16 Y.O. Fed Up With Pregnant Teen Sister Clinging To Her All The Time, Parents Refuse To Understand
Blended families come with change; one minute it’s you and your immediate family, next minute this immediate family expands to a new set of people. Now all of a sudden, you might have to share a room and sometimes even outfits. It could be a bit uncomfortable, even for the most accommodating person.
This poster had to deal with one of these changes when her stepsister got pregnant and her parents expected her to be accommodating even though she already was. This kept going on until she reached her breaking point – asking to move out.
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Being understanding with family through one of life’s many hurdles is part of the dynamics of having a family, but sometimes it can be a bit too much
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This teenager shares that her sister has been very overbearing due to her pregnancy hormones and even though she has been accommodating, her parents insist she try harder
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When Misty was not invited to a party organized by the OP’s friends, her parents told her to ask her friend if Misty could come or stay at home with her
Having had enough, she told them that she can’t stand being around Misty anymore and would be moving in with a cousin
A Reddit user took her story online, asking community members if she was being a jerk for wanting to move out of her parents’ house after her pregnant stepsister became overbearing. To give a little background, the original poster (OP)’s parents divorced before she was born, and her dad married her stepmother, Bri, when she was just 5. Bri also has a daughter, Misty. They are both the same age and had a pretty close relationship until they were 14 when they drifted apart.
Along the way, Misty got pregnant, and the OP’s parents asked if she could hang out with Misty. The OP didn’t mind, well, until the pregnancy hormones kicked in. Misty became very moody and clingy. Even when she asked for a break, her parents told the OP to be more understanding of Misty’s situation. This carried on until the OP’s friend invited her to a birthday party, and Misty wanted to come along, even though she was not invited. When this was revealed to her, she broke down. The OP’s dad and stepmother gave her two options: ask her friend if Misty could go or keep Misty company.
This was the last straw. The poster said that if she couldn’t go, she was going to move in with her cousin because she couldn’t stand being around Misty anymore. What she didn’t know was that Misty heard this, and they demanded she apologize but she would definitely be sticking to her guns.
Community members rallied behind the OP and gave her the “Not the A-hole” badge. “As soon as that baby arrives, your life will be hell. Go now, while you can,” one user wrote.
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Whether you get along with them or not, having a sibling is no easy feat, especially in a blended family situation. You might love them, but most of the time, we know that if we weren’t siblings with them, we might not even be friends. Sibling rivalry has been around since history itself and it’s quite normal. With blended families, this is even trickier, as you’re not only in a new family dynamic, but you’re now dealing with someone who could be a thorn in your side.
Blended families present unique challenges, one of which is the increased potential for sibling rivalry. Merging two families with distinct personalities, histories, and expectations can create a stressful environment for all involved, including children. This stress can manifest as competition, resentment, and conflict between siblings, as they navigate their new roles and relationships within the blended family. The OP’s story perfectly exemplifies this dynamic. Despite initially being accommodating towards her pregnant stepsister, she eventually reached a breaking point due to a lack of understanding and support from her parents.
Healthline identifies that the stress of blending two families with their varying personalities could be a primary factor that can contribute to rivalry. Different children may react to their new siblings and new family situation in completely different ways. The OP has been accommodating towards the most recent development, and even then, her parents kept insisting she try harder.
According to Psych Central, it is important to teach children how to negotiate. For example, if they’re arguing with their sibling, you can talk with them about how to compromise. Solving a problem for them or siding with one child over another can escalate the situation further. So, if possible, try to encourage your children to find solutions to their problems between themselves.
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Redditors backed up the girl and assured her that the problem is with her family
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Having a baby is a huge change for a 16-year-old, but the OP can only help up to a point. The parents need to find outside resources for support (such as family counselling and groups for pregnant teenagers).
But, it's not hers to deal with. If she were to acquiesce to this she will be biting the bullet until the child is born. Then THAT circus begins when she is expected to babysit to "give her a break". OP has chosen the right response for her mental well-being. Let the parents support the sister during her pregnancy and after she delivers. The long and the short of it is it's their job anyway since the sister is a minor.
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You had already expressed to your parents you needed a break. They didn't listen, and you didn't know how to express om your building frustrations because you have no one in your corner. It seems to be all about Misty, while your feelings are pushed to the wayside. This is not fair for you. Misty made a life changing decision and it's unfair for your parents ( dad and stepmother) to let it affect you and your life. If you can move in with your cousin for a while, I would do so. I am sorry Misty's feelings are hurt, but at the same time, her choices have nothing to do with you. She's got a lot of growing up to do really quickly, unfortunately. Good luck, OP. I do not think you're the AH. If anyone is the AH here, it's your parents. They are the adults in this situation and they shouldn't be putting so much pressure on you.
I'm not sure she should move in with the cousin (that just creates a whole different bunch of problems). She definitely doesn't need to have her step-sister living in her pocket though. I think this is a situation where the OP should sit down with the parents and say "I'm sorry for what I said. I did mean it, but I should have phrased it in a nicer way. I'm happy to be around stepsis, but not all the time. I need my own time as well and we need to set proper boundaries. And we definitely need to be clear about what expectations and responsibilities are going to be once the baby arrives." See how that goes down with the family before making rash judgments about moving out.
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It’s good to set boundaries now so you won’t be the co parent because Misty cries.
Having a baby is a huge change for a 16-year-old, but the OP can only help up to a point. The parents need to find outside resources for support (such as family counselling and groups for pregnant teenagers).
But, it's not hers to deal with. If she were to acquiesce to this she will be biting the bullet until the child is born. Then THAT circus begins when she is expected to babysit to "give her a break". OP has chosen the right response for her mental well-being. Let the parents support the sister during her pregnancy and after she delivers. The long and the short of it is it's their job anyway since the sister is a minor.
Load More Replies... You had already expressed to your parents you needed a break. They didn't listen, and you didn't know how to express om your building frustrations because you have no one in your corner. It seems to be all about Misty, while your feelings are pushed to the wayside. This is not fair for you. Misty made a life changing decision and it's unfair for your parents ( dad and stepmother) to let it affect you and your life. If you can move in with your cousin for a while, I would do so. I am sorry Misty's feelings are hurt, but at the same time, her choices have nothing to do with you. She's got a lot of growing up to do really quickly, unfortunately. Good luck, OP. I do not think you're the AH. If anyone is the AH here, it's your parents. They are the adults in this situation and they shouldn't be putting so much pressure on you.
I'm not sure she should move in with the cousin (that just creates a whole different bunch of problems). She definitely doesn't need to have her step-sister living in her pocket though. I think this is a situation where the OP should sit down with the parents and say "I'm sorry for what I said. I did mean it, but I should have phrased it in a nicer way. I'm happy to be around stepsis, but not all the time. I need my own time as well and we need to set proper boundaries. And we definitely need to be clear about what expectations and responsibilities are going to be once the baby arrives." See how that goes down with the family before making rash judgments about moving out.
Load More Replies... It’s good to set boundaries now so you won’t be the co parent because Misty cries.
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