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18 Y.O. Asks If She’s Wrong For Not Acting Excited When Her Sister Announced Her Fifth Pregnancy
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18 Y.O. Asks If She’s Wrong For Not Acting Excited When Her Sister Announced Her Fifth Pregnancy

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Perhaps the whole history of humanity is a continuous history of hypocrisy. Just imagine – from the earliest childhood we are taught to tell the truth and nothing but the truth, but at the same time, with age, the truth acquires many additional conditions and conventions, which we call “decency” and “appropriate words”.

And so, as soon as we honestly admit our own emotions and feelings, we are immediately accused of being rude and impolite. Hypocrisy? Maybe. Or maybe it’s just a kind of social interaction – after all, if a certain reaction is expected from us, then any other response may offend the other person. For example, when someone announces their pregnancy. And that’s exactly what we’re going to tell you about today.

This story is brand new – it only appeared on the AITA Reddit community a few days ago – but despite that, the post by user u/Alive-Kick8154 has nearly 12K upvotes and over 3.8K different comments. It would seem that the reason for the family drama looks completely simple and innocent, but there is a moral dilemma, and we will now try to resolve it.

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The author of the post is 18 Y.O. and she has an elder sister who is married and has four kids

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So, the author of the original post is eighteen years old and has an older sister, “Kay,” who is more than twice her age. Kay and her husband have four children, four girls between the ages of eleven and three. As the Original Poster reveals, she often helps her elder sister to babysit the nieces so that she can relax and hang out with friends. Moreover, the OP also financially supports her sister’s children, and no one can say that she is a bad aunt.

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One fine day, the author’s sister came over and announced her fifth pregnancy, expecting everybody to be happy

And so, one fine day, Kay and her husband announced that they were planning to come over to the OP’s parents’ house to tell them something incredibly important. When they arrived, the OP was watching TV and was engrossed in what was happening on the screen, so when Kay announced that she and her husband were expecting their fifth child, the woman simply said something like: “Cool, awesome” and continued to watch TV.

Image credits: u/Alive-Kick8154

In contrast to the OP, her mother literally radiated joy and happiness, and apparently the contrast was so striking that Kay asked her sister: “Just ‘cool’, you don’t seem that excited for me?” The author of the post was kinda logical – she asked what exactly was expected of her in this situation, a show of joy and happiness or a real expression of her true emotions?

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When the author just said something like “Cool, awesome,” her sister seemed to feel both embarrassed and indignant

If Kay expected her sister to jump for happiness, then she definitely won’t receive such emotions, the Original Poster continued. In the end, this is not their first or even second child. A storm of emotions would be completely understandable if Kay was expecting her first baby – but she has already experienced all possible joyful sensations, and her relatives, as well.

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Moreover, the OP asked the sister if they planned to conceive this child in advance. She, completely confused, replied that no, and that everything turned out completely spontaneously. “Well,” replied the author. “So my emotions are completely normal.” When Kay indignantly asked if her sister was not happy for her, she calmly objected that she was glad, of course – just not in such a way as to dance with happiness at the news.

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The author honestly told her that happiness would be appropriate at the first pregnancy announcement, though her relatives dubbed her impolite for saying so

This turn of events was obviously not expected by the elder sister, so she took all her kids and stormed out of the parents’ house with her husband, declaring that they would not stay for dinner. When the relatives left, the mother lashed out at the OP, arguing that, according to her, the daughter should apologize to Kay for not being excited about her pregnancy announcement. So the teen first decided to ask the opinion of netizens about this situation.

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Some of the commenters sided with the teen, though some of them thought she just broke her sister’s positive vibe

The opinions of people in the comments, however, were very divided. When some commenters wrote to the Original Poster that she probably should have just smiled and congratulated her sister, she replied that she actually did, but the mom-to-be seemed to need something like ‘OMG wow!’ Moreover, the author sincerely believes that her sister and BIL in fact cannot afford such a big family.

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On the one hand, commenters believe, it’s not such a terrible burden to be happy about the things that make someone you love happy. On the other hand, according to people in the comments, who would expect a teenager to be overly joyous at the news of someone having a fifth kid? In any case, as many people in the comments think, it’s not worth wrecking the mother-to-be’s vibe, although pregnancy announcements are sometimes really boring.

