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Woman Called Out For Not Trying SIL’s Famous Casserole: “She Brought Last Year’s Leftovers”
Woman Called Out For Not Trying SIL’s Famous Casserole: “She Brought Last Year’s Leftovers”
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Woman Called Out For Not Trying SIL’s Famous Casserole: “She Brought Last Year’s Leftovers”

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Apart from expressing gratitude, food is a huge part of Thanksgiving celebrations. Potluck dinners are happening everywhere, as people proudly share their recipes for everyone to try. 

But as you may expect, this may cause some awkward moments, as this woman experienced. She refused to eat her sister-in-law’s sweet potato casserole after suspecting it was a leftover dish from the previous year. 

Her actions caused a little rift within the family. Read the entire story below to find out how they handled it. 

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    A woman refused to eat her sister-in-law’s sweet potato casserole, causing a bit of drama

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    The author also argued with her mother, so she asked the internet if her actions were uncalled for

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    Unresolved pains are usually the cause of conflicts during family gatherings

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    The sister-in-law’s mother passed away fairly recently, and the sweet potato casserole was a tribute. The author’s comments likely triggered her, compounding her grief.

    Family therapist Vienna Pharaon says these “unresolved pains” can easily trigger arguments during a supposedly festive celebration like Thanksgiving dinner. 

    “All it takes is one look, one complaint, or that one comment to set off a conflict the family knows all too well,” Pharaon told CNBC in an interview.  

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    Thanksgiving gets a bad rap for being a “dramatic” holiday, and for good reason. You’ve likely read our numerous stories on the topic. But why is that? 

    Licensed psychotherapist Dugyu Balan points to the “pseudo-celebrations” that happen during the latter part of the year. In her article for Psychology Today, she notes how it makes people engage in “forced gratitude” to capture picture-perfect moments for social media.  

    “The pressure to keep spirits high and smiles camera-ready can be overwhelming, often triggering anxiety and depression,” she wrote. 

    If tensions rise during dinner, experts like psychiatrist Dr. Nicole Washington say the best move is to keep your cool. If you notice yourself getting heated, lower your voice and speak calmly. 

    In an article for Newsweek, Dr. Washington points out that the other person may mirror your actions, which ultimately defuses tension. Or, in the story’s case, to nip it before things get heated up. 

    “It can be helpful to take a couple of steps back or to physically remove yourself from the person and take a few deep breaths,” she wrote. 

    Fortunately, the author didn’t have to deal with a full-blown family drama. While her actions were hurtful to her sister-in-law, she didn’t cause a scene that could’ve ruined everyone’s night. 

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    The author provided more information in the comments

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    Some readers sided with her

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    While others criticized her for making wrongful assumptions

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    She later provided an update, saying she patched things up with her sister-in-law

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    zims
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a nice ending, communication and honesty are key, and hopefully this will help them grow together as a family, especially supporting her SIL in her time of grief.

    Ace
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    TBH I don't see a problem here - frozen food may not be at its best after a year but as long as it's been kept frozen for the whole time there should be no food safety issues at all.

    Trillian
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see no food safety issue but I also am an adult and will eat what looks tasty to me and not eat what doesn't. I am not obliged to try everything just bc it is there.

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    Meagan Glaser
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP was so busy being smug about how reddit was all wrong that she never got around to admitting SHE WAS WRONG. It was not last year's leftovers, it was just frozen leftovers. OP made up an insane scenario in her head and never admitted she was wrong even to herself. She seems to think that "it was frozen" justifies telling other people "omg i think that was leftovers from last year"

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    zims
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a nice ending, communication and honesty are key, and hopefully this will help them grow together as a family, especially supporting her SIL in her time of grief.

    Ace
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    TBH I don't see a problem here - frozen food may not be at its best after a year but as long as it's been kept frozen for the whole time there should be no food safety issues at all.

    Trillian
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't see no food safety issue but I also am an adult and will eat what looks tasty to me and not eat what doesn't. I am not obliged to try everything just bc it is there.

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    Meagan Glaser
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP was so busy being smug about how reddit was all wrong that she never got around to admitting SHE WAS WRONG. It was not last year's leftovers, it was just frozen leftovers. OP made up an insane scenario in her head and never admitted she was wrong even to herself. She seems to think that "it was frozen" justifies telling other people "omg i think that was leftovers from last year"

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