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Mom And Sister Try To Hijack Woman’s Graduation Road Trip With Babysitting Job, Lose It At ‘No’
It’s common courtesy to respect another person’s decision if they say no to a favor you ask. Pushing the issue or acting out only creates a rift that no one wanted in the first place.
This was a problem a woman dealt with when her sister asked her to cancel her planned graduation trip and take on babysitting duties. She refused, sparking a sibling feud. However, their rift only worsened when their mom joined in and called her out for being “selfish and immature.”
Feeling confused, she turned to the AITAH Reddit community to hopefully find some clarity.
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A woman’s planned college graduation trip caused a rift within her family
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According to her, it was a trip she had planned and saved for since her sophomore year
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However, her sister demanded that she cancel the trip to take on babysitting duties
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Everyone called her names when she refused, including her mom, who suddenly joined in
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Excessive entitlement typically happens among people who are close to each other
A 2021 study published in Frontiers of Psychology revealed three types of relational entitlement behavior: excessive, restrictive, and assertive. And while the research focused on romantic partners, it also applies to people close to each other, like family.
Psychologist Dr. Mark Travers differentiated these three, noting that excessive entitlement is a “pathological form” in which people only think about their own needs and ignore those of others.
Restrictive entitlement is the exact opposite, where timid individuals refuse to express their opinions or desires. Assertive entitlement lies in between, where the person can act reasonably, but is self-assured enough to pursue their needs.
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Based on the study and Dr. Travers’ descriptions, the older sister may have displayed excessive entitlement by forcing her younger sibling to forgo her plans and accommodate her request.
It also helps to understand how a person develops a sense of entitlement. According to mental health professional Arlin Cuncic, MA, being spoiled or indulged as a child is one possible reason for a person to carry this mentality.
In the story, the older sister seems to have been heavily favored by their parents growing up, and this still appears to be the case with the mom siding with her.
Most experts agree that boundaries are necessary when dealing with an entitled person. Workplace psychologist and executive coach Stefan Falk advises sending a clear message that such behavior isn’t acceptable, and even calling out the other person if they’ve become too much to handle.
The author did her part by standing her ground. Besides, the sister could have explored other babysitting options, including her own mother.
Most readers sided with the author, with some offering their suggestions
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KatSaidWhat 6 months ago
I'm not sure how far that sister should f**k off but it's not far enough. Hope she enjoyed her graduation trip.
arthbach 6 months ago
The most pertinent comment above is the sister and brother in law will have another anniversary next year, whereas the graduation trip will only happen this one time. If the sister had asked nicely, she might even have been able to get have a delayed anniversary trip the following week.
Alexandra 6 months ago
A child is not a family project. It doesn't take a village: it takes just the parents. Parents should stop counting on the help of those who aren't the parents. You can ask, of course, but don't throw a tantrum if someone tells you 'no'. Your kids are not someone else's priority.
Glasofruix 6 months ago
When you don't have kids NOTHING you do is important when babysitting is involved. "Oh you've spend hundreds to thousands on your plans? Too bad you now have to cancel everything because someone with children has more important plans because kids"
Sue Ellen Bowen 6 months ago
The sister's trip is not more important than OP's. It sucks her babysitter bailed but thems the breaks.
Mary Muir 6 months ago
this isn't even high school but college graduation!! it's important! a child free anniversary weekend? No, not important; as the parents it's for them to watch their children if the babysitter cancels. Or find someone else to babysit who doesn't have plans. OP, you are NTA and you need to tell sis that you're busy looking for a post grad job and don't have time for babysitting.
KatSaidWhat 6 months ago
I'm not sure how far that sister should f**k off but it's not far enough. Hope she enjoyed her graduation trip.
arthbach 6 months ago
The most pertinent comment above is the sister and brother in law will have another anniversary next year, whereas the graduation trip will only happen this one time. If the sister had asked nicely, she might even have been able to get have a delayed anniversary trip the following week.
Alexandra 6 months ago
A child is not a family project. It doesn't take a village: it takes just the parents. Parents should stop counting on the help of those who aren't the parents. You can ask, of course, but don't throw a tantrum if someone tells you 'no'. Your kids are not someone else's priority.
Glasofruix 6 months ago
When you don't have kids NOTHING you do is important when babysitting is involved. "Oh you've spend hundreds to thousands on your plans? Too bad you now have to cancel everything because someone with children has more important plans because kids"
Sue Ellen Bowen 6 months ago
The sister's trip is not more important than OP's. It sucks her babysitter bailed but thems the breaks.
Mary Muir 6 months ago
this isn't even high school but college graduation!! it's important! a child free anniversary weekend? No, not important; as the parents it's for them to watch their children if the babysitter cancels. Or find someone else to babysit who doesn't have plans. OP, you are NTA and you need to tell sis that you're busy looking for a post grad job and don't have time for babysitting.
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