Bride Suggests Postponing Her Wedding Because Of Fiancé’s Braces, He Says They Should Cancel It Altogether

Weddings seem to make some people show their true colours.

I had braces and headgear/retainers (google “orthodontic headgear 1980s” for an idea, it was abominable and went over your entire head) for most of my childhood. The teasing and bullying was relentless. It was horrible. Once I became an adult, I’d figured those kids who mocked and bullied me had grown up as well. Apparently, they don’t all grow up. OP is one of the latter.

Yes, OP, YTA. This is the part where the guy should run.

What a horrible self-centered b***h. Hope he dumped her.

On one hand she's encouraging to get his teeth fixed, which is great. In the other she's telling him that with braces he won't look good enough at their wedding. Weddings take weeks or months to plan and to want to postpone the whole thing because he's wearing braces would be a potential red flag for me.

In this day and age of Photoshop, if you can't find a photographer that can remove the braces in the professional photos, then you need to find a better photographer. As for your fiance....if you are willing to postpone a wedding over braces, then I think he may want to find someone else that isn't so vain. Also, if you were that concerned about his appearance and he was worried about cost, why didn't YOU offer to pay for the invisible braces. You can't tell him how to spend his money...you're not married yet.

Ummm, ever heard of this thing called photoshop? Truly one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever read. Regardless, this dude is having a neon sign flashing “dodge” over and over in front of him as the bullet is heading his way. I hope he uses this chance to save himself.

He should cancel the wedding because the bride wants a beautiful wedding more than the marriage.

YTA. "He could have avoided this if he had gotten invisible braces. .". WOW, so this is his fault now? Yeah, call this off entirely. Don't marry this one.

“Why does my boyfriend think I’m ashamed of him?” ask woman who is ashamed of her boyfriend. First law of pub quizzes - the answer is often in the question.

Man. There’s a guy I’m in love with too. I’d marry him tomorrow if he asked me. If all his teeth fell out I’d still marry him. If the only way we could get married is if he had braces, or black teeth, or crooked teeth, I’d marry him in a heartbeat. And we are barely even dating, he's not my fiancé. Some people just don’t know what they have until it’s gone.

Wow it would never occur to me to postpone a wedding for something like that....What would she do if he had to wear a cast before the wedding? I hope he bailed because that is a major red flag.

I got mine removed 2 weeks before my wedding. Orthodontist said if they weren't ready to come off he would remove them, put on a temp retainer and put them back on after the honeymoon for about $200. That was cheaper than the $350 photographer offered for photoshopping them out. But also nothing wrong with leaving them on and visible

I think he should just call off the wedding altogether

Hmmm ... I thought the wedding vows were, "In sickness and in health, for better or worse..." I guess I was wrong. My eyes have been opened to the fact that weddings aren't the beginning of a new life together for two people who love each other, but just an event to show-off at, to hell with the *being married* part of it! (Sarcasm) But, seriously, the OP is a walking contradiction..."this doesn't bother me, except....it really does." Yikes.

A marriage is a long term commitment on a personal and economical level. It's not about having a pretty party with you being the superstar.

She's more than the a-hole, she's a right kvnt. He should be thankful he found out she's a shallow woman before the wedding, get rid of her.

YTA. My husband had a problem with acne while we were dating, but he didn't want to get on meds because they caused uncomfortably dry skin. All of our wedding pics (pre-photoshop) show a giant zit in dead center of his forehead. No one cared and it was removed in the pics as part of the final wedding photos.

Hm.. You ignored your partner's feelings, and then proceeded to tell him how he's supposed to feel. Yeah no, YTA. I would've asked him first if he even wanted to wait to get them off, and if he said no, end of story we'll just continue as planned, nbd. Weddings aren't just about the bride and everything she wants. They're about both of you. BOTH of you are supposed to work together to figure out what to do and how to incorporate each other's wishes. I hate this stigma that 'women control the wedding and the men sit back' like.. No wonder y'all hate each other after 20 years of marriage. It wad doomed from the start.

