancer can rain down on one like a ton of bricks, leading to panic attacks and a need for someone to be there for you
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However, when petty drama comes before being an understanding friend, things can get very messy, as they did in this story of petty revenge
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As stated by MayoClinic, a panic attack is a sudden episode of intense fear that triggers severe physical reactions when there is no real danger or apparent cause. Panic attacks can be very frightening for everyone involved, as one might think they’re losing control, having a heart attack or even dying.
Panic attacks may come on suddenly and without warning at first, but over time, they’re usually triggered by certain situations. Some researchers believe that it’s caused by the body’s natural fight-or-flight response to danger, although there may not be an obvious danger present. Highly traumatic events in life can lead to these developing, as it happened to the daughter in the story.
To be the devil’s advocate, it can be really difficult when someone is experiencing anxiety or panic attacks, especially when one is unfamiliar with the symptoms. However, one should never put more pressure on a person struggling, as the roommate did.
Instead, if you actually care about the person having a panic attack, try to stay calm. The Help Guide instructs to gently encourage them to breathe slowly and deeply, asking them to watch while you gently raise your arm up and down, and to encourage them to sit somewhere quietly where they can focus on their breath until they feel better. You should never encourage someone to breathe into a paper bag during a panic attack, as it may not be safe.
If you’re ever struck with an anxiety or panic attack, Mind.org.uk has some advice. Focus on your breathing and concentrate on slowing down your breath, inhaling and exhaling on the count of 5. Some people say that stomping on the spot helps them reset their breathing pattern and get back in control. Lastly, focus on your senses. Mint-flavored sweets and gum, or the soft touch of a plushie can help with grounding.
If you find that they’re becoming a common occurrence, rather than a one-off, make sure you speak with your doctor or therapist, so that you can get on the right path to healing. Life is never easy, especially when you’re fighting the good fight alone. Having a parent diagnosed with cancer is hard-hitting, and the best you can do is take care of yourself and be there as much as you can.
We wish the family all the best and hope the mom wins the fight with cancer. Hoping the daughter has a smooth healing journey as well! Let us know your thoughts on this story in the comments below and I shall see you in the next one!
Dozens of people came to support the mom and daughter, praising the latter for how she handled the situation, and sharing their own stories
There were those that empathized with the roommate, however. Leave us your thoughts on this story in the comments!
Cant belive some of the awful comments they left the mom. Horrid. Humans can be despicable. Makes me extremely sad.
It sounds like the girl is having difficulties. It's possible the friends have become different and less caring. Or it's possible the girl has changed due to the additional stress of the cancer diagnosis, and the other girls simply cannot cope, or don't have the empathy, yet. I don't even want to think what I was like at that age. I certainly didn't have the empathy or experience to care for someone who had serious psychological issues. The last comment is very balanced. It's just a sad situation. And it's broken up the friendsships, Shame.
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Well, as some comments said, we only have one side of the story. No matter how the issue has been, yes they handle it very badly but we have no idea if the girls indeed tried to signal that they couldnt cope or not. I wonder if it had been a long process of nightly calls, hour long talk and simply to much grief and anxeity to handle for the friends. The therapist wasnt enough, but I wish they could have sat down with a neutral part who could habe helped them found a balance between a level of support they where comfortable with and her needs. All have life, studies and own problem. And is very young. The option to simply go no contact may have been very tempting.
I don't know about that. The roommate joining the group, being a friend while the other girls backed out, and then finally turning. That all sounds like triangulation. It sounds like the new girl turned them all against OP 's daughter, so she could have control over someone vulnerable. It just didn't work because the daughter had a way out, and took it. I understand the girls might not have been able to handle Daughter's stress, but clearly disregarding a request for them to not come over during work/finals days is just beyond disrespectful and signals something else besides the friends being overwhelmed.
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Very sad. Some people can be truly awful. Wishing the person the very best.
Absolutely! People can be downright heartless. Luckily there are still good people in this world. If anyone finds them, let me know!
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Cant belive some of the awful comments they left the mom. Horrid. Humans can be despicable. Makes me extremely sad.
It sounds like the girl is having difficulties. It's possible the friends have become different and less caring. Or it's possible the girl has changed due to the additional stress of the cancer diagnosis, and the other girls simply cannot cope, or don't have the empathy, yet. I don't even want to think what I was like at that age. I certainly didn't have the empathy or experience to care for someone who had serious psychological issues. The last comment is very balanced. It's just a sad situation. And it's broken up the friendsships, Shame.
Load More Replies... Well, as some comments said, we only have one side of the story. No matter how the issue has been, yes they handle it very badly but we have no idea if the girls indeed tried to signal that they couldnt cope or not. I wonder if it had been a long process of nightly calls, hour long talk and simply to much grief and anxeity to handle for the friends. The therapist wasnt enough, but I wish they could have sat down with a neutral part who could habe helped them found a balance between a level of support they where comfortable with and her needs. All have life, studies and own problem. And is very young. The option to simply go no contact may have been very tempting.
I don't know about that. The roommate joining the group, being a friend while the other girls backed out, and then finally turning. That all sounds like triangulation. It sounds like the new girl turned them all against OP 's daughter, so she could have control over someone vulnerable. It just didn't work because the daughter had a way out, and took it. I understand the girls might not have been able to handle Daughter's stress, but clearly disregarding a request for them to not come over during work/finals days is just beyond disrespectful and signals something else besides the friends being overwhelmed.
Load More Replies... Very sad. Some people can be truly awful. Wishing the person the very best.
Absolutely! People can be downright heartless. Luckily there are still good people in this world. If anyone finds them, let me know!
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