Woman Learns Her Husband Made Her Family Pay For A Cookout They Attended At His ‘Luxurious’ House While Her In-Laws Enjoyed It For Free

As a person who has a 'fancy' house it would never even occur to me to be such a massive a*****e. The most I might ask of a guest is to bring a bottle of wine or some food if we are going potluck style. If I wanted to make money off of my actual home I'd rent rooms. To charge people just to hang out with me is so narcissistic ... I can't even find words. I hope this person has a prenup and that she runs for the hills away from this abusive, elitist , prick.

First of all charging someone for BBQ is beyond tacky and in poor taste. You need to point out to him that charging means that y’all don’t have the money to pay for the food, ask him are we broke? I bet that will make him think twice. This your house not an Airbnb. I personally would be looking at a lawyer, he was willing to make a quick buck off your family.. what else is he willing to do.

There is a trite saying in psychotherapy that fights over money are never about the money. In many ways, this is true. Your husband is telling you who he is as a person. Sure, it's about money, at least on the surface, but he really is telling you who he is and you might want to listen. He sees himself and his family as above you and your family. He is better, wealthier, etc and you...well, you are not. He will continue to view you as inferior and wanting because you do not come from the same level of money as he does. It's time to take an in-depth honest look at this marriage. Do you really want to be with someone so self-important, so greedy and so superior acting? Take it from me, things will not get better. They will get worse. It may be time to find a good divorce attorney and consider your options. It's clear he considers the house his and his alone, I wonder what else is "his?"

NTA. Also, RUN! He will keep trying to alienate you from your family! You are nothing but a human toy to him!

Take your s**t and leave, and don’t speak to him until he apologizes to your whole family and you. This is just not acceptable behavior and you need to snip it in the butt real quick. He’s an AH and this seems like is gonna be a constant issue/fight just because he thought it was ok to do in the first place. Entitlement is running high here. Just remember if you do decide to divorce you are also entitled to half of everything.

Not sure what's crazier - that a husband would actually behave this way to his wife's family, or that she felt she had to ask if SHE was being the a-hole in the situation.

Uh....what??? You married this dude 7 months ago and he doesn't consider it a shared home AND charges people an admission fee to attend an event at the house?!?! Is this some kind of cultural thing? This relationship does NOT have a good foundation at all.

he earned the money does he work or is he just handed everything from his family? it was supposed to be a family event clearly he doesn't think much of your family. i hope you made sure that your name is added to things this guy is a huge spoiled jerk. i knew a guy that took his girlfriend out for lunch must have been a really cheap place. because he told her in front of everyone that she owed him three dollars for lunch. and she paid him this guy reminds me of that guy. you are married does he not get the concept that when you are married? that things don't belong to just him anymore i see a divorce in the future. i also see when it gets to court that anything acquired during the marriage will be hidden. and he is going to try his hardest to make sure you leave with nothing.

NTA he keeps saying it’s HIS house and not OUR house. Dude has issues and you need to seek legal counsel

Bail. He lit a fire for $275. You're not partners. Be careful and be well.

Sometimes I wonder about the veracity of stories like this one, but then I think of my own families (my wife's and mine) and the s**t they have pulled over the years, and this wouldn’t look out of place. Like the StepFIL that molested house pets (not ours, we live very far away) and one of them had to be put down? Is that extreme enough? or my SIL that took my wife's very traumatic stories of sexual molestation, made them her own and then took the molester to court recounting the stories my wife told her in confidence. My family is a bit screwed up, who isn't? But these people break all the records and make stories like this one seem innocent by comparison.

Run away as fast as you can.

Are those divorce papers I smell?! Especially nice w/ undertones of spousal support & alimony...I seriously doubt this is the 1st time Hubs has disrespected OP. I hope she gets the picture & lets this mess go ASAP.

My family would assume he was broke since he was asking family for money regardless of how nice the house was. Besides being the ah...he made himself seem like a begger and an object of pity...loose him hon...you can do better.

She has a decision to make. She needs to make up her mind with how much is she's willing to take. Is living in a fancy house worth herself respect or leave. This man will not get better as time rolls along. He said, "his house" not "our house" he's told her all she needed to know.

I __REALLY__ hope she didn't sign a pre-nup and lives in a community property state.

Lose him NOW

Run away..as fast as you can.

GET THE F**K OUT OF THERE NOW!

You said, that's not right. He said yes it is. You got your definitive answer. I'd get the hell out of that relationship as fast as possible. This really does raise alarm bells.

"Husband" implies marriage.. so the house it both of theirs. I would literally divorce my husband over this. Nothing more to say.

I have never heard of anyone being so ugggggggg. Set him down explain marriage to him if he doesn’t get it I hope you live in a community property state and either take or force the sale of his fancy house.

get out and don't look back

Pack your bags and leave. Go back home it’s far enough away for you not to bump into him. Get a divorce. Most people start out together with not much. You probably won’t get much of a settlement, but at least you found out what he really thinks about you. Its sad but time heals and you deserve so much more.

This is scary. It may not be my place to say so, but I'll say it anyway: you need to protect yourself from him and get divorced asap. That is 100% abusive.

So he pretends to be from a classy fam? Would think they would know if you invite people it's you who foots the bill..... nouveau riche-scum. Also.. please consider divorce.

So, his reasoning is that your family is poor, therefore they owe him money to visit his house, that he invited them to visit... Right. Sure. Solid reasoning (seriously, wtf)

Yea no this is not a relationship I would keep going but wish her the best in her life

You don't invite people as guests and then charge them a users fee for walking in the door. The man definitely needs some therapy or a divorce is in the future.

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

I divorce him , he is so selfish and GOD For bid he looses the house someday. I couldn't marry a man like that.there should of been red flags before marriage. .

$25 to visit?? Did his parents DELIBERATELY drop him on his head as a child or did all the slaps he got from women for being selfish and probably a pig addle the cells? If any of my family were asked for $25 just to visit, pretty sure after he got laughed at, they'd clean his house out. And I'd probably be driving the truck. OP needs to drop that mess before the slime starts to smell.

Divorce his a*s and clean him out, alimony and everything else. Document everything like this that has gone on. He needs to learn what it us like to take from the rich and give to the poor! I don't blame you for giving the money back.

This dude is a first class jackass. I hope you didn't sign a prenup. I can only say that the jackass would have ended up in the pool with his money had he pulled that c**p in most Southern families. Narcissistic a*****e.

Douche bag

Leave him, and sue for hiiiiigh alimony!

From the sound of it, this guy didn't all of a sudden become an a*****e He was probably always an a*****e and she chose to ignore it. Now that the tables have turned on her family she's opening her eyes to him. She admitted that her family never really liked the guy. I'm sure they saw the jerk for what he truly was. She married him knowing full well what he was (maybe blinded by his family's wealth?) now she's having buyers remorse. Consult a lawyer and choose better next time.

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Troll entry. People make this stuff up for clicks. I call BS