Dad Left Shattered When Daughter Chooses Biological Father Over Him, Refuses To Walk Her Down The Aisle After ‘Real Dad’ Passed Away
This story comes from a dad who hasn’t spoken with his daughter in years. “When she was 15 we found out she wasn’t my biological daughter and my wife had cheated on me years ago with a friend,” he wrote in a heartfelt post on r/AITA that received 21.2k upvotes.
The family collapsed after he divorced his wife, and his daughter “started pulling away from him.” At one point, she decided to live with her biological father, breaking the author’s heart and leaving him very depressed.
Now the situation has changed and the author’s daughter reached out to him after years asking if he could walk her down the aisle. After refusing, the dad turned to people online to find out if it was really the right decision.
After not speaking with his daughter for years, this father receives a request to walk her down the aisle, to which he refuses
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It turns out that he’s had a very complicated relationship with his daughter, who turned away after finding out he is not her biological father
And this is what people had to comment in response to this situation
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When this woman was twenty, she made her decision to cut him out of her life and now she has to deal with the consequences of that decision. He doesn't owe her a thing and the only reason she called is because her bio dad is dead. He is not being an asshole, he is trying to protect his heart and mind by not getting back into that relationship again. She will only hurt him again. After the wedding was over, she would probably never call him again.
Yep. She just doesn't like the idea of not having a father to walk her down the aisle. She's just using him to make her wedding 'fit' her ideal. What kind of a person does this to someone who brought them up? That they thought was their real dad until 15? Not his fault that he wasn't. She's not worth it.
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Even if he'd be the biological father, nobody could force him. She broke contact with him and treated him badly. Sure, getting to know "the other dad" is absolutely fine, but the rest is crap. He doesnt owe her anything, specially after that.
Getting to know her 'other dad' who caused so much pain to her family and caused her family to no longer exist (yes, yes, with the cheating wife; one issue at a time), is absolutely fine; if you're kind of amoral. I think the daughter is the kind of person that would find otherdad to be more of a kindred spirit, than 'not-narcissist dad' who was always there.
Load More Replies... When this woman was twenty, she made her decision to cut him out of her life and now she has to deal with the consequences of that decision. He doesn't owe her a thing and the only reason she called is because her bio dad is dead. He is not being an asshole, he is trying to protect his heart and mind by not getting back into that relationship again. She will only hurt him again. After the wedding was over, she would probably never call him again.
Yep. She just doesn't like the idea of not having a father to walk her down the aisle. She's just using him to make her wedding 'fit' her ideal. What kind of a person does this to someone who brought them up? That they thought was their real dad until 15? Not his fault that he wasn't. She's not worth it.
Load More Replies... Even if he'd be the biological father, nobody could force him. She broke contact with him and treated him badly. Sure, getting to know "the other dad" is absolutely fine, but the rest is crap. He doesnt owe her anything, specially after that.
Getting to know her 'other dad' who caused so much pain to her family and caused her family to no longer exist (yes, yes, with the cheating wife; one issue at a time), is absolutely fine; if you're kind of amoral. I think the daughter is the kind of person that would find otherdad to be more of a kindred spirit, than 'not-narcissist dad' who was always there.
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