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We’re pretty sure you do have your own point of view on how to behave when a family member or a friend announces they’re pregnant, so please feel free to let us know about it in the comments. And if you have any other interesting story on this topic, then we all will read it with real pleasure.

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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ngregory avatar
N Miller
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm with the Schrödinger's AH comment. OP's additional comments suggest that she smiled and said congrats, but wasn't as enthusiastic as the sister expected. If this is even half of the truth, the sister is putting unrealistic expectations on other people's reactions. If OP is also financially providing for these nieces, it's even more reason not to be overly happy at the news.

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Izzy Curer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently she smiled and said, "cool, awesome." Everyone is acting like she didn't react at all, but she did. The only reason the sister is mad is because she didn't react in the exact way the sister wanted, but that's not how life works. You don't get to control other people's emotions. Nta.

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Hphizzle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Oh no! My teenage, free babysitter that I’m financially dependent on isn’t excited about me adding a 5th child into the situation. How dare they not jump up and down with excitement! I must put them in their place!” *shocked when said teen reacts poorly*

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Ches Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm really wondering why someone downvoted you - this reads 100% true to me. I mean, the younger sis even stated she helps out that much. And 5 kids? Seems like someone might like "baby attention" a bit much.

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Lorrie Rothstein
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think there's so much more to this story. Why is she giving money for her nieces? She's 19 years old. She shouldn't have to support her nieces. Where does the husband's money go? Maybe the op is angry she will have to give money for 5 kids?

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Kathryn Baylis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There’s also the babysitting thing, so the mother can go out on the weekend. Now. Instead of 3 self-sufficient fully potty-trained kids, plus one that either is, or is almost, self-sufficient and potty-trained, there’s going to be an infant too. Diaper changes, constant supervision, trying to guess if they’re hungry or wet or just want attention. Way more responsibility for a teenager when babysitting. OP probably isn’t getting anything in return for it either, since they’re already contributing money to the parents. If anyone is the AH here, it’s sister and possibly BIL too, unless he’s working himself to death working all the damn time to—-unsuccessfully—-support his family. Or sister’s pregnancy addiction. They should’ve stopped at two, not continued on to have five, especially when they can’t afford them.

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N Miller
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm with the Schrödinger's AH comment. OP's additional comments suggest that she smiled and said congrats, but wasn't as enthusiastic as the sister expected. If this is even half of the truth, the sister is putting unrealistic expectations on other people's reactions. If OP is also financially providing for these nieces, it's even more reason not to be overly happy at the news.

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Izzy Curer
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently she smiled and said, "cool, awesome." Everyone is acting like she didn't react at all, but she did. The only reason the sister is mad is because she didn't react in the exact way the sister wanted, but that's not how life works. You don't get to control other people's emotions. Nta.

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Hphizzle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Oh no! My teenage, free babysitter that I’m financially dependent on isn’t excited about me adding a 5th child into the situation. How dare they not jump up and down with excitement! I must put them in their place!” *shocked when said teen reacts poorly*

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Ches Yamada
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm really wondering why someone downvoted you - this reads 100% true to me. I mean, the younger sis even stated she helps out that much. And 5 kids? Seems like someone might like "baby attention" a bit much.

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Lorrie Rothstein
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think there's so much more to this story. Why is she giving money for her nieces? She's 19 years old. She shouldn't have to support her nieces. Where does the husband's money go? Maybe the op is angry she will have to give money for 5 kids?

kathrynbaylis avatar
Kathryn Baylis
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There’s also the babysitting thing, so the mother can go out on the weekend. Now. Instead of 3 self-sufficient fully potty-trained kids, plus one that either is, or is almost, self-sufficient and potty-trained, there’s going to be an infant too. Diaper changes, constant supervision, trying to guess if they’re hungry or wet or just want attention. Way more responsibility for a teenager when babysitting. OP probably isn’t getting anything in return for it either, since they’re already contributing money to the parents. If anyone is the AH here, it’s sister and possibly BIL too, unless he’s working himself to death working all the damn time to—-unsuccessfully—-support his family. Or sister’s pregnancy addiction. They should’ve stopped at two, not continued on to have five, especially when they can’t afford them.

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