Can you imagine the social media cancelling if the man had suggested they postpone the wedding until (insert something ) - she lost some weight, firmed up her thighs, got a nose job etc - because he didn't want the wedding pictures ruined? Yuck. Run away sir. 1. She is shallow. 2. An AITA post suggests she really doesn't get it.

I think we have found the first bride in history to have never heard of Photoshop.

If I was the guy, I would run for the hills and not look back. Red Flags everywhere.

"Your braces don't fit my aesthetic." "Your personality doesn't fit mine."

What a shallow twit. I hope he didn't marry her.

Let's just pretend for a moment that the situation was this instead: OP is overweight and never took care of her body/health as a kid/teen. In adulthood, her doctors warn about the dangers of obesity and give her advice on weight loss, which she is now following successfully. Her fiancee then suggests that they postpone their wedding until she reaches a more aesthetically acceptable weight so that their photos are perfect. Who's TA now?

Dodged a bullet this one. He shouldn't marry her and he should totally, indefinitely postpone the wedding. What a shallow person! If it bothered you that much edit the photo. Don't put off marrying the love of your life. Pretty sure you have your own imperfections lady, but you don't see him calling to postpone the wedding. "Maybe we should postpone the wedding 3 months so you could lose 20 pounds."

WTF! I wouldn't care if my sexy tooter showed up with a black eye, missing 2 front teeth, and a strip shaved down the middle of his beautiful head! I cannot even fathom thinking this way! Man people really suck! So sorry my dude! Find someone who loves you even more for your braces and every wonderful thing about YOU!

Ever heard of Photoshop? YTA

"For better or worse, in sickness and in health...unless your braces show up in pictures" .Pretty sure braces didn't manifest themselves magically overnight. How could you have not known when you chose the date?

Photoshop is a thing. Not sure that's even the right way to go. That might hurt him too. But...c'mon it's 2023. All pictures are fake now.

I sure read that title wrong, I thought it said poisoning!

He is a human being with feelings not a prop for pictures.

Your partner is yours to love even when they don't look their best 8n the eyes of the outside world, and their best is going to change over time. She would be devastated if he wanted to postpone the wedding until she got in shape, or got botox, or whatever her "flaws" are. She'd doubt his love, and whether she could trust him to stick around. He definitely shouldn't trust her.

You want perfect pictures. Braces are dealing with a health issue, guess he's not good enough with the braces on. Glad he sees the writing on the wall and you have shown your true colors before the big day. Now he can move on with his life and you will be free to find someone who looks good. O, you might want to check the next fiance's DNA to make sure there are no secrets or imperfections that might show up later. Wish you the best.

YTA. Sorry, but that's the truth.

Can we just make this clear to all redditors... if your concern is more about being esthetically pleasing and good photos instead of the comfort of any participant, YTA. Dont even ask. yta.

Not the last 3 shallow a*s ppl also prioritizing LITERAL PHOTOS OVER THEIR PARTNERS FEELINGS! Bro. Photoshop exists for a reason. Edit the fucken braces put & call it a day. Got damn.

YTA. It was reasonable for the bride to ask the groom the first time if he wanted to postpone, but she took it way too far by insisting.

Wow, is she ever TA. Run fast, groom. Far. And hard. Can’t even begin to imagine what she will be like as a wife. Also, misaligned jaw/teeth can be hereditary. Save your future progeny from people like her!

He was saving money for the wedding and honeymoon for them by getting visible braces. He was willing to forego his own comfort and self preservation for her. Slap in the face for her to say that

If I am this guy with braces I would consider my wedding with that lady that prefer pretty photos than my body with metals.

I think it’s perfectly reasonable; waiting is never a bad idea regardless of what issue happens to pop up; better to get through this now than regret getting married at all later on down the road. YNTAH/ he’s NTAH Besides~ he WAITED for his braces so he can certainly wait to get married, right?!?!